Chapter 6 Chapter 5 Improving Oral Expression Skills

"Knowledge is power." It is necessary to have rich knowledge and experience, and to be fully familiar with the expressive materials.The wise and humorous conversations of many great men and celebrities like Mao Zedong and Zhou Enlai are all based on profound knowledge and rich experience. To catch up with the source, a person with good eloquence must often work hard on knowledge accumulation.They are constantly expanding their interests, accumulating their knowledge, and cultivating their compassion and responsibility.The source of subject matter for their conversation is very substantial, but what about those who think they are not eloquent?Do you read newspapers every day?When reading a newspaper, do you just read the novels in the supplement for entertainment?Are you paying attention to important international and local news at the same time?Do you choose your programs carefully?Is it okay to just listen to it?Is it choosing meaningful, wonderful movies and plays?Do you concentrate on enjoying them while watching the theater, instead of sitting in the theater and dozing off?

The famous playwright Cao Yu once said that one day we become obsessed with language, that is when we have entered the gate, and then we will be able to enter the room and become a rich man in language.So, how should we learn and practice the language in detail?Here are several feasible and effective methods. In our daily life, we cannot do without newspapers, magazines and books every day.When reading books and newspapers, prepare a pen, some card paper and a pair of scissors, draw the good articles you see or the words that move your heart, or cut them out, or extract them on card paper.It is very meaningful to insist on doing it every day, even if you only remember one or two sentences a day.Over time, you may inadvertently use them when talking, thus enriching the content of your speech.

Regarding the topics and materials of the conversation, on the one hand, we must absorb them seriously, and on the other hand, we must use them well.Knowing how to use it can make an ordinary sentence produce amazing effects.The purpose of learning absorption is to apply it well, and absorption that cannot be applied is meaningless. As the saying goes: "If you are familiar with three hundred Tang poems, you can chant them even if you don't know how to recite them." "Thousands of poor books are often recited in secret."If you are familiar with the subtleties of language, you will arouse your sensitive feelings; if you are familiar with the wonderful pen of famous works, you will get a rich vocabulary. When you speak and speak by yourself, beautiful language will come naturally. Tan.As long as we devote ourselves to study hard, memorize good thoughts, ponder and persevere, we will be able to taste the mellow and delicious taste. If we use it repeatedly and learn continuously, we will be able to "seek the law in the impossible, and have the knowledge" as Guo Moruo said in the long run. Seek other things after the Fa."

When listening to other people's speeches or conversations, you can always hear aphorisms and proverbs that express human wisdom.Repeat these words in your heart and write them down in your notebook. Over time, you will have more and more topics and materials to talk about, and your speech will become more and more organized and articulate. To improve one's expressive ability, one must constantly improve one's acuity in observing and thinking about problems, enrich one's knowledge and experience, and enhance one's imagination and sensitivity.With the improvement of expressive ability, your life will be rich and colorful, and your personality and abilities in all aspects will be improved, so you can become a master of speech.

In short, extensive knowledge and rich experience can enable people to speak in public on the basis of mastering a large amount of material, the audience can obtain useful information from it, and the speaker can also take it easy and freely to fully occupy the material.Familiarity with materials is the basic condition for cultivating self-confidence. As the saying goes, "enrichment is the premise of self-confidence", and "confidence is the source of strength". Under normal circumstances, the conversation should choose some topics that are easy to arouse the interest of the other party, which is conducive to creating a relaxed and active conversation atmosphere, so that the conversation can be deepened and the friendship can be developed.

Generally speaking, the following topics are likely to arouse everyone's interest in conversation. Topics closely related to the interlocutor's own interests; Topics related to the interests and roles of the interviewer; Authoritative topics; novel topics; certain special topics; Confinement, secrecy, sensitive topics of society and others. But when choosing these topics specifically, consider who you're talking to.A topic can only be maintained and continued if the other party is interested.For example, if you are a fan, don't think that everyone else is a fan.Talk about the game with everyone, and talk about it when you meet someone who is not interested in the game, which makes the other party feel boring.

Care and help is what everyone needs, so caring for each other is always a popular topic.There was a female reporter who had a brief chat with Queen Elizabeth at a cocktail party.The reporter asked the Queen whether she had inspected the iron mines yesterday in the wind and rain.The queen was very surprised when she heard this.It turned out that the queen's coat was stained reddish brown by something, and the queen discovered it after the female reporter reminded her.The female reporter started by caring about the Queen's coat, which naturally aroused the Queen's favor and made the conversation a success.

When American female reporter Barbara Walter first met Aristotle Onassis, a tycoon in the American aviation industry, she saw that he was discussing issues such as freight prices, routes, and new air transportation concepts with his colleagues. Barbara Couldn't get in a word.During the lunch together, Barbara had an idea, took advantage of the brief break in the business discussion, and hurriedly asked: "Mr. Onassis, you have achieved great achievements in both sea freight and air freight, which is amazing. How did you start? What was your occupation at the beginning?" This topic immediately touched Onassis' heartstrings, and he immediately talked with Barbara, recalling his own struggle history emotionally.

In daily life, talk to patients about healing and strengthening their health, talk with parents about how to raise children, talk with young people about their future development goals, talk with housewives about the secrets of life arrangement, and talk with students about the experience of improving learning efficiency... Without exception, the topics are acceptable to the other party. When choosing a topic, in addition to paying attention to the needs of the other party, you must also carefully avoid "minefields" and try to choose topics with "high safety factor". First of all, don't be ignorant and stray into the restricted area.Everyone has their own restricted areas, such as personal privacy, eccentricities, physical defects and so on.This type of content should be intentionally avoided and not discussed.Otherwise, it will destroy the atmosphere of the conversation at the slightest, and hurt the relationship at the worst, and even lead to quarrels or relationship breakdown.

Second, avoid sensitive topics that may cause the other party's sadness or misunderstanding.In addition to a number of "forbidden areas" for everyone, there are also "sensitive areas" that should be carefully avoided during conversations.For example, the unfortunate should avoid talking about his past misfortune, the lovelorn should avoid talking about love and marriage problems, the disabled family should avoid talking about the disabled person in the family, and so on.Sometimes, when talking with professionals such as doctors and lawyers, it is not advisable to talk about overly specific professional topics during their non-working hours, such as how to treat diseases, how to deal with disputes, etc.When talking with dignitaries, political, religious and sexual issues are often avoided. "Sensitive topics" are difficult to deal with and should generally be avoided as much as possible.

Choosing a topic depends not only on the person, but also on the occasion.Conversation is carried out in a certain occasion and situation, and the topic should be coordinated with the occasion and situation. Uncoordinated topics will not only spoil the scenery, but may also damage interpersonal relationships.On festive occasions, sad or unlucky topics should not be discussed.On sad occasions, it is not appropriate to talk about hilarious topics, nor should you talk about festive topics such as marriage and love. The master of eloquence in the 20th century and former British Prime Minister Winston Churchill carefully analyzed and demonstrated the language skills of eloquence in his first thesis on eloquence.He concluded that there are four main elements in the art of oral expression, among which the rhythm of spoken language is the first.Churchill was well versed in eloquence, and he listed "rhythm" at the top of the four elements because he truly experienced and understood the strong, profound and rich expressive power of oral rhythm. Rhythm is a manifestation of nature and the form of human social movement.Sunrise and sunset, tides rise and fall, flowers bloom and wither, winter goes to spring; people's daily life, the rise and fall of society, all reflect the change of the movement form of things, a regular and orderly change.The regular and orderly changes that occur during the movement of things are rhythms. The ancient Chinese classic "Book of Rites" said: "Rhythm means either doing or stopping. If you make it, you will play it, and if you stop it, you will control it." The emperor is upright and beautiful." The famous poem "Pipa Xing" by Bai Juyi, a great poet of the Tang Dynasty, has a wonderful portrayal of the rhythm of pipa music. The big strings are noisy like torrential rain, and the small strings are like whispers. Caocao is full of mixed bullets, big and small pearls fall on the jade plate. Guan Yingyu's flower bottom is slippery, and it is difficult to fall under the flowing ice of Youyan Spring. The cold and astringent strings of the ice spring are absolutely condensed, and the condensate will never stop for a while. Don't have sorrow and hatred for life, at this time, silence is better than sound. The silver bottle is broken and the water is sprayed out, and the iron cavalry protrudes, and the swords and guns blare. Beware of painting at the end of the song, the four strings sound like Liebo. ... The "Rainstorm", "Whispering", "Yingyu" and "Big Beads and Small Beads" here vividly show the rhythm of the pipa's music, ups and downs and pauses. The ancients have long recognized the nature of rhythm and the expressive power of spoken rhythm.Modern people also often say, "speak quickly", "speak harshly", "speak earnestly and earnestly", "obedient and listen to the sound, listen to the sound of gongs and drums" and so on.These also illustrate the emotional color, image connotation and moving power of spoken rhythm from different angles. A conversation, a discussion, a debate, a speech, and a lecture should not be high-pitched from the beginning to the end, or soft-spoken from the beginning to the end; Alarmism is not good either.To enable the audience to receive the information energetically and effectively from beginning to end, and to achieve the desired effect in speeches, seminars, teaching and speeches, the following two points must be achieved. In terms of sound form, the voice should be high or low, the intonation should be restrained or raised, the speed of speech should be fast or slow, and the pauses in articulation should be long or short. In terms of content, style, and expression techniques, the information should be strong or weak, the theme should be sticky or separated, the literary style should be strong or light, the style should be vulgar and elegant, the emotion and reason should be intertwined, and the discussion and examples should be more diverse. various logical formats. Spoken rhythm has the following language effects. One effect is that the high-pitched and sonorous tone inspires people, the rapid speech speed makes people excited and tense, and the deep voice makes people think and feel sad.Or to put it further, fast speaking speed, heavy voice, high intonation, short sentence patterns, small pauses, concise information content, vigorous word style will show excitement, refreshing, high spirited, excited and eager emotional color , so that the audience is unconsciously affected by the corresponding emotional impact and influence, and produces corresponding excitement, tension or urgency. Another effect is slow speech rate, light voice, suppressed intonation, long sentence patterns, large pauses, and loose information content.The soft style of words can also show the emotional color of safety, calmness, tranquility, elegance, seriousness, and heavyness, so that the object can't help being infected and affected by the corresponding emotions, and produce corresponding idleness, slowness, comfort, and solemnity. , Deep and sad psychology. The details are everything, and so is the conversation.People who pay attention to the details of each conversation are often those who are called masters of speech. The reason why they become masters of eloquence is that they do not easily let go of any opportunity for conversation and take all the beneficial results of speaking. In our daily communication, except for some conversations of a business nature, which must get to the point at the beginning, conversations of a general social nature mostly start with "chat".Some people just don't like "small talk". They think "what's the weather like today" and "have you had breakfast?" A class of seemingly meaningless words, but it plays a vital role in the following formal conversation.What is the effect?It is the preparation for conversation, just like the warm-up exercise of bouncing around and stretching hands and feet before playing football. Ordinary conversations always start with "chatting". Saying things that seem meaningless is actually to make everyone more relaxed and familiar first, creating an atmosphere conducive to conversation. When the conversation starts, we might as well talk about the weather, and the weather is almost the most common topic used by Chinese and foreign people.The weather has such a close influence on people’s lives. If the weather is good, we might as well praise each other; if the weather is too hot, we might as well exchange our troubles; if there is news about typhoons, heavy rains or seasonal epidemics, it is worth talking about Talk, because that's what everyone cares about. It does require considerable experience to start a conversation. When you are faced with various occasions and various people, it is really not an easy task to do it properly.If the conversation does not start well, it will not be possible to continue to develop the relationship between each other, and it will also make the other party feel unhappy and leave a bad impression on the other party. Naturalness, kindness and courtesy, and appropriate speech are the most important.However, if we do this, it cannot be said that we will definitely receive good results. Therefore, in addition to the issues you are most concerned about and interested in, you should also reserve more materials for "chatting" with others.These materials should often be relaxed, interesting, and easy to attract the attention of others. Knowledge about every aspect of every family that needs to be known, such as children's education, shopping experience, getting along with couples, family arrangement, socializing between relatives and friends... All these will also interest most people, especially housewives . Talk about swimming in summer, ice skating in winter, and others such as football, badminton, basketball, and table tennis, all of which can arouse people's general interest.In terms of entertainment, potted plants, stamp collection, fishing, listening to records, watching theaters, where to eat famous food, how to arrange holiday programs... These are topics that most people are interested in.Especially when world-renowned musicians come to perform, or when there are special blockbuster plays or movies, these are even more lively chat materials. Talk about newly invented medicines, introduce famous doctors, medical care for epidemics, experience of yourself or your relatives and friends in recuperating from illness; how to prolong life, how to increase weight, how to lose weight... Such topics can not only attract people People's attention, and it is actually of great benefit to people.Especially when he or his family has health problems, if you can provide him with valuable advice, he will be very grateful to you.In fact, is there any person or family that does not have this problem? For example, being cheated when buying something, language misunderstandings, doing things wrong, etc. Most people like to hear such jokes.If you tell other people's jokes, you can of course get the same effect, but it is unavoidable to be a little disrespectful to the person who made the joke.Telling the jokes you have made and making jokes about yourself will not only make people laugh, but also make people feel that you are easy-going and easy to get along with. Especially the thrilling stories that you or your friends have personally experienced can most attract the attention of others.People's life is often not smooth sailing. Everyone eats and sleeps as usual every day, but a sudden disaster strikes, or they are forced to go to a far away place, and they may encounter many dangers on the road... How to deal with these unusual situations, How tactfully or fortunately one escapes death when the need arises is a subject that one can never lose sight of. These two aspects are the most likely to arouse people's interest in conversation. If the people you meet are quite close to you in politics, or have the same religious beliefs, then the topics in this aspect will become the most vivid and most interesting. Warm and most engrossing. If you have some unique news or special opinions and opinions, it is enough to attract a group of listeners around you. Of course, everyone likes a joke, and if you have come up with a lot of jokes of all kinds, and you have a lot of experience in telling them, then you are probably the most popular person. Everyone has their own strengths or interests and hobbies, and everyone has a certain degree of concern for their strengths.As long as we observe with our heart when interacting with people, it is easy to discover the strengths of the other party, and when chatting with them, we can make the other party interested in you very quickly, thus gently pushing away the conversation. door. The same two people were speaking, one made the audience tense up, and he talked about a little-noticed matter with great interest; He was already quite nervous, but when he spoke, the audience's tension relaxed instead. Why?It is nothing more than one speaking with strength, while the other does not understand the strength of speech. So, how to speak forcefully? There is a saying in ancient my country called "Modity is a virtue, too modest is deceitful".When we talk to others, we should be humble, because your modesty will make others approachable.However, if you are too modest, your humility loses its value, and others cannot trust you.A speaker, when he took the stage, said to the audience: "Everyone, I'm really sorry. The topic I'm talking about today is not familiar to me. I haven't done much research on this topic, and I haven't prepared enough. , so what I said today may not be of much value, if it is not good, please forgive me." A speaker who speaks like this to the audience is modest in his own eyes, but can others believe him?Therefore, if we want to speak powerfully, we should first be modest. There is an old saying that "sincerity is enough to move people". If you want to say powerful words, sincerity is the key. A person can say whatever he wants, but if he says something that is not what he means, his words will definitely not have power. Whether a person's speech is powerful depends on whether there is an objective basis, that is, it can stand scrutiny, and only words that can stand scrutiny can be fully persuasive. When Lincoln was a lawyer, a man named Armstrong Jr. was arrested and imprisoned on suspicion of murder.Armstrong Jr. refused to accept it and appealed. Lincoln found Folson, the defendant's witness, who swore that he had clearly witnessed the whole process of Armstrong Jr. shooting the victim to death on the night of October 18.In response, Lincoln requested a review.Lincoln first asked the witness Folson: "You swear that you saw Armstrong clearly?" Folson replied: "I swear that I saw clearly." Lincoln asked: "You are behind the haystack, and little Armstrong is under the big tree. The two places are twenty or thirty meters apart. Can you see clearly?" Fulson replied: "I can see it clearly, because the moonlight is very bright." Lincoln asked, "Aren't you sure it's his from the clothes?" Fulson replied: "No, I'm sure I saw his face clearly, because the moonlight illuminated his face." Lincoln asked, "Are you sure it was 11 o'clock?" Fulson replied: "I'm sure because I looked at the clock when I got home and it was 11:15." When Lincoln asked this, he turned around and said in shock: I have to tell everyone that what the witness Folson said was all lies.He insisted that at 11 o'clock in the evening on October 18, he saw the defendant's face clearly under the moonlight.We all know that October 18th is the first quarter moon, and the moon has already set at 11:00 pm. Where will there be any moonlight?Taking a step back, maybe he didn't remember the time very clearly, and the time was slightly ahead of time.But at that time, the moonlight shone from west to east, the haystack was in the east, and the big tree was in the west. If the defendant's face was facing the haystack, there would be no moonlight on his face. Everyone was silent for a while, followed by applause and cheers.Fulson was dumbfounded. With the help of reasoning from objective facts, Lincoln fully exposed Fulson's lies and brought an unjust case to light. Words are the voice of the heart.The use of language mainly depends on the speaker's ideological level, cultural accomplishment, and moral sentiment, but paying attention to the art of language is also very important.The same idea, spoken from different people's mouths, often has different effects. Likewise, different people accept the opinions of others in different ways and with different sensitivities.Generally speaking, people with a high level of education disdain to listen to superficial and popular words, and should use more abstract reasoning; people with a low level of education, who do not understand advanced theories, should give more obvious examples; If you are persuasive, you can stimulate him; if you like exaggeration, you might as well induce; if you are silent by nature, you should provoke him to get angry; if you are short-tempered, you should use concise and quick words; ; People who are emotionally abnormal should not talk until they return to normal.And so on, only by knowing yourself and the enemy can you prescribe the right medicine and receive the best persuasion effect. In the 1990s, the Dalian (Hong Kong) Economic and Trade Cooperation Fair was held in Hong Kong.This is the first large-scale investment promotion event held by the new mayor of Dalian, Bo Xilai, in Hong Kong.He seemed to have a bottom line in his heart, however, his self-confidence was soon tested.At the press conference held before the opening, some foreign journalists seemed to be more interested in doing another type of article. A reporter immediately asked, "Mr. Bo, your father is a high-ranking official of the Communist Party of China. Is it because you are the mayor not because of your political achievements, but because of Laozi's glory?" All the cameras in the audience were aimed at Bo Xilai, let's see how he responds.Bo Xilai smiled slightly and said: "I appreciate the frankness of this reporter. Maybe the question he raised is not only what he wants to ask alone. I don't deny that I have been in the light of Lao Tzu, and I am also willing to tell you that I have been in the The light has benefited me for life! When I was a middle school student who was learning about society and life, I was imprisoned because of family involvement. Five years of prison life have made me endure hardships, exercise my will, and learn to think , I understand how important justice, democracy, and the rule of law are to a society, and how important food, clothing, freedom, and dignity are to a person. The gifts that fate has given me in the past five years are not available to everyone. My poor old man, I can’t get this gift either. Isn’t this a great honor? As for my personal achievements, I am not in a position to comment. This is my citizen’s business, but I want to remind you of a fact here: I am Mayor elected by representatives elected by the people of Dalian, and the people of Dalian will not take their rights as a trifling matter!" This response made the reporters present immediately look at this handsome young mayor with admiration. Language takes life as its content. Without life, words cannot be spoken, and the richer the content of life, the richer and more colorful the content of conversation will naturally be.Therefore, if we want to speak high-quality words, first, we must carefully observe and experience the content of life; second, we must accumulate various knowledge and be a caring person in life. The ancients said, "There is poetry and calligraphy in the stomach", and the extensive and rigorous knowledge structure is the solid background for the expressor to make witty remarks and have both ways.When a person has more experience and knowledge in some field than others around him, he has gained a say in the topic and has full self-confidence.Therefore, only with multi-faceted knowledge can we win more voices.It is unrealistic to require a person to know everything, but at least one must have a sufficient understanding of one's own professional knowledge and professional knowledge, especially more knowledge of literature, history and philosophy.In this way, you can speak clearly and have something to say. Rich knowledge expands one's imagination, and imagination gives wings to thinking and language.To "fly" in language expression, you must grow such wings through learning and practice in life.If you want to have outstanding eloquence, you must be like a bee making honey, picking in the garden of life all day long; like an old man panning for gold, sifting out real gold from the sand.The rich language treasure house of our country in the past dynasties, the excellent language wealth from all corners of the country, the vivid and vivid folk language, and the carefully crafted written vocabulary are all "rich mines" that we should dig out. First of all, language can be learned directly from the people in daily life.Life is the most abundant source of language. To enrich one's own language, one must learn from life. Lao She said: "Look for language in life, and the language will have its roots. To learn a language, you must learn from spoken language." The great Russian critical realist writer Leo Tolstoy praised the peasants as "everyone" of language.The "genius" of language does exist among the masses.For example, we often use the word "very" as an adverb of degree in speech, such as "very black".In the spoken language of the people, a more precise, vivid, and concise expression is used: "darkness".To learn a language, you need to read more, that is, to observe and experience diligently, to be really familiar with your object, to master its tone, sensuality, etc., instead of copying it mechanically. Second, read more famous Chinese and foreign works. Everyone is familiar with the experience of "reading three hundred Tang poems well, you can chant poems even if you can't".It tells people that if they want to improve their eloquence skills, they should read more famous works. "Thousands of poor books are often recited secretly", if you understand it, you will have a strong interest; appreciate the subtleties of language, you will be able to arouse your sensitive feelings; if you are familiar with the wonderful pen of famous works, you can get rich vocabulary, speech and speech Sometimes beautiful language will come by itself. Finally, poor knowledge is an important reason for poor language, especially poor vocabulary.Life accumulation and language knowledge are the key to determining a person's level of speaking.There is a book that says that life is the kingdom of language, and may each of us be the king of this kingdom. Every kind of conversation, no matter how trivial, must always maintain the central point. This is also the so-called purpose of the conversation, and its purpose is to promote the relationship between you and the other party.You have to show that you are a thoughtful person, not a fool.Mere idle chatting will never make the other party have a good impression of you, let alone show your speaking level. When your conversation is going on in gossip, you must be "poor in spirit" and not conceited. If you have a wealth of general knowledge, you can take it out and deal with it at any time.Since a person is a social person, he has to have frequent contact with others in his daily life, so he should strive to acquire knowledge of all kinds of things in the world. How can you get this knowledge to help you when you talk?The best way is to read the newspaper every day.Another way is to always pay attention to what is happening around you, even if it is only a very trivial thing, don't let it go easily.Another way is to talk to people from time to time.Chatting with others when you have nothing to do can not only store a lot of knowledge in your mind, which can be used as information for the next conversation, but also make you interested in the conversation, and even your conversation skills will become more proficient. Chester, the world-renowned expert in the art of conversation?Mr. Felt once taught people to pay attention to the following questions when talking.He said: "You should talk often, but not at length. Tell little stories, and never tell anything but really apt and short. "When you talk to people, you must also pay attention to your attitude. Don't pull other people's sleeves, dance and talk, be gentle, don't be arrogant, and avoid arguments in ordinary words. It's best to talk in a general way, and don't make self-promotion , Praise yourself to the sky. The appearance should be frank and straightforward, and the heart should be cautious and careful. "When you are talking, your posture can show your sincerity, so you should face the person directly, don't be casual, and don't imitate him. "Swearing and swearing with others is bad, stupid, and vulgar. Laughing loudly is a manifestation of low cultural literacy. True wit and sound reason will never make people laugh. Besides, there's nothing more unpleasant than biting someone's ear and talking like a gnat." Most of the warnings listed above by this expert on the art of conversation are correct, except for the one that says "don't let everyone laugh."For it is unnatural to be loud and loud, but emotionally provocative laughter does not harm anyone. In any conversation, it must be remembered that no subject may be raised that will offend others.Because anyone who listens to your conversation in front of you will definitely get a glimpse of your personality from your conversation, and at the same time pay attention to whether you will speak ill of him in the future. The following are the basic skills of oral expression. John?Says Murphy: "Let's not just squeeze a few quotes out of our heads. When we relax, a lot of punchlines come naturally..." Even in the most provocative conversations, 50% of the content is meaningless.Only after a heating process can the wheels of thought turn. Being an excellent talker does not lie in how smart you are or how many legendary experiences you have, but in inspiring and inducing others to speak.It’s worth mentioning that “you” in a conversation is a go-ahead signal, while “I” is a stop-sign.To try to lead the conversation to the other party's points of interest, use "why", "where", "how" and so on.When he said "I opened a store in my hometown in Ningxia", you must not rush to say: "Ah, I also have two stores in Xi'an." Instead, you should ask: "Where in Ningxia?" When talking with people, don't expect the other party to be enthusiastic at the beginning. Good talkers always wait until the other party becomes enthusiastic before trying to elicit some interesting ideas from them. Therefore, you must be patient in the conversation .For example, they will first ask: "Excuse me, what is your name? Where are you from? What does your husband do? How long are you going to stay here? Are you coming to our city by plane?" interest in conversation.Who cares?You might ask.Admittedly, these questions may seem devoid of grace or intelligence, but they do get the conversation started. It is undeniable that people always show strong interest in their work, family, hometown, ideals.In fact, even a simple question like "where are you from" shows that you are interested in others, which in turn will make others interested in you.But you don't want to be like the young playwright who talks to his girlfriend about his play for two hours and then says, "Enough about me, now let's talk about you. You What do you think of my play?" If he says: "I grew up in the countryside." You'd better answer: "Me too." Or tell a little bit about your knowledge and experience in agriculture, which will make him feel very kind.If he says: "I like to eat ice cream." It happens that you also have the same hobby, and you must find a way to tell him.If he said he was born in a small town in the Northeast, and you happened to like to spend your summer vacation there in the past, then you must tell him too... When someone asks you to speak about yourself, don't say no to it.Tell the other person a little bit about you, and he will be very honored, because you talked to him in a very friendly manner. Both sides of the conversation should respect each other, even if they are already acquainted, they should not make jokes, teasing and teasing will hurt the self-esteem of others, and anything that threatens the self-esteem of others is dangerous, even in jokes.The results of the polls show that people don't like being made fun of, even by their close friends and relatives.Good-natured banter is allowed only among very close friends, for they don't pursue trifles that don't matter.If someone knows you very well and likes you very much, you can also joke with him, but don't overdo it. Human knowledge is all-encompassing and complex, and it is also a source of strength for public speakers.Knowledge lies in thick accumulation and thin hair. People with profound knowledge accumulation speak with full confidence and confidence.The fundamental reason why some people speak very well lies in the accumulation of rich knowledge.If you have a well-thought-out plan, you can speak out if you want to; the deeper the accumulation, the better the words. The conversation seems to be improvised, but it is actually the result of usual accumulation.If you want to have something to say when socializing, you must pay attention to the accumulation of bits and pieces in daily life. "One minute on stage, ten years off stage" is the truth. For the speaker, knowledge is multifaceted; different people have different knowledge requirements; different people have different grasps of knowledge.However, the most basic knowledge that a speaker should master is as follows. Being in the world refers to dealing with the world, social activities, and dealing with people.Everyone is inextricably linked with society. As a member of human society, one cannot gain a foothold in society without a basic way of dealing with the world. Cao Cao sent troops to Hanzhong, but he was in a stalemate with Liu Bei, and he was in a dilemma.Xiahou Dun went into the tent at night to ask for orders at night. Cao Cao was drinking chicken rib soup, so he said casually, "chicken ribs." Yang Xiu heard the "chicken ribs" order and asked the sergeant to pack up and prepare to return.Xiahou Dun was puzzled and asked why.He said: "Based on tonight's order, we know that the king of Wei will retreat and return in the near future: chicken ribs are tasteless to eat, and it is a pity to discard them. If you advance today, you will not be able to win. If you retreat, you will be laughed at. It is useless here. It is better to return early. Tomorrow The king of Wei will be on his way. So pack up your luggage first, so as not to panic before leaving." So the soldiers from all battalions packed up their luggage.Cao Cao was shocked when he heard this, and rebuked Yang Xiudao: "How dare you make up words to disturb our army's morale?" He ordered him to beheaded. Cao Cao killed Yang Xiu, and later generations have many comments.Mao Zonggang said at the beginning of the Qing Dynasty: "Yang Xiu's death lies in his 'not being good at dealing with people's flesh and blood.' A man who disobeys people with integrity is a crime. If he disobeys people with injustice and injustice, he is guilty of cultivation. Therefore, a gentleman is not responsible for Xiu's death. Yan." (Mao Punishment) He believed that Yang Xiu had brought on his own troubles, and the root cause was that he was not good at handling things and talking nonsense.This should be said to be pertinent.As a subordinate, forgetting one's own identity, guessing the intention of the coach at will and spreading news without authorization, of course it should not be. Worldly knowledge refers to common sense, experience, lessons, customs, human conditions, customs, anecdotes, etc. in all aspects of social life.This kind of knowledge is an objective existence, and generally there is no need to concentrate on learning it. As long as it is not divorced from social life, it will be gradually realized and realized in practice.People must have this kind of knowledge if they want to enrich their language skills and realize the communication purpose of public speaking.Cao Xueqin thinks: "An insight into the world is knowledge, and understanding of human feelings is the article." A person who is not familiar with the world will either make a joke or make a bitter drink. In 1974, Corning Corporation of the United States presented an exquisite snail handicraft to the Chinese government.At that time, China was engaged in "criticizing forest and criticizing Confucianism". Jiang Qing assumed that this was an insult to China, aiming to mock China for shrinking and crawling like a snail.Zhou Enlai instructed the Ministry of Foreign Affairs to urgently call the Chinese Liaison Office in the United States to investigate.Ji Chaozhu, who was then the internal counselor of the Liaison Office and grew up in the United States, said: "There is no need to investigate. The snail symbolizes patience, which means blessing." The Liaison Office reported Ji Chaozhu's authoritative knowledge of world affairs back to China, Jiang Qing Only then did he resentfully restrain his troubled face.This incident not only shows that Ji Chaozhu is familiar with world affairs, but also becomes the laughing stock of Jiang Qing's ignorance of world affairs. Culture refers to the big culture, which is the sum of material wealth and spiritual wealth created by human beings in the process of social and historical development, such as astronomy, geography, history, literature, art, philosophy, economy, law, etc.Such knowledge is often carried by idioms, allusions, masterpieces, famous sayings, and aphorisms, which can best cultivate sentiment, improve self-cultivation, and broaden horizons, thereby making the expressor's words more contagious, persuasive, and attractive.This kind of knowledge cannot be acquired by practice, it needs to be studied tirelessly.On the road of life, as long as you continue to accumulate and learn, you will be full of vitality when speaking in public, like a continuous river. Ji Chaozhu, who served as the English interpreter for Chairman Mao Zedong and Premier Zhou Enlai for a long time, lacked a deep understanding of Chinese culture since he was a child in the United States.Zhou Enlai said to him: "You are an interpreter. You must be familiar with Chinese history. You must read more history books to be a good interpreter... You often act as an interpreter for Chairman Mao. Chairman Mao likes to quote historical allusions and ancient poems the most. If If you don’t understand history and don’t read poetry, you won’t be able to do your job well.” For this reason, Zhou Enlai gave Ji Chaozhu a long list of books for him to read.After several years of persistent study, Ji Chaozhu was finally famous in the Ministry of Foreign Affairs for his extensive knowledge and memorization, so that he was nicknamed "Old Master".Whenever people have puzzled knowledge, they often say: "Ask Old Master Ji."