Chapter 2 Chapter 1 Eloquence is a kind of capital

The term "eloquence" has been seen in the Zhou Dynasty more than two thousand years ago.According to "Confucius's Family Talk. Seventy-two Disciples Explanations" written by Confucius' disciples: "Zaiyu, Ziwo, from Lu, is famous for his eloquence." Just as in ancient times, "talent" was also written as "mouth material" , "Eloquence" or written as "talent".For example, it is recorded in Song Wang Mingqing's "Wait Chen Hou Lu <10": "Zhou Wang, courtesy name Zhongbi, from Caizhou, has eloquence and is good at talking about military affairs." Since ancient times, our country has a tradition of emphasizing language expression ability. And has fully realized the role of oral expression in the stability of the country and social communication.As we often say, "One person's debate is more important than nine tripods; a three-inch tongue is better than a million teachers." Liu Xie's "Wen Xin Diao Long. Lun Shuo" was cited.

Ye Xie, a famous literary critic in the Qing Dynasty, once pointed out that "talent, courage, knowledge, and strength" are important factors for the growth of talents.One of the "talents" here is "eloquence"; the "courage" here is to emphasize the "courage" of people who dare to speak in social interactions and dare to speak in front of a large audience. Today, people pay more attention to eloquence than ever before.Good eloquence has been used as one of the basic standards to measure a person's quality.A person's comprehensive strength can often be seen from a person's eloquence, and eloquence plays a very important role in almost everyone's destiny.Good eloquence may change your destiny.Let's take the interview as an example. Now large and small companies at home and abroad have adopted the interview as a necessary way for talent recruitment, and there are too many industries that especially value oral examinations.Under such circumstances, the course "Eloquence" is already a compulsory course in many colleges and universities. Even if it is set as an elective course, there are still many people who choose it.Because, now colleges and universities generally do not include graduation assignments, and the vast majority of students look for jobs according to the needs of the talent market. Knocking on the door of job hunting, students feel more and more the importance of eloquence.

As people become more and more aware of and keen on the cultivation and cultivation of eloquence, eloquence, as a new subject, has become a very popular knowledge in the world today, and its predecessor, or another form or branch - oratory , is an even older science.In pre-medieval China, ancient Egypt, ancient Greece, ancient Rome, ancient Babylon, India and other ancient countries with a long history and civilization, speeches have become a common social phenomenon.In China, the form of speech was widely prevalent in the pre-Qin ancient society.The earliest collection of political documents handed down in China, "Shangshu", recorded Pan Geng's speech "mobilizing the people to move the capital".This is the earliest documented speech found in China so far, and it is also the earliest text-recorded speech in the history of speeches in the world.This speech is divided into three parts: first, middle and second.The middle part is a speech before moving the capital, and the first and second parts are speeches after moving the capital.Among them, the novella is the most exciting. It is quite mature and touching in terms of conception, word choice and sentence construction, as well as logical thinking deduction, induction and emotional expression. There are also several speeches in "Shangshu", such as "Gan Oath", "Tang Oath", and "Mu Oath".Among them, "Gan Oath" is the mobilization before the war between Xia Qi and the Youhu family in the "Gan" place in the 21st century BC. Although the text is short, it is righteous and magnificent.

The Spring and Autumn and Warring States period was a period of great changes in the economic and political systems in the history of our country. Class struggles and political struggles among and within the vassal states were intricate, coupled with the development of productive forces and economic prosperity, which promoted the development of the "scholar" class. appear.Coupled with the shaking of the royal power, people have doubts about "heaven", and private schools quietly emerged, which promoted the development of various academic thoughts.And the main ways of its dissemination are all through debates by scholars and dictation to students.Confucius, Mencius, and Xunzi of Confucianism, Mozi of Mohism, Zhuangzi of Taoism, Han Feizi of Legalism, Hui Shi and Gongsun Long of famous scholars, all expressed their political views and thoughts on governing the world and lobbied the public. An era of "contending among a hundred schools of thought" and the heyday of lobbying was formed.This is also the first heyday of oratory and eloquence in ancient my country.

Oral expression is the scanning and expression of a person's thinking activities by using sound and gesture language.That is to say, speaking is the material externalization of human thinking. People often say that they can speak well only when they think clearly, and they can speak well only when they speak well.Therefore, we can succinctly say that speaking is a comprehensive manifestation of a person's accomplishment, ability and wisdom.Specifically speaking, in oral communication activities such as conversations, speeches, and debates, the expresser uses coherent and standard vocal language accurately, appropriately, and vividly according to specific communication purposes and tasks, and in accordance with specific verbal communication environments, and Complemented by appropriate body language and expression to express the meaning of the oral expression to achieve a satisfactory communication effect.

According to the constituent elements of oral communication and the meaning of eloquence, to say that a person has eloquence should meet the following conditions. That is, to be able to proficiently use language skills to expand discourse according to the intention and purpose of communication, and at the same time have the flexibility and witty ability to adapt, that is, to speak according to the situation. "The Analects?"Selected into Chapters" tells such a story: Zilu and Ran You both asked "Wear what you hear and do it", should you do what you hear immediately?When Confucius replied to Zilu, he said: "If you have your father and elder brother, you should listen to them. How can you do it when you hear it?" The answer puzzled Gong Xihua present.Confucius explained: "Ran You has little courage, and usually shrinks back when doing things, so I said to do it as soon as I hear it, to encourage him and give him courage; Zilu is more courageous than ordinary people, and he is brave to do things, so I said, there are fathers, brothers, etc. Now, you have to suppress him to make him back down." This incident has always been used as an example of Confucius "teaching students in accordance with their aptitude", but it is also an example of choosing different speech content according to different actual situations.

If you don’t care about the occasion, don’t look at the object, talk in a boastful way, and talk endlessly, this kind of “speaking” behavior will only cause resentment or even disgust, and it cannot be called eloquence.Xunzi once clearly pointed out in "Encouraging Learning": "If you don't talk about it, you can call it arrogant (impatient), but if you don't talk about it, you can call it hidden, and if you don't look at it, you can call it blind." "Blind" means blind.This shows that the speech should be made according to the situation, and the camera should act.

That is, it can not only accept and understand accurately, but also make appropriate and necessary responses.This is a very crucial part of talking to people.In oral communication, the speaker must not only express, but also accept, that is, comprehend the meaning contained in the other party's words or facial expressions and gestures, and at the same time make targeted feedback. In September 1969, Kissinger held talks with Dobrynin, the former Soviet ambassador to the United States, on the issue of the Vietnam War.As he was speaking, President Nixon called, and after talking for a few minutes, Kissinger said to Dobrynin: "The President just said to me on the phone that 'the train just left the station' on Vietnam, and now it's It’s driving on the track.” The experienced Dobrynin tried to ease the atmosphere, and then said: “I hope it’s an airplane instead of a train, because the airplane can change its course midway.” Kissinger immediately replied: “The president is He paid great attention to the wording, I believe he said the same thing, he said the train." In this conversation, Kissinger proceeded from the principle of sticking to his own position, not only clearly understanding that Dobrynin changed "train" to "airplane". Intention, and adopted the "excuse words" way to defend his point of view, showing the demeanor of a witty diplomat.

"The Analects of Confucius. Yong Ye Pian" said: "Above the average level, you can speak well; below the middle level, you can't speak well." People with an intermediate level can speak profound truths, but those below the middle level cannot. Talking about profound truths and speaking more or less than the other party's ability to accept will not get good results. Don't talk too much, that's what people call "cautious speech". "Speak cautiously" is proposed for the relationship between words and deeds. "A gentleman has nothing to eat, no food to live, no peace to live, he is sensitive to things and cautious in his words, and he has the way and is righteous", "The ancients can't say anything, and they are ashamed of not being able to catch it", "When you hear a lot of doubts, be cautious about the rest , the widowed.”That is to say, you must be diligent and agile in doing things, and be careful and measured in your words. If you can't do things, don't say anything at all. If words and deeds are really inconsistent, you would rather do more than talk Do more and do less, exaggerate what you say.

In daily life, most people may have such a feeling: when they are with their friends, they are elated and talkative, and when they come back, they suddenly realize that there is still a key sentence that they have not said, or that there is a sentence that is inappropriate, and they will feel regret in their hearts. .So I asked myself: Can I speak? "Can I speak?" This is a seemingly simple question that often plagues us. "Speaking", that is, being good at speaking, means that the speaker can express his thoughts, feelings and intentions accurately, freely and appropriately; he can explain the truth clearly and vividly; Qinghe understands his own words.At the same time, one must also be able to determine the intentions of others from the conversation with others, increase one's understanding of others, and establish a good and harmonious friendship with others.A person who is good at speaking must also dare to speak, and have ingenious words and wonderful sentences. If you dare not express to others, dare not speak out, it will be difficult to get others' approval.

In work and career, people who can speak can make full use of their language and communication skills to persuade others, so that the work can be carried out smoothly, and they can have both sides.It can be said that a person who can speak must have a good interpersonal relationship, which can also lay the foundation for his career success.To this end, we might as well test ourselves from the following points: Speaking is an art that requires a certain skill to perform, a skill we must recognize and master before we can achieve the success we want to have.To be able to speak, one must first be able to listen.When speaking, you must recognize the other party, consider the other party's reaction, be frank and straightforward, be careful, and the speaking time should not be too long, let alone explain to the end by one person.When you speak, you should not dominate yourself and exclude others, because the purpose of speaking is to explain something and arouse people's interest.Therefore, speak clearly, understand, be frank, and be easy to understand, and give the other party enough time to speak. Kutuzov, who once defeated Napoleon, said in a letter to Princess Katerina: "You asked me what kind of charm attracts so many friends in the social world. My answer is: truth, sincerity and sincerity." It can be said without a doubt that authenticity, sincerity and a sincere attitude are the magic weapons of a successful speaker.Appeal to people's hearts with true emotions and a sincere attitude, enthusiastically praise the truth, goodness and beauty, and ruthlessly castigate the fake, ugly and evil.Use a sincere heart to pluck the heartstrings of others, and use a pious soul to touch the hearts of others.Let the listeners hear their words, know their intentions, see their hearts, and achieve emotional resonance, which will make the speech like spring rain, moisten things silently, and exert a subtle influence, so as to have a magnet-like influence and arouse the enthusiasm of the masses. The huge power that shakes people's hearts produces a "resonance effect". Bai Juyi, a great poet in the Tang Dynasty, said: "No one moves people's hearts before emotion." If a speaker is not sincere, he will not be able to escape the eyes of hundreds of listeners, and he will not be able to touch the hearts of the audience. Lincoln said in 1858: "You can fool some of the people all of the time, and you can fool all of the people some of the time, but you cannot fool all of the people all of the time. ’” This famous political adage became Lincoln’s motto.During the Second World War, the nearly 70-year-old British Prime Minister Winston Churchill was as excited as a child when he dictated a speech to his secretary on the mobilization against the fascist war, and wept.His speech this time was soul-stirring and greatly inspired the anti-fascist fighting spirit of the British people. If a person speaks flamboyantly and lacks sincere and warm emotions, although he can deceive the ears of the audience, he will never win the hearts of the audience. With the effect of enriching the content, every word will be expressed affectionately, and every sentence will be soul-stirring. In our daily interactions, we should not attempt to reveal the privacy of others, let alone "attack" others. This is the most basic principle for talking with people. When talking, you must first respect the other party, and secondly, be sincere and put yourself in other people's shoes. That is to say, you must keep a sense of proportion when talking and avoid any elements that may hurt others.Even if the other party does have shortcomings, you can't hold on to them and chatter endlessly. The polite way can only be tactful criticism, and enough is enough.In short, no matter what the content of the conversation is, as long as you treat others with respect, you can get corresponding returns. Henry Ford once said: "The boring person is the one who puts his fist in his mouth, and he is also the monopoly of the word 'I'." Indeed, many people always use the word "I" in command.For example, at a cocktail party, the host used dozens of "I" words within 10 minutes: my car, my villa, my garden, my puppy, I think... the audience was very disgusted. If you keep talking about me, regardless of the listener's mood or reaction, it will inevitably arouse the boredom and disgust of the other party.Conversation is like driving a car. You should always pay attention to traffic signs, that is to say, you must always pay attention to the attitude and reaction of the listener. Always be self-centered, which will inevitably lead to disgust from others. To exclude others from a conversation is as absurd and inconceivable as to exclude guests from a banquet.Always remember not to miss anyone, keep your eyes on everyone around you, pay attention to their facial expressions and reactions to your conversation.In a gathering of many people, there are often a few people who are ruthlessly ignored. If the person who is left out by you happens to be someone who is crucial to your career in the future, what will be the consequence? Don't snub anyone, no matter how obnoxious his behavior is. "Don't do to others what you don't want done to you", you should think about how it feels to be left out.If you want to make others feel that your conversation is full of enthusiasm, so they have a good impression and interest in you, don't make people "cold" there. People who have the habit of interrupting others when they are talking are most likely to be annoying. This is a sign of lack of manners.There is nothing more unbearable than interrupting someone.For example, when others are speaking, don't use other people's words to interrupt, and don't make irrelevant opinions to interrupt, let alone use trivial things to interrupt. All in all, try not to interrupt others when they are speaking.Interventions are only necessary unless the speech is dragged on for too long by "a lazy woman's foot-bindings smelly and long," or when the speech is jeered by the crowd, or when the speaker speaks outrageously without looking at anyone else. Good eloquence usually has the following four qualities: Words are the voice of the heart.Different worldviews, outlooks on life, morality, life and death, optimism, and aesthetics often dominate people's discourse taste. "Good eloquence" and "eloquent tongue" are two words with different sentiments, and the latter can sometimes be used as a derogatory term.When we say that someone has "good eloquence", although it is a compliment that focuses on language skills, it often also includes appreciation for the correct concepts, beliefs and personality grades expressed in his speech. Eisenhower said: "There is nothing to regret in sacrificing for the motherland. It is a pity that I can only sacrifice once." Wen Yiduo said: "We are not afraid of death, we have the spirit of sacrifice! We are like Mr. Li at any time, stepping out of the gate with the front foot, and we are not ready to step in the gate with the back foot!" Correct concepts, beliefs, and personality grades are the indispensable deep foundations of good eloquence. When they emerge from the "surface of the water", they are likely to form the momentum of language, strong emotional color, and pertinence of discourse.The artistry of language is completely dominated by correct concepts, beliefs, and personality grades. Among them, beliefs are particularly important. It is a strong driving force for a wonderful speech to move forward like a whistling arrow.When a person uses his or her own beliefs, principles, and theories as the driving force for behavior, beliefs are often first presented verbally. In March 1998, Zhu Rongji, who had just been elected as the Premier of the People's Republic of China, solemnly said to Chinese and foreign reporters: "Whether there is a minefield or an abyss in front of me, I will go forward without hesitation, do my best, and die." This great promise , left an extremely deep impression on the people of the whole country, and was praised by the majority of the people. The beauty and ugliness of a person's speech is inseparable from his moral quality.When people comment on a person's article, they often say "the article is like the person".In fact, a person speaks more like a person in social interaction.Therefore, speaking represents a person's moral standard to a certain extent. On July 25, 1994, "Guangming Daily" published a long newsletter titled "Unusual Footprints—A Record of my country's Outstanding Female Engineering Physicist Wang Chengshu", which was very touching to read.Wang Chengshu came back from the United States in 1954. In the decades since returning to China, she only took the initiative to see a doctor once, because the disease affected her work too much.When she learned that her eye disease could not be cured, she was neither nervous nor depressed.The doctor told her that there was an imported medicine, and she could try it with ten injections. Wang Chengshu asked, "Can it cure my eye disease?" "I'm afraid not, at most it can only be controlled temporarily." "How much is it?" "600 yuan." Wang Chengshu smiled and said humorously, "Look, are my eyes worth 6,000 yuan?" Wang Chengshu didn't ask the doctor to treat her eyes, she felt that she was so old , since my glaucoma and cataracts can only be temporarily controlled and cannot be cured, why waste the money of the country and the collective? Even if my eyes are blind, I can use my mouth and hands to make some contributions to the party and the country.Her love for the motherland and loyalty to the party have always run through her entire career, becoming the starting point and destination of her thoughts and actions. Although a person's psychological quality is intangible and tangible, it actually determines a person's expression and reaction. "Frustrated and incoherent", this is what he said.According to Mr. Lu Xun's analysis, the reason for some people "'being in a hurry' is not that they don't have time to think, but that they don't think when they have time."Mr. Lu Xun analyzed the deep-seated reasons, which are the accumulated problems in daily life.But we must see that "being too anxious to speak out" is always related to psychological quality and psychological factors.If you are nervous, not good at controlling and regulating your emotions, and are easily disturbed by the surrounding environment, it is very likely that you will be hindered when you are ready. During World War II, the Netherlands was occupied by the German army, and the Dutch government-in-exile established its headquarters in London.The prime minister of the Netherlands rarely travels abroad and barely speaks English.When he met Churchill once, he stretched out his hand and said in a friendly manner as soon as he saw Churchill: "Good-bye." Churchill was stunned for a moment, and replied: "Sir, I really hope that all political meetings are so short and to the point." Here, Churchill's quick response and good-natured humor are shown. At the same time, it is also seen that the prime minister of the Dutch government-in-exile is a little nervous. Although he "rarely goes abroad", he has been abroad after all; although he "hardly speaks English ", but understand some polite language after all.Besides, the prime minister of a European government may not even know when to say "Good-bye"!The reason for this joke was mainly because he was a little nervous when he saw Churchill, the famous prime minister.Dou Wentao, a famous program host of Hong Kong Phoenix Satellite TV, was very shy when he was in junior high school. He was once mistaken for a girl and stuttered a bit.Later, after practicing hard, he became a famous host when he grew up. He said in an article in the 2000 trial issue of "Phoenix Weekly": "People should cherish every opportunity to make a fool of themselves in public. When I was in junior high school, the teacher asked me to participate in a speech contest, wrote a speech, and memorized it fluently. Yes, I asked people in my family to say the first word of any natural paragraph, and I recited the following one in a flash. When I went on stage, the bottom was dark, and I recited the first paragraph, and I thought about the second After reciting the second paragraph, my brain went blank, and I was silent for a full minute to all the teachers and students in the school. I was so scared that I peed my pants. The teachers and students in the school saw me running out of the school gate. Later, when I went back to school, I always felt that I was next to me. Some girls laughed at me. The teacher said to me: "Although you didn't finish the speech, you didn't get a ranking in school, but the two paragraphs you recited are very good. Don't be nervous. If you can memorize it, you will definitely get a ranking. I recommend you Go to the district to participate in the competition.' I promised more happily this time than last time, as if I didn’t care about it, but I really got a ranking after memorizing it. Since then, I have changed a bit...After I unloaded this burden, I feel that I am still okay , I can often show my face on such occasions. Later, I slowly summed up a truth, as long as I speak in public, I must try to enter a state of psychological freedom and selflessness.” If the ideological quality is below the "water surface", then the artistic quality is a quality directly exposed on the "water surface".Pronunciation is the most important factor in the quality of a person's speech, which is also a basic condition for speaking well.Famous speakers such as Li Yanjie, Qu Xiao, Peng Qingyi, etc., are first of all models of clear and sonorous pronunciation, clear words, and beautiful and moving voice. Peng Qingyi was an outstanding dance performance artist, and was received by Mao Zedong, Zhou Enlai and other party and state leaders many times. In 1985, after performing the large-scale music and dance epic "Song of the Chinese Revolution", he unfortunately broke his left leg while demonstrating moves for young actors.From then on, he stepped onto the podium from the stage and started his speech art career.Peng Qingyi believes that to make a report for contemporary young people, we must pay attention to the beauty of art, "to enter the mind and heart, we must first enter the ear".Especially contemporary college students, who have a wide range of knowledge and high taste, are reluctant to listen to preaching the truth. They must have high artistry in order to impress the audience. "When I give a speech, according to the content of the report and the mood of the audience, I insert a dance movement from time to time, or sing aloud, or recite a few ancient poems, organically combine the sound with the posture, and make the atmosphere of the venue warm. Fatigue, after the audience is excited, it triggers a revolutionary truth, and the audience will easily accept it.” Facing many audiences who love him, he spoke his mind. According to a report in June 1993, during the past few years, he gave more than 1,280 speeches to state cadres, enterprise employees, and university teachers and students on many platforms across the country, with an audience of 2 million people.He is a part-time professor at more than 100 universities across the country, and a senior ideological and political work consultant for 27 large enterprises. He has been employed by so many units, which can be called the most in the country. On June 29, 1992, he was invited to Zhongnanhai to give a 20-minute speech to the leaders.The Central People's Broadcasting Station made a live recording and played it for 4 minutes on the national news network. It was the first time that a recording of an ordinary person's speech was broadcast on the national news network for 4 minutes.Why did Peng Qingyi's speech attract the audience?There are many factors, but its artistic quality plays the most important role.Professor Zhang Daoyi, a well-known esthetician in China, although he is over seventy years old, his timbre is still thick and round like a baritone.One year, at the opening ceremony of the Jiangsu Academy of Aesthetics annual meeting, his voice resounded like music in the venue.Among them, there are two sentences that are particularly thought-provoking: "The Cowherd and the Weaver Girl meet once a year, it is for love, and we meet once a year, it is for aesthetics." The audience applauded for a long time. Mayakovsky once said: "Language is the commander of human power." It means that the exquisite art of oral expression has inestimable charm and power in social life and interpersonal communication.In the 14th century BC, Pan Geng, the Ming emperor of the Shang Dynasty, persuaded the people who were unable to leave their homeland with vivid, simple and eloquent words, and realized the idea of ​​moving the capital; Zhou Enlai and Chen Yi were good at rhetoric and eloquence in the ever-changing international political life, Greatly improved the international status and prestige of New China, and increased the aspirations of the Chinese people; international financier Sachs persuaded US President Roosevelt to develop and produce atomic bombs as soon as possible, thus laying an important foundation for ending World War II as soon as possible; in today's economic construction In the process of business negotiations, pertinent and powerful words during business negotiations will force the other party to make concessions or reach a consensus in order to facilitate an agreement; generous speeches that promote external and internal connections will revitalize one party's economy.All of these show that by giving full play to the art of eloquence of oral expression skills, huge spiritual wealth and material wealth can be created.In social life and interpersonal communication, not paying attention to or not understanding the rules of oral expression will always bring about mild or severe adverse effects or even cause failure.Khrushchev once gave a speech full of emotion and rich content at the United Nations General Assembly, but because he was so excited at the end of the speech that he almost carried himself away, he used a leather shoe he took off instead of his palm to slap hard on the podium, which made the whole speech a failure. ——The rude and disrespectful body language caused an uproar in the audience, not only did not achieve the expected effect, but left a laughingstock. There is a passage in Franklin's autobiography: "When I restrained myself, I used to have a checklist of virtues. At first, there were only 12 virtues listed on the list. Later, a friend told me that I was arrogant when I spoke. , which makes people feel arrogant. So I immediately paid attention to the advice this friend gave me, and I felt that it could affect my future. Then I specifically listed humility on the list. I decided to try my best not to say anything that directly offended others. In terms of feelings, I even forbid myself to use all definite words and phrases, such as 'of course', 'definitely', 'needless to say'...and use 'maybe', 'I think', 'I think', 'that's it', 'probably', 'perhaps'... Instead." Franklin also said that speaking has a lot to do with career progress, and it is the main embodiment of a person's strength. If you speak carelessly and argue with others, then it will be impossible for you to gain sympathy, cooperation and help from others.This is absolutely true.Therefore, if a person wants to be successful in his career, he must have eloquence that can handle everything.If you want others to think highly of you, you must first think highly of yourself, and never beg for mercy.You can be humble, but never flattering.You can't just be submissive, making people think that your language is not moving.When you express your opinion, don’t wantonly criticize others; let alone tell the other party that your plan is sure to succeed, and if you are hired, the business will definitely develop. This can only be praised by the other party, not by yourself.Boasting comes with stubbornness, an attitude that only makes people sick.When you go to interview a person and state your purpose briefly, you should take your leave.Even if circumstances permit you to linger for a while, you should immediately turn the conversation elsewhere. For example, when applying for a job, the most important thing is to show your qualifications and abilities. It is inappropriate to slap your face and pretend to be fat, and you can only deceive yourself for a while.If applying for a job makes you tremble with fear, then it may be because you deeply understand how many drops of ink you have in your stomach.At this time, the scope of the conversation should be kept within a certain limit, don't talk about the furnishings of the office, don't talk about the other party's attire, and have a certain concept of time. You must condense and express your qualifications and abilities in a very short time. Explain it clearly in time, so this is a critical moment to test your training, education and ability. At work, you should be competent and happy, don't put on a cold face, and minimize emotional distress and unrealistic fantasies.You can talk to your colleagues about the knowledge you need at work and your experience at work, and you must be sincere and free from any prejudices.People who work together must respect and care for each other, say peace to each other, have a gentle attitude, be honest with each other, and speak up when they have something in their hearts. Furthermore, gaffes are common.Don't pretend to be confused, or bluff.You should immediately admit that you have made a mistake. Admitting mistakes can also win respect, and it will greatly increase the power of your words, so that every word you say in the future will have a loud voice. People talk every day, but some people speak so sweetly that it makes people feel comfortable listening to their muscles and bones; some people speak with sharp edges, like a sharp knife, which makes people People feel very frightened; some people feel disgusted as soon as they speak.Therefore, people's appearances are different, and the words that people say and the effects they obtain are just as different as their appearances. Speaking is not easy.We talk every day, but not all of us can speak. Compliments such as "smart tongue" and "perfect tongue" are all praises for people who can speak.If the words are well spoken, the small ones can lead to joy, and the big ones can rejuvenate the country; if the words are bad, the small ones can cause complaints, and the big ones can lead to death. The modern American poet Frost cleverly divided ordinary people into two categories from the perspective of speaking: the first category is people who are full of knowledge but can't speak; the second category is people who have no ink but talk endlessly.Frost's observation is very in-depth. In our daily life, we often see people who are full of knowledge but dull in words, and we often hear people who are ignorant and uneducated talk nonsense.Therefore, the most fundamental condition for a conversation is: not only to have substantial and valuable connotations, but also to be good at expressing, so that people can listen happily and have endless aftertaste.Therefore, "having something to say" is really not an easy task. To achieve the state of "having something to say", one must keep learning and strive to enrich oneself. In all fairness, the Chinese tradition does not encourage people to study the method of conversation. At most, it just puts forward some basic principles so that everyone can "use the magic with one heart."However, most of us do not have the ability to understand and apply these principles, and even misinterpret the truth that "smart words and tricks are not benevolent", so that we dare not speak.However, in today's society, the art of conversation in social situations is already the first key to life, and it must be studied carefully.A U.S. senator who was a lawyer and one of the most famous speakers in the United States - Depp once said: "There is nothing in the world that can win success and the admiration of others more quickly than the ability to convincingly communicate. This ability can be developed by anyone.” Indeed, a person who can convey his meaning effectively in a conversation can stand out wherever he goes.Not only can they use excuses to attract the attention of others, but they also have more and better opportunities for development than ordinary people.A person must know: how to explore things, how to explain things, and how to speak persuasively, in order to gain the support of others and succeed in career.