Chapter 13 no one wants to kick a dead dog

If you get kicked or criticized maliciously, remember that they do it because it makes them feel important; Achieve something and be noticed by others.Unjust criticism is a flattery in disguise.Remember, no one ever kicks a dead dog. No one likes others to criticize themselves, but it is absolutely impossible not to be criticized by others.If you want everyone around you to think you are perfect, you may be constantly worried.No matter whoever has a little complaint against you, you may try to please him.But what you do to please him will only make the other person very angry.It wasn't until the end that I realized that the more I wanted to please others and avoid criticism from others, the more enemies I would have.While we can't stop others from making any unfair criticisms of us, we can do something more important than opinions, and we can decide whether we want to be disturbed by those unfair criticisms.Don't care what others say, as long as you know it's right.

In life, as long as you are outstanding, you will definitely be criticized, so it is best to get used to it as soon as possible, do your best, and then put away your broken umbrella and let the rain of criticism fall from you Run down, not drip down your neck. There is such a story: two grandparents and grandchildren were walking on the road on a donkey, and the nun on the side of the road accused: Amitabha, two people riding a donkey, it is so heavy, it is too cruel!So the grandson got off the donkey, and the grandfather rode on.Not long after, an old lady came over and scolded her grandfather: such a big man can't walk, let the little grandson walk, and ride a donkey by himself, how can he be an elder?The grandparents changed positions after hearing the words.Not long after I left, I ran into a sister-in-law, and the sister-in-law was even more vocal: "Tsk tsk, what's wrong with the world, young people ride donkeys, let old people walk!"

The grandparent and grandson were in a dilemma, and finally decided not to ride at all, but to drive the donkey to walk.But before he walked a few steps, he was ridiculed by the tea drinkers in the shade of the tree: Hey, these two idiots left the donkey instead of riding, and they were sweating profusely from walking!Why do you want to please others?It is good to do your own duty, and other people's opinions can be properly used as a reference, but you should not be influenced by others. There is also such a thing: the Prince of Windsor, who later became King Edward VIII, also got kicked in the ass.At the time, he was studying at Dartmouth College in Devonshire. Prince Windsor was only 14 years old at the time. One day, a naval officer at the school found him crying and asked him what was the matter.He refused to tell at first, but finally he told the truth: "I was kicked by the students at school." The commander gathered all the students together and explained to them that the prince did not complain, but he wanted to know why these people abused him like this Prince of Windsor.After prevarication and hesitation, the students finally admitted that when they themselves become commanders or captains of the Royal Navy, they would like to be able to tell people that they kicked the king's ass.

In 1929, a major event happened in the United States that shocked the national education circle. Scholars from all over the United States rushed to Chicago to watch the excitement.A few years ago, there was a young man named Robert Hutchins who graduated from Yale University with a part-time job and worked as a lumberjack, writer, tutor and salesman selling ready-made clothes.Now, just eight years later, he was named president of the fourth richest university in the United States, the University of Chicago.how old is he 30 years old!It's unbelievable.The older generation of educators shook their heads, and people's criticisms of him fell on the head of this "child prodigy" like a landslide, saying that he was like this, that he was like that, "too young and inexperienced." ", also said that his educational concepts were immature, and even major newspapers joined the attack.

On the day Robert Hutchins took office, a friend said to his father: "I saw the editorial attacking your son in the newspaper this morning, and it terrified me!" The father replied, "True words. But remember, no one ever kicks a dead dog." Yes, the more important the dog is, the more likely the person who kicks it will be satisfied.So, if you get kicked or criticized maliciously, please remember that the reason they do such things is because it can make those people feel important, which usually means That means you've accomplished something and deserve others' attention.

Albert Hubbard said: "Everyone spends at least 5 minutes a day being a very stupid fool. Wisdom is how a person does not exceed the limit of these 5 minutes." Fools throw tempers at the slightest criticism, but wise men are eager to learn more from those who oppose them, blame them, and "get in their way."The famous American poet Whitman said: "Do you get everything from those who treat you well, admire you, and always stand by your side? From those who accuse you, oppose you, or stand in the way Don't you learn more from those who follow you?" Instead of waiting for our enemies to criticize us or our work, we must be our own toughest critics, finding our weaknesses and correcting them before our enemies have a chance to say anything, as Darwin did.

It took him 15 years to gain this understanding.Here's the thing: When Darwin finished the manuscript of his monumental tome, he knew that the publication of this revolutionary insight into the creation of living things would shake up the entire intellectual and religious world, so he made his own critic.He spent 15 years examining his sources, studying his theories, and critiquing his conclusions.This is preparation for criticism. In real life, some critics are well-intentioned, and some are unscrupulous to hit you, so accept the fair ones and ignore the unjust ones.Friendly criticism is a kind of care for life. What kind of attitude you adopt to deal with criticism determines how you correct your own shortcomings, and those unreasonable accusations are just jealousy of your achievements.For unreasonable criticism, you can give it a light smile.Treating criticism is a kind of wisdom. We must have the courage to accept criticism in front of the public. We might as well take other people's criticism or accusation as a reward for you, and don't argue endlessly with others like a bitter woman.The most important thing to remember is this:

Unjust criticism is usually a flattery in disguise, and no one ever kicks a dead dog.