Chapter 8 Chapter 7 Your emotions and desires are my grave?

The reason why people are human is that they have seven emotions and six desires; the reason why people become different people is because everyone has different personalities and tempers.As a biological being, as a learned being, you can spend your whole life growing or aging in immaturity; No one is perfect. However, after becoming the father and mother of your child, you should not have no restraint on yourself, and vent your flaws or weaknesses in your life and character willfully.If not, the result will be the destruction of your own humanity— Among the many interviews, some people and things can never be erased from memory:

The four sisters of the Liu family in Guangxi are the most memorable group of children in my interview with orphans and weak children. The four girls of the Liu family were born in a not-too-poor place in Guangxi, but the family planning work there is useless, and the rural people have inherited the traditional habits and are proud of having sons and multiple children.Although the man from the Liu family was in poor health, perhaps it was because he knew that his life expectancy would not be too long, so he believed that it would be the best policy to have a son to inherit his family business.So after the eldest daughter Liu Qingmei was born in the first child in 1982, she began to long for a son. After two years, she gave birth to a daughter, so the name Xiaoming originally planned for her son was changed to Xiao Min for her second daughter.The man in the Liu family is in poor health, but he has not forgotten the most important thing, which is to continue to have a son.However, God deliberately opposed him, and the third child born to his wife was still a daughter.Should it be over?No, the man from the Liu family said: There is only one thing I can do in this world, and that is to have a son.He was terminally ill when he said this.But he said to his wife: Come on, all I can leave you is the last bit of strength... But this last bit of strength didn't allow him to accomplish his great deeds, and the fourth child was still a daughter when he came into this world ...After Xiaolan was born, the four sisters completely let their father despair. In the dying struggle, their father lived only one year and seven months before passing away regretfully with his son Meng.Apart from being able to force his own woman to have a child with him, his father left nothing to the family. A dilapidated house is still the property passed down from the ancestors. All household wealth does not exceed 200 yuan.

The man died, and the mother of the children wanted to cry, but she stared blankly at the four children under her knees, unable to find a way to feed them. This life lasted for 3 months.One morning, the elder brother Qingmei saw that her mother got up very early that day, so she grabbed her mother's clothes and asked, "Mom, are you going on a long trip?" With tears in my eyes, my mother said: "Yes, I think staying at home is not an option. Go to Guangdong to work, maybe I can get you something to eat..." Tears were already hanging on her cheeks when Mom said this . "Mom, don't make it too difficult. My sisters and I know that our family is poor, so we only eat one meal a day. We won't eat too much after you leave, as long as you can come back early..." Qingmei said and cried There was a sound.

"Qingmei, Mom won't allow you to make any noise!" Mom hastily sealed Qingmei's mouth, and said, "Don't wake up my sister and the others..." Mom left just like that, leaving only this sentence for the boss Qingmei to take the younger sister to wipe, and nothing else. After my mother left, she never came back, and there has been no news since then, until now. At that time, Qingmei was 8 years old, the second child Xiao Min was 6 years old, the third child Xiaoling was 4 years old, and the fourth child Xiaolan was 2 years old. This is the situation three months after the death of the Liu family man.Some people in the village said that the Liu family, a dead woman, simply threw her hands away and married far away because she saw that she would not be able to bring up four children; Her lower body died, but she left behind her four children and left forever.

No one in the village would dare to touch the four children of the Liu family—it's not that everyone in the village has no conscience, it's just that everyone is afraid that if anyone touches them, they will have the same fate as the men and women of the Liu family.Poor, in a village where there is no food or money in the valley, who can afford four children? They were all nagging about the poor four children of the Liu family, but no one came forward to help the poor four children. Qingmei looked at the crying sisters, helped them dry their tears, and then said to them: "Don't cry, sister will get you something to eat." Then she took a small bamboo basket and went to the ravine run……"

"Sister—I'll go too—" The second child caught up from behind. "Why are you here too? What about my little sister?" The 8-year-old elder sister blamed the 6-year-old second child like an adult. "I tied the little sister to the threshold, and asked the third sister to feed her some water when she watched her cry..." said the second child. "Well. Let's go, there are wild vegetables in the ditch ahead..." The 8-year-old eldest, Qingmei, took on the heavy responsibility of raising herself and her three younger sisters after her mother left without saying goodbye.So day after day, year after year.The hardships experienced during this period are beyond anyone's imagination.In the boundless sea of ​​suffering, Qingmei only remembers one time when she almost passed away.That time was when she was 10 years old. Two of her younger sisters suddenly became ill. They had a high fever for several days and kept coughing.The second child is still studying at school, and Qingmei wakes up at 4:00 every morning to prepare delicious food for the second child who is going to school. In fact, it is just some corn cobs picked up from the wild.Then hurry up to the mountain to pick wild fruits for the third and fourth children to relieve the heat and relieve the cold.But on the morning of the third day, Qingmei's eyes blurred suddenly on the way up the mountain, and she fell into a deep ditch beside the mountain road. At the age of 12, when Qingmei was going to the market to sell wild vegetables, she was suddenly knocked down by a passing car, and an arm was crushed on the spot...

The hard-fated four daughters of the Liu family lay in a pool of blood, screaming for nothing every day, and nothing to do with the earth.Later, a reporter from the Yangcheng Evening News learned of their affairs, and tried to call back their mother for the children through the newspaper. However, the mother who the four sisters of the Liu family looked forward to nagging every day did not respond to them. The four sisters of the Liu family began their helpless wandering life. Many people commented on the mother of the four Liu sisters in this way. Some said that she deliberately avoided the heavy family burden, and some said that she met a rich man and remarried and lived a happy life. Said that when she was working in Guangdong, she wanted to spend more money to do illegal things and went to jail.The latter kind of legend is the most common, but no one can prove it.

As far as I know, since the 1990s in China, there have been around 400,000 criminal cases of various types that have been tried and sentenced by courts at all levels every year, which means that at least 400,000 adults in China have been admitted to prisons every year. prison.According to a data provided by experts, married criminals account for more than 70% of the total, which means that every year about 300,000 criminals’ children suddenly deteriorate in their way of life because their father or mother enters the prison. An unimaginable situation. In a school for orphans in Shanxi, I saw more than a dozen pairs of children. They all lost their basic living conditions because their parents were imprisoned for crimes, and became the most miserable group in the world.

Feng Xiaoning, 16 years old this year. When he was 7 years old, he was sentenced to 15 years and 7 years in prison for his father and sister, who are businessmen, to falsely issue value-added tax invoices.Less than a month after his father and sister were imprisoned, Feng Xiaoning's mother suddenly ran away from home. 1-year-old Feng Xiaoning lost his mother when he woke up in the morning, and later he was adopted by a kind old man!But the old man surnamed Yang died of illness three years after adopting him, and Feng Xiaoning has since become a vagrant wandering all over the world. A pair of twin boys named Xixi and Bingbing, whose father and mother are currently serving sentences in Yangquan and Chuci prisons in Shanxi respectively.The parents of these two children were sentenced to heavy sentences for the same case. Their father found a girl from a mountainous area in Sichuan—then she became the mother of the children.Because this mother was eager to get rich, she was cheated when exchanging banknotes with a foreigner, so she angrily called her husband to beat the foreigner together, and beat him to death. Xixi and Bingbing From then on, he became a poor man who lived in the east and the west.

The children taken in by a Sunshine School in Hebei are all the children of criminals.Some of them were imprisoned because their fathers were drunk and caused the death of others, some were sentenced to death because their mothers stole and killed their husbands, some were imprisoned because their fathers accidentally injured others while joking with others, and there was also a pair of fathers who became involved in gambling. Addiction ended up on the road to crime and into death row. When I listened to these children who suddenly fell from the sky to tell their misfortunes, my heart was filled with incomparable grief and great depression, because these innocent and innocent children who lived in sweet water were precisely because of their parents. A single greedy thought, a reckless act, a night of frivolous wandering, a boring drink, even a gaffe and an irresponsible word brought lifelong shame and real bad luck to their children .

There is such a father: he dominates the family, and whenever he wants to hit his wife, he will hit him with his hand, but the wife will not dare to say anything.Once he went to a friend’s house to play mahjong, and it was very late at night. After his wife put the child to bed, she felt uncomfortable. She wanted to buy some medicine in the town’s health center, but the money was managed by men, so she found someone who was playing mahjong at someone else’s house. Men ask for money.Hahaha, Lao Gen, you always brag in front of us about how you keep your word at home, but now you're blowing your socks off?Your wife came to tell you to go home and heat up the kang!When the poker player saw his woman enter the house, he yelled at the man.The man who was struggling with Feng Shui at hand saw his woman appearing in the room, and immediately became angry. At first, he cursed, his woman said that I came to ask you for money to buy medicine.What dog medicine to buy?Moldy.Get out, don't come to add dirty water to me!The man waved his hand and just lowered his head to touch his cards.His woman quit, walked around the poker table, came over and grabbed the money on his table.Hi, Ziwen, don’t you want to live anymore?The man didn't know where the fire came from, and where the strength came from, and he knocked his wife to the ground with a single punch, and his poor wife's body was staggering, and she fell on her back, her breast pocket was not leaning to one side, and she happened to hit the woman on the ground behind her. On the tip of a large cone, white brains were splashed all over the place, and he died.Her man went to prison just like that, and the son he left behind was originally a top student in a key middle school, but because he became an orphan overnight, his academic performance deteriorated, and he had to drop out of school.When his father came out of prison, it was the day his son was sent to juvenile prison for theft... There was a mother who had been developing a tigress because her honest husband didn't give her the zest of life.Usually she can slap her husband in front of the children.Later, she fell in love with a male colleague in the unit and did not return all night.Her husband tried her best to persuade her, but she pointed at her man's nose and scolded: "You idiot, can you do it?"You can make me laugh for three minutes!But do you have the ability?If you don't have the ability to stand on a pillar, just stay under the stage and drill holes!She still slept with one man after another in the unit and messed around.Her daughter grew up and went to school.But she didn't change her faults, and even openly brought her lover to her home to seek pleasure.Once, she happened to be met by her daughter who came home from school early. She even took out 10 yuan from the man's pocket and handed it to her daughter, and then said: Mom and uncle have something to discuss. Go to the McDonald's across the road and drink Coke.The daughter left home half understanding, and she went back to having fun with wild men.Later her husband came back, and seeing that the door was locked, he asked to open it.After a while, she came out sleepily and opened the door.Seeing that there was a wild man behind his woman, the husband couldn't help yelling and cursing loudly.The tigress got angry, pulled a towel and asked the adulterer to help gag her husband, almost suffocating the sick man to death.With this sulking, the woman felt that her man was a hindrance to her pleasure-seeking.A hunk laughed at the woman and said: You can't deal with the weaklings at home, you'd better stop thinking about flirting with others all day long.That flamboyant man was a joke, but this woman took it seriously.When her husband was admitted to the hospital for treatment, she secretly manipulated and pulled out the needle, causing him to suffocate and die.The cause of the accident was soon discovered, and the woman was given a suspended death sentence for murder.Maybe she just came to her senses at this time. Five months later, on the day her verdict was handed down, she made the only request to the court: hoping to see her daughter.The court told her that the child had disappeared and only left her a note with three large characters on it: "I hate you!" There is also such a father: he divorced his first wife at the age of 40 and insisted that his 14-year-old son stay with him.Even though he is the director of a department in a provincial capital in a metropolis, he has the old consciousness of passing on the family line in his bones, which has something to do with his growing up in the countryside.But the director with a strong sense of tradition is very carefree.Less than 3 months after the divorce, he had a second wife, and life was not so good at the beginning, because the woman brought a bottle of oil.Often adults quarrel with children over trivial matters, which makes it boring, and they separate again within two years.As the saying goes, a man has forty-one flowers.But no, the director was proud again, and this time he found a college student who was 15 years younger than him.In those days, Aunt Chi Chunfa, the chief of the department, took her new wife to the streets and parks all day long, like a pair of first-time lovers.It's time for us to have kids of our own... The wife of a college student makes sense.But she put forward a condition: you have to let your son live in the grandfather's house.The director was extremely unwilling, but he couldn't stop the young wife's attack.The son proposed to his father to return to the provincial capital less than half a year after transferring to another school. The reason was very good: the quality of education in that small county was extremely poor, and it would be a big hit in the college entrance examination in the future.Originally, the director's father had to wait, but the new wife gave birth to a girl.This time, Mr. Director, who is very stubborn in traditional consciousness, brought his son back to him in the provincial capital without telling his new wife.The son has grown up, and he is no shorter than the old man, and the young stepmother panics when he comes in and out.With him without me, with me without him, you choose!The young wife didn't look like a highly educated person when she was angry. She returned to her mother's house with the baby in her arms for three months.The director humiliated several times in front of his father-in-law and mother-in-law who were similar in age to him, but what he got in return was a cold ass and a cold face.Well, let's leave again.After going through three marriages like this, the director became old, but his heart was still young.In less than half a year, his girlfriend could already stride in and out of his room.But this time the future hostess has conditions: she can get married, but she has to complete two things and buy a three-bedroom, two-living house, and buy a BMW.The director can get 1 million yuan if he calculates it at least!He broke out in a cold sweat: Where did you get so much money?Relying on the salary of the Virgo, you have to wait 100 years before getting married!What a fool, the power in your hands will expire if you don't use it, and my youth will also fade away, so you really have the heart?When she, who was 20 years younger than him, rubbed her chest coquettishly against him, he made up his mind: do it a few times before talking.From then on, he began to take risks, trading the power in his hands with those criminals for power and money.Within a year, he got his house with three bedrooms and two halls, and he bought all the BMWs.But the marriage was not consummated because the procuratorate handcuffed him first.Naturally, his girlfriend who was 20 years younger than him did not become his bride, and the house and car were also seized by the procuratorate.When he was heartbroken, he thought that there was one more thing that belonged to him, and that was his son.Son, son, where are you?Where?Inside the bars, he called his son's name day and night.However, his son never appeared in front of him.Five years later, when he walked out of the cell with silver hair, he finally saw his son, and he was so excited that he burst into tears.But the son said to him like a stranger: I have no father, he is dead long ago.After the son finished speaking, he followed the police into the prison where his father stayed for five years—he was sentenced to prison for taking drugs... A sociologist in the United States said this: In today's civilization and openness, the mutual influence between our family members has become an important factor in the common dependence of human beings, and the behavior of parents as adults often affects The development of children plays many direct and indirect roles.Perhaps it is a hobby or a defect of character in adults that our offspring may grow in the exact opposite direction.At this time, the culprit is actually those of us parents who think we are mature or love our children deeply. Qin Liancheng, who is still serving his sentence in a prison in Qinghai, has a deep understanding of this aspect.He is a man of duty, supporting his family with his strength.Unfortunately, when he raised his three children with full expectation, his wife died of terminal illness.This blow was heavy for Qin Liancheng.Seeing that the three children who lost their mothers often had torn clothes and no one to mend them, and they couldn't eat a few hot meals a week, he felt anxious and guilty.So he hurriedly found a woman to remarry. He was shrewd. Before going through the formalities, he tested the woman who was about to enter the family: You have to promise me to treat my three children well. What can I guarantee? Everyone is yours, so I can’t guarantee it!The woman said coquettishly. Qin Liancheng thought that in this way he could be responsible for the three children left by his ex-wife.But after the start of the new family life, there were so many incongruities. The wife either thought that the three children came into the house and interfered with her and her husband when they were doing intercourse, or that the big one was like a cow eating five bowls, and the small one was like a bar. Snakes are so smart that they can dig holes, and the lazy ones are like insects hibernating all day long.At first, Qin Liancheng felt that the bride was not used to it, which was understandable.But after listening too much, he thought it was the stepmother picking on his child.One day, he finally couldn't bear to attack his wife, and he, who was like a steel tower, did not take it lightly.Because of this, the wife felt that marrying him made her lose more and more. She changed from a young girl to a housewife of a family of five, and many trivial things were annoying enough. Start empathizing with others.Because of his absent-mindedness, he intensified his hatred for the children who were in the way. Qin Liancheng was upright by nature and had a bad temper. When he heard the children crying and telling him about the abuse of the queen bitch, he couldn't bear his temper any longer. In anger, he accidentally beat his step-wife to death. The law is ruthless, so Qin Liancheng was sentenced to life imprisonment.When this tyrannical tiger was imprisoned and his life became more and more boundless, he thought about his three underage children at most, especially after being severely scolded by his ex-wife again and again in his dreams. The pain was unbearable, and she missed her three helpless children day and night.For this reason, he tried to escape from prison time and time again: and every time the prison escape always ended in failure. This trapped beast inside the bars tried to commit suicide three times because he couldn't get rid of his thoughts and concerns about the three orphaned children.Some inmates asked him why he was like this, and he sighed to the sky: a dignified man of seven feet, watching his children being displaced and helpless, what face do I have to live? According to a prison guard, most criminals like Qin Liancheng, who have families and families, regret the bad luck they have brought to their relatives, especially their children, because of their own faults after being imprisoned.But it is too late! What we see below is a true portrayal of the misery and tragic life experienced by the children of criminals. If their parents who are serving sentences in prison understand earlier, maybe there will be fewer criminals and criminals in our lives. Criminal Behavior - I think it is equally important to teach ordinary adults to see the rough fate of the children of criminals.If my wish is realized, wouldn't our society be able to curb many crimes and maintain more family integrity and human harmony? This pair of brothers and sisters who were envied by the villagers in the local area had a happy family. The father who contracted projects outside could get back a lot of money a year. I wholeheartedly hope that they will study hard and become the first generation of Murakami college students.But when the brothers and sisters were studying angrily and dreaming of college dreams, a black day came: one day, the brothers and sisters were in a sleepy sleep when they vaguely heard their father calling their mother, and then went out of the house... And this time I left the house, there was no news for half a year.One night half a year later, the siblings saw their mother's horrific face on TV. Ten days later, the siblings faced another unacceptable reality: the murderer who killed their mother was their father. The father killed the mother because he had a new love.Some people in the village began to gloat, while more people tried their best to avoid the son and daughter of the murderer. What made Xiao Wenlong uneasy all day long was that the mother's relatives vented their hatred on him, the murderer's son, and kept looking for the murderer's son. Opportunity to trouble him.Helpless, the brothers and sisters were driven back and forth like plague gods.The people in the village took the opportunity to bully them, and the relatives said to them viciously: You two just give up, we have broken with your Wen family, and don't come looking for us in the future, it's useless! You can't go to school anymore, and the father wants to kill the mother, so what can you leave for the child?Only a few acres of contracted land remained. The siblings worked hard for 360 days in the first year and harvested 200 catties of wheat. This was the only hope for the siblings.But in the early spring of the second year, when they were about to plant seeds, the village head told them that the children of criminals had no right to contract responsibility fields. Which law is this?The brothers and sisters found the village chief, who only smoked a waterpipe, and answered after a long while: There is no such law, but here I have the final say. Since then, Wenlong and Wenying have lost their homeland and their foothold, and they have to leave their hometown to bear the debt left to them by a criminal father, wandering everywhere... Clouds in Jining, Shandong. My father is a standard Shandong man who loves to fight against injustices.Once, a buddy of the same clan quarreled with a group of drinking buddies while drinking, and ended up being severely beaten.The buddy found Yun's father and asked to vent his anger, and took two bottles of Moutai with him. easy to say.See how I deal with them!Yunxia's father, who is full of brotherly loyalty, drank half a bottle of Moutai and then went to find those people to settle.As a result, the three big Cangzhou men on the other side were really subdued as soon as the attack was made, but because Yunxia's father shot too hard and severely disabled one of them, the court sentenced him to 3 years in prison. After her father went to prison, it was considered peaceful, with food and drink, but Yunxia's mother suffered a lot of grievances. A year later, Yunxia's mother divorced her husband in prison and married Yantai.Yunxia has become an orphan without parents, temporarily living in her uncle's house. The life of my uncle's family is not rich, and because my aunt is disgusted with Yunxia, ​​a free-living little relative, she finds faults all day long, and often points fingers and scolds Huai.When Zeng Fan was, Yunxia was still the apple of the eye in her family, but now she was discriminated against and couldn't adapt to the life of her uncle's family, so she ran away.First lived on the streets of Jinan, then went south to Xuzhou, Nanjing, and finally to Shanghai.At first, Xiao Yunxia didn't lose the arrogance in her nature. She wanted to find a living space of her own, but she was destroyed by repeated blows.She worked as a dishwasher in a restaurant, sold crystal necklaces in Donghai County near Xuzhou City, and later helped people look at them at the Nanjing Wharf.During this period, she also wrote a letter to her father in prison, but to her great disappointment, her father not only did not give her the slightest love and comfort, but asked for money for cigarettes and alcohol.Yunxia hated her parents more than she hated everything in the world, and vowed not to have any contact with her parents. She tried to reshape herself through her own efforts, but little Yunxia didn't know the cruelty of the world. When she wandered to Shanghai, she was already covered in bruises. — more traumatic. One day, a group of police officers suddenly arrived at Shanghai Railway Station, and a group of men and women who were selling tickets were driven into police cars.People saw a little girl in ragged clothes and unkempt hair who was also escorted into the police car. That was Xiao Yunxia from Shandong... As the child of a criminal, Xiao Yunxia is not the most unfortunate, because she is at least better than the Sichuan girl Xiaopangdun. When Xiaopangdun was 14 years old, his father was sentenced to 10 years in prison for committing crimes in Xinjiang. Later, his mother couldn't bear the loneliness and remarried.Little Fatty moved to a new home with his mother, but that home didn't belong to her at all.When she was 16 years old, her stepfather got into Xiao Pangdun's bed when her mother went to the city to sell things... After the loss, Xiao Pangdun was worried all day long, and finally one day when his stepfather wanted to eat tofu again, She told her mother everything.The angry mother quarreled with her husband, but the man could not be cured afterwards, because the chubby mother was pregnant with the man's child at this time. Take the chance you get out of this home.The mother said to her daughter with tears in her eyes. What is an opportunity?For those who cannot even guarantee their lives, opportunities are actually traps.Once, a distant relative of Dun's stepfather said that he had a way to introduce a part-time job to Xiaopang Dun in Jiangsu.After finishing junior high school, rural children go out to work. This is the life path that many girls in Sichuan generally take.Little Fatty and his mother, Shang Tong, followed that distant relative away.Unexpectedly, this walk into the wolf's den.After two days and three nights on the bus, Xiao Pangdun got off at the junction of Jiangsu and Anhui, more than 200 miles away from Xuzhou, and then sat on a tractor for more than half a day, bumping into a village that was poorer than his hometown in Sichuan.She was told that she was the new daughter-in-law of the family.Only then did she realize that she had been kidnapped and there was no use crying. Someone was guarding her all day, like a prisoner.She started a hunger strike, and the little chubby turned into a little thin monkey.She wanted to escape, and she had escaped several times, but she couldn't escape the high mountains no matter what.Helpless, on the night of entering the bridal chamber, she thought of her father, her stepfather who raped her, and of course her mother. She felt that the people around her were not good people, especially her biological parents, because It was the mother's remarriage that made her step into the wolf's den step by step, and wasn't the mother's misfortune caused by the father who was in a prison in Xinjiang? I hate!I hate men all over the world—Little Fatty stabbed a pair of scissors fiercely at her husband who was under the bed on the night of their wedding...but it was useless, how could her strength match a five-foot man. During the crackdown on abduction in the spring of 2000, Xiao Pangdun was rescued from northern Jiangsu by public security personnel.The police officers asked her where her parents were? She was at a loss.When someone asked her again what her father did, she yelled crazily: he is the desperate and miserable voice of a criminal, which made heaven and earth want to cry! Compared with the teenagers above, the process of Ling Yun's entry into the prison was a bit inconceivable even to his parents. Ling Yun has been an excellent student since he was a child, and in the eyes of his parents, he is also a very obedient and good boy. In school, he is also a class leader who has won the title of "three good students" year after year.Ling Yun's father used to work in the army, his mother visited relatives once a year, and his father went home once a year to live there for a month before leaving.Ling Yun usually stays with his mother at home, so he has basically never left his mother's arms since he was a child.When I entered junior high school, my father happened to come home from visiting relatives in the army, and my mother said to my son, you have grown up too, you shouldn't be by my side all the time, and you will marry a wife in the future.That day Ling Yun moved out of his mother's room amidst the laughter of his parents, and lived in the small hall outside his parents' bedroom.Since Ling Yun's father was still in the army, his mother's unit did not allocate a two-bedroom house to his family according to the standard, so his family actually only had a small house with one bedroom and one living room connected, which was very crowded. The halls are connected without any disguise.From this year onwards, whenever his father came home from visiting relatives, Ling Yun would move from his mother's bedroom to the small living room outside, and after his father left, Ling Yun would move into the inner bedroom to sleep with his mother on the same bed.Year after year for seven years, nothing happened.But since Ling Yun entered high school, when his body was as strong as his father's, gradually something disturbing happened to him, but his parents didn't pay attention. According to Ling Yun, when he told the police about the initial reason for his criminal career, he said: that year when his father returned home from the army, Ling Yun moved to the small hall to sleep as usual, because he had homework at night, and he slept more than his parents. Night.Not long after Ling Yun lay down, he was suddenly awakened by a sound. At first he thought he was still chasing a group of bison in his dream, and the panting sound of the bison kept echoing.But later, the more Ling Yun heard it, the more he felt that it was not true!Because he was clearly awake, he listened, the strange, panting voice came from the inner room, so he got up from the bed lightly, and looked into the inner room carefully... God, At this moment, he saw his naked parents rolling and tossing on the bed.Ling Yun's head was buzzing at first, and then he couldn't calm down no matter what.The more he thought about it, the more he felt hot all over his body, until his whole body was drenched with sweat. What made him nervous was that while listening to the sound from the inner room, he felt his lower body swell violently. Novelty and fear, both wanted to suppress, but also wanted to let it out completely, that night his trousers were wet.He had a special pleasure after being wet. When he woke up the next day, he didn't dare to look at his parents.But he is particularly eager for the night to come earlier, because he is looking forward to and longing for the sound of last night to induce the pleasure in his body to vent. The night finally fell again, and the sound that Ling Yun was expecting from his parents' room came as expected under the dark curtain, and the young man thus obtained another quick satisfaction of the soul and flesh in his body.Day after day, the young man finally felt a little tired, but his spirit was exceptionally excited.After his father left, he could no longer hear the sound that aroused his excitement, but the young man was still able to achieve the pleasure he longed for through some kind of masturbation.He was so happy that he even felt that the night was so alluring and so fleeting. Then one day, his behavior was discovered by his mother.His mother was furious, and taught him that he was a villain.And he is no longer allowed to sleep alone in the small outer hall.And Ling Yun, who had been reluctant to leave his mother's embrace in the past, hated his mother for the first time, because the existence of his mother was an irreversible obstacle to the venting of his desires in his body, and he couldn't sleep all night.It is conceivable that as time went by, Ling Yun felt sluggish all day long, lost his mood in studying, and his grades plummeted.The mother was called to the school again and again to accept the teacher's lessons and accusations.Ling Yun started to become a typical bad boy both at home and outside, and he himself was unable to extricate himself as if he had drunk ecstasy. Only when he saw the girls walking by him did he suddenly feel strength in his heart.And when he saw the girls staring at him in a daze, laughing and walking past him abruptly, his whole body became hotter and hotter, sometimes to the point where he couldn't get rid of it. The young man suppressed in pain. One day, after school, he was called into the office by the teacher to make up his homework until dark.On the way home, he took a bus.At that time, it was hot summer and it was time to get off work, so the people in the car were very crowded.Ling Yun was sandwiched between the two girls.And these two girls were dressed very fashionable, with their chests outstretched and their arms exuded, and their bodies exuded an intoxicating fragrance.Ling Yun was close to them, he didn't pay attention at first, when he stopped suddenly on the way, the girl in front bumped into him all of a sudden.The young man clearly felt that the girl's protruding chest and soft lower body were in close contact with his body for several seconds.From that moment on, Ling Yun couldn't bear it anymore, his lower body gradually swelled and ached, and suddenly he rushed out again... He was so nervous that he didn't dare to breathe, so he quickly clamped his legs tightly.Fortunately, Tian Hei saved Ling Yun—embarrassed. That night Lingyun broke out in a cold sweat.But after that, he could never forget the scene that made him fascinated, and it was a bosom on this evil road that made him slip into the abyss step by step. Ling Yun's body grew taller and taller, but his increasingly mature energy made him restless all day long. Almost every time he came home from school, he deliberately jumped on the crowded bus, and those women with revealing clothes became... objects he approaches.He was very cautious at first, and no one paid attention to him. Besides, even if some vigilant women found someone rubbing their backs, they would look back and see that it was just a childish child.Once or twice like this, Ling Yun gradually became more courageous.It was the day before last year's summer vacation, on the way home from school, Ling Yun saw a beautiful girl in the car, who was rarely dressed revealingly.This time the Huaichun boy was in bad luck. When he just put his body on the girl's body, not only did she not feel disgusted, but she even moved her back on purpose.This kind of provocative temptation made Ling Yun suddenly forget what he was doing. He pressed his body against the girl, and kept rubbing and panting, as if he had entered a maze... Suddenly, the girl screamed and covered her hands. Face burst into tears.车厢内顿时乱成一片，当大家看到那女孩的后裙上瀑湿的一片时，将所有的目光射向愣在那儿的凌云。rogue!快把这个小流氓抓起来！愤怒的乘客开始向凌云冲过来，其中有几个男乘客上前用力将凌云那湿成一片的长裤扒了下来，高高举在半空喊道：看这罪证！这小子耍流氓耍到公交车上了！那些女乘客们一边卿卿喳喳地说着真恶心，一边扭过头回避着。凌云这才明白自己闯了大祸，当他再想用双手捂住丑陋的裤裆时，为时已太晚了。 念初犯，又加上凌云的父亲专程从部队赶回家，通过在公安局的战友关系，才使儿子免于进少管所的惩罚。可是凌云再也抬不起头了，他再不能上学了，不上学的他更无聊，整天呆在家里难受，便上街瞎混。先是上游戏厅玩，再后来是跟人打麻将赌博。有一天他玩红了眼，竟然贏了一大笔。回家的路上，他得意地哼着小调，三分醉意间走路歪歪斜斜，撞上了一位姑娘。那被撞的女孩骂了句：瞎了眼吧？凌云一听就来气，瞪大眼睛看着对方，突然他的瞳孔放大，脑门上的血管噌噌发胀，顿时间他像野兽般地扑向女孩，然后将其按倒在地，兽性般地强奸了这个无辜的女孩子……这一回凌云再不可能走运了，刚满18岁的他被判重刑15年。当他的母亲得知自己的宝贝儿子犯下如此重罪时，一病不起，在部队工作的父亲也无奈不得不提前脱下军装。 作孽啊作孽，好端端的一个孩子怎么会落得这个结局啊？凌云的父母怎么也弄不明白从小品学兼优的儿子会成为一名流氓成性的强奸犯，当他们从监狱干警那儿听说了儿子陈述犯罪起因后，无法想象儿子的错竟是当年他们为父为母者很平常的生活小节没注意而诱发和导致的。 不该啊，早知道怎么着也得想法别让孩子看见我们……凌云的父母后悔莫及，可一切都晚矣。 要说凌云这孩子的堕落仅仅因为家长合欢时的不经意而值得普天下的父母深刻反省的话，那么像章宁这样的孩子生活在一个父母任意暴露自己恶习的家庭则更应让我们敲响教育的瞥钟。 章宁的样子看上去是个非常纤弱的女孩，16岁的花季年龄，到了她这儿似乎还有相当远的时光。但老师和同学们則不明白为什么这么个弱不禁风的女孩心地和为人那么刻薄。有一例可以证明，中午同学们都在学校就餐，多数是吃固定的配餐盒饭。开饭时，同学们总排着队轮着取饭，这过程中总有先来后到的。由于一些同学比如像班干部什么的一下课忙着帮助老师收拾作业、擦洗黑板等一类事情要做，因此同学之间就相互帮着把饭盒取了，这本来是很正常的同学友情，再说盒饭数量是根据班里的总人数订的，谁也少不了。可一碰到章宁排队时看到前面有同学帮着别的同学拿两三个饭盒时就受不了，非不让人家多拿一份，她还总是指责别人。有一回一个女同学排在章宁前面，因为帮助同学多拿了一只盒饭，结果章宁成了最后一位拿盒饭者。她见自己的那只饭盒有些破，便往那女同学桌上一扔，随即抢过人家的饭盒。那女同学觉得章宁做得实在太过分，便说了句你凭什么要跟我换饭盒？章宁立马站起，操起饭盒就朝人家的脸上泼洒过去。班上的同学见她如此野蛮无理，纷纷遗责。章宁竟然像疯了似的打掉了好几个人手中正端着的饭盒，使教室一片狼藉。老师因此把她叫到办公室，问她为什么这样撒野？要求她在班上向同学们道歉。章宁却强词夺理地说必须让排在她前面的那女同学向她先道歉。老师气得直哆嗦，说你章宁明明做得不对，还要人家先向你道歉，这是谁家的规矩？ 我家的规矩！我妈立下的规矩！不信你去问他们。章宁说着昂起头就出了老师的办公室。气晕了的老师第二天放学后真的到了章宁家。他万没有想到的是章宁的妈比章宁还要刻薄—百倍。老师还没有开口，章宁的妈便先给老师点了一通眼药水，将手指头戮到老师的鼻尖尖上，说出来的话不戗死你，也得喧死你：啥，我女儿因为守规矩排队，就该轮到最后吃那剩饭剩菜？你们当老师的不仅不表扬她，反而纵容同学合伙跟她过不去，我还正要找你评评理呢！话不投机，本想来做工作的老师没说上两句话反倒被气了回来。 有这当妈的撑腰，章宁在学校更是肆无忌惮。她的刻薄与小心眼使她与同学们无法相融，动不动就会因一些小事面发生骇人听闻的对峙，最后发展到那天坐在她侧旁的一位女生因急着上厕所而不小心在课桌前挤了章宁一下胳膊，使正在写字的章宁的笔头别在桌面而弯折。 你子眼瞎了？不能慢些？赔！赔我一模一样的！得理后的章宁破口便扔出一串脏话，并非要那女同学赔还钢笔。 那女同学知道章宁不是好惹的主，从厕所回来后，赶紧将自己的一支新钢笔放在章宁桌上。章宁瞧都没瞧，便甩手将笔扔到墙角：我要你赔一模一样的，听见了没有？ 那女同学火了，说：我的笔是我爸从英国带回来的，比你那破笔值钱10倍，你还不识抬举？不知章宁哪来的邪火，操起铅笔刀，猛然冲过去，朝那女同学的脸上刷刷就是几刀…… 啊——瞬间，教室内乱成一片。那被刺的女同学血糊满脸，同班的同学惊恐万状地叫来老师，也有人拨通了110。就在救护车拉走那位受伤的女同学时，警车也将章宁押到了派出所。最后的处理结果是，那女同学的面相受到破坏，章宁的行为已构成犯罪，被少教所收容劳教两年。 在大墙内服刑的章宁有时间静心反思自己的行为，她在悔过书中这样写道： 小时候的我也是个心地善良，性格温颀的女孩。记得上托儿所时，一位小朋友与我一起玩要时抓破了我的脸，那天回家后我妈见了就问我怎么回事，当得知事情真相后，她便狠狠地用手指点着我的额头说：哼，将来你准是个窝囊废！人家抓你一下，你不会咬还她两口。这世上软蛋就要吃亏，你不知道在外面硬气就别回家哭丧脸喊疼。Understand?我那时还小，自然不全懂妈的话，可她教我的不能在外面吃亏，别人打我一下，我还手打人家两下我是记在心头的。 后来慢慢大了，妈的一言一行都对我影响很深，像处理与邻居的关系问题上，我妈也总是得寸进尺，而且我发現每次只要她出现一嚷嚷，别人家就老实许多。这些在我幼小的心灵影响很大，我甚至在相当长的年龄段时十分佩服我妈，而且也潜移默化地影响着我的为人和性格。妈妈在家里也是个专横跋扈的人，平时她没有多少亲近的好友，一旦交上一个新友，就没完没了地跟人家在电话里说些鸡毛蒜皮的事，一说就是一两个小时。我爸是个搞科研的人，喜欢静，后来跟我妈离婚不为别的，就是受不了她打电话的干扰。我爸有几次实在无法忍受我妈喋喋不休的打电诱说废话，就在旁边多说了几句，我妈就破口大骂我爸剥夺地权利。两人七吵八吵，最后父亲一卷铺盖再也没有回家，直到最后离婚。 当我们的家就剩下我和妈两人时，我发现他那专横跋扈的毛病渐渐转向了我，叫我同样无法忍受。尽管我也经常跟她操骂，有时急了也要还手。但每逢此时，我妈就会哭天喊地地叫嚷说我是没良心的白眼狼。说实话，时间长了，我心里非常恨我妈的这种毛病和牌气，甚至不想在家多呆。可由于我的血液里已经渗透了她的某种遣传基因，所以我在外面同人接触和交往时也犯着我妈同样的毛病和德行，因此我也没有什么朋友和知心者。里外不是的我，其实内心痛苦和孤独极了。这也导致了我常常一旦牌气发作时，无法控制自己情緒。 我今天的罪过客观原因是我妈点点滴滴影响的，现在我无比恨我自己，更恨我有这样的妈。如果我出狱后，一定也会像我爸那样离她远远的…… 读着章宁在狱中的心灵独白，我夜不能眠，这使我想起中国一句老话，叫做种瓜得瓜，种豆得豆。同时引发了许多联想，比如我在研究现在十几岁孩子的家长，他们与我基本是同一代人，也都经历了整天只知打砸抢的“文革”十年。虽然我无法说我们这一代人的秉性不好，应完全归罪于十年文革，但我以自己亲身经历多少可以得到某种关联的考证，即自文革以后的二三十年间——包括比我们更年轻一些的朋友们，接受优秀的传统的文明修养教育实在太少，加之我们成人后又恰逢时代发展的步伐之快，各种良莠不齐的东西又多，于是虽然我们做了家长，但在个人道德修养方面我们仍然是弱智和幼稚的，因此当我们负有哺育后一代的责任时，几乎没有细致地考虑到如何以自己的行为规范和美德情操去影响和潜移默化地教育孩子。结果很多像我上面列举的个案中出现的孩子们，他们的成长和犯罪过程都可以说最原始的责任本不该在于他们，因为他们本来都很善良与招人喜爱。害他们走上邪路的，正是他们的父母平时不善改造自我与纠正自我弱点及某种不良秉性所致。凌云和章宁的情况是这样，喜喜、兵兵和小云霞等孩子的情况其实也是这样。他们的家长极少在自己任性做出某一举动或选择时能为身后的孩子想一想，几乎都没有，有的甚至自己进了高墙与监狱时仍然没有意识到因为你家长的一时冲动，一时情急，一时欲念，使爱子爱女背负起比你更加沉重的十字架，而且有的还要付出幼小生命的昂贵代价。这些教训，难道不足以教育我们那些仍在只顾自己使性子、寻私欲、不知为父为母的家长们痛定思痛吗？