Chapter 55 The Land's Kindness during the May Fourth Movement——Records of Huang Daixiao, the Second National Moral Model

Huang Daixiao lives on the hillside of the mining area.Two bungalows plus a small courtyard, which is a unified structure with the courtyards of the surrounding neighbors and the neat row houses with red tile roofs.At first glance, there is an atmosphere of a mountain resort.What's more special is that at the stop in front of this courtyard, although it can't be said that "the scenery here is the best", I think that when the spring is warm and the flowers are blooming, especially when the weather is good, you can overlook the long Taohe River and look at the haze and mist. The appearance of Yangquan city.But the courtyard of this house does not belong to their family.This is their rental house.I have to pay 200 yuan in rent every month. Six years ago, in 2004, the family moved here from further afield.

Because we received a call from the Municipal Civilization Office, when we arrived, Huang Dai was already waiting at the gate of the courtyard. Huang Daixiao is 63 years old this year, and she cannot be said to be an "old mother"; she is of medium stature, slightly fat, and swollen; one can tell that she is an old sister with many years of rural life background (the reason why I Calling her an "old sister" is to distinguish her from the so-called "old man". In today's China, even in the northern villages in the general sense, calling someone like her an "old man" may be insane. ).

Walking into the house, the first impression is that it is simple and empty: a few pieces of old furniture; an old TV; the only warmth is that she cleans up neatly, so that you can't smell that there is someone who has been sick in bed for many years The smell of stagnation and decay of a man.Regarding the situation of her family, a reporter wrote an article: "The poor family is sad. At the beginning of Liu Xuelian's illness, although she had a bad premonition, she was unwilling to tell her husband her worries. The pharmaceutical factory is facing closure, and the tapestry factory of Yangmei No. 2 Coal Mine where she works is struggling; Yao Zhigang’s younger brother is laid off at home; only his father-in-law, Yao Fatboy, earns more than 600 yuan to make ends meet. The situation of the family of five, rent, coal, electricity , Heating and other expenses, I can’t do anything without paying. In order to make ends meet, the rice noodles we eat at home are promotional items in supermarkets, and the vegetables we eat at home are all grown by my mother-in-law and father-in-law in the mountains. Going out and buying vegetables at reduced prices that can’t be weighed. Of course, Xuelian is reluctant to spend money. Besides, Xuelian also knows that there is no money for medical treatment at home. She is lucky and thinks that she can rest more.” This is the beginning.Now, so what?Huang Dai's novel: "The children are always laid off; they have a living to do, but they often can't get paid." The main financial expenditure of the family still depends on the salary of her husband, Yao Fat Boy.After the rent is 200 yuan per month, how much does the patient have to spend?Xuelian has to take medicine first.

What needs to be interjected here is: in various reports, it is mentioned that Huang Daixiao is a resident of Caidong Community, Caiwa Street, Yangquan Mining Area. For this reason, before I came here to interview, I always thought that she was also like the European Union of Students in Datong and the Party in Taiyuan. Like Suzhen, she is also a family member of the older generation of miners.Thinking about the two national moral model selections in the past four years, Shanxi has two each, and four model women have emerged. Except for Shen Jilan, an old model worker who is in her 80s, the other three are all from mines.It seems that Shanxi is engaged in coal, and this moral model election did not leave the largest resource of coal.The truth is here, but I kind of took it for granted.It was in the car when he arrived. Han Congwu from the Provincial Civilization Office said: "Huang Daixiao only lives in the mining area. She and her family have no real relationship with Yangmei Group. Her husband and son work in that area." Or work, but they are not miners and people in the mine.” That is to say, she cannot get financial assistance and care from the mine to a certain extent like Dang Suzhen and Ou Xuelian.

This also makes me first mention the 50,000 yuan that the state subsidized her after she became a national moral model.This money will definitely come in handy for her.Han Congwu, who came with him, took the words: "This time, the country is very thoughtful. I am afraid that like the previous time, some moral models will transfer out after receiving the money, and they will not be able to provide corresponding guarantees for their future lives." , Therefore, this time, the country has bought insurance for them that is more suitable for their future life." Obviously, this is a good way to protect their personal life.Huang Daixiao said: "I am old and old, so I don't need guarantees. If I can get the 50,000 yuan, I can give my daughter (referring to Liu Xuelian) to Taiyuan to Beijing to see a doctor. My daughter, she is not counted. Big." As she spoke, her eyes turned red, and tears flowed down her face like strings of beads.

And her daughter--the former daughter-in-law, Liu Xuelian, was lying next door: lying in bed for 16 years; she, a special mother, had to deal with it for 16 years.A lesbian from the Mining Area Civilization Office accompanied Huang Daixiao to Beijing to receive the award last fall.Before we came to Huang Daixiao's home, the lesbian said: "The most special thing about Huang's mother is that she doesn't sleep all night. In the past 16 years, she has served the patients night and night, and it has become a habit not to sleep at night." Is this a patient who turned her into a dehuman?

The truth is that the ex-daughter-in-law Liu Xuelian, a paralyzed patient lying on the bed, has also tortured her ex-mother-in-law into a sick patient all these years.She not only suffers from high blood pressure, lumbar and cervical spondylosis, but also suffers from severe rheumatism in her legs; from her reddish and black complexion, what can be seen is not the health and vitality of ordinary rural laborers, but the result of long-term poor health. The weakness of rest and sleep - after all, age is not forgiving, she is over sixty years old, coupled with years of hard work, her physical strength has gradually weakened, every time she turns over for Xuelian and helps her to defecate, she has to hold her breath, Then use the inertia to make a sudden effort.Every morning, before dawn, she would get up and wipe Xue Lian's body with a hot towel, turn over, apply talcum powder after finishing, change into clean clothes, and then feed. After tossing and tossing, she was often exhausted and her old eyes were dim , and when her illness strikes, she leans against the wall or sits down on Xuelian’s bed to rest for a while. After Xuelian tidied up, she was too tired to eat breakfast.In addition, the clothes of the paralyzed patient have to be changed and washed frequently. Therefore, her hands are soaked in cold water all the year round, and the joints are not only painful. She felt that her ten fingers were severely twisted and deformed.

Huang Daixiao couldn't speak much.The most worrying thing is to meet a protagonist like her in the interview.Although you will tell: "If you don't say it, I don't know. As long as you say it, whether it is useful or not, you can always keep it as a backup when writing an article." But it is actually useless to her or him.Speaking of turning around, it was going into the next door and walking in front of Liu Xuelian who was lying paralyzed on the bed. Liu Xuelian, who was lying on the bed, was about 40 years old. In addition to covering her body with a quilt, her body was also supported by three or four small pillows specially sewn for her—these small pillows were very useful in relieving her pain.Although Xue Lian couldn't move her body and legs, her complexion was rosy, and there was even a very bright luster on her face, just as she said: "You can tell how my mother treats me by looking at my complexion." Then she Said: "My family is really kind. Although fate is unfair to me and I have gone through such a lot of hardships, it is still good for me. Because I met a kind-hearted family, the family hugged me and revolved around me. I, serve me wholeheartedly, and have never complained. For 16 years, my mother has been feeding me three meals a day; day and night, waiting for feces and urine; since I was sick, it has been almost 6,000 days, and my mother has been feeding me Feed her with water, wash her body, wipe her body, turn her body over; she herself has never taken off her clothes and had a good night’s sleep.” After she finished speaking, you found that her mind was clear and her eloquence was not bad.In this way, we just let her and her mother-in-law tell their stories together.

"During New Year's Day in 1995, I suddenly felt pain in the soles of my feet. My fingers were so stiff that I couldn't hold the chopsticks stably, and I was limping when I walked. It was less than a month since I passed the gate. I wanted to struggle. I gritted my teeth to hide my illness. But I couldn’t hide it from my mother-in-law. In three or four days, my mother-in-law noticed my reaction, asked me about the situation, and immediately advised me to go to the hospital. The next morning, my mother-in-law accompanied me to the second The mine hospital checked, and when the results came out, it was rheumatoid arthritis, and we both were dumbfounded. Especially me, I was afraid of this disease with a faint worry in my heart. In my hometown, Yushe Village, there are people who have this disease. Knowing this Illness is more stubborn than incurable disease, and it is very difficult to cure. It cannot be cured."——

Rheumatoid arthritis, also known as rheumatoid arthritis, has joint redness, swelling, heat, pain and dysfunction in the early stage, and varying degrees of stiffness and deformity in the joints in the late stage, accompanied by atrophy of bones and skeletal muscles, which is very easy to cause disability.Obviously, Liu Xuelian is the worst kind. Huang Dai's novel: "Just after getting married, I fell ill when I entered the door, and my thoughts were tense. I couldn't sleep day and night. The kid was also worried, and I was also worried. The whole family was worried. There was no way but to see a doctor for her everywhere. The elder son's The unit went bankrupt and didn’t raise capital, and the second boy didn’t raise capital for a few years, just the old man’s five or six hundred yuan per month.”

"The pain tortured me so much that I couldn't live without dying. My mood was also extremely bad. I thought to myself, when I was young, how could I have a disease that couldn't be cured or died? If I died, I was born instead. See me In this way, my mother-in-law wiped my tears behind my back, forced a smile in front of me, and kept saying to me: "Xuelian, we are not afraid. Aunt Wang in the community suffers from cancer and exercises every day. She has been living well for more than 20 years." , what is your illness? You are young, as long as you cooperate with the doctor to treat it well, you will definitely be cured. Don’t tell me, my mother is pointing at you to give birth to a grandson.’ Mother-in-law is worried that I can’t think about it. It's a heavy psychological burden. But she knows in her heart that my illness is getting worse, so I don't have to think about having a baby." Huang Dai's novel: "I cry quietly by myself. I don't tell my family. I'm afraid that my family will be upset. I don't cry to my family. I'm happy anytime. In fact, my mood is complicated, but I'm distressed. When I cry, isn’t this family in trouble? No matter how uncomfortable I am, I don’t even hum. Even if I come out, the neighbors can’t see that I’m worried. They all say that it’s not like seeing a sick person in your family. .You will be happy anytime.” "The heart of the whole family is tied to my disease. Even my younger brother-in-law is asking everywhere for famous doctors and good prescriptions. To see a doctor, the whole family has traveled countless distances: Yangmei General Hospital, Municipal People's Hospital, and provincial hospitals. The Second Hospital of Shanda University, the People’s Hospital, and hospitals in other counties, Heshun, Yuxian, and my hometown Yushe—I go to see a good doctor wherever there is a good doctor. There will always be difficulties when I go there. I took the dark, missed the bus, couldn’t come home, and often had no place to live, so I had to look for a place outside, and I was lucky to find a place to stay at the train station. Follow me, my mother-in-law and Zhigang are often on the road I live in Shanghe village. It’s the same for food. I don’t have any boiled water. I bring some water. I’m afraid that I’m thirsty. Go back to buy medicine. She only spends the money for the medicine and the round-trip ticket. The mother-in-law said that sometimes her stomach growled with hunger, and seeing people eating boxed lunches on the side of the road felt delicious and warm, which made her greedy. In order to hold on When she didn't buy food, she grabbed a handful of peanuts in her pocket before leaving. When this happened, she chewed a few, and her hunger and greed stopped. My mother-in-law said: "The whole family has less food." If you are greedy, there will be less pain on the snow lotus.' I don’t know how many medicines I have, they are all picked out from the mouths of my mother-in-law and the whole family. In the past 16 years, the Chinese herbal medicines I have taken can fill a car at least , a tractor; the used up small bottles of western medicine can hold one or two sacks." Huang Dai's novel: "For our family with a poor income, the only way to treat her is to save money and borrow money. When it comes to saving money, my old man and my two sons both quit smoking at the beginning. The eldest son Zhigang He couldn’t bear to take a minibus worth 50 cents. For three or four years, he had been wearing a pair of old leather shoes, the soles of which were as thin as paper. His younger brother loved him so much that he bought a pair of shoes for him, and secretly put them away in the middle of the night. Replace the old and double." "During the Chinese New Year in 1996, the family only cut 1 catty of pork and 2 catties of tofu, and no one added new clothes. Because the meat and tofu were used to entertain guests. On New Year's Eve, my mother-in-law prepared 6 dishes for the whole family, but this 6 dishes, all of which she picked up from a vegetable wholesale market more than ten miles away wearing a mask. But what I ate was Xiaozao: my mother-in-law made 30 dumplings for me with pork stuffing, He brought it to my bed with his own hands, and coaxed me that the whole family ate dumplings." At this point, Liu Xuelian burst into tears.She said: "My mother-in-law usually likes to play poker. She has never played poker since she was sick. She only got out to bask in the sun when she went to the bathroom or when I fell asleep. One day, I found that my mother-in-law was covered in long hair. I quickly persuaded my mother-in-law to go to the hospital. The mother-in-law said: "It's okay, it's okay, it will be fine in a few days." It's not that I am careful, it is her erythema and red spots that scare me. I quietly pay attention Let’s take a look: She secretly dumped one pile of the two piles of Chinese herbal medicines she picked from the mountain a few days ago. These Chinese herbal medicines were all picked up from the mountain to treat my illness. I asked her why she dumped a bunch of them? My mother-in-law said She was so stupid that she shed tears while talking. It turned out that her mother-in-law was not sure about these two kinds of herbs, so she picked both of them and ate them first for experimentation. As a result, she drank the fake herbs all over her body. There are erythema and red dots." I looked at it for a while, and sighed.Huang Daixiao wiped away tears for Xuelian.Xuelian took a few breaths, and then continued: "People say that if there is no filial piety in front of the long-term sick bed, it won't catch me paralyzed on the kang for 16 years. My mother-in-law is like this, and my father-in-law is not out of line. According to the folk customs, Father-in-law and daughter-in-law, there are many things to avoid. However, because he is afraid that I will get bed sores from being bedridden for a long time, my father-in-law often helps my mother and Zhigang turn me over and put a small pillow under me. I am in Yao’s house. However, people are also born again.” Huang Dai's novel: "The problem is that our child's illness is getting worse and worse. At the end of the first year, she was half paralyzed. I slept on the same kang with her, and when she hurt, I hugged her, and we were close to each other. When her legs hurt, I would rub my hands to warm them up, massage her over and over again, rub her over and over again, and give her a small pillow over and over again. That year, she was really sick. She is often unconscious. When the first snow falls, if you don’t feed her, she doesn’t know how to eat, but if you feed her, she will open her mouth. This has been a whole winter.” There is Jing Shengwen, a reporter from Yangquan, who was the first person to discover their human stories.He said: "Although the mother-in-law's family tried their best and sought medical treatment for Xuelian, rheumatoid arthritis was like a knife that cut human flesh. Liu Xuelian's upper and lower limbs gradually became stiff, and her muscles were shrinking all the time. She was often inexplicable. The pain in the ground. The mother-in-law saw it in her eyes and felt the pain in her heart. Although her mother-in-law cooked for her in different ways, after a few years, her weight still plummeted, from 60 kg to 35 kg. She was so thin that even the neighbors I don’t even know her anymore. As time passed, Liu Xuelian was finally paralyzed in bed.” Indeed, the illness tortured Liu Xuelian to the point where she lost her human form. Just looking at her, you can think of aliens and some marionettes in some Hollywood science fiction films.She is "Candle in the Wind". "Some people will definitely think that I was sick earlier and married into the Liu family without telling it. In my conscience, when I was a girl, I never had any pain. Maybe I was sick, but that was the incubation period, and I didn't know." Seeing that she is tired, we let her have a rest.Huang Daixiao hugged her head and gave her some water to drink. "A patient knows best how she got sick and how her disease got worse." This is also like writing an article, knowing the gains and losses.Liu Xuelian went on to talk: "People say that when you die from anger, you get sick from anger, and you die from anger, I really understand it. What I want to talk about is my real parents—my biological parents." She seemed very sad. , panting. "When Yao Zhi and I were dating, they didn't say much. The conditions of our family and myself were very average. But I got a marriage certificate, especially once we got married, the tone of the two of them changed completely. People think My mother-in-law’s family is poor, and they think I’m not capable, so I found a poor family. My mother, they kept scolding me; Dare, crying is not. I bear it and bear it, I think it will be fine if I hold it for a while. Who knows, forbearance, forbearance, the disease will come. At first I thought, my disease, it is impossible to say that two people will meet I have a heart of compassion, so I don’t hate me, and I don’t think Yao’s family is poor. But there’s a saying that’s getting worse’—the two of them are just ‘getting worse’.” "That was when I was just diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis. One day early in the morning, my mother came to the door of Yao's house. As soon as he came, she pointed at my mother-in-law and the whole family and yelled at me. It was Yao's family who blamed me for my illness. See My mother-in-law, father-in-law and Zhigang all spoke good things to her, and my mother became even more energetic. She scolded her from 7:30 in the morning until 12 noon. When she got tired of cursing in the middle, they asked my mother-in-law to pour water for her. "What can I do? I can't bear it when I lie on the kang, I can only cry all the time, and I dare not cry out. I am not well educated, and I have studied for a few days. The doctor also told me that my disease It’s still neurotic, so it’s best not to get angry, and treat it optimistically, as anger will make the disease worse. My disease really got worse.” Listen, I also feel a dull pain in my heart. Liu Xuelian continued: "In the second year of my illness, I could still sit up on the bed after the weather warmed up. There were two days like that, and I really wanted to go back to my mother's house for a few days. I thought, anyway, that's what I did. My in-law's family took care of my illness, and my parents never took care of it. They shouldn't think my in-law's family is poor or bad. As for me, I'm also their biological daughter, and I'm connected by blood. No matter how bad you are to me, at worst, you will be kicked out. Anyway, my heart is exhausted. "Zhigang and my brother-in-law borrowed a small flat car to take me back. My parents live on the fifth floor, and my brother-in-law helped me, and Zhigang carried me up. The first thing I didn't expect was that the door couldn't be opened. Then The familiar door was called for a long time, but no one came to open it. In the end, it was my 5-year-old niece who yelled: "My aunt is here, why don't you open the door, why don't you open the door?" What the two of you didn't expect was that when the door opened, my dad's face came out, looking fierce and fierce. As soon as I asked Zhigang to carry it back, my dad picked up the mop behind the door, covered his head and face, and took three shots at me. People hit me. Zhigang and my brother-in-law thought my dad was beating them to relieve their anger, put me in the door, turned around and ran downstairs. The last thing I expected was that my dad would treat me as a sick daughter. No mistake. That hit on the head made me feel so dizzy that I was about to pass out. "There was a thunderstorm that day. Is it because of it? Because of it? Of course you can guess that my father is afraid that once I come back, he will never return to my in-law's house. I will become the biggest trouble for him in the rest of his life, the biggest problem A burden. These are my biological parents? Why did they bring me into this world? At this moment my dad beat me again, I was awake but unconscious. Let him beat me. He beat me to death That's good. Liu Xuelian said: "My mother's house is not too far away from my mother-in-law's house. There are several miles of land, a farmer's house and a river bank. My mother-in-law heard that I was beaten by my father, so she ran all the way to persuade my father. When my mother-in-law came, we I fell into her arms before weeping. I cried and cried until my voice became hoarse." "Seeing my father's unfeelingness, my mother-in-law trembled with anger. At this time, my mother-in-law, regardless of her age and bleeding mouth, did not know where she came from so much energy, she just picked me up from the ground, opened the door, and went upstairs. Fuck me. She weeps and comforts me: 'Let's go home. Let's go home.' On the way, I heard my mother-in-law say: "Baby, don't feel bad, your mother doesn't want you, I want you, as long as I live a day, have a breath, and I can serve you for a day, I will serve you for a day." My mother-in-law kept murmuring I kept talking until I got home and I slowly woke up on the kang.” "I opened my eyes and saw her red nose, red eyes, and tears streaming down her face. I said, 'Mom, you are crying.' My mother-in-law said, 'Mom didn't cry, Mom just wanted to cry, so she did. After that, my mother-in-law stopped avoiding me. Sometimes we looked at each other and wept together. Sometimes when outsiders came, my mother-in-law would go into the kitchen and wash her face. There were tears." "The double blow of illness and mental illness, and the comparison between heartless parents and kind-hearted mother-in-law gave me the idea of ​​committing suicide. I have thought about suicide more than once. First, I want to relieve my burden for my mother-in-law and Zhigang; second, also for my mother-in-law. To get rid of the endless entanglement of illness by myself; third, (it is selfish, but it is also a practical idea) I want to use suicide to make my biological parents live in this world with uneasy conscience.” "But every time I make a small move—sometimes it's just a thought, at the moment, my mother-in-law finds out and sees it through. Fearing that I will commit suicide, my mother-in-law sits with me during the day and sleeps with me at night. The kitchen knife at home , After the scissors are used up, the mother-in-law locks them up, and the key hangs on her waist at all times. One day, some security guards came to the house (we were still living in the building at that time), and I asked my mother-in-law, and she said It's to prevent thieves. The house is on the top floor, and thieves can't climb up at all; besides, I'm sick, and there are always people at home. I know, this is an excuse for my mother-in-law. She installed a protective net to prevent her from walking away. I committed suicide by jumping from a window." "My mother-in-law is afraid that this kind of despair will aggravate my illness. During the busy work, she never forgets to tell me a joke or two. She also asked someone to borrow a copy of "Xiao Lin Guang Ji" for me. Sometimes it makes me laugh. She was also happy, so she confessed to me, she said: "You know, Xue Lian, Mom doesn't think about anything, she just wants to serve you every day and get you to go to the doctor; now, if you are not a baby, you can't do without me, It’s my mother who can’t live without you. Xuelian, let me tell you, we two, don’t compare yourself to those who enjoy happiness, but compare yourself to those who are begging for food on the street. At least you won’t starve to death or freeze to death. I belong to the pig, so this is the big pig feeding the little pig.' In the 16 years since my illness, my mother-in-law and father-in-law have not had a birthday. But every time it is my birthday, the family has to have a good meal and have fun. The whole family—including the married The daughters and their children who went out came to bless them." Facing her mother-in-law's family who are so kind, Liu Xuelian gave up the idea of ​​suicide, but she made up her mind to get rid of her mother-in-law's pain and worries through divorce.She said: "My thoughts are very firm. If I get divorced, I will not be the daughter-in-law of your family. My mother-in-law should always have a reason to give up custody of me. I said to my mother-in-law: 'Mom, relying on my body, you can hold your grandson. There is no hope, Zhigang is still young, I can't delay him, no matter what, I have to divorce him.'" Huang Dai's novel: "Xue Lian is stubborn, and no one can persuade her. At the beginning, she said to me every day: 'Mom, you can't delay Zhigang because of me. Your Yao family is very kind to me. Like the sea, I can't turn around and rely on the name of the Yao family. If I don't divorce Zhigang, Zhigang will not be able to find another partner. I am a hopeless person. But he is only in his 30s, and he is at the same time.'Xue Lianjian said no If she touches me and my son, she will cry and make noise, won’t eat, go on a hunger strike, and even bite her tongue to kill herself. I’m so worried for a while, when it’s dark and bright, I’m afraid that something will happen to her accident." "I have no choice in the future. The three of us can't hold her back. I know that there is a residential area committee member living opposite my house, so I call him over and ask him to tell Xuelian and me about it. He is very enthusiastic and helps us get the materials. It was sent to the Civil Affairs Bureau. The kind-hearted people in the Civil Affairs Bureau were very moved after seeing the materials, so they specially sent a clerk to the house to help the boss and Xuelian get divorced. The clerk said, this is the first family of ours, and they have never come to the house for others divorced." After going through the divorce procedures, Liu Xuelian had mixed feelings of joy and sorrow. She was happy that she was no longer the daughter-in-law of the Yao family and could no longer be a drag on the kind-hearted people of the family; No one below is willing to accept her.What should I do in the future?It's better to crawl out of the house and do whatever you want.Taking advantage of the crowd at home, she asked someone to carry her downstairs, saying that she wanted to bask in the sun.However, when she came down the stairs and saw that no one was paying attention, she crawled forward and got up.As for where to climb, she doesn't care: wherever she climbs, she counts as where she goes, and where she dies counts.Huang Daixiao, who was no longer a mother-in-law, suddenly realized that something was wrong, rushed downstairs, chased after her, hugged Xuelian, and burst into tears. "Boy, I know what you're thinking. If you can't be a daughter-in-law, you can be my daughter-in-law. Let me give birth to a disabled daughter. From now on, mom will take you with you wherever you go. As long as mom is alive, mom will take care of you. Don't worry Come on, baby, in this life, if you have a mother to eat, you will not be hungry, and if you have a mother to live in, you will not be allowed to live in the wild." Xuelian returned to that warm home.The home is still that home, and the people are still those people.It's just that the eldest daughter-in-law of the Yao family, who needs to be taken care of all the time, has now become the daughter of the Yao family who is not related by blood or marriage. Yangquan reporter Jing Shengwen said: "After divorcing Xuelian, the eldest son Yao Zhigang remarried in January 2004. In order to provide maximum convenience for the new daughter-in-law, the father-in-law and mother-in-law led Xuelian to live in a simple It was difficult to live in the old house. But the new daughter-in-law was afraid that her husband would be disconnected from Xuelian, and she was extremely dissatisfied with the two old people taking care of a divorced daughter-in-law. She would come here every now and then to provoke trouble, pointing at Xuelian's nose and scolding her. In order to keep Xuelian and her parents quiet, Yao Zhigang divorced again after 4 months of remarriage. Now, Yao Zhigang and his wife, who have organized a new family again, come to visit Liu Xuelian from time to time. This makes Huang Dai and his wife very happy." Huang Dai's novel: "A person must have a conscience. It is not easy for a person to live a lifetime. A person only lives once, whether she is raised by us or not, it is better than anything else." What Xuelian said the most was that she dragged the family down. "I can't move my limbs. I see mosquitos biting my face and flies flying on my body. I can't even wipe it off. I can't wipe my mouth when I sweat in summer. My mother takes care of me. Now my mother is getting old and I have high blood pressure, leg problems, lumbar spondylosis, and cervical spondylosis. What should I do if my mother is gone one day? I really dare not think about it. I hope that kind people in the society can lend a helping hand. Help me, help me cure my disease, I am still young, now that I am cured, I can give back to the society and those who have helped me.” It was almost noon, and Huang Daixiao started cooking.The rice is ready, but there is no smell of meat. "Although life is better now than in the past few years, my wife's income has increased a bit, and Xuelian also has subsistence allowances, but in order to see a doctor for Xuelian, the family still owes foreign debts. In addition to buying medicine for Xuelian every month, the money saved It’s just enough for the three of us to eat and drink.” Huang Dai’s little finger pointed to the small terraced field outside the window: “In the spring, I can grow some cucumbers, tomatoes, and beans, so I can save a little bit. I hope she recovers soon. If she is looking for a partner, don’t we have another in-law? One day, if you are better, I will find you a partner. This mother’s house is not your mother’s house. It doesn’t mean that she has served you for 16 years and will ask you what you want. , You are good, better than anything else. You don’t want to be beaten, I will be satisfied with that. This is my greatest wish.” In my interviews over the years, the most special person I have seen is Huang Daixiao, the old sister's persistent concern.With tears in her eyes, she said, "My old man and I are both getting old. If we don't see a doctor for her, who will take care of her when we are gone?" This is the most important and difficult old age for her. proposition.