Chapter 54 You are the sun on May 3rd - Zhu Bangyue, the second national moral model

There are a lot of geriatric diseases. When I went to the hospital for an examination, I found nine of them: cerebral arterial insufficiency, cervical spondylosis, atherosclerosis, brain atrophy, senile heart disease, and so on. You know, many of them have never even heard of them, and now they have all of them.The doctor said that fortunately there is no high blood pressure, otherwise it would be dangerous, and it is better to keep a flat posture when encountering this situation in the future.What's the matter?Is it that serious?However, you feel that many parts of your body are often uncomfortable and obviously useless like old machine parts.The illness came and fell like a mountain, no, at the beginning of March, I suddenly felt very uncomfortable, dizzy, dizzy, lying there, not daring to move, and called an ambulance.After all, the "big name" was away, and the coal company, the province, and the city all attached great importance to it. Many people came, sent to the hospital for CT examinations, and were hospitalized for ten days.

There is no able-bodied person in the family: three are terminally ill patients in the world-the hostess is 67 years old, sitting on a chair with four pulleys, a belt is tied to her leg, and "progressive muscular dystrophy" caused her lower limbs I have no strength left, so I use a belt to fix my legs so that my legs won't spread out to the sides, otherwise the muscles in my crotch will be sore and numb; both sons have inherited their mother's terminal illness.The eldest son is 45 years old, and his muscle strength has gradually atrophied since 1993.He was watching TV against the wall, and he didn't express anything about the guests' visits, because he would fall in any direction if he moved slightly; In the room, I use the only movable ring finger of my left hand to surf the Internet. When I go out of the room, I can only use the soles of my feet to push the chair with wheels to move the direction.All three of them lost the ability to take care of themselves.You are fine, but 4 years ago, half of your left foot was amputated and a prosthetic was installed.With a cane, you are the only one in a family of four who can walk around.Outside jokes: one "crime" and three "robots".I'm not talking nonsense!You and them have long been connected by flesh and blood, and none of them can do without you!You are like a candle of life, igniting the hope of a special disabled family.

She has short, gray hair, and the wrinkles on her forehead are like peach pits, with vicissitudes and deep lines.A seemingly ordinary face, a kind smile and hearty laughter are the most prominent signs, the most moving pass, or you may think it is a little old man who is spending his old age peacefully.In fact, you bury all the difficulties and pains in your heart in order to make your terminally ill relatives no longer depressed and heavy.As the old saying goes, people are too old to be buried halfway in the mud, and it is uncertain when Lord Yan will leave after saying hello.Immediately after, a question pops up in your mind: If you really take the first step, what will happen to your wife and children lying on the bed?A trace of worry about the unpredictable future crossed your face, but you never bowed your head to fate, "live healthy and healthy, and guard every day in the lifetime of the three terminally ill wives and children!" You feel a little relieved that, Now there is a nanny, who shares the housework and some nursing tasks such as going to the street to buy vegetables, washing and brushing, which is much lighter than the burden of "single-handedly" in the past.However, there are things to worry about.Outsiders describe you: with a smile on your face, full of worries!Perhaps it is the endless suffering and hard work that have smelted you into it, and you are like a black coal under the ground...

The wife said: "You are the sun. In the dark years of life, it was your selfless dedication and great love that kept a family that had long since collapsed. We owe you everything in this life, and we can't finish it in several lifetimes!" "Son" said: "You are the sun, you are the sun that will never fall in our hearts, dispel the haze on our life path, and shine on our every day! It is you who give us light and heat, and it is you who prolong our lives !" Ah, great country, faith never dies!The spirit is immortal! Who can help a friend's terminally ill wife and children unswervingly for the end of life, accompanied by urine pots and medicine pots, and never leave them for more than 40 years, it is you!It was you who gave them a bright and clear sky!

Who can abide by the ancient motto of "One Promise, Thousand Gold", be righteous, carry pure love, goodness and great love, walk with suffering and heavy labor, spend a lifetime of hard work without complaint or regret, it is you!It is you who brought them the glory days! At the beginning, when you made a solemn promise, you were doomed to pay a lifetime of hardship and price, and started an extremely unusual life situation in your life, which also got close to the most core values ​​of China, from which the benevolence and great love Moved. The 2009 "Moving China" Person Selection Organizing Committee awarded you the award speech: This peculiar family has concentrated the most suffering in the world, and also condensed the most true emotions in the world.His crutch is the family's wings.His shoulders carried the weight of life.

You are the second national moral model - Zhu Bangyue. You, you are the sun accumulating great energy, or like coals containing earth fire, towards suffering, misfortune, and desperate hearts, bursting out and injecting powerful light and warmth... At 5:30 in the morning, the sky is just dawn, and the birds are chirping outside the window. In a simple house of more than 50 square meters on the first floor of Building 33 of the Shaowu Coal Mine Dormitory Building in Fujian Province, you fumbled to get up and looked around lovingly. His wife was sleeping soundly, and his two sons sleeping in the next room also made a slight sound.You act lightly, for fear of waking them up...

Years go by, from youth to adulthood to old age, day after day, more than 40 years have passed under countless affectionate gazes and painstaking care, your beard and hair are all white, and the wrinkles on your forehead are like peach pits , very obvious! Without thinking too much, you unwrap the bandage on the wound on the calf of your left foot. wound, then put on a prosthetic, grabbed the crutches, pushed it under the left armpit, and stood up carefully), limped to the kitchen to turn on the coal stove, put on the kettle, washed his face and brushed his teeth, sat in the living room, and took a pain reliever Take a picture, light a cigarette, pray to God secretly in your heart, and accumulate strength silently.At this time, the fire is booming, you get up to wash the rice and cook porridge, then you put the dirty clothes you changed yesterday into the washing machine, and with the sound of "booming" stirring, you start cleaning, and by the way, drain the water from the washing machine Use it to mop the floor.

At around 6:30, you heard a "rustling" sound in your wife's room, so you put down your work and entered the room with a broken leg, and your wife really woke up.She is suffering from a terminal illness called "progressive muscular dystrophy". The condition is so severe that she can't move her legs, she can't even move her feet, she can't get out of bed by herself, and she can't even dress. Work hard.You calm down, move your elbows, first put your left hand under her neck, and hold her feet with your right hand, then use both hands at the same time to help her up, move her to the edge of the bed and sit down, and dress her , Put on your pants, button your buttons, and put on your shoes.Then prepare to help her "stand" up, which is not an easy task. You have to put your arms through her armpits and use force from your waist to lift her up, so that she can stand on the table to prevent accidents , you had no choice but to turn your body sideways, support her back with your left hand, and free your right hand to put her hands on the table one by one.When your wife is on her feet, you bend down and help her pull up her trousers and tie them up.It's better in summer, but in winter, you wear thick clothes with many sleeves, which often make you breathless, and thin strands of sweat appear on your forehead.

"Child, get up! Get up!" You wiped off your sweat, turned to the next room, and called softly, slowly raising your voice.Then you start the hardest and most nerve-wracking job—helping the eldest son dress.He is bigger and taller than you, his spine is severely deformed, and his body is weaker than his wife's. If you don't pay attention, he will fall over and over again. You have to maintain his body balance with one hand and help him put on clothes with the other. It is extremely strenuous, and every time you put on a piece of clothing, you have to stand up to take a breath and beat your waist... Repeating such actions will make you miserable when you are old and disabled!

Besides, just imagine how difficult it would be to get him to stand up!That limp piece, like noodles mixed with water, can stand up?Later, I witnessed it once, it was a bit unbelievable, and I secretly made trouble for you.I saw you put the crutches aside, leaned over and carefully lifted the elder son who was lying on the bed first, and slowly moved to the edge of the bed to sit firmly. You kept supporting his back with one hand and dared not Let go, for fear of falling backwards. "My son, how are you, are you ready?" You put your arms under his armpits, and after you stood firmly, you asked a few words one after another.I heard several muffled guttural grunts.You should understand. "Get up!" Well done, you yelled lowly, exerted strength from your waist, and really pulled him upright.But you dare not be careless, and you dare not let go of your hands at all. The father and son are constantly interacting, cooperating silently, moving little by little, and then you help him turn sideways slowly, lifting his left hand first and putting it on the ground. On the bed frame, help him find the feeling.The man was staggering, his head was always tilted back, and his Adam's apple was almost ninety degrees up.The prosthesis dare not use force, and you are actually supporting yourself on one leg during this process.I have been sweating because of this, and my heart is in my throat. "Is it okay? Do you want to help?" I asked.You pouted and shook your head.When his waist is also leaning against the bed frame, you lift his right hand again so that his two hands are intertwined and pressed against the bed frame.All right?All right!You heard a "squeak", let go of your hand, and stabilized.You really made the eldest son "stand up" like a magic trick!So hanging!I looked at the time and it took a full twenty minutes, a normal person only needs one or two seconds of movement.

I couldn't help sighing: How much waist strength does a one-legged old man who is over seventy years old have?Sometimes when you don’t have enough strength, the eldest son will press down heavily and push you to the ground together. Whenever you feel so distressed at this time, you will desperately push the child up to prevent him from being injured as much as possible.The eldest son doesn't want you to be troubled, and sometimes he doesn't want to stand up at all.But you persuaded with tears in your eyes: "My son, this is not acceptable. How can I sit or lie down all day long? The blood is not smooth, and bedsores will develop in a short time, which will aggravate the condition. Come on, let's come again..." You do it repeatedly, tirelessly. "It's a lot smoother today, and I brought it up all at once." You wiped the sweat on your face, sighed, relieved, and a moving smile appeared on your face.I saw that it was standing—this may also be the most unique "standing" in the world, with hands folded together, tightly grasping the top of the bed frame, the bed frame may have been rubbed by hands for a long time, and the wood had already been exposed. Lines, glossy.At this moment, he stood in a "herringbone" shape, with his entire head almost tilted back to 180 degrees. I was always worried that the head would fall from behind. I asked, every day, and you said yes, to relax the tendons and activate blood circulation, to alleviate the insufficient blood supply to the lower limbs caused by prolonged sitting, and to help the wife and children "stand" up at least three times!It takes half an hour each time!But you can only stand for ten or twenty minutes, and then put them down. The youngest son, Shao Hua, was relatively mild. He was skinny and weighed the lightest. Finally, when you picked him up from the bed, your strength was almost exhausted. His waist was sore and his legs ached. After taking a breather, you hobbled to fetch a basin of clean water, and asked your wife and children to sit by the bed to wash their face and brush their teeth.After that, you hobbled to the kitchen to bring food and feed breakfast to your wife and eldest son.The youngest son still has a bit of muscle strength, he is a little better, so he doesn't need to be fed for now, just put the food in his hands. At about eight o'clock, when your wife and children have finished eating, there are only cold dishes and rice left. You are already hungry, so after a few quick bites, you have to tidy up the dishes and go shopping for groceries.Before going to the street, you drag your wife to the living room with a homemade wheelchair. You have to lift her feet and constantly adjust the position to find a more comfortable position, and then use a belt to bind her legs. They will fall uncontrollably to the left and right sides, causing unbearable pain in the hip bones; the eldest son has basically lost his sense of balance, and he has to hold the bed board with both hands to maintain a little balance when sitting on the bed.If he wants to watch TV, you find a chair and put it against the wall, lift one of his legs up and put it on. He has to maintain this balance carefully. If he moves his body without you protecting him, he will fall. Rolled to the ground.Finally, you drag your younger son to the bedroom to surf the Internet. The computer is a gift from his uncle. He uses his still-movable left ring finger to type and surf the Internet. In the street, you dare not stay longer than an hour, because you are still afraid of accidents at home.When you see the fruit that your wife and children like to eat, you buy it, wash it, cut it into small pieces, walk around in each room, and use a toothpick to put the fruit into their mouths, and you often only eat the leftovers .After that, you take a short rest, wash the vegetables and cook, and get busy in the kitchen. Lunch and dinner are eaten in the kitchen.You drag your wife and children upside down to the kitchen with a homemade bamboo chair.The reason why you drag backwards is because your wife and children’s feet can’t be lifted up, and you can’t push them forward at all. Your legs and feet are not flexible, and when you drag them crookedly, your wife and children’s feet will swing involuntarily, and it is easy to rub off your shoes. You don't care about the complaints you get because you didn't grasp the direction and bumped into the door frame or couldn't make a turn. Instead, you said humorously, "It would be great if I had a pair of eyes on my buttocks." Aren’t the trousers going to open two skylights? Ahhh!” At this moment, the wife and children would laugh with eyes hanging down their lips. At the dining table, you serve your wife and children one by one, and you have to feed them most of the time.After a meal, you wipe the food residue from their mouths with a towel. Not only do you take care of your wife and children's food and drink, but you also help them go to the toilet!There is no bathroom in the bedroom. You first take a square shelf nailed with wooden strips, put the toilet in it, and then carefully take turns holding your wife and children to sit on it to defecate, because their bodies are really unable to adjust their own balance. The body was crooked, causing a bad situation where people dumped buckets and dumped dung and water.You had to wash their bodies and change their clothes first, then spread coal cinders to deodorize and sweep away the excrement, and then wipe the floor with clean water. Later, you invented this method after hard thinking.several times a day. The bath is often after dinner, and you drag your wife and children into the utility room to take a bath one by one.Even though it takes three or five days to turn around, it is enough to toss!Because this is another difficult move!In summer, even washing one person takes more than half an hour, and in winter, this time has to be doubled.Once I accidentally saw a news photo, that is, you are wiping the body of your elder son in the room, and I saw that you tightly supported him sitting on the edge of the bed with your left hand, and wiped his back with a towel in your right hand, but The clothes that are pulled up will fall down, what should I do?Use your mouth!You open your mouth and hold the corner of your clothes tightly, not letting it slip off!This is one of the most stunning photos I have seen! At 22:00, you dragged your wife and children to the bedroom, took off their clothes, carried them to the bed and put them to bed. You still didn’t forget to tie their feet with belts, and finally covered them with quilts and tucked in the corners... After a day of tossing around, my back is sore and my bones seem to be falling apart. If there is any luxury to enjoy in the middle, it is to take a nap for an hour or two. At this time, the hour hand has pointed to around twenty-three o'clock.You sit on the sofa, take a long puff of cigarette, and then let out a long breath: "Finally another day has passed!" The cigarette butt flickers on and off, and you start to prepare yourself for bedtime.In order to prevent the pus from the wound from seeping out and soiling the bedding (after the amputation, you rub the wound instead), you tie it up with bandages again and again, then swallow a pain reliever tablet, go to bed and turn off the lights to rest. In order to avoid one sleeping position causing soreness and pain to your wife and children, you have to get up two or three times at night and turn them over one by one... From dawn to late night, you are like a spinning top, and you have fallen into endless toil. Every day, with a sick and disabled body, you overcome unimaginable difficulties and fight around the eating, drinking, pulling, spreading and daily life of three terminally ill patients. Go around!For a promise made 43 years ago, you have done these actions for more than 20 years... I have recorded your daily life, which is trivial and heavy!In fact, this is just a microcosm of your thousands of days and nights, and the difficulties you actually face are far more difficult than this.Even if your leg doesn’t hurt much after amputation, it’s even less flexible. Even if you hire a nanny to help with the housework during the day, when the two children defecate, take a bath, dress and turn over at night, and the nanny asks for leave, You still have to take care of yourself.After years of overloaded "running", even a person with sound limbs may not be able to bear it, let alone you, a disabled old man?How much extraordinary belief and perseverance is needed to go through the precarious crops of spring and autumn!What a powerful force it takes to support it! In the past and present, in the dark, it seems that you came here just for them.You remind me of Sisyphus in Greek mythology - the figure who offended the gods and was severely punished, repeatedly pushed the tumbling boulder from the bottom to the top of the mountain, his life was spent in futile and hopeless labor Slowly wears off.But you are different, you are willing to use great kindness and great love to create the elegance and monument of life for the belief in your heart!Your endless silent actions are noble and great, that is a kind of dignified meaning, implying the essence of the great spirit of the Chinese nation! Misery begets blood and misery, and at the same time greatness and nobility. When this kind of life record was disclosed on the Internet under the name "My Father Is Not My Biological Father", people's hearts were deeply shocked! Yes, there is so much goodness in the world, so much true love—you have no blood relationship with them, but your care for them, your unwavering love, the strong family affection and the tradition of filial piety and love for relatives of the Chinese nation Virtue has moved thousands of families. You, an ordinary and miserable person, your suffering and love are touching and tearful... You came into the world, as if you were born for suffering. What life shows you is not a beautiful picture, but a cruel reality. In 1938, you were born in a poor peasant family in Hushan, Nanping City.According to the genealogy, you are of the "Bang" generation. It is said that your father named you Bangyue in the hope that your life will be as bright and complete as the moon. But in your life, the moon is mostly eclipsed. Most of them are grief and separation—the father and mother remarry within a few months of birth, and both abandon you.The elderly grandpa raised you until you were 12 years old, but he was sick and passed away. From then on, you have no relatives, live a life of one meal and two meals, and experienced the hardships of life prematurely.In the cold winter, you go up the mountain barefoot to collect firewood, carrying firewood taller than yourself on your thin shoulders, bumping and bumping on the rugged mountain road, in order to pick it up and sell it in the city more than ten miles away, in exchange for a few pieces Money is used to buy rice and salt to maintain life.Sometimes I would tie a few brooms and sell them door to door in the city. If you couldn’t sell them, you would curl up in the streets and alleys, crying alone until dawn.You, the "boy selling firewood", had no joy in your childhood, but more marks of suffering. When you were 16 years old, you were recruited to the railway engineering team as a migrant worker, carrying sleepers, breaking stones, building roads, eating and sleeping in the wild mountains and wild mountains, just asking for three meals to satisfy your hunger.It wasn't until 1959 that you were recruited to Shaowu Coal Mine and worked as a rock tunnel excavator, which ended your life of homelessness.Therefore, you are rushing to do hard work, tiring work, and dirty work, and have been rated as labor activists and advanced workers year after year. In 1964, you met a couple in the mine.The man's name is Gu Weizu, who was assigned to Shaowu Coal Mine after graduating from the Economics Department of Xiamen University; the woman's name is Zhu Lingmei, who is more than ten years younger than Gu.They are all from the same village in Nanhui District, Shanghai.When the two came together, it was more of a sympathy for the same disease - Gu was a rickets patient, and his marriage had not been settled after work, while Zhu suffered from "progressive muscular dystrophy", which is characterized by gradual loss of strength until death , there is no cure.She wanted to find someone with a formal job, so she approached Gu—— A pair of typical fateful mandarin ducks! At the beginning of the business, the living conditions in Shaowu Coal Mine were extremely difficult, and even water, electricity, and coal were not installed to households.For disabled couples, the difficulties faced can be imagined. "Gu is too small and has no strength to split firewood." You haven't studied for a few days since you were a child, and after becoming colleagues and neighbors with them, you see that the couple are educated and friendly, so you often help each other. I have been silently helping them with heavy work of carrying water and chopping firewood. In 1967, an extremely restless era, a "great" political movement was in full swing, but a pair of little people started a great entrustment in a dilapidated ward in the countryside. On an unusually hot night in May, Gu Weizu suffered a heart attack. You rushed to hear the news and sent him to the hospital for emergency treatment with others, and you accompanied him temporarily.Soon Lao Gu woke up. Under the dim light, when he saw you walking to the hospital bed, he seemed to regain his energy all of a sudden, and suddenly sat up and reached out to grab your arm. You don't know where he got so much strength, and you were caught on half of your body Immediately numb and unconscious, you quickly reached out your other hand to hold his shoulder and said softly: "Old Gu, don't worry, just say what you need..." You felt Lao Gu's hand shaking, and his eyes He was wide open and seemed to want to say something to you, but his throat seemed to be blocked by a piece of wood, and his voice was rumbling underneath, and you couldn't hear a word of what he said. You were so anxious that you didn't know what to do, so you hurriedly called the doctor over.The doctor seemed to know what Lao Gu was going to say at this time, he walked over and put his hand on the other shoulder of Lao Gu and bowed his head and said, "Is it because you are worried about your wife and children?" Lao Gu nodded with difficulty. Facing the inescapable fate of death, he was most worried about his sick wife and children.When he was dying, he was like a drowning man grabbing a life-saving grass, hoping that you could take care of his family instead of himself.Oh I got it!You suddenly realized, thinking to yourself, he usually travels on business all the time, which time was it not you who helped him take care of his wife and children.However, when you think of the person you are still in love with, you have momentary hesitation.But facing the eyes full of expectations and pleading pleadings, the kind you couldn't bear to refuse.Obviously, if you shake your head and refuse at this time, you will definitely let old Gu Jiuquan die with regret. "I'm here, it's fine, don't worry!" You felt hot and softened, and quickly expressed your opinion.After speaking, you can see him heaving a long sigh of relief. His breathing was like cramp, but now it stopped, and his face stretched out with difficulty. His misplaced eyes and mouth returned to their original positions. Yours also loosened, leaving behind a five-month-pregnant sick wife and a two-year-old child... There is no written contract, and a life-and-death entrustment is simply completed. Witnessing death again, you rubbed your aching arm, regained your senses, and wondered what you should do in the future. Perhaps, you thought it simple at the time, and you didn't know that it is one thing to be loyal to a friend, and it is another thing to entrust and take care of a disabled widow with two young children for life.It turns out that it is a long and arduous road, full of thorns, and you need to use your life's hard work and love to complete it.However, your unhesitating attitude has pushed yourself to the peak of faith and goodness! The death of her husband obviously caught Zhu Lingmei a little by surprise. She dragged her baby in a daze, with a high protruding belly, and staggered. She buried her husband and shed tears all day long!You are a master of your word. In order to take good care of the orphans and widows, you ran to the Gu family every three days.The first is that your partner is unhappy. "Although the subject has a bad temper, she is a nice person. She is a bit like a mother in front of me. In fact, I already rely on her very much..." You are quite satisfied with the subject.Young and orphaned, how much you long for a warm home. On the one hand, the object is considerate and has no worries about food and clothing, and on the other hand, the friend who is full of hardships is entrusted by the dying.Where do we go from here?For the first time, you are faced with a dilemma in your life.But you still take Lao Gu's entrustment seriously, worrying about his orphan and caring for him wholeheartedly.The subject felt left out, and gave an ultimatum several times, but seeing that it didn't work, he left sadly.You are a little bit regretful.But you quickly figured it out, and took better care of Lao Gu's wife and children. However, it is easy to make a promise, but it is difficult to keep it.The days passed in the trivial food and daily life, Lao Gu's second son was born, the little one often fell ill, and the life of the family became even more bleak.Seeing that the family can no longer survive, you have the idea of ​​marrying Lao Gu's widow. This kind of behavior is somewhat shocking, many people think you are stupid, and the turmoil of public opinion is aroused: "Sister Zhu Ling suffers from a terminal illness, which cannot be cured for the rest of her life, and it is inherited. At that time, someone in the mine also got this disease. They spent a lot of money, but they still died." "Zhu Bangyue is a worker in a coal mine. He is a person with an 'iron rice bowl'. He can marry any wife he wants. Finding her is like marrying a 'living dead'." "Zhu Bangyue made an absolute loss-making business!"... regret!ridicule!sigh!You can say anything.But you are determined and unmoved. On April 21, 1969, your destiny ushered in a new day - you and Zhu Lingmei got back a red marriage certificate, stepped into the palace of marriage, and accepted two children together!At that moment, you silently swear in your heart: "Whether poor or rich, healthy or sick, we will love and depend on each other, and we will never leave until death do us part!" Under the sky, amidst the adversity, another family was born in the world. With tearful smiles, they cherish each other very much. However, before you had time to savor the sweetness of love and the warmth of family, encounters like a bolt from the blue followed one after another. It was a very dark day! Disasters are like evil waves controlled by demons. With the pace of time, with grinning smiles, disasters come one after another... Brothers Zhonghua and Shaohua were clever and cute since they were young, and they looked no less inferior than other children, which made you and your wife secretly happy.But when Shao Hua was 4 years old, his wife found it difficult for him to close his eyelids, and he was slower than ordinary children when he started running.When you found out, you couldn't help but feel "thumping" in your heart, and anxiously took your child to the hospital for examination. "Progressive muscular dystrophy!" The doctor's diagnosis leaves you with cold hands and feet.Could it be that the hospital made a careless mistake?So, with a fluke mentality, you took your children to one hospital after another. How much you wish someone would tell you that it was a misdiagnosis, but the conclusion is the same—both children are terminally ill!The doctor shook his head sympathetically. This is a terrible and rare strange disease. Like cancer and AIDS, it is one of the three incurable diseases so far. What is even more frightening is that this disease has hidden heredity. Atrophy, and finally can only wait for his death due to myocardial failure, which is vividly called "gradual ice man" by the international medical community.The child's disease is inherited from the mother! Facing the medical certificate, you were in a daze for a long time, as if you were holding a "death notice" in your hands, and your heart ached so badly that you couldn't breathe.You tell yourself in your heart, be strong!Be strong! Caught off guard!The wife's spirit broke first!The two children were her hope. She thought that her illness has dragged you down and owed you too much. She originally hoped to repay you for herself after the children grew up.Unexpectedly, these two brothers would contract the same terminal illness as themselves.The last ray of hope in my wife's heart was shattered!So she offered to give up. Blood is thicker than water, and your wife's despair makes you feel anxious and painful.You can't believe that the innocent, lively and lovely child in front of you will become like your wife in the future!You are again faced with a major choice: give up this heavy burden and get out, and you will suffer nothing more than conscience and moral condemnation; if you continue to carry this heavy burden forward, the burden will become heavier and heavier, and the road ahead is no different from an abyss. Where do we go from here?Someone took the opportunity to persuade you again, forget it, if you are dragged down by this family, your life will be over.You were unmoved, and almost got into a fight with someone because of the unpleasant words. "No matter the difficulties and dangers ahead, I have to be an old horse and walk forward with a heavy load; even if the front is full of thorns, I have to hold a hatchet as I did when I was a child, and cut through the thorns to open the way!" In the end, honest and kind You have resolutely made up your mind again, and you have put on yourself a pair of shackles of suffering that you will never be able to shake off! The truth is that when you tell your wife your decision, she suddenly "plops", kneels down on her knees, hugs you and weeps uncontrollably.Said that she is extremely contradictory, and knows better than anyone else that she has no ability to raise two disabled children by herself. Anyway, it is better to die early if she can't survive. She is already prepared in her heart and plans to buy some medicine and children after you leave After eating a piece of "on the road", I went to Jiuquanxia to reunite with the child's biological father, Lao Gu.I never thought that you would be so affectionate and will never leave.After hearing this, you can't help but break out in a cold sweat, thankful for your original decision. "Stop talking stupid things, share the blessings, share the hardships! I will carry the heavy burden, sister Ling, you must hold on. It is important that we think of ways to treat the child!" You support your wife with both hands , wiped away the big teardrops that rolled out of her eyes, "It's okay, everything will pass, maybe the medical level is advanced, it can be cured!" Lingmei laughed through tears at your relief, thinking, you, a person with no blood relationship, can bear this ordeal. As the child's biological mother, why do you choose to give up? It can be seen that your decision was so important that you pulled her mother and son back from the "Gate of Hell".Your affection and responsibility once again warmed a broken heart and saved a home that was almost collapsed... Smiles in tears are precious.The sun flashed across my heart, it was the brilliance of the sun, or it was like a black coal under the ground, bursting out energy again, with light and heat!Make them glow again! Smile to the suffering, love this life together, you tie the love and love of a man's life in the suffering and endless labor, responsibility and responsibility become the theme, and you will remain loyal.Day after day, silence is better than sound, creating a monument of love in the world, tragic and poignant! There is such a family in the world, which gathers the most sincere feelings in the world! Bright sky, you are a sun... "The neighbor aunt told me that the 'stranger' in the frame was my real 'father', but he was dead, and that the man I called 'dad' was actually my stepdad. Listen to her I think this is the funniest thing I've ever heard in the world." In the memory of your son Shao Hua, you are almost "obedient" to him: "When I was young, I liked to go to the streets with my father. Even if he didn’t go to the street together, he would bring me some surprises from time to time. For example, when he suddenly took an apple out of his pocket or turned an orange out of his cuff, it was because he went to the street after work. Turn around the harvest; or open the lunch box that I carry with me and let me see inside. Sometimes it is a piece of fried golden egg, sometimes it is one or two pieces of ribs, chicken, duck or tamales. Every time I take my father’s lunch box When the meat and vegetables in the bowl were put into the bowl, my mother always asked me to return the delicious food to my father, because it was saved by my father's lunch after work. And my father always smiled and pretended to take a bite and then sent it back to my bowl... ..." This is the personal feeling that Shao Hua later expressed in the book "Just Want to Be a Good Person" with tears of gratitude. The child's memory is real and sweet, and it is a confession of true feelings from the depths of the heart! In order to raise Lao Gu's children and take better care of your three mothers, you gave up the idea of ​​having your own children, but in order to explain to your relatives, you changed the Gu family's second son Shao Hua's surname to Zhu. "No matter how much they suffer and how tired they are, let them grow up happily and healthily!" This is what you say in your heart.You treat two unrelated children as your own, and try to feed them well. The neighbors lamented: Lao Zhu is even closer to these two brothers than some fathers are to their own sons! It was an era when all the necessities of life were provided on a ticket basis, and the supply was pitifully small.The lack of material is unforgettable. In order to increase the nutrition for your children as much as possible, you not only set up shacks in front of the house and reared chickens and ducks, cultivated vegetable fields by rivers and mountains, and went to the countryside to go to the market from time to time. The food stamps went to the farmers to exchange some poultry eggs and meat, salted them and left them for the two children to eat slowly.You heard that ginseng can prolong your life and keep your body healthy, so you tried everything possible to buy it for your children to eat. If you really don’t have a lot of money in your pocket, you will settle for the next best thing, buy some cheap ginseng root and put it in your child’s pocket as a snack.Later, I often bought health care products for my children.And you yourself cut down on food and clothing, living a life almost like an ascetic monk. The most common food you eat every day is steamed buns with pickled vegetables and dried radishes.You even picked out the fish and meat that you had for extra meals while working underground, and brought them home for your children to eat.Many times, the co-workers who work together will ask you puzzledly: "Those two children are not your own, why do you treat yourself so badly? If they grow up to be ungrateful, wouldn't your painstaking efforts be in vain?" "It doesn't matter if I eat it or not. I'm happier seeing my child eating well than eating it myself..." You smiled innocently.They don't know that you have long regarded these two children as your darlings, and your love for them is selfless, and you never thought about asking for anything in return. Although there is currently no cure for this disease in the whole world, you never give up your efforts, seek medical advice everywhere, and look forward to a miracle one day! 可是，你的爱心并没有博取命运之神的怜悯和青睐，一场让你终身落残的车祸却不期而至，也让那样的生活戛然而止！ 不知是否是上天怜悯你一片苦心，还是想要故意多考量你——患了进行性肌营养不良症的孩子往往容易夭折，你的两个孩子像是石缝中的小草，倒也歪歪扭扭地一天天长大——是你的呕心沥血减缓了孩子病情的发展。你的爱让死神却步，创造了生命的奇迹。1983年和1985年，两个孩子先后高中毕业。但还是因为身体与常人有异的缘故找工作屡屡碰壁，只能在单位的照顾下做做临时工，一点保障都没有。这让你陷入了极大的苦恼与无奈之中。 1986年5月16日—— 一个让你没齿难忘的日子。那天你在骑自行车运送材料途中，满脑子为孩子们的未来担忧，一辆满载砂石料的大卡车迎面急驶而来。“啊！”你躲闪不及，一声惨叫，天昏地暗，你倒在了车轮之下，失去了知觉！经查，左胫骨粉碎性骨折伴软组织挫伤。灾难深重的一家又遭受毁灭性的打击！ 那一瞬间，人世间轧轧作响，一个好不容易组建起来的家有如大厦将倾。 随后赶到医院的妻子号啕大哭！当她从医生中口得知你受伤严重，需要做截肢手术时，感觉自己的世界正在毁灭。她哭着哀求医生一定要保住你的腿，闻讯赶到的矿区书记和矿长也请求医生要竭尽全力保住你的腿。 手术后，当你从麻醉中苏醒过来，矿区书记上前握住你的手宽慰：“小朱，你好好养伤，有什么困难我们一定会帮忙解决的。”你却紧紧地抓住他的手虚弱地哀求：“帮帮孩子！你帮帮我的孩子……” child!此时此刻，你记挂的依然是孩子！在你的心里，那俩兄弟似乎就是你全部生命意义的所在。他们的幸福快乐超越了你的生命，你似乎早已淡忘，那两个孩子并不是你的亲骨肉。如山的父爱诠释着世间善与美的真谛，以博大的胸怀涤荡着人们的心灵。在场的人无不为你的舐犊之情动容！ 腿，虽然保住了，结果却导致了严重的后果，带来了二十年的溃烂之苦——由于重伤之后失血过多和无力支付医药费而提前出院，加上长期缺吃短喝等原因，术后伤口久治不愈。后来经过三次植皮手术均以失败告终，固定骨骼的钢丝也留在了体内，造成了可怕的后遗症，受伤的腿长期处于溃疡状态，一直得不到有效治疗，以至后来越来越严重，都可以看到白森森的骨头了…… 这个不幸的家庭又多了一个残疾人！ 你的苦难像是无底的深渊！ 结婚时，妻子只是偶尔发病，尚能洗衣做饭，简单料理家务，但仅几年后肌力萎缩，病情加重，生活就无法自理了。1993年起，两个儿子先后出现类似情况，母子三人全瘫了！她们的穿戴和吃、喝、拉、撒全要靠你打理了。一家的重担，完全落在了你一个人的身上。 哎嗨！你“吭哧、吭哧”挺了脊梁——那苦难压不弯的脊梁！ 原来你每天都要上医院清洗伤口包扎换药，后来为腾出更多的时间和精力照顾妻儿，你便托人到医药公司买回整袋的药棉、纱布、胶布，在家自行裁剪成小块，用高压锅高温消毒，然后用酒精、碘酒盐水等消毒药水消毒，敷药膏，清洗伤口换药。这一换，就是十几年。 对于腿伤，起初你也心存幻想四处求医问药，但一段时间后，你见伤口不见好转，便不抱希望了。为了从拮据的家庭经济状况中省出钱来给妻儿多买些“续命”的补品，你停止了服药，改用廉价的抗生素抑制伤口的扩大，其副作用是显而易见的。疼痛难忍时，你就服用止痛片，慢慢地一片、两片、三片……到后来最多时，你一天至少服用五片止痛片，才能减轻伤痛，操持料理家务。而久服去痛片给大脑造成了损伤，你的记忆力因此越来越差，反应能力也越来越迟钝…… 腿伤久治不愈，血行不畅，三次血崩，危险万分，差点要了你的命！ 为了点燃一个残疾家庭的希望，20年来你就是这样拖着一条残腿，每日与疼痛为伴，负重跋涉在极为坎坷的人生之路上，操碎了心，熬白了头…… 天空乌云密布，人间悲悲切切。 她又一次劝你放弃，你又一次对她说，不！ 那个声音柔弱如丝：“你放弃我们母子仨，谁也不会谴责你！” 另一个声音怒然打断：“一个字都甭提，你们都这样了，我怎忍心离去，你还不如杀了我好受！” 苦命人同相怜。都累了，两个声音交织在一起，抱成了共同一句：都好好地活着！ 深夜，你抱着那条残腿痛得死去活来，却不敢放声大哭，只能跑到客厅干嚎，尽管把声音压到最低，可仍然掩藏不了阵阵呻吟。妻子无计可施，心在流血，含泪相劝：“老朱，谢谢你这么多年的照顾，现在你自顾不暇，没有人会怪你，你还是走吧！” “只要我一息尚存，就不会放弃你们！”你的话掷地有声。你知道只要你一走开，他们就会集体自杀，以此告别人世的痛苦。你看出了玲妹那点心思，护理得更周全细致了，为防万一，家里但凡有可触及的危险器械和物品一律妥善保管。 不抛弃不放弃，即使在这些脚痛难忍的日子里，你也从没有过放弃妻儿的念头，面对她们因无法动弹而出现的情绪失控，你总是在一阵沉默之后又笑着继续从事“护理”工作。 但防不胜防，意外还是发生了。 这次问题出在邵华身上。“别人是养儿防老，而你——我的父亲却要被我们一家老小拖累！”邵华高考失利，次年复读后因体格初检通不过，失去了高考的资格。在单位做了几年临时工后身体又垮了，只能待在家里休养，及至1993年眼睁睁看到母亲和哥哥病情加重，而自己形同“活死人”。当美好的愿望化作泡影，便只剩下深深的绝望了，他万念俱灰，萌生了自杀的念头。 一天，他趁你上街买菜，不知从哪里找来一瓶灭鼠药吞了下去。当妻子闻到家里刺鼻的气味，知道情况不妙——小儿子服毒自杀时，不顾一切地大声呼救，撕心裂肺的哭喊划破了静静的空气。闻声赶来的邻居和随后赶回的你急忙将他送进医院，经过灌肠洗胃，总算保住性命。“呜！呜！孩子，你怎么做出这样的傻事呢？只要你们好好活着，我再苦再累，当牛做马都心甘情愿呀……”儿子醒来后，你禁不住捶胸顿足、放声大哭。一个铮铮铁骨的汉子，从来没为自己所吃的苦和不幸掉过泪，却在寻短见的儿子面前失声痛哭。人生或许有诸多意义，但于你一家而言，活着就是胜利，只要坚守住活的简单理念，只要一家人在一起开开心心地过好每一天，便是美好！而你无论遭受多少艰难困苦，无论多少挫折失败，也要竭尽全力，无怨无悔，永不言放弃！ 那一时刻，你们多想抱头痛痛快快大哭一回，可这也只能是一种奢望！老天爷呀，你为什么这样残忍？哪怕给全家留一个健全人也好…… 这次事件使妻儿更明白了一个道理：活着不仅为自己，也为了家人，从今往后，一家四口必须互相勉励，相依为命，在风雨人生中相伴到永远。 风雨彩虹。这一夜这一家睡得特别香甜！这个多灾多难的家呀，又一次升腾着坚持不渝的希望…… 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春风化雨润心田，被滋润、唤醒的心灵迎着春风踏出新的舞步。两个孩子一直自强不息，特别是邵华凭着顽强的毅力从1988年起用三年半时间参加自学考试，获得了厦门大学会计专业的大专毕业证书，并荣获福建省自学考试励志成才奖。2002年底，他与网络结缘，陆续在几家国内知名网站发表了40多篇小说、散文、随笔。“雨季奉献给大地，岁月奉献给季节，我拿什么奉献给你，我的父亲！”2005年，正是他饱含深情地在网络上贴出了《我的父亲不是生父》一文，被到处转载，才使你和这个家庭的故事不胫而走，让无数网友感动流泪。随后引发了网络和现实社会的强烈反响和关注，有关部门想方设法帮助排忧解难，许多网友从全国各地赶来看望资助，张海迪多次打电话对你一家表达慰问。专著《只想做个好人》已由国内一家出版社正式出版…… 如山的父爱如一泓清泉汩汩淌过，温暖滋润着一颗颗干枯绝望的心，让心灵的荒原长出了片片绿洲。生命的奇迹在爱的土壤里拔节而长：一般情况下此病患者只能活到30岁，而你的妻子现已67岁，俩兄弟也都40多岁了。 这一切让你感到十分欣慰，或许也是上天对你的另类回报！ “一家人高高兴兴，一天天过好就行了！”简单地坚守活着的信念，无论多少困苦挫折，永不怨天尤人，永不轻言放弃！你就是这样，平凡而伟大。你的事迹被披露后，感动了无数的人。 媒体称赞：你拉高了道德的标尺！ 网友留言：“在电视和网络上看一次哭一次。这样的爱伟大得让我们这些人感到自卑，我相信他们一家人是为爱聚到一起的，这才是大爱，义薄云天的大爱！我想我以后会怎么样努力了，努力去爱！这辈子如果让他们全家人经历这么多磨难，下辈子一定会给他们这家人所有的一切！祝福他们！”“感动、伟大，在平淡的生活中演绎着不平凡，谢谢您诠释爱的真谛！您是楷模！”…… 信守承诺，光芒灼人，一批又一批人正加入爱心人士行列。 作为福建最大河流闽江的源头之一，邵武富屯溪日夜不息地奔流着，哺育了几多优秀儿女。你的感人事迹传开了，随着滔滔的河水从铁城奔向四方…… 2010年2月11日晚8点，2009年“感动中国”年度人物颁奖典礼晚会在中央电视台第一套黄金时间播出。这次你是在邓小平同志夫人卓琳之后第二位出场。央视主持人白岩松在台上笑着等你，并宣读颁奖词。 之后，央视另一主持人敬一丹对你进行了专访，开口便问：“朱大爷，你还有印象吗？我们见过面的。” 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