Chapter 51 50 Compassionate love and long-term friendship are priceless——Record of the second national moral model Zhaxi Baizhen

In the 1960s, a beautiful girl born in a noble family in Tibet broke through the barriers of the secular world and married a handsome restored soldier of the Han nationality. After decades of ups and downs, the two love each other as before.In the 1990s, the husband was seriously ill and was bedridden, but the wife still loved and served her husband and never left him.She is the protagonist of this article - Tashi Baizhen.It is such an ordinary Tibetan woman, an ordinary but great woman, who has fulfilled her promise of love with her 17 years of practical actions of never abandoning her husband, and composed a moral song of never leaving.

Tashi Baizhen was born in an aristocratic family in Lalong Township, Mozhugongka County, Lhasa City, Tibet. Tashi Baizhen was still a little girl in the 1950s. When the 158th regiment of the 18th Army entered Mozhugongka, she stayed at the house of Tashi Baizhen’s parents. In the manor.At that time, her family saw that the troops had strict discipline and a good style of work, which was not what some people said at all.Tashi Baizhen's father saw that the troops were living in difficulties, so he gave some of the barley land to the troops for free to grow vegetables.At that time, her family had friendly relations with the army, especially her parents and the head of the 15th regiment, Feng Yumei. Seeing that Tashi Baizhen was lively, lovely, beautiful and intelligent, Yumei, the lover of the head of the 15th regiment, decided to marry her. Think of it as a goddaughter. In 1958, Tashi Baizhen went to the Central Institute for Nationalities, but dropped out of school due to illness and returned to Tibet.Afterwards, Head Feng changed jobs to work in the Transportation Bureau of the Tibet Autonomous Region. At that time, their goddaughter Zhaxi Baizhen also reached the age to talk about marriage, and Head Feng's lover, Yumei, was going to work as a driver in the No. 6 Automobile Team under the Transportation Bureau. Geng Mingxiang, a demobilized soldier, introduced him to 18-year-old Tashi Baizhen.

Geng Mingxiang was a soldier who participated in the War to Resist US Aggression and Aid Korea. In 1960, the army transferred personnel from major military regions to establish two car regiments in Tibet. Due to Geng Mingxiang's outstanding performance and excellent driving skills, he was transferred from the Shenyang Military Region to Tibet to engage in transportation tasks in Naqu Amdo, Tibet.Nagqu is the most difficult place in Tibet, with high cold, lack of oxygen, and harsh climate. Two years later, the army was reorganized and Geng Mingxiang was demobilized. He originally planned to return to his hometown.So Geng Mingxiang changed his mind and decided to stay in Tibet.

When the young and beautiful aristocratic lady Zhaxi Baizhen saw Geng Mingxiang, who was in military uniform and in full bloom, she couldn't help but be moved. It can be said that they fell in love at first sight.Since then, the two young people have been in frequent contact.Tashi Baizhen learned that Geng Mingxiang came from Nanjing, a big city. She knew that Nanjing was once the capital of the Kuomintang.Geng Mingxiang is honest and modest, he is always polite to Tashi Baizhen, and looks like a gentleman.Tashi Baizhen thinks that Geng Mingxiang is very nice, and Tashi Baizhen, who is just in love, has already fallen in love with this handsome young man from the bottom of her heart.During this period, many people pursued Tashi Baizhen, including wealthy businessmen, and even foreigners with favorable conditions wooed her and promised her to live a luxurious and noble life abroad, but Tashi Baizhen politely declined.At the same time, someone introduced a Han girl to Geng Mingxiang, but he also politely refused.Gradually, the two young people who were destined fell in love.Their love was opposed by Tashi Baizhen's family.Tashi Baizhen is the youngest child in the family, so he is naturally the apple of his eye.The family tried to persuade her: You are such a young and beautiful lady, there are so many outstanding men chasing you, but you don't like any of them.Why do you have to marry a Han nationality?Friends also said to her: You are a noble lady, why do you find a Han nationality, and she is also a driver?But the seemingly weak Tashi Baizhen was extremely stubborn. She insisted on marrying Geng Mingxiang regardless of her family's opposition. The comrades in charge of the Civil Affairs Bureau refused to issue a marriage certificate to Tashi Baizhen on the grounds that Tashi Baizhen's background was not good.In desperation, Tashi Baizhen begged Yumei, the godmother who was the chairman of the trade union in the No. Okay, but she is a united front person who loves the party and the country.With Yumei's help, the two young people finally got their marriage certificates.Holding the marriage certificate in his hand, Tashi Baizhen silently made a promise in his heart: he and Geng Mingxiang will grow old together and never be separated.The wedding was held in Geng Mingxiang's simple tent dormitory. Geng Mingxiang's relatives and friends sent Chairman Mao's quotations and daily necessities, while Tashi Baizhen's family only came with his mother and sister.After the simple but lively wedding, they entered a normal life.Tashi Baizhen, an aristocratic lady who stretched out her hands and opened her mouth, played the role of a housewife.Everything has to be learned from scratch. This young lady, who can't even cook potatoes, insists on starting from cooking with a fire and slowly learning to do housework.With the passage of time, Tashi Baizhen gradually honed into a competent housewife.After they got married, they had four children one after another. In order to reduce the burden on her husband, Tashi Baizhen went around looking for a job, but because of her family background, she ran into obstacles everywhere. In order to make a living, she had to work as a temporary worker.She once concealed her identity and went to the construction site of the unit to collect mud, and also did the work of transporting manure to the vegetable field.Later, because the number of children increased and the family needed care and was unable to go out to find a job, she completely gave up the idea of ​​finding a job and devoted herself to serving her husband and taking care of the children at home.

When the Cultural Revolution swept across the country, the Snowy Plateau was not spared.Tashi Baizhen was classified as one of the four types of elements. She was criticized and paraded in the streets. Geng Mingxiang comforted her: Everyone who has made contributions to the party has been criticized. You have never done anything bad, and there will be a day when you will find out.Whenever Tashi Baizhen was being criticized outside, Geng Mingxiang always prepared a meal at home with the child on his back and waited for her to come back; when Tashi Baizhen went to labor reform, Geng Mingxiang prepared lunch and delivered it to her.During those long and difficult years, they loved each other as much as ever. After this nightmare was over, Tashi Baizhen was rehabilitated, and the government implemented policies for her and her parents.Tashi Baizhen was allocated a house of about 100 square meters in Chongsai Kangli, Chengguan District, Lhasa City. She sold the house and built a house in the western suburbs of the city.

After the four children grew up, they got married and started businesses one after another. According to their father's wishes, they all moved out of the big family and lived their own lives. After her husband retired in 1990, he stayed at home. Every holiday, the children took their children home for reunion. This big family was full of laughter and happiness.Tashi Baizhen enjoyed the family happiness, and she felt satisfied and happy in her heart.Unfortunately, there are unpredictable circumstances, because her husband Geng Mingxiang has been engaged in driving work and has been running on the Qinghai-Tibet Highway for many years, and he suffered from many diseases due to the lack of oxygen in the plateau.After retiring, he became ill due to overwork, and his original high-altitude heart disease and pulmonary edema began to aggravate. At the same time, he also suffered from liver cirrhosis.Afterwards, indigestion began to appear, and it became more and more serious after going to the hospital for treatment. I couldn't even eat, and couldn't defecate.One day, he suddenly felt a huge pain in his abdomen, which made him roll on the bed. Tashi Baizhen rushed him to the People's Hospital.After going to the hospital for examination, the doctor said it was an intestinal problem.Zhaxi Baizhen then sent Geng Mingxiang to the Lhasa Workers' Hospital. At first he said it was esophageal cancer, but later he thought it was stomach cancer. He was hospitalized for a period of time and his condition stabilized before he was discharged.Then he went to the People's Hospital of the Autonomous Region for a gastroscopy examination, and the examination result was colon cancer.

At that time, the medical conditions in Tibet were poor. Geng Mingxiang sometimes held his stomach and groaned in pain for days and nights, and sometimes he rolled on the bed with stomach pain.Seeing his wife suffer so much, Tashi Baizhen broke down in tears.She immediately followed the doctor's advice and decided to transfer her husband to another hospital. She sent her husband to the famous Nanjing Drum Tower Hospital for an examination. He was diagnosed with intestinal cancer. He was immediately hospitalized for surgery, and the tumor was removed, followed by chemotherapy.Under Tashi Baizhen's careful care, Geng Mingxiang survived. After staying in the hospital for four months, his condition gradually improved.I wanted to stay in my hometown in Nanjing, but because Geng Mingxiang had been working in Tibet for too long, he could no longer adapt to the climate in the interior, so he had to return to Tibet.Since then, minor illnesses continued, but nothing serious.After returning to Lhasa for 5 years, he did not suffer from any serious illness.However, 5 years later, Geng Mingxiang's original gout worsened, and the high-altitude heart disease also deteriorated severely, and at the same time, his liver cirrhosis became more serious.Especially the sequelae left by the original operation tortured Geng Mingxiang.Tashi Baizhen hurriedly sent Geng Mingxiang to the hospital for treatment.Since then, Geng Mingxiang has been hospitalized every year for as little as 3 months and as many as 7 or 8 months.Later, the doctor suggested to Sichuan Cancer Hospital for treatment.Zhaxi Baizhen took his son and accompanied Geng Mingxiang to the Sichuan Cancer Hospital. After examination, he was diagnosed with a blockage caused by contraction of the intestines—then he was hospitalized for treatment.In order to save money, Tashi Baizhen asked her son to buy vegetables and cook for herself.Two months later, Geng Mingxiang's condition improved and he returned to Lhasa.But less than a month after returning to Lhasa, Geng Mingxiang’s illness deteriorated to hepatic ascites, and he was hospitalized in the District People’s Hospital. At that time, Geng Mingxiang became thinner and thinner, especially his arms and legs. Big, but less and less urine.The treatment had little effect and the condition was getting worse.Five months after being hospitalized, the doctor issued a critical illness notice, telling Tashi Baizhen to prepare for his funeral.The distraught Tashi Baizhen cried and begged the doctor to rescue her husband.After consultation with experts and reformulation of the treatment plan for treatment, Geng Mingxiang's condition improved, but then he developed potassium deficiency symptoms. After potassium supplementation treatment, he finally turned the corner and his condition stabilized.He should have continued to be hospitalized, but after 7 months, Geng Mingxiang insisted on leaving the hospital.The reason is that although 90% of his medical expenses can be reimbursed, because of the long hospital stay and the many medicines he needs to pay for himself, the self-pay part is several thousand yuan, while his salary at that time was only more than 1,000 yuan per month.He did not want Tashi Baizhen to bear a heavy financial burden.Tashi Baizhen couldn't persuade her husband no matter how hard she tried, so she had to be discharged from the hospital.

At the early stage of Geng Mingxiang's illness, Tashi Baizhen helped him to urinate on the bed, and Tashi Baizhen helped him to go to the toilet slowly when defecating.As his condition became more severe, he had to stay in bed to recuperate, so Tashi Baizhen had to help him defecate and defecate on the bed.Later, Geng Mingxiang’s condition worsened and he became incontinent. Zhaxi Baizhen changed diapers every day like taking care of a baby. She knew that her husband loved to be clean, so she would take the trouble to wash his buttocks every time he defecated. Since Geng Mingxiang was seriously ill and bedridden , Tashi Baizhen can only sleep about 4 hours every night.Although Tashi Baizhen frequently changed diapers and washed his body frequently, Geng Mingxiang unfortunately suffered from bed sores due to long-term bed rest. She changed her husband's dressing twice a day, morning and evening. , Change the dressing every day, sometimes several times a day.After a long time, Tashi Baizhen became familiar with nursing work, but his sons and daughters seemed clumsy instead.Tashi Baizhen has poor eyesight. Sometimes when she changed her husband’s dressing at night, even though the light was on in the room, she would still change her husband’s dressing with a desk lamp. She was extremely careful, but her hands would occasionally touch the wound if she was not careful. Geng Mingxiang, who was in pain and irritable, blamed her angrily, and Tashi Baizhen immediately said sorry, I didn't see clearly.Still patiently change the medicine for him.The hardships she has paid are unimaginable to ordinary people, but no matter how tired or hard she has never complained to her husband.

Geng Mingxiang suffered from gout, which was extremely severe, and he often couldn't sleep because of the pain. The doctor first used ordinary painkillers, but after they didn't work, he gave him pethidine to stop the pain. Later, even pethidine didn't help him.The distraught Zhaxi Baizhen inquired around for a special medicine for gout, and finally learned that there is a special medicine for gout in India.She asked her relatives and friends to buy it from India. After her husband started taking it, it was really effective and relieved Geng Mingxiang's pain to a great extent.However, after taking this medicine for a long time, it led to kidney failure, so I had to stop using it for a period of time. When the pain came back, I took this medicine again, so repeatedly, and finally this specific medicine had no effect. In 2007, Geng Mingxiang’s gout worsened severely, and his left big toe was in unbearable pain. Zhaxi Baizhen hurriedly sent her husband to the city hospital. The severe gout worsened and caused the small joints of the limbs to deform. Some small joints formed gout stones and became deformed. Loss, increased pain, plus infection to form a cyst.Doctors had to amputate the small joints of the toes with serious lesions and deformations. Geng Mingxiang was unable to sleep due to the pain of the disease and the wound.In view of the inconvenience of long-term hospitalization in surgery, food delivery, etc., especially the financial inability to bear it, Dr. Luobu Wangdui, the director of surgery at the Friends City Hospital of Tashi Baizhen's son, suggested that he should be discharged from the hospital for treatment.After Geng Mingxiang was discharged from the hospital, Dr. Luobu Wangdui sometimes went to Geng Mingxiang's home to change his dressing, and sometimes asked Tashi Baizhen to send his wife to the hospital to change his dressing.At home, Tashi Baizhen learned to change the dressing for her husband’s amputated wound. Every day, according to the doctor’s request, she gently inserted a plastic tube soaked in alcohol into her husband’s wound, squeezed out the pus, and then put the plastic tube on the wound. The tube is slowly withdrawn.This process was very painful for Geng Mingxiang, and Tashi Baizhen was extra careful every time.

At home, Geng Mingxiang still has to take injections, infusions and medicine every day, and the pain is so painful that he would rather die.Geng Mingxiang once said to Tashi Baizhen, "Don't torture me anymore, I don't want to be treated, just let me go!" Comforting her husband, giving him courage and confidence, finally dispelled Geng Mingxiang's idea of ​​committing suicide. Geng Mingxiang was often constipated due to poor digestion and could not defecate normally.At the same time, he was ill and weak for a long time, and the doctor dared not prescribe more laxatives for fear that his condition would worsen due to exhaustion.Tashi Baizhen digs out his wife's feces with her fingers without being too dirty.After he was discharged from the hospital, Dr. Luo Bu Wangdui changed the wound dressing for Geng Mingxiang free of charge. For the cysts formed after other joint swellings caused by gout, Dr. Luo Bu Wangdui punctured and extracted the cyst fluid in the cysts, and cut and drained the large cysts.Dr. Luo Buwangdui told the author that Tashi Baizhen almost took care of herself when Geng Mingxiang was bedridden. Every time Tashi Baizhen had to go out to do errands, she was worried about leaving her wife to others, and she was always in a hurry. return.Although she is Geng Mingxiang's wife, this is not a day or two, but more than ten years!Tashi Baizhen really worked so hard, it was not easy, I think she is amazing!

After Geng Mingxiang passed away, Dr. Luobu Wangdui accompanied Tashi Baizhen to the crematorium to help. Tashi Baizhen said to Dr. Luobu Wangdui: "It is very painful for him to die, but I have fulfilled my wife's responsibilities. I did everything without feeling guilty..." When Geng Mingxiang was ill, his condition fluctuated from mild to severe, so he was often hospitalized.Tashi Baizhen stayed with him in almost all the major hospitals in Lhasa.When he was hospitalized for the last time, due to Geng Mingxiang’s serious condition, Western medicine had little effect. The large dose of Western medicine also caused edema, and his stomach was bulging like a pregnant woman. In the end, his stomach was swollen high, like a bird full of gas that might burst at any time. the ball.The inability to urinate made him miserable, even taking urination injections was useless, and the doctor did not dare to use dehydrating agents, fearing that his collapse would endanger his life, so Tashi Baizhen persuaded him to give up treatment.Anxious, she asked around for good medicines to treat her husband's illness. She finally learned from acquaintances that there was a Tibetan doctor with excellent medical skills in Mazhugongka County, Lhasa City. The Tibetan medicine he prescribed had dehydration and diuretic effects.The acquaintance also gave her a few packs of the medicine bought there for trial use, and the husband took it and it was really effective.Without hesitation, Tashi Baizhen hurried to the valley in Mozhugongka County in the car of her son-in-law. She found the Tibetan doctor, and after buying the medicine, she rushed home to feed Geng Mingxiang the medicine.After my husband took this Tibetan medicine for a period of time, it really had the effect of dehydration and diuresis, and his stomach became smaller after he passed out the urine.Therefore, Tashi Baizhen went to the Tibetan doctor in Mazhugongka County twice a month to buy medicine.Every time Tashi Baizhen would take his wife's urine to Mozhugongka, and go to the Tibetan doctor's house to ask a Tibetan doctor for a urine diagnosis. The old Tibetan doctor would prescribe medicine according to the traditional Tibetan method of urine diagnosis and the symptoms dictated by Tashi Baizhen. The medicine is enough for more than ten days, I am afraid that the condition will change. When she went to buy medicine, sometimes her son-in-law drove her, and sometimes his son-in-law was busy with work, so she took a long-distance bus to get off at Mazhugongka County, and then walked more than 20 kilometers on the rugged path in the valley to reach the Tibetan doctor’s house. In good times, you can catch a walking tractor along the way, but most of them are on foot.The elderly Tashi Baizhen dragged her exhausted body under the scorching sun on the plateau, and she was out of breath when she arrived at the Tibetan doctor's house.Sometimes it happened that the doctor was away, and she had to wait.In this way, sometimes the round trip is a whole day.In this regard, Tashi Baizhen has no complaints. If she can buy medicine, she can relieve her husband's pain. She only thinks about her husband.The leader of Geng Mingxiang's work unit once said to Tashi Baizhen that if she has any difficulties or needs, she can just ask, and Geng Mingxiang's work unit will send a car as long as she asks.However, Tashi Baizhen thought to himself: Their unit is an enterprise, and the business is busy, so why should they ask the unit to send a car for their own private affairs?During Geng Mingxiang's illness, Tashi Baizhen never asked her husband's unit for a car. Since her husband fell ill, Tashi Baizhen, as a wife, has been guarding her husband's side. For 17 years, she has taken good care of her husband's daily life and never left her.Especially when her husband was seriously ill and completely unable to take care of himself, Tashi Baizhen paid unimaginable hardships.She has to take good care of her husband, and also has to do housework, laundry, cooking, etc. The children can't bear it, so they take time to go home to help her take care of them. Except for special circumstances, she and Geng Mingxiang always persuade them to go back to work and ask them not to delay work .Tashi Baizhen, who has been old and frail for decades, overcame many difficulties and silently undertook the overload of life pressure. Since 2002, Geng Mingxiang's original high-altitude heart disease has become more serious, he often has difficulty breathing, his face is pale, and his lips are purple.After going to the hospital for an examination, the doctor suggested that it is best to go back to his hometown to spend his old age. If he wants to stay in Tibet, he must inhale oxygen to maintain his life.Back home, Tashi Baizhen said to Geng Mingxiang: I will accompany you back to your hometown!But Geng Mingxiang refused.Tashi Baizhen still persuaded her husband patiently, but no matter what Tashi Baizhen said, Geng Mingxiang refused to agree. He said that his children were all in Tibet, and he would never leave, even if he died, he would die here.Looking at her stubborn husband, Tashi Baizhen was helpless.From then on, Geng Mingxiang had to inhale oxygen every day. At first, he inhaled for a while, then stopped for a while. A large bottle of oxygen was enough for 3 days. Later, when his condition became serious, he had to inhale oxygen continuously, even when he went to the toilet. Oxygen will pant and even shock, so that in the next 24 hours can not do without oxygen.In this way, you need to inhale a bottle of oxygen every day.At the beginning, a bottle of oxygen was 45 yuan, and then it rose to 55 yuan.This alone will cost about 1,500 yuan per month.Geng Mingxiang's retirement salary was only 1,800 yuan at the time, and it was only in 2008 that his salary rose to more than 2,500 yuan.Tashi Baizhen herself has no financial income.At that time, the family's little savings were all spent on Geng Mingxiang's medical treatment, and the life of Tashi Baizhen's family fell into a very difficult situation, which was really stretched.Medical treatment needs money, life needs money, what should I do?Tashi Baizhen, who is strong and unwilling to ask for help, did not ask her husband's work unit or her relatives and friends. She mortgaged her real estate certificate to a private person to borrow money, and she had to pay back the debt.Where does the money come from?Tashi Baizhen is the youngest daughter in the family. Her mother loves her very much and left some antiques for Tashi Baizhen before she died.At that time, the taxi business in Lhasa was very good.Zhaxi Baizhen then sold the antiques given by her mother and a house left to her by her parents, bought an old Santana car and a taxi dome light on the advice of her son, and hired drivers to transport passengers in taxis to make money.Although the income is considerable, her husband's huge medical expenses, which continue to increase, still weigh her down. She urgently needs cash to pay off debts and medical expenses. The transfer fee pays the husband's medical expenses and subsidizes daily expenses.But Geng Mingxiang's illness was like a bottomless pit, and the money was spent like running water, and the family was still unable to make ends meet.Although the four sons and daughters are all married and established, they are all very filial, but they all work in enterprises with low wages, and they all have family children.Therefore, Tashi Baizhen never took a penny from his children except what they gave him.Whenever the four children want to give her money, she refuses, she does not want to drag the children down.Since 2001, Zhaxi Baizhen had no choice but to sell the precious dowry given by her natal family when she and Geng Mingxiang married.The first to sell was a gold necklace with a diamond pendant.This gold necklace is Tashi Baizhen's favorite, she only wears it on happy days or festivals, and it is usually locked in a box.But in order to treat her husband's illness, she sold it without hesitation.In a hurry to spend money, Tashi Baizhen sold this precious necklace worth nearly 80,000 yuan in a hurry for 30,000 yuan. Geng Mingxiang had a bad stomach, and Tashi Baizhen saw that her husband wanted to eat buckwheat very much, but when he finished eating, he either had diarrhea or vomited right after eating.She counted that when her husband was seriously ill, he got up and went back and forth 20 times a day.Most of Geng Mingxiang could only eat porridge, and sometimes she had to make instant noodles for him to change his taste. As a result, Geng Mingxiang became thinner and thinner.Tashi Baizhen bought a lot of nutritional supplements for her husband, and gave him amino acid infusions according to the doctor’s advice. Each infusion cost 70 yuan, and she could only infuse it once a week. Tashi Baizhen hoped to give him more amino acids , but if he loses too much, his husband will go into a coma, and his body can't bear it. After that, she heard from the doctor that Tibetan Cordyceps has high nutritional value and is easy to absorb. Her husband needs to supplement nutrition. If he can take Cordyceps, it will be very beneficial to Geng Mingxiang, but the money is spent.In order to raise money, Tashi Baizhen successively sold several pairs of corals worth tens of thousands of yuan at a low price, bought dozens of precious Cordyceps, and carefully ground them into powder and fed them to her husband to nourish his body. After several months of continuous consumption , Geng Mingxiang has improved significantly both physically and mentally.Later, she sold the valuable agate and other precious jewelry, and finally even the gold ring on her hand. In this way, Tashi Baizhen, in order to treat her husband's illness, to relieve her husband's illness, In order to keep him alive, he sold all the valuable antiques and dowries at any cost. When the author asked Tashi Baizhen why he treated Geng Mingxiang at a huge price, Tashi Baizhen said without emotion: "He is a very good and honest person. In the past, when he was driving, he had to hand over a lot of fuel tickets to the unit , Unlike other drivers who sell to private cars, they never do things that harm the public and benefit themselves. I learned a lot from him. He left his hometown and came to Tibet to build a new Tibet. He dedicated his youth to Tibet. It is my duty to serve him, not to mention that he is my husband, so it is only natural to serve him. His life is dozens of times more precious than mine. In order to prolong his life, even if I lose everything .” Tashi Baizhen’s words were resounding, and in her eyes, her husband’s life was more important than anything else.What a good wife, what a beautiful heart! During the 17 years of her husband's illness, Tashi Baizhen was unable to hire a nanny due to the family's financial difficulties. She lived frugally, did not buy new clothes for several years, and did not spend a day off.Whenever she received a festive invitation from relatives and friends, she would rush over to offer a khata, and Tashi Baizhen politely declined no matter how gracious the owner was to keep it.She is not in the mood to play mahjong or chat with those leisurely people at all. She always thinks about her husband in her heart, and is afraid that something unexpected will happen to him, so she rushes home as soon as possible every time. Although the family conditions are difficult and life is difficult, Tashi Baizhen has never asked for anything from the organization and unit.She has a very strong personality, and she often says that as long as it is not an impassable hurdle, she cannot trouble the organization.Leaders of the Autonomous Region Federation of Trade Unions and Geng Mingxiang's former unit visited and expressed condolences during New Years and holidays. Whenever they asked her about difficulties or requests, Tashi Baizhen only mentioned her husband's illness, but said nothing about the difficulties at home. A few relatives said Tashi Baizhen: You deserve it yourself!Some people advised her: "Master Geng's illness is already so serious that no matter how advanced the nutritional supplements are, they are useless, so why waste the money?"Tashi Baizhen replied: "I am his wife and relative. As long as it can make him feel better, it is worth the money." For an elderly and frail woman, her pressure is enormous , but she didn't have a single complaint.Someone once persuaded her to leave her husband, and the pressure of living alone would be less, but Tashi Baizhen responded very resolutely: As Geng Mingxiang’s wife, he and his children are his only relatives in Tibet, and he will never It is also impossible to leave him alone, if you leave him alone, you will get retribution, and your conscience will be disturbed for the rest of your life. Tashi Baizhen, who was born in a noble family, used to live a life of prosperity and wealth when she was a girl. In order to save her Han husband, she willingly lived a hard life for more than ten years without complaining. As the saying goes: "There is no filial son after a long illness, let alone a husband and wife." .But Tashi Baizhen continued her husband's life with love for more than ten years, and never left her. What a noble spiritual state this is! Tashi Baizhen was devoted to her husband and tried her best to take care of her husband. She was praised by her neighbors and touched many people. In 2006, the District Federation of Trade Unions, the labor union of the Communications Department, and the leaders of the Passenger Transport Company of the Communications Department came to Tashi Baizhen’s home to express condolences. They were deeply moved after learning that Tashi Baizhen had served Geng Mingxiang with all his heart and soul, and they all admired Tashi Baizhen A precious quality.Tashi Baizhen said: "He didn't fall on the battlefield to resist U.S. aggression and aid Korea, but now he fell ill in bed. I am heartbroken." Dong Chunde, secretary of the party group and executive vice chairman of the District Federation of Trade Unions, was even more moved. He took out 2,000 yuan and handed it to Tashi Baizhen, but she declined.Dong Chunde said: "Your husband's salary is so low and his expenses are so high, you take it." He insisted on giving her the money, but Tashi Baizhen couldn't refuse, so she had to accept it.After that, Dong Chunde from the District Federation of Trade Unions often came to her home with nutritional supplements to inquire about her health.Tashi Baizhen said: "Chairman Dong is a good leader with a bodhisattva-like heart. His support is like sending charcoal in the snow, reducing her financial burden and prolonging her husband's life. Chairman Dong is really better than my own brother." Dear, I am grateful to Chairman Dong from the bottom of my heart." The author went to the District Federation of Trade Unions to interview Dong Chunde and asked him to talk about his impression of Tashi Baizhen.He said: "There are two things that touched me about their family: First, Lao Geng entered Tibet very early to work in the transportation system. The construction of Tibet has made great contributions; and the most touching thing is the second point. I admire Tashi Baizhen from the bottom of my heart. She takes care of Geng Mingxiang so well. On the bed, but the room was kept very clean and tidy by Tashi Baizhen, there was no smell at all, and even a few basins for urine were polished. At first, I didn’t believe that Lao Geng had been bedridden for more than ten years I feel that this Tibetan lesbian is too great. I admire Zhaxi Baizhen very much. The virtues of the Tibetan people are fully reflected in her. She has taken care of her husband for decades, even the Han people have already collapsed. I think she not only She is a model of filial piety and loving relatives, and also a model of national unity. I have also seen many patients, some whose family conditions are worse than Tashi Baizhen, but her behavior touched me. After the sale was over, she still served her husband so hard. I have never seen family members who have devoted themselves to serving patients for so many years. I feel that they need help the most. At that time, I learned that their family’s financial situation was very poor. When I ran out of savings, I will take Tashi Baizhen as my personal contact person for poverty alleviation. The government will solve what the government can solve, and I will solve what the government cannot solve. Someone once sent me a cow leg, and I first thought of Tashi Bai Zhen, they need it most now, I gave the beef leg to Tashi Bai Zhen, and I can eat in the cafeteria by myself." Another time Dong Chunde went to visit Geng Mingxiang with nutritional supplements and asked to leave cash when he left. Seeing this, Tashi Baizhen knelt down and said: "We have received your kindness. I have never seen such a good person like you. You also have a home, please You take the money back, if you leave any more money today, I won’t get up. I really can’t take any more.” Dong Chunde said: “I have a family, but my conditions are much better than yours.You are so kind, you should be helped, and you should be rewarded. " Because Dong Chunde often went to Tashi Baizhen's house, and found that Geng Mingxiang was often angry with Tashi Baizhen because of his illness and irritability, Dong Chunde couldn't understand it, so he persuaded Geng Mingxiang: "Old Geng, you should be content! Without Tashi Baizhen to serve you, you would sooner Go——" After Geng Mingxiang passed away, Dong Chunde comforted Tashi Baizhen: "You have paid a lot, and Lao Geng is gone. The party organization, the Federation of Trade Unions, and I will never forget you. Tell me what difficulties you have. Good people will Good rewards, you should be rewarded, and you should enjoy it." Then Dong Chunde ordered the labor union of the Transportation Department to go through the subsistence allowance procedures for Tashi Baizhen. Dong Chunde said: "Her husband is gone. Organizations at all levels must not forget Tashi Baizhen. They must not make her feel too desolate and chilling." When Tashi Baizhen was in extreme difficulties, some relatives gradually alienated her, which made her very chilling.She said: "I am poor and ambitious. I have the leadership of the party and the care of the leaders of the Federation of Trade Unions. I can't starve to death. I don't need to ask them." I can't believe that this weak woman can make such a sonorous and powerful voice. Tashi Baizhen's life is very difficult due to her husband's perennial illness.However, she still has the traditional Tibetan virtues.She was always responsive to her husband’s relatives. One year, her husband’s sister-in-law needed a kidney transplant. In order to make up for the huge cost of the operation, when her husband’s younger brother had no choice but to ask them for help, Tashi Baizhen still remitted 3,000 yuan when the financial conditions were quite difficult. . When her husband was alive, Tashi Baizhen always remitted a few hundred yuan to her mother-in-law every year and festival to show her filial piety for her husband.After Geng Mingxiang's death, Tashi Baizhen learned that her husband's unit had to pay her Geng Mingxiang's salary for 20 months after his death according to regulations.Before Tashi Baizhen received the money, she first thought of Geng Mingxiang's mother, a 94-year-old mother-in-law who couldn't take care of herself and suffered from bronchitis.Tashi Baizhen first remitted 5,000 yuan to her from the condolence money given by relatives and friends when he arranged for her husband's funeral.After receiving the remittance, the mother-in-law said to Tashi Baizhen on the phone: "You have taken care of him for so many years, you have treated him so well and paid so much. We don't want the money, but I will return it to you." Tashi Baizhen replied: " You can’t take care of yourself and need money. Don’t refund it, I’ll still send it after you refund it. I thank you for giving birth to a good son and giving me a good husband—” In this way, Tashi Baizhen sent a piece of true love to her mother-in-law.How commendable this is!Tashi Baizhen's noble personality charm is a model of traditional Tibetan virtues.The author listened to her narration and was deeply moved by her spirit.When asked about her husband being bedridden all year round and living under such pressure, does he not feel pain in his heart?Tashi Baizhen said affectionately: "Although life is hard, I live it to the fullest. I am satisfied with my children's safety and self-discipline." What a strong woman she is! Because Tashi Baizhen has served her sick and bedridden husband wholeheartedly for more than ten years, on September 17, 2008, the Tibet Autonomous Region Spiritual Civilization Construction Steering Committee awarded Comrade Tashi Baizhen the Tibet Autonomous Region Moral Model Award. In September 2009, the Central Propaganda Department, the Central Civilization Office, the General Political Department, the All-China Federation of Trade Unions, the Central Committee of the Communist Youth League, and the All-China Women's Federation awarded Tashi Baizhen a national moral model - the National Model Medal of Filial Piety and Love for the Elderly.On September 20 of that year, Tashi Baizhen was invited to the capital Beijing to receive the award.In Beijing, she came to Tiananmen Square early to watch the flag-raising ceremony. When the bright five-star red flag was raised in the hands of the national flag guards, Tashi Baizhen was so excited that tears filled her eyes.The awarding department also arranged to visit places of interest and historical sites in Beijing, but she missed her husband and returned to Lhasa immediately after asking for leave. On October 1, 2009, Geng Mingxiang was in a particularly good spirit. He took Tashi Baizhen's hand and said affectionately: "You are a noble lady who will marry me, keep your word, and grow old with me. You have taken care of me for so many years, I I will never forget you in the underworld, thank you." Geng Mingxiang passed away peacefully the next day, and Tashi Baizhen was in so much pain that she couldn't cry - after Geng Mingxiang's body was cremated, Tashi Baizhen bought it for him at the martyrs cemetery. They built a cemetery and buried her husband's ashes in a stone tomb.After Geng Mingxiang passed away, for a while every Friday (the day of Geng Mingxiang’s death), Zhaxi Baizhen couldn’t help but bring Geng Mingxiang’s favorite soy milk and fruit to his graveyard, and shed tears to express her heart—— The ruthless years have erased Tashi Baizhen's once beautiful appearance, but they can't change her true love and love for her husband.May good people have a safe life!