Chapter 50 The legend of the 82-year-old daughter-in-law and the 106-year-old mother-in-law——Record of Zhang Gonglan, the second national moral model

An ordinary rural woman has lived in harmony with her 106-year-old mother-in-law for 65 years.In the long years, she has endured various misfortunes of the family and heavy burdens in life, but she has always supported this incomplete family with strong perseverance, and served her meticulously with filial piety without complaint or regret. The 100-year-old mother-in-law with a high-ranking amputee showed the world the glorious virtues and filial piety tradition of the Chinese nation, and also showed the world the high moral integrity of filial piety that cannot be compared, and respect for the elderly.She is 82-year-old Zhang Gonglan from Datun Village, Datun Town, Pei County, Jiangsu Province.

One day in early February 2010, the reporter came to the home of the old man Zhang Gonglan in Datun Village, Datun Town, Peixian County under the guidance of the Civilization Office of Xuzhou City, Jiangsu Province and relevant comrades in Peixian County.This is an ordinary farmyard in northern Jiangsu, with three tile-roofed houses, white walls, and some farm tools neatly stacked in the yard.Many people came to the old man's house early in the morning, and it was very lively today.Among the crowd, the reporter recognized Zhang Gonglan at a glance, with silver hair, thin face, hale and hearty, and amiable.The old man politely let the reporter and his party into the room and invited everyone to sit down.This is also the most common living room in a farmhouse in northern Jiangsu, with a square table and a few wooden chairs.Although the weather in February is not as cold as the wind, the rural areas in northern Jiangsu have no heating, and farmers' homes basically have the same temperature inside and outside.After sitting for a while, Mrs. Zhang asked the reporter to go to the back room to see her mother-in-law Mrs. Tang Yin. It happened that the reporter also wanted to visit the legendary 106-year-old grandmother.Entering the room inside, I immediately feel very warm. There is a small coal stove in the room, and a curved chimney leads to the window, so the room is warm.The old man Tang Yin was lying on the bed, and his daughter-in-law Zhang Gonglan and a large group of grandsons, granddaughters, great-grandsons, and great-granddaughters sat in a room full of them.The reporter originally thought that the room of an old man who had been bedridden for many years would have some peculiar smell. Unexpectedly, there was no unpleasant smell in the room. The reporter couldn't help but secretly admire the old man Gonglan's careful care of his mother-in-law.

According to the old man Gonglan, her nephew is now a grandfather, and the family has become more prosperous from generation to generation, and now there are five generations living under the same roof.It's just that my mother-in-law is not in good health recently. She had a cerebral thrombosis a year ago and received injections for more than ten days. Now she has finally recovered, but sometimes she can't recognize people clearly. "When my mother was a few years ago, she had a clear mind and remembered everything, but after she got sick, she didn't know many people anymore." The old man Gonglan said with a sigh, "Sometimes she didn't even know me. "She grabbed her mother-in-law's hand, asked the cold and warm, and called "Mother" one by one, very affectionate.

"Mom, how old are you this year?" "106." "Mom, who am I?" The old man shook his head slightly. The daughter of the old man Gonglan leaned over and asked, "Grandma, who am I?" "You're Stinky." The old man Gonglan said to her mother-in-law, "I am the mother of Chou Ni." The old man Gonglan said that the old man remembers his age, his hometown, and his younger brothers and sisters very clearly, but he can't remember other things.She hoped that her mother-in-law would get better as soon as possible, after all, the old man was old.

Surrounded by the fire, everyone talked to each other, recalling the old events one after another. The old man Gonglan said: "Our family has experienced too many disasters. We can't mention the past. Those days were really difficult." Zhang Gonglan, who has experienced countless ups and downs and twists and turns, talked about the past days with tears in his eyes.Zhang Gonglan was born in 1928, and her ancestral home is Dongming Village, Xiping Township, Weishan County, Shandong Province.His father, Zhang Zongxing, and his mother, Zhang Xishi, are both honest farmers.Zhang Gonglan had never studied since she was a child, and her parents had no culture. They did not make every effort to teach their children the principle of respecting the old and loving the young, but silently influenced their children with their simple actions.The atmosphere in the village is also quite simple. When Gonglan was young, she often heard the old people in the village recite the "Song of Encouraging Filial Piety": "People who are not filial to their relatives are not as good as poultry and livestock. A loving Wu still feeds back, and a lamb still kneels. People who are not filial to their relatives, Not as good as grass and trees..."

When Zhang Gonglan married to Datun Village, she was only 16 years old. It was in 1944. Through the introduction of a matchmaker, she married Tang Jincheng, and her husband was just 18 years old.Before marrying into the Tang family, the 16-year-old Zhang Gonglan didn't have much vision or longing for her future married life, but firmly remembered her mother's words: "Gonglan, when you arrive at your in-law's house, you must be diligent and listen to your mother-in-law. You must be as filial to your mother-in-law as your own mother, but don't be awkward with her, and don't let outsiders say that our family has no tutor!" Zhang Gonglan's mother's simple words have always been in Zhang Gonglan's heart.

Confused, she went through a simple wedding and came to the Tang family with a simple dowry.From then on, Gonglan lived with her mother-in-law.The mother-in-law, Tang Yin, was young and widowed. When her husband died, she was pregnant with her second son, Tang Jinsong, who was three months old, and she was holding her eldest son, Tang Jincheng, who was two years old.Being strong, she swallowed countless unspeakable bitterness and suffering alone, and brought up her two sons.The mother-in-law worked so hard to bring up the two children, the hardships are beyond words, Zhang Gonglan admires her mother-in-law's strength from the bottom of her heart.After marriage, Zhang Gonglan, as the eldest daughter-in-law, took the initiative to help her mother-in-law take on the responsibility of housekeeping.She is obedient to her mother-in-law, and she does what her mother-in-law asks her to do, without any complaints; and the mother-in-law is very happy when she sees her daughter-in-law is so virtuous. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is like a biological mother and daughter. object of envy.

Before liberation, the people were very poor. Zhang Gonglan had a good relationship with her husband and a good relationship with her mother-in-law in her husband's house, so although her life was dull, she was comfortable.The ups and downs of the Tang family began in 1948.This year, my uncle Tang Jinsong died of an illness suddenly. He was only in his early 20s, leaving behind three ignorant children, and his younger sibling Li Shangyun was only 22 years old.The premature death of her son was a heavy blow to the mother-in-law who lost her husband in the early years. As the eldest daughter-in-law, Gonglan felt very sad. Responsibilities have become heavier.Gong Lan said to her mother-in-law, "You can't come back to life after death, it's important to take care of your body and bones", and then enlightened Shang Yun, "If you want to open up, you have to move forward."Under Gonglan's comfort and care, the mother-in-law no longer grieved so much.However, it was very difficult for Shang Yun to take care of the children. When he slept at night, he held one in his arms and two on his feet. Gong Lan and her husband Jin Cheng took care of them as if they were their own children. Life gradually became normal.

After my uncle passed away, the family lived in harmony for nearly 30 years without major setbacks. At the end of the 1950s, due to poor harvests, Gonglan and her husband escaped the famine with their eldest daughter and second son, begging all the way west, and went as far as Luoyang.Because they couldn't afford the tickets, the family had to sneak onto the coal train at night, lying on the roof for hours, shivering from the cold.They go door to door begging for food, or working for others.Plowing the ground, weeding, mixing mud, and making bricks. The husband is capable of these tasks, and so is Gonglan.She can fill her stomach for the time being outside, but she always thinks of her mother-in-law at home. When she comes back, she brings back half a bag of grains and some dried sweet potato leaves that she usually saves, making the family happy like Chinese New Year.These difficulties are nothing to them, and they will pass after a while.In the 1960s and 1970s, Gonglan and her husband participated in collective labor, and both worked harder.It was in 1977 that Gonglan really felt that the sky was falling suddenly.

Not long after the Spring Festival that year, her husband Tang Jincheng suddenly felt a stomachache. He went to Datun Coal Mine Hospital for an examination and was diagnosed with advanced gastric cancer.This result made Gonglan feel like a thunderbolt, as if a good family suddenly collapsed, she stood there for a long time before crying: "My mother, what is my fate!" Looking back on Gonglan and Jin Cheng's more than 30 years of marriage, the two were very affectionate, not to mention quarreling and fighting, and they didn't even blush.Faced with such a diagnosis, the couple burst into tears.Jin Cheng knew that the disease could not be cured, so he choked up and said to Gonglan: "Don't worry about this disease, it can't be cured. I am content with marrying a virtuous daughter-in-law like you. But the thing I am most worried about is It was our mother who was nearly 80 years old. I didn’t fulfill my responsibilities as a son. My younger brother Jin Song left earlier, so I entrusted my mother to you! After I leave, the funeral must be simple, save some money, and take good care of it. Mother and our children... No matter how hard it is, you have to grit your teeth and hold on, and in the next life, I will repay you like a cow and a horse..."

Thinking of this, Zhang Gonglan's eyes were moist.Even after so many years, she is still very sad.Wiping away the tears from the corners of his eyes, the old man Gonglan went on to say that the two of them did not close their eyes for the whole night.Under the hazy moonlight, Gong Lan looked at her husband's sallow face, how many things she wanted to tell him, but at that time she only choked up a sentence: "Jin Cheng, don't say it..." The two of them hugged each other and cried for a while. . In order to treat her husband's illness, Gonglan sought medical treatment everywhere, begged relatives and friends, and went out of her way to see a doctor for her husband.Gonglan was afraid that her mother-in-law would be devastated when she found out about Jin Cheng's illness, so she did everything possible to hide it from her mother-in-law, not wanting to make her sad.During the day, Gonglan pretends to smile in front of her mother-in-law, but at night she washes her face with tears, and her tears can only be swallowed in her stomach. When she wakes up in the morning, her tears often wet the pillow cover.Such a big matter can only be hidden for a while, and the careful mother-in-law still found out the clues, because she felt that people in the family were always coming in and out these days, and something was wrong.She called her young grandson to her face and asked him what was the matter.The little grandson obeyed his mother and refused to tell his grandma about his father's illness, but kept crying in his grandma's arms.The mother-in-law was in a hurry, and threatened the little grandson, saying: "If you don't tell me, I won't want you!" The little grandson cried and said in a hurry: "My father, he can't do it!" The mother-in-law passed out at that time. Gonglan spent a lot of energy, pinched her and crossed her legs, to wake her mother up.The mother-in-law grabbed Gonglan's hand, cried to death, and said to Gonglan, "My size! Why is God so unfair to our Tang family! Your father-in-law left when he was 21, and your second brother is also 20." Just left, the only hope for our mothers is on Jin Cheng, if he leaves again, how will our mothers live? God let me go too!" As she spoke, the mother-in-law burst into her heart , Passed out again.Gonglan was terrified, what if something happened to her mother-in-law again!Gonglan hurriedly woke up her mother-in-law, held her hand tightly, and cried, "Mother, don't be sad, you are going to be sick again, how can I live my daughter-in-law? Jin Cheng is gone, don't I still have me?" As long as I'm alive, I won't starve you..." Before finishing speaking, the mother and son cried, and Gonglan's son and daughter also cried with their mother and grandma. Crying, the neighbors couldn't help wiping away their tears secretly. After running around seeking medical treatment for more than a year, Jin Cheng was unable to save her husband's life, and Jin Cheng left.After taking care of the funeral affairs, all the burdens of the family fell on Gonglan. She not only had to take care of her mother-in-law, who was nearly eighty years old, but also took care of her three sons and two daughters. In school, but also to pay their tuition fees.In order to keep such an unfortunate family alive and support her family, Gonglan worked hard with a perseverance that was several times that of ordinary people, working hard in the fields like a man, planting the few acres of the family. Responsibility fields.When she was not busy with farming, she rolled up her trouser legs to go to Weishan Lake to fish for shrimps and pick lotus roots. She was often bitten bloody by leeches, and her hands were bruised by reeds.She went to the fields during the day and spun cotton and weaved cloth at night. After the weaving was finished, she let her son carry it to a nearby market town to sell it for some change.Since her home is near the highway, she set up a tea stand at the door, selling big bowls of tea, along with melon seeds and sweets.In this way, Zhang Gonglan experienced severe cold and heat, spring, summer, autumn and winter.Gradually, the family situation improved day by day. Zhang Gonglan not only became the backbone of her husband's family, but also encouraged the disheartened mother-in-law to have the courage to live.Later, when mentioning those unbearable past events, the mother-in-law often couldn't forget Zhang Gonglan's kindness: "Without my daughter-in-law, my old bones would have been buried in the ground long ago!" Although life is difficult and life is difficult, people are poor and ambitious. Gong Lan often warns her children that people must have ambition in life, be respected by others, and endure hardships and experience hardships.The children deeply understood the painstaking efforts of their mother and were very obedient. Over the past few years, each of them has made a career.The eldest son first joined the army and opened a home appliance repair shop after being demobilized. Later, he accumulated some funds and switched to a food wholesaler; the second son was more proficient in electromechanical technology and worked as a maintenance worker in a machinery factory; He worked as an apprentice in a restaurant, learned first-hand pasta skills, and opened a food processing shop.The children have made initial achievements in their careers, and the family life is also thriving. Gonglan is very pleased, but at this time, an unexpected misfortune quietly befalls the family. It was the autumn of 1981, and the farmers were busy harvesting. Zhang Gonglan, her son, and daughters-in-law were also busy, and her mother-in-law was taking care of her great-grandson Zhaozi at home.One day after five o'clock in the afternoon, the mother-in-law was playing with Zhaozi on the side of the road. At this time, Zhaozi happened to see his father coming home from work in the wheat field, so he ran forward happily.But at this moment, a 50 tractor with one trailer and one trailer from Zhangwang Commune in Weishan County, Shandong Province galloped up, and the great-grandson Zhaozi was about to be crushed under the wheels.At this critical moment, the mother-in-law didn't even think about it, and immediately rushed forward... Zhao Zi's life was saved, but the mother-in-law was crushed under the wheel, and the ground was bleeding all over the ground, which was shocking. This was a sudden disaster, and the family panicked.Gonglan and her sons rushed her mother-in-law to the hospital for treatment.After examination, the mother-in-law's right leg was crushed by a wheel, and it was a comminuted fracture, which required immediate high-level amputation, otherwise her life would be in danger.After the amputation, the mother-in-law's life was saved.Zhaozi, who was extremely frightened, also followed the crowd to the hospital. After everyone took care of her mother-in-law, they found that Zhaozi's pants were completely torn, and his calf was also covered with blood. The old man Gonglan sighed softly when he recalled this.Zhaozi, who was rescued by his great-grandmother, is now in his 30s and still has very obvious scars on his legs, while his great-grandmother lay down for nearly 30 years.Zhang Gonglan said, "In order to save the child, my mother disregarded her own life. It is very touching. No matter what happens to her in the future, I have the full responsibility to take good care of her." In this way, the misfortune of this family made the mother-in-law look like a different person, no longer as cheerful as before.A young man lost his husband, a middle-aged lost his youngest son, an old man lost his eldest son, and a high-ranking amputation at the age of nearly 80... The mother-in-law has since become withdrawn, reticent, and even indifferent, which has brought great difficulties to Gonglan.The mother-in-law is often anxious and irritable. When she is unhappy, she will inevitably turn her anger on Gonglan, and Gonglan always thinks of what her husband said to her before he died, and never talks back to her mother-in-law. She will do whatever her mother-in-law asks her to do. .For Gonglan, the more important thing is how to arouse her mother-in-law's confidence in life, so that she can be cheerful again and no longer depressed. The old man Gonglan said that after her mother-in-law was amputated at a high position, how to make her mother-in-law live comfortably became her top priority.The mother-in-law has completely lost the ability to work. Usually, she can only support the stool with her hands and move forward step by step. It is extremely difficult. She can't even take care of herself when dressing and going to the toilet, and has to be taken care of by Gonglan. Zhang Gonglan is a diligent and thoughtful person.There were no soft mattresses in the countryside, so she spread thick sponges on her mother-in-law's bed.Gonglan washes the quilts used by the elderly very frequently.In summer, in order to prevent mosquitoes from biting, Gong Lan specially sewed a longer and wider mosquito net. When it was dark, she would stay in front of her mother-in-law's bed. First, check to see if there were any mosquitoes in the mosquito net. Beating inside the mosquito net; after the mosquitoes were driven away, Gong Lan used a cattail fan to fan her mother-in-law to enjoy the cool.The mother-in-law likes to eat sugar, so there is always rock sugar in the house. When the mother-in-law is bored, Gong Lan always puts a piece of rock sugar in her mouth, and even puts rock sugar in the water that the mother-in-law usually drinks.At that time, the family was not rich. Once, Gonglan found that her mother-in-law's rock candy was missing a few pieces, which turned out to be taken away by her grandson.Gonglan said to her little grandson, son, be obedient, rock candy is for old grandmas (grandmothers are called great-grandmothers in rural areas).The little grandson was very obedient, obediently handed over the stolen rock candy, and sent it to the great-grandmother. In this way, Zhang Gonglan has been taking care of the amputated mother-in-law carefully, and 20 years have passed without knowing it.Unexpectedly, one day in 2002, another accident happened.This morning, Gonglan got up early as usual, dressed her mother-in-law one by one, buttoned them up, tied her belt, and carefully helped her out of bed.The mother-in-law held the bench in her hand and moved out of the house step by step as usual.It was 11 o'clock in the morning, and it was time to cook for her mother-in-law. Gonglan lit a fire in the kitchen.At this time, she suddenly heard a sound of "Ouch" in the yard.Gonglan was startled, maybe her mother-in-law fell?She rushed out of the stove and ran to the yard to see, and sure enough, her mother-in-law fell beside the stool.From that time on, the mother-in-law could no longer get up, and could no longer move around with the support of a stool, and was paralyzed in bed for 8 years. At the beginning, Gonglan and her son drove her mother-in-law to seek medical treatment in a flat car.According to the doctor's diagnosis, the mother-in-law touched a nerve when she fell down, and she has completely lost the ability to take care of herself.Gonglan had no choice but to accept the reality.Her mother-in-law's paralysis brought a heavier burden to Zhang Gonglan, but this did not discourage Gonglan. She not only helped her mother-in-law overcome the illness with tenacious perseverance, but also encouraged her mother-in-law to fight against fate with a hundredfold desire to survive. Zhang Gonglan spent a lot of time thinking about how to feed her mother-in-law.In order to let her mother-in-law eat and drink well, the meals she prepares for her mother-in-law are always thick and thin, which is delicious.The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have a pair of chopsticks, eat and feed each other.It is inconvenient for her mother-in-law to lie down. In order to let her eat the food, Gonglan asked her eldest son Tang Ruyou to find a short piece of thick reed, open the joints, boil it in a pot, sterilize it, and then eat it by herself. Put it in your mouth first and try it. This "straw" is really easy to use, so I gave it to my mother-in-law.Let the mother-in-law use a "straw" to suck the rice porridge, and feed the thicker ones with a spoon. This method is simple and convenient.Neighbors in the neighborhood sometimes came to visit the old lady, and when they saw this method, they all praised it, saying that Gonglan had thought of everything in order to honor her mother-in-law.Gonglan attaches great importance to her mother-in-law's three meals a day, and always buys some fresh fish and fresh meat for the elderly to eat every now and then, not to mention the holidays.One autumn, my mother-in-law had an inflammation of the mouth, a swollen tongue, and red cheeks, making it difficult to eat. Gonglan bought a lot of nutritious foods such as tofu nao, soy milk, milk, malted milk, and sesame paste for her mother-in-law. After taking medicine, my mother-in-law's inflammation disappeared quickly. In order to balance her mother-in-law's diet, in addition to the staple food, Gonglan also asked her to eat more fruits.There is no shortage of seasonal dried and fresh fruits throughout the year.In summer, watermelon is essential.Maihuang Wuyue, watermelon has just hit the market, and the price is as high as three yuan a catty, so she is willing to buy it for her mother-in-law.I bought the watermelon and washed it. After opening it, the flesh is red and the seeds are black. It is very comfortable to look at.Gonglan picked out the meat in the middle for her mother-in-law to eat, scooped out spoonful by spoonful, and delivered it to her mother-in-law's mouth.The part near the melon rind was too hard. It was a pity to throw it away, so I gave it to my grandson to eat.When feeding her mother-in-law other fruits, Gonglan was always afraid that her mother-in-law would not be able to chew them, so she cut them into very thin slices, soaked them in warm water, and then sent them to her mother-in-law's mouth one by one. In addition to diet, it is the daily life of the mother-in-law.When her mother-in-law was first bedridden, Gong Lan was afraid that she would be very uncomfortable if she lay down for a long time, so she took off her shoes and went to bed and hugged her in her arms. Her mother felt much more comfortable.But if it is comfortable, the mother-in-law feels that this is too difficult for her daughter-in-law, so she said: "My son, I don't know how many years I have been lying down. This is not the way, let me lie down!" It is trying to make mother-in-law more comfortable.One day, Gonglan asked Ruyou to find a used car tire.The son didn't understand what mother meant, so he asked, "Mother, why are you looking for that? Our family doesn't run a car repair shop." Gonglan said, "If you can find it, it's of course useful." When she found it, she asked her son to cheer up, and she sat on it and tried it herself.The clever son immediately understood what his mother meant.Gonglan was very happy and put her mother-in-law on the inflated tire of the car.Gonglan patiently adjusted the amount of inflation, neither too much nor too little, and the most comfortable is the most comfortable.When the mother-in-law was tired from lying down, Gong Lan helped her to sit on the tire for a while, and the mother-in-law felt very comfortable.Born in a feudal society, my mother-in-law suffered from bound feet, and she suffered from toe bone damage. Every winter, her left foot hurts badly.In order to relieve her mother-in-law's pain, Gonglan insisted on washing her feet every day and applying hot towels to her feet, and her mother-in-law felt much better. Zhang Gonglan pays special attention to her mother-in-law's hygiene.Gonglan usually likes to be clean. Although she is 82 years old now, she always dresses neatly and cleanly.Gonglan thought that her mother-in-law's life would be comfortable only if the sanitation conditions were improved.The mother-in-law's clothes and bedding are often washed and changed by Gonglan. She cleans the room every day, ventilates it frequently, and sometimes sprays some freshener.In addition, Gonglan scrubs her mother-in-law's body once or twice a week. Her mother-in-law has been bedridden for many years and has never had bedsores.In this way, there is no peculiar smell in the mother-in-law's room, and everyone who comes to visit the old lady feels very surprised. Gonglan takes good care of her mother-in-law's daily life, but Gonglan is always worried that her mother-in-law will get sick easily when she gets old, so she always prepares some medicines to prevent colds and diarrhea at home, just in case.One summer night, there was a torrential rain outside, with lightning and thunder.Gong Lan had just served her mother-in-law to sleep, when her mother-in-law suddenly said that she had a stomachache.Gonglan immediately felt bad, because she had been with her mother-in-law for decades, and she knew her mother-in-law's temperament clearly. If it wasn't for the severe pain, her mother-in-law would not have said it.Thinking of this, Gonglan got up immediately, took an umbrella and went out.She called the doctor from the village health center and made a diagnosis for her mother-in-law. It turned out that her mother-in-law had an inflammation of her stomach.After the mother-in-law took the medicine, it was already past three o'clock in the morning.Gonglan was worried that if her mother-in-law showed any symptoms again, she would stay on guard until dawn.According to Zhang Gonglan's recollection, there have been more than ten times of staying up all night to serve the elderly like this. In order to make her mother-in-law's life not boring, Zhang Gonglan not only ensures the comfort of her mother-in-law's life, but also comforts her spiritually, and often tells stories and chats with her mother-in-law.The old man Gonglan said: "My mother is like an old child who wants to be pampered and coaxed, pestering me to find out what's new outside, what I watch on TV, listen to on the radio, and what the neighbors say, I follow She said that it was like a small trumpet. My mother would call out when she couldn’t see me for a while, and she would feel at ease when she saw me walking around.” Zhang Gonglan showed a happy smile on her face when she said this, “Me too, I listen to it every day. My mother yelled 'Gonglan, Gonglan', and she was very happy. I thought, how happy I am to be depended on even though I am old. I am eighty years old, and there is a 100-year-old My old lady, this is my blessing!" At night, the old man often couldn't sleep, so Gonglan turned on the light, sat up with his clothes on, and the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law chatted about family affairs, ranging from thousands of years to hundreds of years. All kinds of fairy tales, folklore, one after another, moved out, and the mother-in-law fell asleep while talking about it.Listening to her mother-in-law's slight snoring, Gonglan also fell asleep sweetly.Throughout the year, spring, summer, autumn and winter, Zhang Gonglan never stops, and the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have formed such a habit. The elderly who are bedridden all year round need to be taken care of by others. This is where the filial piety of their children is most tested.The mother-in-law usually drinks a lot of water, so she urinates a lot, sometimes more than ten times a day, and Zhang Gonglan never bothers her.In order to serve the elderly in a timely manner, Zhang Gonglan never took off her clothes at night, and never slept peacefully. She always lay down with her clothes on and got up whenever she was called.The mother-in-law is old, and it takes a lot of effort to defecate. It takes tens of minutes to defecate once. I’m dead, and I always let you suffer with me.” Hearing this, Zhang Gonglan said: “It’s my blessing to have a centenary old man like you, and I’m happy to serve you!” Under the careful care of Zhang Gonglan, the mother-in-law does not look old even though she is over a hundred years old. Her face is kind and kind, and she looks like an old man in her 70s or 80s. Since ancient times, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has not been an easy relationship in China.There is a saying in the countryside: "A mother-in-law is not a mother, and a fence is not a wall." how.But Zhang Gonglan was never like this.Gonglan never called her "mother-in-law" whether in front of people or behind her. She always called her "mother" and said "how is my mother" in front of neighbors.She felt that what a mother is like, so is a mother-in-law. A mother is a mother, and a mother-in-law is also a mother.With such thoughts in mind, she always yelled "Mother" one after another, and the yells were so sweet.When the mother-in-law heard this, she always agreed sweetly, with a smile on her face, and said to everyone: "I don't know which life's blessing is for me to meet such a filial daughter-in-law!" Outsiders often ask about Zhang Gonglan. Why did she take care of the old man so well without being bothered or irritable? Gonglan said: "Our mother and I have become more and more affectionate as time goes by. My mother never had a daughter in her life, and I am her daughter. I don't love her. Do you love her? Our mother and I are the best." I remember my mother-in-law before the car accident, when Gonglan sold big bowls of tea, she often helped take care of the tea stand. Hearing Zhang Gonglan call her "Mother" sweetly, the man said to her mother-in-law, your daughter is so kind and hardworking.The mother-in-law said: "She is not my daughter-in-law, but my eldest daughter-in-law." After hearing this, the man praised again and again: "It's rare to find such a filial daughter-in-law!" Are you as filial as the eldest daughter-in-law?" The mother-in-law didn't speak, Zhang Gonglan immediately took over the conversation, and said cheerfully: "Filial, filial, the same filial piety!" Zhang Gonglan has her own simple understanding of filial piety.For many years, there has always been a problem of comparison in the elderly care in rural areas.But in Zhang Gonglan's view, filial piety and respect for the elderly are in everyone's hearts.She thought so and did so.Ever since her mother-in-law was amputated in a high position, Zhang Gonglan had to take care of her mother-in-law and also take care of the housework. She was so busy all day long that she didn't even have time to eat. When the neighbors saw her, she couldn't bear it, so she said to Gonglan in private: "Mother-in-law is not yours alone, and his second aunt also has a share. You take turns, and you have a family for a month. You also have time to rest. Don't wear yourself out." Zhang Gonglan didn't shake her head when the neighbors persuaded her. No nod either.She understood the good intentions of the neighbors, but she thought to herself: "The second brother left early, and it is not easy for the sister-in-law to pull the three children up and down! Besides, honoring the elderly depends entirely on your own heart!" Not only does she not compare, but whenever she encounters someone gossiping in front of her sister-in-law, she always signals that person to go away, and comforts her sister-in-law: "Don't take what others say. That's right, mother." She is the mother of our two families, but the situation of our two families is different. I am physically stronger than you. Besides, the children in my family are all grown up and sensible. If they can do something for me, don’t worry. Take good care of my children and nieces, and I will be at ease as a sister-in-law!" Gonglan's generosity and kindness made Shang Yun feel ashamed.Under the tolerance and inspiration of his sister-in-law, Shang Yun realized what he should do, and often took care of his mother-in-law together with Gonglan, sending food and drink every now and then, and doing his part of filial piety to her mother-in-law. Zhang Gonglan not only respects the elderly herself, but also often teaches the children to be filial and respect the elderly.She often calls her sons, grandsons, and daughters-in-law to her, chats with them about family affairs, and tells them the principle of "honesty and family tradition". You can’t learn from those who don’t want to be old or young, so that you can hold your head up in front of others!” Under Zhang Gonglan’s education and influence, her children are all sensible and obedient. Ruyi, and the three daughters-in-law of the old man Gonglan, all respect grandma more than others.Now Zhang Gonglan is much happier than before. While keeping company with her mother-in-law, she will have a daughter-in-law of her own to accompany her and her mother-in-law every night. The three-generation daughter-in-law of grandparents and grandchildren stay in the same room, taking care of the elderly while chatting about household chores. Not lonely, in case mother-in-law has something to do at night, we can take care of each other.Although the two daughters of the old man Gonglan were married in the neighboring village, they often went back to their natal home to visit their grandma.Zhang Gonglan's grandsons and granddaughters are also very filial. When they are at home, they often talk with their great-grandmother and ask about the cold and warmth.Today, Zhang Gonglan has a house full of children, and her great-grandson is around her knees, enjoying the family happiness.Gonglan pointed to her grandchildren and daughters-in-law and said to her mother-in-law: "Mother, we have lived under the same roof for five generations, and we all respect and love each other. You and I are worth living!" The story of Zhang Gonglan taking care of her mother-in-law for decades moved the villagers.In Zhang Gonglan's heart, respecting the elderly is the duty of a junior. She has set a good example not only for the children, but also for the whole village with her own actions.Today, this big family of five generations is happy and harmonious, and has become a model of learning in and out of the village.A few years ago, old man Jiang from the same village went to the village committee to "sue" his two sons for being unfilial.The director of the village committee saw the reluctance of the two sons of the old man Jiang, and complained to each other that the other was not treating the elderly as well as he did. Show up to see how the old lady Zhang Gonglan takes care of her centenary old woman.More than half an hour later, the two sons of the old man Jiang were ashamed and said convincingly: "Don't say anything, just watch our actions." Under the influence and inspiration of Mrs. Zhang Gonglan, 95% of Datun Village All families have become five-good family civilized households, and Datun Village has also become a well-known model village in the county for filial piety and respect for the elderly. After Zhang Gonglan's deeds were reported by the media, they were immediately highly praised by the town party committee, county party committee, county aging committee, and county women's federation.As early as the Mid-Autumn Festival in 2000, Huang Meiman, director of the County Aging Committee, made a special trip to visit Tang Yinshi, a centenarian, and highly praised Zhang Gonglan for her moving deeds of caring for her mother-in-law without complaint or regret. In 2007, the leaders of the county party committee and the county government, accompanied by the secretary of the party committee of Datun Town, visited the village with flour, cooking oil, snacks and other condolences.This big family is filial to the elderly and loving relatives, harmonious and happy. In 2007 and 2008, it was rated as "Five Good Civilized Family" by Pei County Women's Federation and Datun Town Government. In 2008, Zhang Gonglan was rated as a model of "filial piety and loving relatives" in Pei County. Then he was rated as the moral model of "respecting the elderly and loving relatives" in Xuzhou City.Her deeds are widely praised, and she has been widely praised by all walks of life.Zhang Gonglan won the honorary title of the third national filial piety and respect for the elderly star in the 2009 third national theme education activity of respecting the elderly, loving the elderly and helping the elderly.In the same year, Zhang Gonglan was rated as the second national moral model - a model of filial piety and love for the elderly. On the evening of September 20, 2009, the 2nd National Moral Model Selection and Commendation Award Ceremony - "The Power of Morality" was grandly held in the CCTV studio hall.As a model of filial piety and loving relatives, Zhang Gonglan received the honor conferred by the country together with 54 other moral models. Li Changchun, member of the Standing Committee of the Political Bureau of the Central Committee of China, Liu Yunshan, Liu Yandong and other national leaders attended the award ceremony and took a group photo with Zhang Gonglan.Subsequently, Xuzhou Municipal Party Committee and Municipal Government, Peixian County Party Committee and County Government successively held grand welcome ceremonies to warmly welcome the return of Zhang Gonglan, the old man who went to Beijing to participate in the National Moral Model Award Ceremony, and called on the whole city and county to learn from Zhang Gonglan and carry forward the traditional virtues of the Chinese nation. Build a civilized and harmonious society.市委领导说，张公兰老人是徐州第一位全国道德模范，这是中央对张公兰老人60多年如一日照顾百岁婆婆的褒奖，张公兰老人给全市人民做出了示范和榜样，我们要学习张公兰老人的品格、精神，做好本职工作，从爱岗敬业、孝老爱亲开始，从生活的点点滴滴开始，做一个好人，做一个善良的人，做一个有道德的人，最后才能做一个有用的人。 获奖之后的张公兰家里几乎天天喜事不断。前天一大早，张公兰收到了一份来自北京的祝福——中共中央政治局常委李长春亲笔签名的贺卡、贺信。李长春同志在贺卡中祝她工作顺利，身体健康，阖家幸福，万事如意！贺信说：“在你们身上，集中体现了中国人民的优秀品质，集中表达了人民群众的道德追求，集中反映了社会进步的时代潮流，希望道德模范们一如既往地践行道德规范，在公民道德建设领域始终走在全社会前列，以自己的善行义举引领社会风尚，传播精神文明，带动道德先进人物大批涌现，使我国人民的精神风貌更加昂扬向上，道德情操更加淳朴高尚，共同塑造文明中国、礼仪之邦的良好形象。”近11点钟，张公兰家的小院再次热闹起来，沛县县委、县政府负责人将鲜花、生活用品以及10万元帮扶款交给张公兰，这是全国、省、市文明办及沛县特地划拨的专款，对生活困难的张公兰给予生活及住房帮扶。 盛誉之下的张公兰老人心情很平静，她说：“感谢党和政府给了我这么大的荣誉，我只是做了我自己应该做的事。今后，我会把百岁婆婆照顾得更好。”张公兰一直强调，“我孝顺自己的老人，不是应当的嘛，这是应该的。”张公兰对于孝道的阐释就是这样朴素。谈起这么多年来她坚持孝敬婆婆，心中有没有一种信念在支撑着她，她说：“要说么，也不是没有。做人最要紧的是什么？是守信。说出去的话，泼出去的水。俺跟孩子爹一个锅里摸勺子30多年，他的家人就是俺的家人，他娘就是俺娘。既然答应了孩子爹替他照顾老娘，就一定得做到，不能辜负了他。”老人说着话，心情特别的舒畅，“有时候俺也寻思，这么多年吃苦受累图个啥呀，后来想想，图个啥？图个心安！俺不讲按法律该赡养老人，就凭俺的良心！” （作者：刘进，1974年生于吉林省蛟河市，2007年毕业于北京大学中文系，获文学博士学位，现为徐州师范大学文学院教师。）