Chapter 9 Give others except what is most necessary

I just said that there is no need to sacrifice unconditionally, but now I say that I want to be a kind person. This may make people feel a bit contradictory.However, loving yourself the most is not the same as not caring about others at all, so don't confuse it.No matter what the situation is, a person who only lives for himself is definitely not a happy and successful life.We should firmly grasp the most important things that are related to our own future, but everything else should be given to others.In other words, even if I can't get anything in return, I should give others as much as I can within the scope of my ability.Only in this way can the other party accept it with peace of mind and feel happy.For those who are often polite to others, we will only say that he is kind, not that he is stupid.Kindness is not the same as stupidity, don't treat all kind people as fools.There is not one person in a hundred who turns an evil face to a smiling face, and there may not be a hundred people we see every day.No matter how many unreasonable people are around, there will be no more than ten people.Therefore, the most effective way to establish a good image among the people around you is to do good deeds frequently.Don't lose your temper over trivial things and regret it afterwards.If a smart woman can have a kind side, then the chances of meeting good people and good opportunities will be increased tenfold.When people in their twenties step into a sinister society for the first time, their initial feeling is probably "no matter how hard I try, I won't get what I deserve."But in a few years, discerning women will realize that "the hard work pays off in the end."People who do not face life with a friendly attitude will not be welcomed by everyone.Therefore, compared with a life of no effort and no gain, a life of giving more and getting more is much more meaningful.In a person's life, the most tempered and touched period is the period in his twenties.If you don't practice courtesy and kindness when you are in your twenties, then your whole life will be like chewing wax, which will be boring.Looking at those successful people, no one is a miser who only cares about himself.