Chapter 8 Not a sacrifice but an investment

Sacrifice is a tragic thing, but if you want to achieve a real sacrifice, you should not expect anything in return for it.If you are supporting your younger brother to go to college while expecting something in return from him someday, then the sacrifice is worthless when your younger brother turns out to be ungrateful when he becomes a prosecutor.You might say "I don't ask for anything in return," but that's definitely arrogance.Not everyone can make sacrifices without expecting anything in return.Even parents who love their children unconditionally hope to get something in return from their children. This is the real life.Since you are not Mother Teresa, you will regret it someday when your sacrifices are not rewarded.We have no way of verifying who, according to what regulations, emphasized that the virtue of women is unconditional sacrifice.Investing money in yourself, however, is a different story.Investing the money originally given to others in yourself will eventually bring double returns to yourself and the people around you, which is a good thing for each other.Even if others will say that you are a "selfish ghost", you have to invest in your own growth first.For example, choose not to use the first month’s salary to buy new clothes for parents, but make up your mind to enroll in the long-planned English course; instead of helping your boyfriend catch up with an important report, you must also attend the company’s learning seminar .Women who can make such self-interested choices will eventually be able to bring greater help to those around them.Don't forget that philanthropic people love themselves the most at all times.