Chapter 13 Chapter Twelve Tantra's Secret of Love and Liberation

Born in Bombay, India, March 28, 1973 first question: Regarding your description that tantra is a technique of love, please explain why modern men and women have become incapable of love. Love is spontaneous, it cannot be controlled, you cannot "do" love, you cannot do anything about it, the more you do it the more you miss it, you have to let it happen.For it, you are unnecessary, your "presence" is an obstacle, the less you are there, the better.When you are not, love happens, and because they cannot be "absent," modern men and women become incapable of loving.

They are capable of doing, and the whole modern mind is based on doing.Anything can be done, and modern man can do it more efficiently than anyone who has ever existed before.Anything can be done, we can do it more efficiently, we are now the most efficient century, we have turned everything into technology, it has become a question of how to "do it", we have developed a level, and that level is the level of "doing", but in the level of development, we lose a lot. In losing existence we learn how to do things, so that which can be done, we do better than anyone, better than any society that has ever existed on earth, but when love Things come and problems arise because love cannot be done, not only with love, we have become powerless against all that cannot be done.

Let's say meditation, we have become powerless to it, because it cannot be done; let's say play, we have become powerless to it, because it cannot be done; Powerless, because they cannot be done.They are not actions, you cannot manipulate them, on the contrary you have to let go of yourself, then joy happens to you, joy comes to you, love enters you, love takes possession of you, and yet, Because of this occupation, we become afraid. Modern man, modern mind wants to possess everything and not be possessed by anything.Modern man wants to be the master of everything.You can only be the master of things, not of things that happen, you can be the master of a house, you can be the master of a mechanism, but you cannot be the master of anything living, you cannot be life Master of it, you cannot possess it, on the contrary, you must be possessed by it, and only then can you have contact with it.

Love is life, it is greater than you, you cannot possess it, I want to repeat: love is greater than you, you cannot possess it, you can only allow yourself to be possessed by it, it cannot be controlled.The modern self wants to control everything, and you become afraid of anything you cannot control.Because you become afraid, you close the door; because fear enters, you close that level completely, you become uncontrollable, about love, you are uncontrollable, and how is the whole trend that has been led into this century Control, the whole world, especially in the West, the trend is: how to control nature, how to control everything, how to control energy.

One has to become the master, and you have become the master, of course you can only be the master of that which can be possessed, but in doing so you have been developing incapacity for that which cannot be possessed.You can possess money, but you cannot possess love, because then we have been transforming everything into things, you have even been transforming people into things, because then you can possess them.If you love someone, you are not the master. No one is the master. When two people love each other, neither is the master. Neither the lover nor the loved one is the master. On the contrary, love is the master. is the master, and both of them are possessed by a power greater than they, by a grosser power, surrounded by a whirlwind.If they try to possess each other, they will miss out.They can possess each other, and in doing so, the lover will become the husband, and the loved one will become the wife, and in doing so, they can possess, but the husband is a thing, and the wife is a thing, they are not people.You can possess them, they are dead entities, they are legal titles, they are not alive.

We have been turning people into things just to possess them, and then we feel frustrated because we want to possess that person, and that person cannot be possessed.When you possess a person, he is no longer a person, he becomes a dead thing, and you cannot be satisfied with a dead thing.Watch this contradiction: you can only be satisfied by people, you cannot be satisfied by things, but your mind wants to possess, so you transform them into things, then you cannot be satisfied, frustration intervenes. The attitude of possessing or not possessing kills the ability to love.Don't think in terms of possession, instead, think in terms of being possessed, that's what surrender means, surrender means being possessed, you allow yourself to be possessed by something greater than yourself, then you Will not be able to control, a greater power will take you away, then that direction is not yours, then you can not choose your goal, then the future is unknown, then you will not be safe, with someone who is better than you The Greater Power walks, and you are insecure and afraid.

If you are afraid and insecure, it is better not to go with the great power, just operate with a lower power than you, then you can be the master, you can predetermine the goal.You will achieve that goal, but you will not be able to get anything out of it, you will just waste your life. The secret of love, of prayer, of anything that can satisfy you is surrender—the ability to be possessed.The problem of love exists because of the absence of this faculty, and there are other reasons, but this is the basic reason.The first reason is too much focus on intellect, too much focus on reason, so people are biased, your head grows, but your heart is completely ignored.Love is not an intellectual faculty, it has a different center, it has a different place and source: it is in your heart.It's your feeling, it's not reasoning, but the whole modern education is made up of reasoning, logic, intellect and mind, the heart isn't even talked about, it's denied, in fact, people think it's just "a poetic fiction".

It is not!It is a real existence!Just look at it this way: If from the very beginning a child is brought up without any training of the mind or of reasoning, without any training of reason, will he be sane?He won't have it! It has happened that once in a while a child was brought up by wolves.Just ten years ago, a child was caught in the forest. The wolf brought him up. He was fourteen years old. He couldn't even stand on two feet. He had to walk on all fours. He couldn't say a word. he would howl like a wolf, he was a wolf in every way, and he was fourteen years old, and those who caught him called him "Nan Wu", and the kid spent six months time to learn the name, and within a year, the child died, and the psychologists who studied him suspected that his death was due to too much intellectual pressure, this compulsion, this making him stand on two feet The training, this memory training that made him remember his name, this effort that made him a human being, killed him.

When he was caught he was in great shape, healthier than anyone who had ever existed, he was like an animal, but the training killed him, they made a lot of effort to get him to Answer his name.When someone asks, "What's your name?" they expect him to answer, "Namo." After six months of continuous training, punishment, and motivation to create interest in him, and that's his whole reason.The only proof that the child could give of his sanity was that he could say "Namo".What exactly is going on?If a man from Mars could capture this child, he would think that humans have no brains, no reason, no rationality.

The same thing happens with the "mind", if there is no training it is as if it doesn't exist, it is completely neglected, your whole life energy is oppressed to the head and not towards the heart.However, love is the function of the "heart center", that's why modern man has become incapable of loving, modern man has become incapable of heart.He calculates, but love is not a calculation, he knows arithmetic, but love is not arithmetic, he thinks with logic, but love is illogical, he always tries to rationalize everything, anything he does Yes, reason must support it, and love is not supported by reason.

In fact, when you fall in love, you throw away your reason completely, that's why we say that one "falls" in love, and from where?Falling into the heart from the head, we use this word of condemnation - "falling into love" - ​​because the mind or the intellect cannot look at it without condemnation, it is a "falling in".Is love really a fall in?Or a rise, and when you have it, do you become more?Or become less?Are you expanding?Or shrink?With love, you become more!You are more conscious, you are more feeling, you are more ecstatic feeling, you are more sensitive, you become more alive, but there is one thing less: less reasoning.You cannot reason love out, it is blind, intellectually it is blind.It is another thing for the heart to have its own mind; it is another for the heart to have its own eyes.The eye of reason is not in love, so reason says, it is a "fall in", you "fall in". Unless the heart center is functioning again, man is incapable of loving, and the whole anguish of modern man's life is because he cannot feel any meaning in his life unless he is able to love.Life seems meaningless, but love gives it meaning, love is the only meaning, unless you have the ability to love, your life is meaningless, you will feel that your existence has no meaning, your existence is useless, Then suicide will become attractive, you will want to kill yourself, to end yourself, because what is the use of existing? Just to exist, this is unbearable, existence must have a meaning, otherwise what is the use?Why perpetuate yourself unnecessarily?Why keep repeating the same life forms every day?After getting up, do the same thing, and then go to bed, the next day is the same way, why? You've been doing this so far, what happened?Unless death comes and disarms your body, you will go on doing it, so what's the use?Love gives meaning.Not to say that through love there is any result or any purpose that will arise, no!Through love, every moment becomes valuable in itself, then you will not ask this question.If someone is asking what is the meaning of life, then you know he lacks love. Whenever someone asks what is the meaning of life, he is asking because he has not been able to flower in the experience of love.Whenever someone is immersed in love, he never asks what is the meaning of life, he already knows the meaning, so there is no need to ask, he knows the meaning!That meaning is there, love is the meaning of life. Through love, prayer becomes possible, because prayer is also a relationship of love, not between two individuals, but between one individual and the being itself, and then the whole being becomes Be what you love, or be your lover, but only through the experience of love can you grow to prayer and meditation, and the ultimate ecstasy is like love, that's why Jesus said, "God is love . . . ” instead of “God is loving.” Christians have always interpreted it this way: by saying that God is merciful and loving.The real meaning is not that.Jesus said, "God is love." He was just equating God and love.You can say "love", or you can say "God", they both mean the same thing.God is not loving, God is love itself.If you can love, you have entered divinity.When your love grows infinitely so that it does not concern anyone in particular, when it becomes a diffuse phenomenon, when you have no lover and the whole existence becomes the lover or what you love, then it becomes a prayer. Tantra is a method of love, so the first thing is how to love, and then the second thing is how to grow in love so that love can become prayer, but one has to start with love.Don't be afraid of love, because that fear shows that you are afraid of your heart.The mind is cunning, the heart is innocent, with the head you feel protected, with the heart you become vulnerable, you become open, anything can happen. That's why we become closed, because there is a fear that if you are vulnerable, anything can happen to you, someone can cheat you.With mind no one can deceive you, but you can deceive others.However, I tell you to be ready to be deceived and not close your heart, be ready to be deceived and not close your heart!That vulnerability to being deceived is valuable because through it you will lose nothing, and only then can you trust the Heart if you are ready to be deceived without limit.If you are calculating, cunning, clever, too clever, then you will miss the heart.Modern man has been so well educated, so experienced, so smart, so he has become incapable of loving. Women are not like this, but they follow modern people very fast, they copy modern people copy fast, sooner or later they will become like men, or they will even overtake men, now they also become incapable of love, Because they have the same mind tendencies, they are now trying to be cunning and smart as much, they may form a "women's liberation movement", or anything like that, but it's not heart-oriented, it's just Copying the same stupidity that men do to themselves all the time.You may go to the other extreme, but if you act out of a reaction, then even if you are reacting, you are following. There is a big crisis, right now, everywhere in the world it is very difficult to stop women copying a man and his absurdity, because the man seems to be so successful.In a way he is successful, he has become the master of things, he has taken possession of the whole world, and now he feels that he has conquered nature, and "success is success, nothing is as successful as success." Women feel that men have succeeded and become masters, so they have to copy them, but watch what a man has completely failed: he has lost his heart, he has not been able to love.Mind alone is not enough and mind to control is dangerous, the heart has to be higher than the mind because the mind is just a tool and the heart is you, the heart has to be allowed to use the mind and not the other way around, but you are always there Do: Let the head rule.Under its sway, the mind kills the heart. Third, why modern man has become incapable of loving, there is one more thing that must be remembered.Love is basically a madness, a deep engagement with nature, a dissolution of the ego, it's primordial.You are born of love, every cell in your body is a cell of love, your energy, the energy of your life is the energy of love, you exist in it, but in that energy there is no ego, you do not To be able to feel "I", that energy is unconscious.When you enter into love you become unconscious, only a part of your mind is conscious, and the ego exists in that part of the conscious mind. The mind has three layers, the first layer is the unconscious, when you are in deep sleep and there is no dream, you are in the unconscious.The child is completely unconscious in the mother's womb. He is only a part of the mother. The child is not aware and says, "I am separate." He is only a part of the mother. There is no separation and no definition between them. He is not differentiated from the mother, he is not differentiated from existence itself, he has no fear, because fear only arises when you are aware of yourself, the child is completely at ease, he is unconscious.The second layer is consciousness, that part is very small, through training, education, society, family, one tenth of the unconscious becomes conscious, which is needed for survival, so a part of you has become conscious, but That part gets tired very quickly, so you need sleep, and in sleep you become a child again in the womb, you have retreated, the consciousness is no longer there, it has become part of the unconscious, that's why Sleep is so refreshing.In the morning you feel alive and fresh again because you have withdrawn into the mother's womb. You may not have observed this, observe a person in deep sleep, he is more or less in the same position as he was in the mother's womb, and if you can be in the right position, you will fall asleep more easily.If you feel any difficulty falling asleep, just feel as if you are in your mother's womb, imagine it, adopt the position that you are in your mother's womb, when you use that position, you will be able to fall into deep sleep, you Need the same warmth, otherwise sleep will be disturbed, you need the same warmth as in the mother's womb. So, hot milk is good, if you drink a cup of hot milk before you go to sleep, it is good, because that will make you a child again.Milk is child food, if it is warm you are again on your mother's breast. Warm milk is good for sleep for this reason: you shrink back into a child when you are reduced to a child.Sleep makes you fresh, why?Because the conscious mind gets tired, it is only a part, and the whole part is unconscious, it has to fall back into the whole to be able to rejuvenate, to be alive again.That's why in the morning you feel good, in the morning you look beautiful, not only because the morning is beautiful, but also because you have a child's eyes again.The afternoon is not so beautiful; the world is the same, but you have lost those innocent eyes again, and the evening is ugly because you are tired. You live too much in consciousness, which is self-centered, and those are the two normal states we know.The third state is the superconsciousness that Tantra and Yoga worry about. "Superconsciousness" means that your whole unconscious becomes conscious, in the unconscious there is no ego, you are whole, in superconsciousness you also have no ego, you are whole, but in between, the conscious mind There is a center, and that center is the ego. The ego is the problem, the ego that creates the problem.You cannot fall into love, because to do so you have to become unconscious, as unconscious as if you were sleeping, or, if you want to rise to prayer (unity with the universe in silence), you have to Becoming fully conscious is like a Buddha or a Meera.It is for this reason that love becomes impossible, prayer becomes impossible. The ego creates that barrier, you cannot lose yourself, and love is lost, dispersed, dissolved or merged.If you merge into the unconscious it is love, if you merge into the superconscious it is prayer, but both are a dissolution.So what to do?Remember, you can't do anything about it.You need to understand deeply that you cannot do anything about love and prayer, your conscious mind is impotent, it cannot do anything, it has to be lost, it has to be put aside, and then remember to surrender.Whenever you want to go beyond yourself, surrender is the way, whether in love or in prayer. Whenever you desire to go far, where you have never been, then surrender and letting go is the way; let things happen to you, don't dominate, once you know how to make things happen, then there is Many things will start to happen.You may not even be aware of what is possible for you and how much energy you have locked inside yourself that can explode into ecstasy and your whole being will be filled with consciousness and light and joy, but you don't know It, it's as if every atom is an atomic bomb, and if an atom explodes, a lot of energy is released, and every heart is an atomic bomb, and if it explodes in love or prayer , a lot of energy will be released. But you have to explode and lose yourself. The seed has to lose itself. Only then will the tree be born. If the seed resists and says, "No, I must live." then the seed can live, but the tree will never be born. , unless the tree is born, the seed will be frustrated, because the tree is the meaning.Seeds will be frustrated!The seed can be satisfied only when the tree is in flower, but for that the seed has to lose itself, the seed has to die. Modern man has become incapable of loving, because he has become incapable of dying, he cannot die of anything, he is attached to life, he cannot die of anything. In ancient England, about three or four hundred years ago, it was a common expression: a lover would tell his loved one, "I will die in you." It was an expression of love, and it was very beautiful! "I am going to die in you." Love is a death, the death of the ego, and only then is your true self born; modern people are very, very afraid of death.In every way surrender is death, love is death, and life is a continuum of death, and if you are afraid you will miss life itself. Every moment prepare to die, to die in the past, to die in the future, to die in the present moment.Don't cling, don't resist, don't make any effort on life, you will have abundant life, if you are ready to die, life will happen to you, it sounds paradoxical, but it is law.Jesus said: The one who is ready to lose will gain, but the one who holds on will lose everything. second question: Last night you said that the surrounding part is always changing, but the innermost center is always the same. To understand that center, must the surrounding part cease its activity?Can it be stopped?How to stop?When can it stop? You miss the whole point, which is not to make any effort to change the surrounding parts.Let the surrounding part be what it is, you cannot change it, the nature of the surrounding part is to move and change, you cannot make it still.Nature is a flow, it is what it is, you cannot make it still, don't waste your time and the chance of your life trying to make it still, just know it is change, be the witness of it and you will feel the innermost movement center of change.The world is change, your personality is change, your body-mind is change, but you are not, you are not the change.What is the use of struggling with change?unnecessary! Tantra says: "Re-establish in your center, be aware of that unmoving center, and let the whole being move. It's not an interruption at all, only if you cling to it, or if you try to Make it immobile, and it becomes a distraction, then you fall into absurd and stupid endeavors, they will not succeed, you will be a loser, knowing clearly that life is a change, but in this Somewhere in the change there is also a center of immobility, just being aware of it, that awareness is enough to liberate you, that feeling of "I am immobile" will liberate you, that is the truth, once you know it , you are different. Don't fight the shadows!The whole life is a shadow, because change is only a shadow, and that which does not change is real, and that which changes is not real.So do not ask whether the surrounding changes and activities must be stopped in order to reach the center.No need, and you can't force it, it can't stop!The world goes on, but it doesn't go on in you, you can stay in the world, but the world doesn't need to be in you, the world doesn't bother, when you step into it, when you become the change, when you feel you become With that change, it creates problems. Problems are not created by the changed parts around them, they are created by identification with "I am the change".You are sick, being sick is not really a disturbance, when you feel "I am sick" it is a disturbance.If you can be the witness of the disease, if you can feel that the disease is happening somewhere in the surrounding part, not you; it is happening to someone else, and you are just a witness, then when When death happens, you can also just be a witness. Alexander the Great was coming back from India, and some friends asked him to bring a disciple from India, and they said, "When you bring back the spoils, don't forget: bring a disciple, too, and we want to see what a disciple is and where There is a type of man who renounces the world, and we want to know what it is like to be a man who renounces all desire, what joy there is in a man who renounces all hunger and longing for the future and for possessing things." At the very last moment Alexander remembered that in the last village, when he was leaving India and going back to his country, he told his soldiers to find a disciple, and they went to the town, and they asked one of the townsmen Old man, he said, "Yes, there was a disciple, a great disciple, but it was difficult, it was difficult to convince him to go to Athens with Alexander." But soldiers were soldiers, and they said, "You don't have to worry, we can force Anyone, just tell us where he is, we know how to force him, no need to persuade, if Alexander told the whole town to follow him, you must follow him, let alone only one disciple?" But the old man Laughed, the soldiers couldn't understand because they never touched the disciple, they went to the disciple and he was standing naked by the bank of the river, and they told him, "Alexander ordered that you must come with us, we will take care of you , it will not be inconvenient for you, you will be a guest of the royal family, but you must go to Athens with us." The disciple said with a smile: "It is very difficult for your Alexander to take me with him. , in this world, there is no power that can compel me to go with him, you cannot understand, but you had better bring your Alexander." Alexander felt uncomfortable, he felt insulted, but he wanted to see this man, and he came with a naked sword, and he said, "If you say no, I will kill you immediately, and I will cut you off head." The disciple's name was Dandami (according to Alexander's records), and he smiled and said, "You came a little late, now you can't kill me, because I have killed myself, you are late A little bit, you can cut off my head, but you cannot cut me off, because I have become a witness, so when the head falls on the ground, you will see it fall, and I will see it fall, But you can't cut me, you can't even touch me, so don't waste time, you can kill: raise your sword and cut off my head." Alexander couldn't kill that man, that's impossible, because it's useless, that man is so beyond death, it's impossible to kill him, only when you are attached to life, you can be killed, that's for change Attachment to form makes you mortal, and if you are not attached you are what you "always have been" -- immortal.Immortality is your birthright, and it has always been.You become mortal only when you are attached, so there is no problem, there is no need to force the part around that changes, to make it still, there is no need, and you cannot make it still, it Will go on, the wheel will go on, all you can do is to know that you are not the wheel.You are the axle of the wheel, not the wheel. Third question: As people are now, isn't it very difficult for them to be detached from attachment, without anxiety and disappointment, and to be able to deplete change through change, deplete sex through sex? As far as the person is now, he can do this, and this suggestion is also made according to the person's current state.Tantra is a prescription for you, for those who are sick, so don't think it's not for you, it's for you, and you can do it, but when you say When it is possible to get attached and then get frustrated results, you have to understand what you mean by what you say.You don't understand. "By changing, exhausting change" means: even if there is attachment, don't fight it, attachment lets it attach, and you just become a witness to it. Let that attachment be there, don't fight it, Tantra is a non-fighting process, don't fight!Frustration will come, of course, so let it be frustration, but be a witness.You are attached, and you are a witness.Now that frustration comes, and you know very well that it has to come, then let it be frustration, but be a witness, and then, through attachment, attachment is exhausted; through frustration, frustration is consumed. run out. When you feel pain, you try this, when you feel pain, you make it miserable, don't fight it, try it, it's great.When there is pain, when you feel pain, you close the door and let it suffer, what can you do?You are miserable, therefore you are miserable, then make it utterly miserable, and suddenly you will be aware of that misery.If you try to change it, you will never be able to become aware, because your effort, your energy, your consciousness is all towards change, towards how to change this pain, and then you start thinking about how it came about , and what to do now to change it, then you are missing a very beautiful experience - the pain itself. You will think about its cause, its result, you will think about how to forget it, how to go beyond it, then you will miss the pain itself, but the pain is still there, and that pain can be liberated.Don't do anything, don't analyze how the pain arises, don't think about what will happen.The results will come and you will see them later, there is no rush.Be miserable, just miserable, don't try to change it. Try to see how many minutes say you can sustain pain and you will start laughing at the whole thing, the whole thing will look stupid because if you are totally miserable, suddenly your center is beyond the pain, that center is forever No pain, that's impossible!If you stay with the pain, the pain becomes the background, and your center, which was never the pain, suddenly rises, then you are the pain and the non-pain: "the same is not the same", then you are living through the pain. To use up the pain, that is what it means to do nothing but to use up the pain through the pain.The pain will disappear like a cloud, the sky will open and you will laugh, you have done nothing, you cannot do anything, all you can do will create more chaos and more chaos pain. Who created this pain?It's you and you try to change it, it's going to get worse, you are the maker of the pain, you made it, you are the source, and the source itself is trying to change , what can you do?The patient is healing himself, he created the whole thing, and now he is thinking about surgery, which is self-destructive.Don't do anything, it's very deep inside, you try many times to stop suffering, stop depression, stop this, stop that, but nothing happens.Try it now: don't do anything, let the pain be there completely, let it happen completely intensely, and you remain inactive, just be with it, and see what happens. 生命就是改变，即使喜马拉雅山也在改变，所以你的痛苦不可能不变，它本身将会改变，而你将会看到它在改变、它在消失、它在走掉，你会觉得如释重担，而你什么事都没做。 一旦你知道了那个奥秘，你就能够透过它本身来耗尽任何东西，但是那个奥秘就是静静地，不要做任何事（无为）。愤怒在那里，所以就让它存在，只要存在，不要做任何事，如果你能够这样做，如果你能够无为，如果你能够只是存在——存在在现在、观照，但是不要作任何努力去改变任何东西——让事情按照它们自己的方式去发展，那么你将可以耗尽任何事，你能够耗尽任何事。 最后一个问题： 坦陀罗说：不要用力奋斗或游泳，只要放开来，在生命的河流里漂浮。但是根据经验显示，现代讲求速度和科技发达的城市生活产生出经常性的身体以及心理紧张和努力，对于这种现代的城市生活，坦陀罗的态度是怎么样？避免不必要的努力不好吗？ 人生一直都是如此，不管它是现代的或是原始的。紧张存在，焦虑也存在，客体会改变，但人还是保持一样，两千年以前你用牛车，现在你开汽车，但是那个驾驶者还是一样，牛车已经改变了，现在事情已经不一样，你开汽车，但是那个驾驶者还是一样。以前他担心他的牛车，对他的牛车紧张，而现在你担心你的车，对你的车紧张，客体改变了，但头脑还是保持一样。 所以不要以为是因为现代生活的缘故，你才变得焦虑。那是因为你，而不是因为现代生活，你在任何地方，在任何形态的文明之下都会焦虑。你到一个村庄去住几天，住两、三天，刚开始的时候你会觉得很好，因为即使是疾病也需要重新调整，在三天之内你就会去适应那个村庄，之后焦虑就会开始出现，烦恼就会再度被感觉到，现在那个原因是不一样了，但你是一样的。 有时候你可能会因为城市的交通和噪音而受到打扰，你或许会说：因为有太多的交通和噪音而晚上睡不着。然后你去到一个村庄，你将会因为那里没有交通、没有噪音而睡不着，但是你将必须回来，因为村庄看起来是死的、无趣的、没有生命的。 人们一直在跟我讲这样的感觉，我叫一个朋友去卡希米尔，去帕阿尔贡，他回来说在那里生活很无趣，说那里没有生命。你可以享受那些山丘和山谷一两天，然后你就会无聊，他一直来这里告诉我说城市生活使他紧张，而现在他说那些小山变得很无聊，因此他开始想回家。 问题出在你身上，卡希米尔将不会有任何帮助。并不是孟买、伦敦、或纽约打扰你，那是你！并不是伦敦创造了你，而是你创造了伦敦。问题不在于交通、噪音、疯狂的匆忙，这些是你创造出来的，是你和其他像你的人创造出来的。Look!那个原因在你里面。并不是因为噪音你才变得紧张，噪音之所以存在是因为你是紧张的，而你没有噪音就活不下去，所以它会在那里，你需要它，你不能够没有它而过活。在村庄里，人们在受苦，他们想要去孟买、纽约或伦敦，但是一旦他们有了机会，他们就逃开了，我听一些人一直在谈论优美的乡村生活，但是他们从来不去生活在那里。他们从来不去生活在那里，他们只是谈论它。 是谁阻止你？为什么你不去？到森林去，是谁阻止你去？你将不会喜欢它，你无法喜欢它，目前你会喜欢它几天，因为那是一个改变，然后呢？然后你将会觉得无聊，你会发现它很无趣，你会想逃离那个地方。 城市生活是由你疯狂的头脑所创造出来的，并不是因为这些城市你才变得疯狂，这些城市是由你疯狂的头脑所创造出来的，它们是为你创造出来的，它们是为你而存在的。否则这些城市将无法消失，它们必须保持，它们是你的副产品。记住一件事：每当你觉得某件事是错的，首先在你自己里面找出那个原因，不要到任何地方去找，一百次里面有九十九次，你会在你自己里面找到那个原因，而如果你在你里面找到那个原因，一百次里面有九十九次，那第一百个原因将会自己消失。 你是任何发生在你自己身上事情的原因，你就是那个原因，而世界只是一面镜子，但是在其他地方找到原因总是比较安慰的，因为，如此一来你就不会觉得罪恶感，你就不会觉得自我谴责。你总是可以指出说原因在这里，而除非这个原因改变，"我怎么能够改变？"你可以藉着这种说法来逃避，这是一个诡计，所以你的头脑总是继续将原因投射到其他某一个地方。太太是因为先生而烦恼，母亲是因为小孩子而烦恼，小孩子是因为父亲而烦恼，每一个人都是因为其他某人而烦恼，而每一个人都一直认为那个原因存在于外面。 木拉那斯鲁丁经过一条街，时间已经是傍晚了，黑幕正在低垂，突然间他觉知到那条街道是空的，没有交通，因此他变得害怕，有一群人向他走来，而他正在阅读关于土匪、强盗、谋杀者的书，所以他心生恐惧，他开始颤抖，他思考，他投射说现在这些谋杀者和土匪正在来临，而他们一定会杀死他，所以，要如何逃开他们？他向四周望了一下。 那里有一块墓地，所以他跳过那块墓地的墙，那里有一座已经做好的坟墓，所以他想，在坟墓里面装死一定会比较好，他们会觉得他已经死了，所以不需要再杀他。 所以木拉躺下来。那一群人只是一个结婚的行列，但是他们看到这个人在颤抖和害怕，所以他们也变得害怕而怀疑到底是怎么一回事，这个人到底是谁？他们想："他似乎做了什么亏心事而躲在这里。"所以整个行列都停下来，他们跳过那道墙，木拉变得更害怕，他们走近，然后问他："你在这里干什么？你为什么躺在坟墓里？"木拉说："你在问一个很困难的问题，我在这里是因为你们，而你们在这里是因为我。" 这种事到处都在发生，你的烦恼是因为其他某一个人，而他的烦恼是因为你，周围的每一样东西都是你创造出来的，都是你投射的，然后你变得害怕、惊吓，而且努力去防卫，然后就产生痛苦、挫折、冲突、沮丧和抗争。 整个事情都是愚蠢的，而它将会保持这样，除非你改变你的态度。首先，一定要在你里面找到原因。交通的噪音怎么能够打扰你？它怎么能够？如果你反对它，它将会打扰。如果你的态度认为它会打扰，它就会打扰，但是如果你接受它，如果你让它发生而不要有任何反应，那么你或许甚至可以开始享受它，它有它自己的调子、自己的音乐，你从来没有听过它，但是那并不意味着它没有它自己的音乐。哪一天，忘掉你自己，然后注意听交通的噪音，只要注重听，不要带进你的态度说这是打扰的、这是不好的。不要带进你的态度！只要注意听那个调子！在开始的时候，它将会听起来很混乱，那是因为头脑的缘故，如果你完全放松，迟早每一样东西都会进入和谐的整体，即使是交通的噪音也会变成音乐，你可以享受它，你可以按照它的调子来跳舞，它依你而定。 除非你认为什么东西会打扰，否则没有什么东西会打扰。比方说，有很多事情扰乱着人类，因为我们的观念说它们会打扰。当观念改变，事情还是保持一样，但是它们就变得不会打扰。比方说，手淫扰乱了整个世界，就在半个世纪以前，整个世界都被手淫所打扰，每一个老师、每一个父亲、每一个母亲、每一个小孩子，都受到打扰，在广大无知的世界里，那个打犹还是存在，然后生理学家和心理学家发现手淫不会扰乱任何人，它是自然的，它没有什么不对，它绝对没有什么不对，但是古老的教导说：如果你发疯，那是因为手淫的缘故。 每一件事都被压下来，都被说成手淫，而每一个小孩多多少少都有在做它，每一个男孩都有在做它，所以每一个男孩都会害怕，他在做它，而他害怕，如此一来他会发疯，他会变得较差，他会变得古怪，他会生病，而他的生命就会被浪费掉，但是他不能够抗拒，他必须去做它。这些观念进入头脑而产生效应，它们影响他，因为这样，有很多人发疯，有很多人保持比较差，有很多人保持愚蠢，而它根本没有什么关系。 现代的科学、现代的研究说它是健康的，医学说那是好的，因为男孩在十三、四岁，或是女孩在十二、三岁时就变得性成熟，如果他们的本性被允许的话，他们就必须马上结婚，他们已经准备好要生育，然而文明的需要强迫他们要保持不结婚至少十年或更多，但是医学说，从十四岁到二十岁，这六年是性欲最强的，男孩的性欲永远不会再像这六年当中那么强，他的能量在沸腾，整个身体都准备要爆炸而进入性，但是社会说不，不应该允许能量移动，然而，能量在移动，而小孩子毫无办法。因为有那个哲学围绕着他，所以任何他所做的事都会受到影响，他会觉得他在做错事，他会觉得罪恶感，而那个罪恶感将会像影子一样地跟随着，有很多疾病会因为那个观念而发生，而不是因为那个行为而发生。 医学说那是健康的，因为它解除了不必要的能量，如果不这样的话，那个不必要的能量会产生问题，所以它是健康的。现在，那些非常了解生理学的国家，尤其是美国、英国和其他高度发展的西方国家，他们在倡导手淫，现在有教小孩子的影片，告诉他们如何手淫，而每一位老师迟早都会教导如何正确地手淫，他们说它是健康的，而那些认为它是健康的人，他们对它就会觉得很健康。 我不认为它健康，也不认为它不健康，这是观念问题。如果它是健康的，而这个观念被延伸开来，那么它就变成健康的，现在，在西方，他们不但说手淫从来不会对任何人的智力产生不良的影响，反而是智力比较好的人才更会手淫，他们这样说是有理由的，因为即使一个男孩发现手淫也是一个聪明的象征：他找出一个方法。 社会关闭了结婚之门，而自然却把能量逼出来，聪明的人会找出一个方法，而不聪明的人会被堵塞，他找不出方法。现在，根据报告显示，那些手淫的男孩更聪明，如果这个观念被散播开来——这个观念一定会存在，迟早整个世界都会有这个观念，那么手淫将会是健康的，而你将会从手淫得到一种舒服安宁的感觉。 现在，每一个父母亲都害怕，因为他们知道他们年轻的时候做了些什么，当他的小孩到了同样的年纪，他就变得害怕，他开始向四处看，看看他的小孩在做什么，他会害怕，如果他抓到小孩在手淫，他就会惩罚他，但是新的知识说不要惩罚小孩子，不！相反地，要去教他，如果他不手淫，那么要去找医生看看有没有什么不对，如果这种知识被广为散播，那么这种事就会发生。 但这两者都是意见（与实质有别），两者都是意见：当小孩手淫的时候，他在那个片刻是很容易接受暗示的，因为当性能量被释放出来，他就变得很脆弱、心灵敞开、很有弹性，而他的头脑是宁静的，任何观念在那个片刻被放进去都会有它的影响，所以如果你告诉他："你将会因为它而生病。"那么他就会觉得生病了。如果你告诉他："你将会因为它而健康。"那么他就会变健康。如果你告诉他："如果你这样做，那么你一生都会变愚笨。"那么他将会保持是一个愚笨的人。如果你说："这是一个很好的、聪明的象征。"那么他或许会发展出一个较高的智商，你只是在一个非常脆弱的片刻把某一件事建议给他，然后任何你所想的就开始发生。 据说，佛陀曾经说过：每一个思想都会变成实际的，所以要觉知。如果你认为交通的噪音会打扰你，那么它就会打扰你，因为你准备被打扰。如果你认为家庭生活是一个枷锁，那么它对你就会成为一个枷锁，因为是你准备好要这样。如果你认为贫穷将会帮助你解放，那么它将会帮助。最终而言，是你在创造你周围的世界，任何你所想的都会变成你周围的生物圈，变成那个气氛，而你就存在于它里面。 坦陀罗说，要记住这个因果关系，它一直都在你里面，如果你知道这个，那么你就不会引起任何东西，如果你知道这个，你就不会为你自己引起任何东西，当某人没有引起任何东西，他就解放了，那么他也不会痛苦，也不会喜乐。喜乐是你创造出来的，痛苦也是你创造出来的，你可以把你的痛苦改变成喜乐，因为它是你的创造。 解放的人或成道的人既不会痛苦，也不会喜乐，因为他已经停止在他的周围引起任何东西，他只是存在！那就是为什么佛陀从来不说成道的人是喜乐的。每当有人问他："告诉我们一些关于超越之人的事情，他是否处于完美的喜乐之中？"佛陀的就笑着说："不要问，我只能说他不会痛苦，我不能够说更多。他不会痛苦，这就是我所能说的。" 为什么要那么坚持在那个负面的？因为佛陀知道。当你知道你是你痛苦的起因，那么你也会知道，喜乐也是由你引起的，那么一个人就会停止去引起任何东西，那就是涅槃。停止在你周围引起任何东西，那么你就只是存在，没有痛苦，也没有快乐。如果你能够了解，唯有如此才是喜乐。没有痛苦，也没有喜乐，因为如果有喜乐，那么就一定有痛苦——你仍然在引起某些事情。如果你能够引起喜乐，那么你就能够引起痛苦，而你也将会对喜乐感到无聊。 你能够忍受多久？你曾经想过吗？二十四小时都处于喜乐之中，你能够忍受吗？你会去找能够教你再度变痛苦的老师。如果世界变成喜乐的，我无法想象不会有任何老师，将会有很多老师，因为这样的话，人们将需要痛苦，将需要某人来告诉他们要如何再度变痛苦，为了要换换口味。痛苦之后再回到喜乐，那么你对喜乐就会感觉更多，因为唯有如此，你才能够对它感觉更多，唯有当你失去它的时候，你才能够对它感觉更多。 老师将会存在！现在他们在教如何变得喜乐，然后他们将要教如何变痛苦，如何尝到地狱的滋味，有一些改变是有帮助的、健康的。 你就是那个起因，当你知道你生活在里面的世界是由你引起的，你就成道了，那么你就不会引起它，它就消失了。交通将会继续、噪音将会存在、每一样东西都会按照它现在的样子存在，但是你将不会在那里，因为你将会跟起因一起消失。