Chapter 13 eleventh morning

May 20, 1974 you are the meeting point Beloved Master, when we sit in front of you, listen to your sermons, feel your presence, everything seems possible, but when we go back to our daily situations, things don't seem so clear, We feel as though we have lost touch with you. You told us that we should not abandon the world and be very meditative in it, you also told us that we should be spontaneous, that we should be crazy, how do we integrate the two without Alienated from family, friends and society around you? Once you think in terms of two contradictions, and how to bring the signs into harmony, you will always have difficulties, then everything will be a compromise.In terms of compromise, no one is ever satisfied, there is always a lack of something or a lack of something.If you do this, there is something that must be lost on the other end; if you do that, then there is something that must be lost on this end, and those things that you lost will continue to circle your mind, and it will forever Neither will make you happy.

So the first thing is: never think in terms of compromise, but if you think in terms of contradictions and how to harmonize them, you will definitely think in terms of compromise, so what advice can I give you? The first thing is: always integrate within, don't think about any integration without, because you are the meeting point.When you are alone, you sit silently, in life you have to be active, you have to be involved.Stillness and involvement are polar opposites, but they meet within you.You are silent and you are involved. If you are integrated, your stillness and your involvement will be integrated.Your aloneness and you with your wife, or your husband, or your friends are two contradictory things, but you are in both.If you're integrated, you're happy alone. If you're integrated, you're happy with someone else. Happiness is your quality. Happiness doesn't depend on being alone, or being with someone else. Together, if it has to depend, then there is a problem.

If you feel that you are happy when you are alone, and your happiness depends on your aloneness, then there will be difficulties, then aloneness is necessary, then when you are with other people, you will feel uncomfortable. If you are happy, then you start thinking about how to bring these two opposite extremes together harmoniously.The problem arises because your happiness depends on your aloneness.Don't be dependent. Be happy when you are alone, let happiness be your quality, when you change from being alone to involvement, to escapism and relationship, then you still need to carry that happy quality when you are alone, carry that quality .

In the beginning it will be difficult because you will almost always forget, it will be difficult because you will forget, because you are not constantly aware, but gradually you will be able to bring that quality with you when you Living with others, you can still be as alone as when you are alone, and you remain an integrated soul.When you are doing nothing, you feel happy, at ease, and this ease has to become a quality of you, not a quality of inactivity. Bring this quality into the activity and there will be no problem.At first there will be difficulties, but the point is to remember that your happiness, your bliss, your ecstasy should not depend on any external conditions.If it were so, then there would be a contradiction.Because, with your life now, it's always been dependent, people feel... when they're with their friends, they're happy, and then when they're alone, they're bored, they're miserable, they need somebody else.

These are extroverts, this is one type, the other type is the introvert, whenever he is alone, he feels happy, whenever he is with other people, unhappiness enters, these two People are in chains of their type, type is chains, you must be free from type, you must be neither extrovert, introvert, or both, if you are both, then you are down bound by type. So what to do?Never be fixed in one situation, always go to the opposite extreme, but with that quality, go as far as possible from one extreme to the other, and with that quality, you will soon learn that that quality can be Take anywhere.

Then it is impossible for you to be sent to hell, because even if you are sent to hell, you will go there with your happiness, then you will never be afraid. Religious people are afraid of hell, they are always longing and looking for heaven, these people are not religious at all, because both heaven and hell are external conditions, they are not your qualities.These are worldly people, that's what worldly people are doing, saying: If this condition is fulfilled then I will be happy.So happiness must depend on external conditions; if the palace is there, then I will be happy; if there is a lot of money in the bank, then I will be happy; if I have a beautiful wife, then I will be happy; Such a caring husband, then I will be happy.You are happy only when something outside is fulfilled; you say: if this is not fulfilled then I am not happy.

This is the case of the so-called non-religious people, and the so-called religious people have been seeking heaven and avoiding hell, and they do the same thing! For you, that norm has to be, go as far as possible to the opposite extreme, try to keep the integration within you. Sit quietly and feel to see what is the quality within and then go into action with that quality kept within, it will often be lost, but don't worry, even just once, you can bring it into the opposite Pole, you also become its master, then you already know its knack. So sometimes you go to the mountains and they are beautiful, and then you go back to the world and it is also beautiful.If mountains are beautiful, why aren't people beautiful?They are also "mountains" presented in their own way.Sometimes alone, sometimes with others, if you are alert, then not only will there be no conflict, but there will be help from the opposite extreme.

If you can go into society with the quality of happiness that comes from being alone, suddenly you become aware that there is a new phenomenon, something new happening in you, and that is: society helps you to be alone, and that aloneness helps you to be deeply Connect deeply with people. A man who has never lived alone cannot know the beauty of relationship, I say he cannot know, because he has never been alone.He is never alone, so how can he know the beauty of relationship? And a man who has never lived in society cannot know ecstasy alone.A man born in a lonely place, a man brought up in a lonely place, do you think he would be ecstatic?Do you think he enjoys being alone?He'll just become very lifeless and dull.

Go to the mountains, go to the Himalayas, people live there, they have lived there for thousands of years, they were born there, but they don't feel as much beauty as you feel about the Himalayas, they don't enjoy You have such a good silence there, they are not even aware of that silence.When they go to the city, they will feel a kind of excitement, just like when you go to the mountains, you will also feel the excitement. People who live in Mumbai, London and New York, when they go to the Himalayas, they will feel excitement, And people who live in the Himalayas, when they come to Mumbai, London or New York, they feel how beautiful the world is.

To feel requires the presence of the opposite, for it can become a contrast.The day is beautiful because there is night; life has so much joy because there is death; love becomes an inner dance because there is hate. Love guides you to a peak of consciousness, for love can be lost!It's not something you can rely on.One moment it was there, the next moment it might not be, and the possibility of its absence gives its "being" a depth. When there is noise in the background, that stillness becomes more peaceful.Just a few moments ago, a plane passed by, and you can look at it in two ways: if you are an inner disturbed person, you will feel that it disturbs the stillness; if you are integrated inside, the The noise of the plane will deepen the silence here. That noise becomes a background. It gives the silence a shape or form. Certainly.

Always remember: don't depend on things, situations or conditions, then you can move, don't avoid moving, otherwise you will be fixed.Everyone is afraid to move because you are dependent.You cannot come out of your mountain or your solitude to the market because you know you will be disturbed. What kind of tranquility is this kind of tranquility that can be disturbed by the market?What is it worth?If the market can destroy it, if the world can destroy it, if the ordinary world can destroy it, then your silence is very impotent, if your silence is really powerful, if you have achieved it then there is nothing able to destroy it. With stillness it is not difficult to understand what I am talking about, that is my attitude towards every area of ​​life.If you're a real abstinent, you can get into sex and it won't destroy your abstinence, which is hard to follow.Sex is of little value if it disturbs your abstinence, you still have that quality in you! If you are really alive and full of energy, you can die happily, only the weak will die unhappy, because they have never lived, they have never tasted the ups and downs of life, they have always hoped, hoped, and Hope, but life has never happened to them, that's why they are afraid of death. A man who has lived fully is always ready to go, a man who has really lived is every moment ready to accept death. "Accept" is not a good word, it is better to say "welcome death" - accept it happily, happily, then death is an adventure.If you really live, as it should be, then death is not an enemy but a friend.The deeper life allows death, the superficial life avoids it, and this is true in every area of ​​life. If you know what friendship is, you will not be afraid of enemies, you certainly will not!Then the enemy has its own beauty, it is also a friendship - only at the opposite end, it is an event of love at the opposite end, it is an involvement, a commitment.If you know friendship, you will love enemies. That's what Jesus meant when he said, "Love your enemies."The meaning of this statement is not what Christians have interpreted it for centuries.You cannot love your enemy!How can you love your enemy, but I tell you this: if you really love your friend, you will love your enemy, because once you know the beauty of friendship, you will also know the beauty of enmity, and it's the other way around friendship, both of which can give you something, both of which can enrich your life. Opposites are not really opposites, deep down they have a great harmony, they are two parts of the same whole, this is what the Chinese call Yin and Yang, they are the same Part of the activity, they are part of the same wheel, they are not unrelated two.They look like "two" because we didn't look in depth.Because of our superficial vision and our impenetrable minds, which have only superficial consciousness, they appear to be opposites, which they are not otherwise. Life and death are friends, they exist through each other, each contributes to the other, without the other they would not exist at all.Can life exist without death?Man has been dreaming how to destroy death, this is the attitude of the mind, this is the linear mind, the logical mind - how to destroy death.Because the logical mind says: If there is no death, life will be abundant. This is very simple logic. Even a child can understand that arithmetic: If there is no death, there will be more life. But I tell you this: without death, there would be no life. That's why simple logic is always wrong.On the surface it seems right: if there are no enemies, the whole world will be your friend; you are wrong.There can be no friendship without enemies.Logic says: If there is no hate, if there is only love all the time, then there will be more love, so logicians have been trying to destroy the opposite pole, they cannot destroy it, because life is more important than any logic Big.They are lucky that they cannot destroy the opposite pole -- they don't know what they are doing.If the opposite pole doesn't exist, then don't go on believing that life will be more, love will be more, friendship will be more, joy will be more, no, that's impossible because it's based on has been destroyed. The point of view of the mutual operation of positive and negative poles puts forward completely opposite arguments, and this view of the interactive operation of positive and negative poles is more real for life.The polar opposite view says: If you want more life, then you have to prepare more for death. You may not be aware of it, but such things happen.When you are driving a car, the speed of the car is getting faster and faster, you are more focused on the speed, a moment will come, death can happen at any time, then you become alive, then the flame of life burns very Fast, strong, that's why speed has so much attraction and magnetism, because speed brings you closer to death, and as you get closer to death, life becomes more, it grows in the same proportion of.That's why war has so much attraction, because in war death is always close to you. You might think that soldiers fighting on the battlefield must be in pain, you are wrong, if so, no one would want to fight, they are not in pain, the real situation is just the opposite: when they return to the ordinary world will be painful.When they are in the field, fighting at the front, they are not in pain, all pain is gone.They are so close to death that they feel for the first time that they are alive.As they get closer to death, their livingness becomes more apparent.When there are explosions all around, shell casings flying here and there, any moment they may die like this, at that moment, they will feel a kind of ecstasy, they have touched life deeply. When death kisses you, it is also a kiss of life, and that is why there is so much appeal to adventure and courage. If you are afraid, you cannot have life.I will tell you that meditation is the greatest courage and the greatest adventure, because even on the battlefield you are not so close to death.Even if you feel that you are approaching death, it is only the death of the body, the death of the body means the death of the surface, the death of the shell or the body, it is your house that is approaching death, not you are approaching death, it is your shelter that is going to To be destroyed, not you to be destroyed, but in meditation you are to be destroyed, not only the shelter is to be destroyed, but the owner is to be destroyed, not only the house is to be destroyed, but the owner is to be destroyed, It is the ego to be destroyed, so the greatest fighters are always interested in meditation. I want to tell you a phenomenon, it happened in India, it also happened in Japan, and it will happen in any country where warriors are born in the future. In India all great meditators are warriors and not Brahmins, it seems strange that Brahmins are supposed to be great meditators, they write articles all the time commenting on Upanishad, Gita and Vedas , they even created metaphysics, they are the greatest metaphysicians in the world, in terms of language expression, in terms of logic, nowhere else in the world can anyone compare with Brahmins, they are very subtle, but they Not great meditators. Buddha was a great meditator, he was a warrior; Mahavira was a great meditator, he was a warrior, not a Brahman, it seems strange that all 24 Jain gurus were warriors, Why? In Japan there were samurai, they were fighters, they were the greatest fighters that ever existed in the world.The samurai was the pinnacle of the warrior, the ultimate possibility of the warrior.Every moment, the samurai is ready to die, and he is also ready to die for a very trivial matter, which you cannot imagine. I have heard a historical fact, it happened 300 years ago.There was a samurai, a great warrior, and he was so drunk, and suddenly the king wanted to summon him, so he went, and he tried to stay alert, but he was so drunk that he forgot some little etiquette— —How much should the body bend down when bowing to the king—Of course, he also bowed, but the angle was not very accurate. When he regained consciousness the next morning, he committed suicide immediately.You must have heard the word "seppuku". Seppuku is exclusive to Japanese samurai, as soon as they sense something is wrong...it's just a common courtesy, and the king didn't say anything.The warrior was so great that the king didn't even have to mention it, and he killed himself.The next day, when the king knew that the warrior had committed suicide, he shed tears. That samurai had 300 disciples and they also killed themselves immediately because if the master made a mistake the disciples should follow. You will be amazed, it seems unbelievable, for 100 years, this thing is going on, this little thing - there are more disciples, disciples of disciples, because once the master...samurai Going drunk to the king and doing wrong has never been heard since.For such a trivial matter!Dying seems so easy, it can be done anytime! These warriors created Zen, the greatest tradition of Zen in the world, these warriors went very deep into meditation. It is my feeling that unless you are ready to die you are not ready to meditate.On a deep level, war and meditation are synonymous, and whenever there is a possibility that you are going to be destroyed, in that moment the flame of your life burns completely, and that total intensity happens in you. body. The opposite poles are already meeting, you don't need to try to make them meet, you don't need to try to synthesize them, they are already meeting, they are already in a deep harmony, but "you" are not To be in harmony, that is the problem. So when you are healthy, you have a sense of well-being, and bring that sense of well-being to a situation where you are sick or unhealthy.I want to tell you that that sense of well-being does not depend on health, that sense of well-being is an inner feeling, it does not depend on the body, even when you are sick, you can carry it. Raman Maharishi was dying, he had cancer - throat cancer, he could hardly talk, he could hardly eat, but those around him on the last day were amazed, he was so happy, he His eyes were filled with a kind of subtle happiness, his physical condition was already very bad, his whole body was like a ruin, but Raman himself was not the same, he was as healthy as before. Once a master was dying, he was very old, almost 100 years old, and the disciples were there, they couldn't cry because he was laughing, they couldn't cry because it looked ridiculous, the man was so happy, Filled with joy, like a little child enjoying his last breath, only after his death can they cry. Someone asked: Why didn't you cry when he was alive?They said: It seemed very absurd, looking at his face, looking into his eyes, it looked as if he was about to enter a higher realm of being, as if death was just the door to the divinity, as if he was not about to die, but to be regenerated.He is not an old man, if you look into his eyes, he is a child, only his body is old. That happiness can be carried, even when you are very sick, you can maintain the inner happiness; another situation is what you know: even when you are perfectly healthy, you can feel unhappy, this is what you know!So this is also possible: when you are perfectly healthy but you feel miserable, when you are young and alive but inside you seem to be dying.The whole life seems like a heavy burden to you, a dead weight on you. You live, because you cannot not live, what can you do?You are alive, you are aware that you are alive, so you go on living, but life is not an ecstatic phenomenon for you, you are not joyful in it, you are not celebrating it. Such a great blessing! ——It was able to live.It would be wonderful to be alive and aware even for a moment, to live so long, so many lives...but you don't give thanks, because unless you celebrate, how can you feel anything Appreciation or any thanks? You are utterly young, utterly alive.But within there is pain, and in dying, a man who knows will carry bliss, and the laughter will come from within him, from the very core of his being. Don't try to synthesize the opposite extremes of life, just integrate within.When I say 'just integrate within', my opinion is that whatever you feel alone, bring it to the market, whatever you feel in meditation, bring it into love Inside, because in love the other is there, and in meditation you are alone. Sooner or later those things will settle by themselves, you don't have to settle them, you just settle yourself.Settle yourself down and things will arrange themselves, they will always be arranged, they will always follow you.Once you are settled, the whole world will be settled; once you are in harmony, the whole world will be in harmony; once inner harmony is achieved, there will be no dissonance in the outer world. What I want to emphasize, what I absolutely want to emphasize, is this: you settle down, don't try to find any harmony in opposite extremes, you will never find it.If you try too much, you will be disturbed more and more because it is impossible! Another thing you asked about is: when you are with me, you feel a sense of well-being, you feel a sense of peace, you feel that everything is possible.That can also become a dependency, and then when you're not with me, things seem less likely, things don't seem to be in harmony, and you feel confused. When you are with me you feel peace because you are less, when you are with me, sit with me, there are moments when you become selfless, there are moments when you are not there, you are just With me, that barrier is broken, that wall disappears, and in that moment, I flow into you and everything seems possible. When you come home, when you leave me, your walls build up again, you are there, then things are not so beautiful, so try to understand what is going on, and when you leave me, take with it. In the end what happened?When everything seems possible, even ultimate enlightenment, what happens? —You are not there, everything is possible without you, everything is impossible with you, you are the problem. Listen to me, you will forget, if you forget, you are not there, because your presence or your ego is just a psychological phenomenon, you have to create it every moment, like you are riding a bicycle, you You have to keep pedaling, and if you stop for a moment, the wheels stop.There is a momentum, a little momentum, the bike stops after a few yards, if you want the wheel to keep turning, you have to keep pedaling, it's an ongoing process, the wheel doesn't turn forever, It has to be created every moment, the ego has to be stepped on every moment -- you are stepping on it. When you're here, that step stops, you're more concerned about me, your whole focus and attention shifts. It's like a kid riding a bicycle, he's curious about everything, and he sees a tree with hundreds of parrots chattering in there, and he falls off the bicycle because his attention is distracted , he stops pedaling, he forgets that he is on a bike and has to keep pedaling. There is one reason a child finds it difficult to ride a bicycle when he first learns to ride a bicycle—because he is curious about everything.No country gives driving licenses to little kids because they are so curious, they forget, they can turn their attention elsewhere at any time, they forget they are driving, they forget they have a dangerous tool In their hands, it could endanger the lives of others.Their focus is off, their awareness is in flux. When you are here, you are very concerned about me, you are very involved in me, so you forget to go on, there are moments when you completely forget about yourself, and peace comes to you, and there is a joy that arises, every time Everything seems possible, everything is possible only to God, nothing is impossible to God, and in that moment, you become like God. When you step away from me, you step back, your mind starts to think, you start pedaling, you pedal more, because you have to compensate, there are moments when you don't pedal your bicycle, so to compensate, you just Step on more, the strong ego comes back up again, and you lose touch with yourself. With me, what's really happening is that you're more in touch with yourself, the ego doesn't exist, you're deeply in touch with yourself, your inner wellspring is flowing, it's always available, there's no blockage of energy, but when You leave me and all the obstacles come back, the old habits come back, and then things don't seem to be going so well, and then the whole phenomenon of being with me seems like a dream, you can't believe it, it It seems like a miracle, you think maybe I'm doing something, but I'm not doing anything, nobody can do anything to you, it happened because you made it happen. When you leave me, take this feeling with you, whatever you feel here, you take it with you, then you need me less and less, or I may become a kind of Drugs, you wake up every morning and start craving for me, then you're ready to come to me again, have a deep urge, then I might turn into a drug!Then you become more and more dependent on me, that is not the way to reach satori, samadhi or enlightenment, that is not the right way. If you become dependent on me, I become a drug, then I am harmful, but you have made me a drug. When you are with me, near me, or in my presence, whatever you feel, carry it with you, you have to come to a point, whether you are with me or not, you keep the same, then I am a help, not a chain, then I am a liberty to you, I must be a liberty to you, when I say I must be a liberty to you, it means you There has to be a point where you don't need me. If it's a constant dependency, you're not free, it's not a help, it's just delaying things.A true master will always make his disciples not need him, that is the goal! come to me, leave me, but with that feeling inside you, you stay the same, go into opposite poles, but you stay the same forever, then everything is possible because you are all energy source of. You have within you the source of all life, and everything that happens in life happens from the same source, you happen from that source, you are deeply connected to it, you are one with it, if little Birds can sing with joy, and so can you, because the same source that provides their joy and singing is also available to you at all times, but somehow you have created some obstacles.If the trees are so green, so free, so free of worries, you can be like them too, because the sap that comes to the trees also comes to you. You may forget it, but it is there. Everything that is happening in your life, everything that is happening around you, and all the mysteries, is your heritage and you are going to take it back.It's next to you, it's lying there, and you go on begging.The whole empire is there, the whole empire is lying there, and you've been begging to get it back! That's how it can be brought back: when you go to the opposite extreme, be the same, and that's what Krishna says in the Gita: In pain or pleasure, be the same; In failure, remain the same, whatever happens, let it happen, but you remain the same, and the same will give you wholeness. You also asked one more thing: You mentioned that I told you to live in the world and not to abandon it, but to be completely mad and ecstatic, it seems difficult, because then how can you be normal To live in the world, in relationship to people?Yes, I told you so. One thing: To me it is ugly to abandon the world, because it seems to be abandoning the gift that God has given.Life was not created by you, your existence is not due to your choice, it is a gift!Abandoning it is against God, all abandonment is against God, it is saying no to God. That's why those who renounce become more egoistic.When you renounce the moment, you are saying: I am wiser than life, I am wiser than the divine fountain from which all things flow; when you renounce, you are saying: I choose; when you In renunciation, you are using your will - the will to create the ego. When I say don't renounce, I'm saying: don't be a will, don't be a chooser, whatever happens doesn't happen because of you, so who are you, choose this or that ?How can you make it happen?Let it happen and don't be bothered by it. Abandonment is just an escape, because you are hurt, because you are disturbed, so you renounce, you renounce the situation, you don't renounce the attitude that hurts, you don't renounce the heart with a lot of wounds, you You have not dropped the heart which anyone can hurt, you have not dropped the sick mind, the mind which is always ready to be disturbed.You renounce the world, that is easier, you flee to the Himalayas, but still all that is in you will follow you, it will not make any difference, it is a deception. Stay integrated, stay serene, stay happy and let the world happen!Who are you to decide to renounce or not to renounce?Wherever you find yourself, where to stay, to integrate, to be peaceful, to be happy, don't go to the Himalayas, create a Himalayas in you, that's what I call "don't renounce" mean.Don't go to the mountain, create that stillness within, so wherever you go the mountain will follow you. Relationship is beautiful because it is a mirror, but some people are stupid, when they see their face in the mirror is ugly, they break the mirror, the logic is obvious: this mirror makes you ugly, So you destroy the mirror, then you are beautiful. Relationship is a mirror, and wherever you are in relation to a person - a wife, a husband, a friend, a lover or an enemy - there is a mirror there.太大反映出先生，你可以在那里看到你自己，如果你在那里看到一个丑的先生，不要试着去离开你太太，那个丑是在你里面，抛弃那个丑！这个镜子是美的，要感谢这个镜子。 但是愚蠢和怯懦的人总是逃避和抛弃，而勇敢和聪明的人总是生活在关系之中，他们使用它来作为一面镜子。跟一个人生活在一起是一个经常的反映，每一个片刻，对方都会将你显露出来，暴露出来，那个关系越密切，那个反映就越清楚，那个关系越疏远，那个反映就没有那么清楚。 那就是为什么所有的抛弃事实上都变成在抛弃爱。太太和先生变成破坏关系的基础，因为一天24个小时都跟一个人住在同一个屋子里，一天24个小时都关连在一起…… 即使当太太没有在讲话，不对他先生说任何事，他也是在反映；即使当先生在看报纸，他也是在反映。他放报纸的方式，太太就知道报纸只是在创造一道墙，他隐藏在它后面，他或许假装说他在阅读，他或许在读同样的新闻两次、三次，或许他根本就没有在读，只是很机械式地看过那些文字，但是他将他自己隐藏在报纸后面的方式也变成一面镜子，他在逃避他太太，他已经受够了他的太太，他不想要她在这里，他不想看她，她的“在”使他觉得很重，他想要用什么方法逃开。 当你处于爱之中，语言是不需要的，姿势，甚至宁静都变成很好的口才。 一个经常的反映在继续着，而每一个人都是丑的，因为美只是某种当你内在的本质被显露出来时渐渐发生的东西。自我永远都是丑的，所以，唯有当自我不存在，一个人才会变得很美，是你的自我被反映出来。 那些一直提醒你说你很丑的人就变成了敌人，你会想要抛弃，但抛弃镜子是聪明的吗？它是愚蠢的。即使没有人反映你，你还是保持一样，当没有人提醒你，你或许甚至会在同样的方向有更多的发展。 镜子很美，而且很好，它能够帮助你，如果你很警觉，渐渐地你就能够抛弃自我，然后在别人的镜子里面，你漂亮的自己就会被显露出来。 一旦你变成一个“空无”，或是变成一朵白云，那么世界上所有的湖都会反映出你的纯白，都会反映出你飘浮的放开来。 所以我说只有一样东西必须被抛弃，那就是抛弃那个抛弃本身，其他没有。 生活在神所在的地方，如果你不喜欢神这个字，那么你可以使用“整体”这个字，那是没有问题的，它只是一个字而已。所以，不管是“神”或“整体”，当整体把你放在什么地方，你就在那里，整体从来没有把任何人放在抛弃当中——从来没有。整体总是把你丢进关系之中，因为没有人生下来是单独的，没有人能够如此，至少需要母亲和父亲，一个社会跟一个家庭是需要的，整体总是把你丢进关系之中，那就是为什么我说抛弃是违反神的。 戈齐福有很多洞见，他的洞见之一就是：所有的宗教人士都在反对神。这是很奇怪的，但事实是如此，我完全同意他，他是对的，所有的宗教人士都反对神，因为他们把他们自己看成判官：这是错的，这是对的；这个应该做，这个不应该做；一个人必须离开世界。神把你丢进世界，而所谓的宗教传道者却教你要抛弃它。 我不是那种宗教人士，我赞成神，我赞成整体，不管他引导你到哪里，你要像一朵云一样地移动，要跟着他移动，将你自己全部交在整体的手中，唯一要记住的事是：要处于两极之中——那个宁静，那个平衡，那个完整。 但是你说：那将会很困难！是的，它将会很困难，如果你很喜乐，那么你很难生活在一个病态的家庭里，而每一个家庭都是病态的，它就好像你被迫生活在一个疯人院里，那将会很困难，因为在那里每一个人都是疯的，所以你能够怎么样呢？ 如果你被丢进一个疯人院，每一个人都发疯，但是你并没有发疯，那么你怎么办？如果你真的没有发疯，你将会扮成好像发疯一样，那是在那里唯一聪明的方式，没有人会知道你是健全的，因为如果他们知道，他们一定会制造麻烦。在疯人院里，一个真正聪明的人一定会装得更疯，那是在那里唯一安全的状态。 所以，在这个每一个人都发疯的生活里，你能够怎么样呢？这整个星球是一个疯人院，一个大的疯人院，每一个人都是病态的、生病的、有病的、不正常的，你能够怎么样呢？演戏！当你觉得很想跟人在一起，你就跟人在一起，不要制造不必要的麻烦，只要演戏，而且享受那个演戏。 当你跟人们在一起的时候，你就演戏，但是对你自己，要非常狂喜，我这样说是什么意思呢？我的意思是说：如果附近有人死了，你要怎么做呢？你要在那里非常狂喜吗？那么你将会被打。你应该又哭又泣，演得美一点，因为那就是在那整个病态的情况下，在那个死亡没有被接受，在那个死亡被认为是罪恶的情况下所需要的。不要为任何人制造任何麻烦，如果你很聪明，你就演戏，演得很美，没有人能够在那里哭得像你那样，享受它！——那是你内在的东西。使它成为一个狂喜！但是对外在来讲，对你周遭的人来讲，要演得很美。 在世界里，要成为一个演员，当你是一个演员，你就不会受打扰，因为这样的话，你知道这只是在演戏。整个人生是一个大的心理剧，要在里面成为一个演员，而在内在，停留在你无我的喜乐之中。