Chapter 15 Chapter 6.1

If you want to ask the so-called meaning of life, then find a man! — Unfortunately, tends to confuse you even more. If you just want to live a happier life, then worship women as teachers! - They generally don't disappoint you.Because most of them are not bothered by the "meaning of life".And this is one of the prerequisites for human happiness. Who dares to say that a happy life does not prove the simple meaning of life? Air strikes are not only NATO's military operations, but also military operations with "American characteristics".Without the United States in NATO, NATO's arrogance over the United Nations cannot be so open and arrogant.NATO members have the United States, if the United States' attitude is not clear, if it is not tough, if it does not advocate bombing, it is not negotiable-the so-called air strikes are likely to be nothing more than deterrence on paper.

So far, there are no more than two ways for human beings to stop wars - to stop wars with peace and to stop wars with wars. Iraq's final withdrawal from Kuwait was not persuaded by ideological work, but by the "Scud" missile bombing. Although the method of war to prevent war is a last resort, it is often the necessary method. There is only the soft hand of stopping war with peace, and there is no, or even ruled out in principle, the hard hand of stopping war with war. Every UN peace officer and peace envoy looks like a kind old woman without authority. Will the historical event of the former Soviet Union sending troops to Czechoslovakia repeat itself within NATO in the 21st century?

So, in the twenty-first century, who will stop wars?Who will keep the peace? No matter whether it is President Clinton himself or the United States, President Clinton's anti-rumors have actually lost the so-called "peachy" at all, and have been completely painted in "yellow". As far as I think, nine out of ten scandals in ancient and modern China and abroad always contain sexual content.If the details of this part of the content are presented one by one, it will inevitably have a "yellow" meaning. It's like a book, with explicit sexual descriptions, accounting for less than one-twentieth of the text.Almost all the proponents of this book open their mouths first to talk about its social value, but almost all book lovers don't like the contents of the field except for the unimportant one-twentieth of the text.Although Tian Jieben's social awareness value will certainly not be affected in any way...

Clinton—a man caught in a "sex scandal" at the end of this century; a man who almost lost all human dignity; the most isolated man at the end of this century. I sympathize with him for that. When some people in the world can't help admiring Hillary as a woman, as a wife's rare psychological endurance and extraordinary attitude of the third party, what I think of is their daughter. Yes, I also envy Mrs. Hillary's all kinds of commendability. But I still think of their daughter more often in my heart. She was still a girl after all. She may be the most psychologically traumatized teenage girl at the end of the century.

America never cared what happened to their president.They throw away the president like old shoes. But the United States did not decline step by step because of this. Almost all Americans are extremely concerned about what happens to their laws.They care about it like every parent cares about how their children are doing. This may be one of the conditions for the continued prosperity of the United States. Candor - This is an excellent quality that sometimes even shows a person's magnanimity.It may be a spear in one case, awe-inspiring even the most insolent foe; and a shield in another case, effective against the blows of the most vicious foe.

But candor has a price.The price is - publicly admitting one's own faults, shortcomings and mistakes.Even, you need to publicly admit that you are not perfect in terms of morality and conduct.Not only is he not perfect, he is also a person who deserves to be condemned.What's more, there is a need to publicly admit that part of the ugliness that is private that no one would ever want to admit publicly. It takes a lot of courage. In America, it might be easier for an ordinary person, an ordinary person, to try to hide a fact—such as extramarital sex.And it would be harder for a president to successfully conceal this than to completely cover his face with the palm of his hand.Because his attempted cover-up must have stimulated a greater voyeurism in the press—a point that is more prominent in the United States than in any other country in the world, and it can be called the "American Syndrome."It must also stimulate the initiative of his enemies to attack.At the same time, the law must be angered.At this time, what he has to pay is not only the harassment of the press, nor is it only the attacks of his political opponents that he has to resist.His most resolute enemy is already the law whose authority is far above it...

When the media in the golden world seemed to be excited and excited about the incumbent president's affair, almost no media commented on Lewinsky's "close girlfriend".And I think it is really scary for a person, no matter if he is a man or a woman, whether he is a commoner or a president, to have such a friend by his side. Lewinsky is also a man worthy of analysis.If this 21-year-old plain-looking female White House intern hadn't taken the initiative to "beside" the president in a flirtatious way, it is obvious that she would not have attracted the attention of the president in the special time and space of the White House.My two American friends told me that, apart from her girlfriend, she also revealed her sexual affair with the president to at least a dozen people.I do believe that.This has also been reported by foreign media.So it shows how vain she is, a shallow little girl.According to Freud's sexual psychology, whether her sexual psychology is normal or not is also very doubtful.

It is really shocking that President Clinton was humiliated by such a little girl. On the other hand, Starr also clearly embodies a dark, blatant use of power's revenge pleasure.Because what he is investigating is whether the rumor is true or not, not the sexual plot of a school involving the president's affair. So Starr gave me the impression that he was like the royal sheriff Miao Wei in the movie.Javert was cold, but not vulgar.Stahl's report, however, has elements that are both vulgar and vulgar.It is too similar to some low-level and vulgar so-called "documentary reports" under the banner of "legal literature" in China nowadays.

Democracy is by far the most progressive form of state government practiced by mankind.But the most advanced does not mean the most perfect, let alone the most perfect.The political phenomenon of partisanship and the news phenomenon of addiction to hype often make a good democratic regime cast a frivolous color of farce. A wheel has come off its axle from a moving car - this is actually not that common, it's just a metaphor. Any metaphor is flawed. Let's leave the car alone and talk about the off-axis wheel - so what?It was subjected to force and could not fall over by itself as soon as it was off its axis as expected.It rolls forward with impact and great effort, but it rolls fast and far.During this process, there may be various external effects that contribute to its acceleration.

Think about it, how serious a traffic accident it may bring? ——In order to avoid the car behind it, the driver may take unwise emergency measures-sudden braking, so a series of rear-end collisions and sharp turns, and hit other cars.So grumpy drivers blamed each other.Both parties are not calm, or only one party is not calm, so the traffic accident has evolved into a big conflict between the driver and the driver... And that wheel might still be rolling... Someone chased it, someone stopped it, all to make it stop rolling, stop immediately.Someone looked at it from inside the car, and taunted those who were chasing it and trying to stop it—what are you doing? !Do you still think the road is not lively enough? !Aren't you doing too much?As a result, some people were outraged, and it was right to sit on the sidelines like you!It's all the same as you!That's when the traffic police are always needed.The traffic police are capable of distinguishing.The ability of some traffic policemen has been shown in a timely manner.And maybe some traffic policemen are not as capable, they can't guide them properly, and they can't command properly...

So the road seems to be more chaotic... At this time, there are often people who act as volunteer traffic police, but they may be booed and cursed.Of course, maybe on the contrary, to get such good reviews - look at those traffic policemen, incompetent people; look at others, if only the traffic policeman... But what I want to point out is -- that wheel, it will eventually, eventually stop rolling.Either it stopped by itself, or it was caught up and knocked down by someone... No one wants a wheel to come off the axle on the road.And what to do if it happens?Once it happens, the subsequent events are almost inevitable. When I see the international situation that threatens the world order, I often have the above associations in my mind. This association has gradually formed a general idea of ​​mine, that is-a wheel that is off its axis will not roll very far after all.From the moment it fell off its axis and rolled forward, it was actually rolling closer and closer to its overturning.Whether the cause is voluntary or the success of human measures.The time when it creates great disorder on the highways is precisely, and almost always must be, when the destruction of the order of the roads it has wrought is nearing its end...   The newspaper reported that former U.S. President Bush Sr. expressed his views on the U.S.-led NATO bombing of Yugoslavia in Hong Kong, saying—“That’s not the beginning of hell.” This remark is obviously unfair to the country of Yugoslavia and its people. After all, the country of Yugoslavia and its people have experienced more than 70 days of indiscriminate bombing, and many civilians have lost their homes!However, if we think about Bush Sr.’s words calmly, do his words contain such a view—everything will end, everything will end, and everything will pass. I believe his words must contain this idea.affim! And the people of Yugoslavia must have been supported by the same concept during those seventy days of catastrophic days—everything will end, everything will end, everything will pass... Yes, really--a wheel that is off its axle can never go on forever, expanding its destructive power without ending. The difference is, simply - in what way the world has brought it to an end of its destructive power. Look at the world with this idea - all the catastrophic (man-made and natural) events that have happened so far are like "wheels" that have come off a moving car. World War I was such a "wheel" - it passed. World War II was—and passed. The Cold War relationship between China and the Soviet Union was -- it passed. The Sino-Indian border conflict and the Sino-Vietnamese border conflict are such "wheels" that have caused damage to the relationship between the two countries and have passed. The Cold War relationship between China and the United States was the longest-but it ended precisely when it "rolled" to maximum acceleration. During the "Cultural Revolution" period, Chinese people's anti-American sentiment was particularly high. But Nixon visited China during the "Cultural Revolution" and was received by Mao Zedong. The "Sino-US Joint Communiqué" just became the most historic and important international relations document in the history of Sino-US relations produced during the "Cultural Revolution" era. The current India-Pakistan border conflict is also a "off-axis wheel", and it will end soon. Why would a wheel of a moving car come off its axle?In the final analysis, it is the responsibility of human beings—after all, the world has not yet achieved the so-called "Great Harmony", and "interests" are not "Great Harmony".In a world that is not "Great Harmony", it is impossible for all people, including the most outstanding politicians, diplomats, and heads of state, to participate in handling international events and disputes in accordance with the so-called "Great Harmony" concept.Even if the subjective concepts of a few outstanding people are advanced and "great unity", they often cannot influence the objective. Then, human beings can only accept the phenomenon that the "wheel" is off-axis again and again. But I firmly believe that since the previous "wheel" off-axis phenomenon has ended time and time again, it will happen again and again in the future. Because the experience and ability of human beings to stop the destructive rolling of the off-axis "wheel" is not smaller, but larger; not less, but more; not more simplistic, but It's more moving... Therefore, my overall attitude towards the world is extremely optimistic. In the 21st century, what kind of Cold War between China and the United States will take shape? I am convinced it will not. In the twenty-first century, will there be a third world war? I am convinced it will not. NATO missiles headed by the United States bombed the Chinese embassy in Junnan - this very specific "wheel" off-axis incident has passed and is over.And it should be regarded as the past and the end from the perspective of the national interests of both China and the United States.It was the Chinese who stopped the "wheel" from rolling by protesting.The Americans picked it up and put it back in their car. Indeed, there are certain politicians in the United States who have always been anti-China and continue to be anti-China. But I don't think their role and influence is really a "wheel" of the American car, just a general performance quality issue of the drive shaft. Indeed, this has aroused strong national sentiment against the United States in China, but this sentiment is not a "wheel" of the Chinese car, but an emergency response. All the serious events in international relations that have happened have come to an end and passed away one by one.Proof that none of them are "hell's beginning".What will happen in the future will also end one by one and pass by one by one. Human "hell" has not yet formed, so it will not have its beginning. Sino-US relations, the relations between China and NATO, and the relations between China and all other countries in the world, it would be great if this is the relationship—if it conforms to the norms of international relations, it will be clearly supported; if it violates the norms, it will be opposed—— Moreover, every support and every opposition is only aimed at a very specific international crisis phenomenon in which the "wheel" is off axis. In this way, we do not need to discuss and study any so-called long-term confrontation strategy aimed at any country.Some politicians in the United States have long been engaged in this kind of thing aimed at China. Somehow they don't feel tired. In fact, we Chinese don't have to be so tired. Aren't domestic affairs not enough for us Chinese?We are not anti-American, but we do not promise not to oppose any international behavior of the United States.We hope to be friendly with the United States, but we do not take flattery as a prerequisite for friendship. In my opinion, China’s strategy toward the United States, by extension, its strategy toward NATO, and by extension, its strategy toward all countries in the world—it can consistently follow such a clear rather than ambiguous, positive and positive policy. It is not the principle of flattery, it is almost enough for us, who will really treat us with a "cold war"?Even if that is the case, what can China win?A wheel that is off its axle doesn't roll very far. The beginning of an event means the end of an event, no matter what kind of event it is - the "wheel Yu" overturned, what is valuable is the remaining experience and lessons... The latest statement from the United States is that Mr. Clinton, the re-elected president, may suffer from a psychological "disease".Dear American psychologists, for their publicly humiliated president, made the medical doctor's diagnosis-"Lonely and Defeat".It means that after standing on the pinnacle of success in life, there is a tendency to self-destruct in the heart of the hard-won brilliance.The conclusions of psychology are often ambiguous. As soon as Stahl's "report" is posted on the Internet, the United States is tantamount to rudely offending the whole world. Because the obscene content in it is tantamount to forcing it on online humans all over the world. The United States is blatantly selling "pornography" to the world. Just as Clinton will be hated forever for his dishonesty, Starr will be widely condemned for perverting the dignity of the judiciary and selling pornography to the world in disguise.The pornographic content in his report is not worth mentioning in K-rated movies and novels.But among the bills that have attracted the attention of the world, they can only be regarded as rubbish. After the end of World War II, the "socialist camp" gradually began to take shape.Examining the politics of all socialist countries, their common characteristics can be summarized into several points, the most basic of which is the cult of personality. When there is a conflict between loyalty and faith, a person has only three choices—either to fulfill the oath of loyalty, at this time his soul betrays the faith, and it is hard to go to heaven after death, unless he is deeply insulted later and gets religious grievances ; or take into account the faith, that is, the principle of maintaining the soul, at this time he will offend the kingship, and will lose the real benefits given to him by the kingship, and may even be regarded as a rebellion by the kingship and cut off his head; the third option is to commit suicide. In the socialist countries that were born half a century ago, religion is almost always restricted or even outlawed.Faith then has only one content left, and that is political thought.It is easy for powerful political propaganda to religiousize political ideas.Therefore, the religious political and ideological leaders who transcend the democratic system naturally have the color of religious leaders. Once the politicians are in the supreme position close to the religious leaders, then the modern personality cult phenomenon of human beings will inevitably occur. Americans are certainly not without faith.Their faith is democracy and law.Their belief in democracy and the law is firmer than their belief in any religion. In the eyes of Americans, the President of the United States is such a figure—the highest-ranking "wage earner" in the United States, and the American public is his boss.Any most ordinary American has the obligation to comment on and monitor his performance as president, and has the right to accuse him of being competent or incompetent.It is an obligation to supervise the president, and it is a right to accuse the president.The political characteristics of the United States make the public characteristics of the United States extremely prominent.Probably no American would think this way—once one of his compatriots became president, he would naturally be the spiritual father or intellectual father of the American people.In the history of the United States, there have been several outstanding figures who can be regarded as the father of spirit or father of thought.But none of them ever had the idea of ​​being president, and the American public certainly never elected them. From my point of view, Clinton is a president second only to Kennedy in terms of "handsome" demeanor.The "mistakes" he made could only be avoided by a "handsome guy" president who needs extremely rare self-discipline.What he obviously did was not so commendable. The news media and the big cultural "industry" all over the world actually show a certain vulgar tendency.The tendency is both vulgar and modern.The contemporary people fed by it seem to have lost their thinking about many things, and only want news, news, news!Just like a child suffering from hunger disease, he opened his mouth wide and kept yelling "Eat it! Eat it!" And, more and more, he prefers irritating food. Politics with American characteristics has always played "suffocating" with the previous presidents of the United States.The best achievement of American presidents is nothing more than a draw.If there is a slight mistake, the reputation will be ruined.They will never try to manipulate politics with American characteristics.They are always the object of political manipulation of that character.Even if they are outstanding and great, they are all played under this premise. It is precisely based on this good intention that the Chinese press reported in a low-key manner during the embarrassing, embarrassing, humiliating, and shameful days when Mr. President was involved in an unprecedented sex scandal.It is precisely based on this good wish that our General Secretary Jiang Zemin invited Mr. President to visit China in the days when Mr. President was desperate in front of the whole world and had to keep his tail between his legs. I think Mr. President must still remember the different feelings he had in the United States and China in those days, right?But today, NATO missiles headed by the United States brazenly bombed our embassy in Yugoslavia, killing and injuring journalists in our embassy. Apart from shocking us Chinese, other countries in the world and the UN Security Council, does it also mean that What more? We Chinese feel that Mr. Clinton's tail in the sex scandal seems to be raised too high today.But Mr. President sits down with some rudimentary self-knowledge that your term is not long.Can the tail of your personal political expression be raised all over the world to become the ever-flying flag of the United States of America? I would like to tell Mr. President Clinton - I am very sorry that in the days when you were caught in a sex scandal, I wrote many articles expressing sympathy for you, your wife and your daughter.May the Lord bless you, the bloody aura that hides your body will not contaminate your wife and your daughter.When you feel that it was your great personal happiness that they were alive, think also of those who lost their wives, husbands, parents, and children in the unprecedented war that you participated in directing...   I advocate ideas, precisely because I am a lover.Moderate people are generally more difficult to instinctively control their attitudes, positions, opinions, likes and dislikes towards people and things without paying attention to their sensuality.Concentration of ideas is what I lack.This lack often makes my words and deeds impulsive.Once impulsive, there are almost no worries and fears.This was especially true for me before the age of forty. In my opinion, if a person lived from the 1960s to the 1990s without a time gap, but his thoughts have always been good at matching the "mainstream" political thoughts of each stage, he is affirmed as "mature", and his thoughts are analyzed In the process of "maturity", won't it be difficult for us to find the ugliness of that "mature"?I dare say that in the whole world, since the word "human nature" has been summarized from human life, from urchins to Zhiao, except among contemporary Chinese, no other country seems to be so serious and serious about human nature. It has been discussed in earnest, let alone debated. Discussions and debates take place in contemporary China, which is very intriguing to the Chinese.And this is why we Chinese complain that the world has become colder. The Japanese were once regarded as "animals of ideas". In my opinion, quite a few of us Chinese are becoming very much like the Japanese in this respect.The reality often makes fellow compatriots feel chills all over each other. In the past fifteen or sixteen years, there have been many samples of cold "Chinese characteristics" conceptual thinking. For example, the business term and competition principle of "survival of the fittest" has been promoted into the field of thought of social sciences.If a product is inferior, it must be destroyed.But who and what sets the criteria for considering a person as "inferior"?Should a person with relatively weak competitiveness for survival be regarded as an "inferior" person?When the bosses set this kind of standard, others will naturally have nothing to say, but is it terrible to become national consciousness?The next question is, in a country with a population of 1.3 billion, how wisely can we "eliminate" a large number of "inferior" compatriots? "Eliminate" to go beyond the borders? "Eliminate" to go beyond the earth?Happily our country has not listened to some, nor have most of our fellow citizens.That's why we have the "re-employment project" and "poverty alleviation project" of the state's actions, and the "Hope Project" of the non-governmental actions... When an elephant falls into a trap, many elephants will gather around, not watching, but trying to pull the same elephant out with their trunks, until their teeth are broken and their noses are hurt, and they can't bear to leave.This animal instinct. Human nature is higher than it, precisely because human beings raise their instinctive behaviors to the initiative of consciousness with the nourishment of civilization. If a certain idea is contrary to this consciousness, it is actually contrary to human nature, not only cold, but also ugly. Human nature will always reject the "reasonableness" of such an idea. My contemporaries and my predecessors and the previous generation probably have to admit that since 1949, in our country with a large population, human nature and humanitarian education have been so weak that there has never been Why form a "link".In all literature, art and cultural carriers, any slight reflection on human nature and humanitarianism will be accused of various political crimes and criticized verbally and in writing.And the author often suffers from bad luck.Looking at the whole picture of art and literature in the seventeen years after the founding of the People's Republic of China, it is almost impossible to provide Chinese readers and our young people with any good nutrition of humanity and humanitarianism.On the contrary, the philosophy of class struggle has risen to be the only correct social principle.Even in "Lei Feng's Diary", there is a sentence that makes today's people shudder when they talk about it-"The enemies of the wealthy class should be as ruthless as winter."-This is also a kind of cold theory.Once this concept is accepted as "truth" and the principle of supreme business in the minds of young children, it is in line with the law when it is ruthlessly practiced during the "Cultural Revolution"... An indisputable fact is—between two discussions about whether it is worthwhile to save others, it is the elderly, women, children and young people in China who suffer the most in various ways!The one who foresees death is probably a man!And the ones watching with folded arms are probably men!And the one who is obviously capable of teaching, but waits for the money to meet his hands before he is willing to save him, is a man! As a writer, I have more or less led the way to some joys of free imagination under the premise of my own intelligence. But how strong was my desperate desire for free thought, and above all for the right to express my thoughts openly! Freedom of imagination is not the same as freedom of thought. On ancient and modern Chinese and foreign battlefields, there are many things about war horses giving up their lives to save soldiers.When a soldier is in trouble, he often kills his horse, drinks its blood, and eats its flesh. People are good at analyzing people's psychology, but there is still no text that records the psychology of a war horse before it is about to be killed by a helpless warrior. Not even Buffon wrote about it. If I were a war horse, if I also ended up like this, if I was lucky enough to be reincarnated as a human being later, I would definitely write this as my literary mission... I believe that the war horse had no regrets at that time.Although, I also believe that war horses will feel the infinite sorrow of fate just like people. If I were a war horse, I would also stare at the muzzle of the soldier's gun raised to me, or the sharp knife stabbed at my neck, magnanimous and calm. Because the victory of a battle or a battle depends on the warrior in the end, not on the horse.Because that victory is the common task of warriors and horses.Because I am a war horse, my eyes must be used to seeing the warriors stepping forward one after another, with a broken heart and a broken heart, and a tragic death. Warriors are already like this, why should war horses be afraid of death? As much as I would hate to be a pet dog, I would never be a horse of that sort—"the horses that seem to feel best about themselves in slavery, the ones that are bred only for the pomp and spectacle of man." Horses, consecrated horses, those horses adorned with gold and silver to satisfy the vanity of their masters. They are covered with fine tufts of hair on their foreheads, their manes are braided, and they are covered with silk and brocade. Felt. All this is more insulting to horses than the iron hooves under their feet." Yes, even though I am a horse, I still demand some equine dignity.Therefore, I would rather be a draft horse than one of the above-mentioned pompous horses.Because I know that work horses can at least partially retain a little bit of their temper.The above-mentioned horses dare not even have a temper.People pet it on the premise that it should be absolutely temperless... I don't do horse racing either. I don't like to compete.Dislikes confrontational activities.This is probably the main reason why I barely watch any sporting events... "The autumn wind is the most troublesome, red maple leaves and white heads"-the sentimentality that people are prone to reveal when the solar terms change, in the final analysis, proves how easy it is to be pessimistic!Although this pessimism is not necessarily all artificial, but compared with Xiaocao and Xiaodie, doesn't it often tell too much self-pity? In French novels, a description about nails left me with an indelible memory—the rioting citizens led by the female leader attacked the prison at night, and saw the old watchman lying soundly asleep in front of the prison door.The female head ordered him to be killed, but those who obeyed the order couldn't bear it, saying that the old watchman was a kind and good man.But in the female leader's view, once a kind and good person wakes up, he will inevitably shout, and it will inevitably break the "revolution" event.So he did it himself and smashed a big nail into the temple of the old watchman with a hammer—the latter died painlessly without knowing it.Although the book says "no pain", when I talked about that period, I still couldn't help the blood stagnation in my body, and I shivered... The methods used by revolutionaries and counter-revolutionaries to suppress revolutions are always equally brutal. The phrase "life-and-death class struggle" is inevitably chilling when you think about it carefully... Therefore, I am sure that there must be a nail hidden in the heart of some human beings.When that nail comes out of them or their hearts, another part of human compatriots will inevitably be harmed. One fact is probably that many disasters faced by human beings, five or six out of ten are caused by some human beings to other human beings.And the most dangerous natural enemy of human beings seems to be more and more human beings themselves. Some dreams are completely achievable by people's own efforts.And some cannot be realized at all, and can only be pinned on the speed of the country's development pace in the times.This is especially true for most people.For example, the speed of development of the home appliance industry has accelerated, and the desire of most Chinese people to own televisions and refrigerators is no longer a dream.For example, the price of commercial housing in China remains high. For most Chinese working class, buying commercial housing is still a dream. Now, I have only one dream left.That is—opening a small restaurant on a street corner that is not too lively and not too deserted.The area does not need to be too large, more than 100 square meters is enough.The decoration doesn't have to be too high-end, just passable.Not for making money, but just for writing, to be able to lean on the counter, observe all kinds of people up close, and listen to their conversations with each other.Nor is it to collect material for writing.I don't rely on collecting materials like this when I write.A dream that has nothing to do with writing at all. What exactly? Maybe, just trying to become a listener and spectator without motivation!Since there is no motive, there is no harm to others. Thirty years ago, there were still many Chinese people. They and their life aspirations were actually very low. For example, they just wanted to be teachers in primary and secondary schools, or even to be teachers in rural primary and secondary schools, and they must be excellent. , but was also ruthlessly deprived of the qualifications and rights to choose a career... From the girl who is like Na Ying, whose destiny is completely opposite to that of Na Ying, how can I not think of the many Chinese who had very low life aspirations but were deprived of their qualifications and rights all their lives? ... I am ashamed of them and them. In this mutual relationship between the times and people, the times and people have their own place.The era has obtained its own richness and positive open-mindedness with its tolerant attitude, and people have obtained the rights and benefits of publicizing their nature with a well-known measure of self-control. In literature, the word "shy" is often used to describe girls. In reality, it was especially the teenager who couldn't help feeling shy. If you don't believe me, just observe... One fact is undisputed—a teenager blushes more often in front of beautiful women than a girl blushes in front of the man she has a crush on. The situation is often like this-the originally shy girl looks directly at the man with warm eyes; and even the rebellious boy will feel embarrassed at that time, and hang down his eyes as if he has made a mistake in front of the beautiful woman. eyelash.Although he didn't make any mistakes, he behaved well and decently... In front of the man she has a crush on (as we all know, most girls have this experience when they grow up, but most teenagers just have similar experiences), they often behave sincerely and happily.She often doesn't try to hide her quickness.On the contrary, she was hoping that the surge of joy in her heart would be conveyed from her eyes, her face, and her words.She instinctively understands that kind of happiness is beautiful.And this is the pure side of the girl, that is, the side of thorough humanity. Girls replaced shyness with joy.Even though she is naturally shy, she will become naturally bright at that moment.It might even look a little older.So it made her beautiful herself.Especially cute. In front of strange beauties, teenagers often behaved awkwardly and shyly. The pattern is this—a boy becomes a teenager, and he begins to observe the people around him, including the women around him, with a teenager's eyes.And approach them with the emotions and minds of teenagers.Sometimes passive, sometimes active.However, he himself could not tell whether it was passive or active.If they care for him and love him, he will love them.Instead, instinctively avoid them.Even alienate them.At this time, self-esteem has grown in the young man's heart like a tender bamboo shoot.He is extremely afraid of any harm to his fragile self-esteem, especially from women.而他对她们的亲爱，此时已不像儿童似的，仅为获得依倔的快意。他开始以小男人的眼光视她们，开始被她们不同的美点所吸引。那美点也许是容貌，也许是性情。这时他的心底，已朦胧地觉醒着对女人的倾慕了。 这时他变得模事，相当善解人意——尤其善解女人之意。甚至，会寻找机会表现自己的聪明和勇敢，以图得到她的夸奖…… 少女在她所暗恋的男人面前，每每反少年之道而行之。她每每首先反对那男人的某项决定，每每首先反驳他的某些观点。她假装出很善于独立思考的样子。不是为了别的，仅仅是为了与他展开辩论。他越认真，她心里越暗自得意。其得意中有愉快。所以，被暗恋着的男人又每每浑然不觉。 “友邦惊诧”——这少女可是怎么了？为什么处处专和自己做对？ ... 大多数少年却不是这样的。他在他所亲爱的女人面前，每每表现得拘谨又腼腆。当然，他也是愉快的。但他的意识中似乎总有一种声音悄悄告诉他——这愉快是不妥的，是应该感到羞耻的。所以他往往企图掩饰他的愉快。他惟恐这种愉快不经意间从心底泄露。 他认为那是他的一个不光彩的大秘密。于是他羞涩了。甚面栖煌，甚而不知所措。他的懂事，他的善解人意，他的聪明和勇敢，都往往是在以上那么一种心理状态下证明给某一个女人看的…… 而这恰恰是少年纯洁的一面。 少女心里首先形成的是爱的热忱，其次才是自尊。少女是在爱的过程中，直接或间接地积累了自尊的经验的…… 少年心里首先生长起来的是自尊，其次才形成爱的意识。他是在树立自尊的过程中，直接或间接地积累了爱的经验的…… 少女希望她所暗恋的男人忽略她才是少女这一事实，以看待一个女人那一种眼光看待她…… 少年则往往想象他所倾慕和亲爱的女性，某一日忽而变成了少女，甚至变成了比自己小几岁的少女。那么，他在她面前，不是再也不必感到拘谨和羞涩了吗？他反过来负起呵护她的责任，不是成了自然而然又理所当然的事了吗？ 一个少年倘居然不曾在任何女人面前害羞过，那么他长大了对于女性将可能是危险的男人。并且，因为一个男人少年时连这一种本能的羞涩都不曾产生过的话，那么他以后也许对许多真的应该引以为羞引以为耻的事不觉羞耻。 请观察生活，必有足够的根据证明——某些小人、无耻之徒，不择手段以达到目的之男人，追溯他们的从前，几乎无一不是以上那一种少年。 可怕的是，这样的男人在我们的生活中似乎沥多了起来，而且正被另外一些类似的男人视为能人…… 于是问题产生了——我们的下一代在由儿童而为少年时，对于吸引他们的女性，是否仍会保持着一份本能的羞涩？亦或丧失甚至彻底地丧失？我们因其显明的丧失值得高兴还是值得忧虑——我困惑…… 但是我却多次地见到这样的情形——某种场合下，某类小小绅士般的少年，在年轻的众多的女性之间，应酬自如游刃有余，甚至洋洋自得地打情骂俏…… 而男人和女人用笑声怂恿他们，鼓励他们…… 如此这般的生活浮土绘现象常令我出冷汗，暗觉恐怖。 他们将来会是些能人吗？ 会是些怎样的能人呢？ ... 某些自认为或被认为极“现代”的女性，对“女为悦己者容”一句话是很嗤之以鼻的。这当然是一种女性意识的“革命”。起码，是一种“革新”。具体我这一个男人，内心是很支持的。但这并不等于我十分赞同“女为已容”，而且我发现，她们在主张“女为己容”时，意识其实是相当暖昧的。倘美容伊始，同性姐妹们竟汲看出来，尤其男人们竟没看出来，尤其男友或丈夫竞设看出来，她们其实是很索然很扫兴的。倘他们明明看出来了却视而不见，连一句廉价的夸美的话都不说，则她们不但索然不但扫兴，甚至还会摔棒然起来快怏然起来有点儿自悲起来…… 这说明，“女为己容”，不过是她们一反“女为悦己者容”之历史“潮流”的口号，呼喊似乎仅为引起注意。一旦被注意，尤其被男人们注意，便仿佛其容灿也其貌芳也了。 故我们可以得出这样的结论——在古代，“女为己容”实在是女性们大苦闷和大不幸之事啊！为“己容”之女性们的命运，比起为“悦己”者容之女性们的命运，又往往悲凉得很，甚至悲惨得很啊！ 自建国以来，举凡同胞，无论男女，倘问其最理想的求职愿望，直言相告的也罢，讳莫如深的也罢，心里大抵是——进政府机关。 进政府机关于什么呢？愿望保守的当“机关”人员；争强好胜的非做“机关”干部而难酬生平之志。