Chapter 16 Bian Jinli said: You can take care of the three children (1)

After giving birth to the third child, Bian Jiao, Bian Jinli no longer had sex with Qin Qiufeng.Qin Qiufeng has a fat body. After giving birth to a child, her body has gained a lot of weight. After giving birth to her third child, her weight has already exceeded 140 catties. She is only 1.6 meters tall, which matches her body. With such a weight, the body is thick and round, as if it has been inflated; the breasts that have fed the child have lost their original flexibility and fullness, and become loose and deflated.Such a body is difficult to arouse the desire of Bian Jinli, who has an aesthetic sense, and Bian Jinli is tired from work, and it is even more difficult to have that kind of interest.Qin Qiufeng thought he was dying, and said regretfully: It seems that we can only have three children.Bian Jinli followed Qin Qiufeng's words and said that he was afraid of intercourse. Qin Qiufeng was pregnant again, and they could not have any more children.This is also his sincere words.Qin Qiufeng said that they only have three children, and it is not too many to have one or two more children, so they are not afraid.Bian Jinli said angrily that they have a complete set of children. No matter how many children there are, they will suffer. The children are all registered in rural areas, and they don't even have a fixed grain. He is worried about how to support them in the future.Qin Qiufeng said that asking the child to go back to her rural hometown in Tianshui will solve the problem by eating food.Bian Jinli said with a suspenseful face that that would not work, and the child had to stay in the city no matter what.Back in the countryside, that kid really became a farmer.When it comes to this, Bian Jinli always sighs heavily in his heart. He is no longer regretting or regretting himself. He is worried about the future of his three children with rural hukou.

After marrying Qin Qiufeng who was pregnant with a child, Bian Jinli had no choice but to plan the future for the child in his heart.He knew that if he wanted to change the children's future status as "farmers", there were only two ways. One was to transfer his wife's household registration to Lanzhou, and the other was to allow the children to go to college in the future. Whoever went to college would have his household registration settled , This is up to the child himself.When he married Qin Qiufeng, the household registration management had very strict restrictions on the transfer from farmers to non-farmers. Bian Jinli basically had no hope of this path.He can only pin his hopes on the children themselves, thinking that the children's future can only be changed by themselves.When there was the college entrance examination, he thought so. After the "Cultural Revolution" the college entrance examination system was abolished, he still thought so, thinking that no matter where the children are, as long as they perform well, they can have the opportunity to be recommended to the Workers, Peasants and Soldiers University; the college entrance examination system was restored. In the end, the autonomy was in his own hands, and he thought so even more.As long as there is a possibility of change, when I think about it, I feel like I have a bottom line in my heart, and I will be relieved for a while.

If the child is to be successful in the future, he must be strictly disciplined. Bian Jinli began to reprimand the child after the first child learned to walk.The children in the back are also treated equally. The older the child, the more severe his reprimand. It is not acceptable for the child to be stubborn, crying a little bit, or even wetting the bed. It is uniformly said that children are bad habits.The child didn't understand, so he had to hold back the tears of grievance, otherwise, he would scold the child for being coquettish and out of habit.When he was angry, the child looked at him, looking as timid as a mouse.He is often harsh on children, and it is difficult for him to put on a smiling face in front of the children instinctively. Since childhood, the three children have been afraid of him.

Before the second child, Bian Yue, started elementary school, Qin Qiufeng took care of the three children at home. Before that, Qin Qiufeng had never worked and was a full-time housewife.Qin Qiufeng took care of the child, and Bian Jinli was both relieved and worried. The rest assured was that Qin Qiufeng was very capable. She was able to take care of the children in the family in an orderly and neat manner. There would be no problem in taking care of the children. What is worrying is that Qin Qiufeng is illiterate firstly, and has a weak temperament. She can neither teach nor manage the children. She is afraid that the children she brings up will not only be affected intellectually, but will also develop bad habits and become adults in the future. There is no way to change their identities if they look like they are worthless.He wants to be at home every day and see the children every day, and he will feel more at ease psychologically, so that when he returns home from get off work, it is time for him to make up for education.Although his own cultural level is limited, he is only at the junior high school level. He feels that with his current level, it is no problem to lay a foundation for the child; when his cultural ability is not enough, he can also play a role of supervision and supervision. , as long as he supervises the child, he always feels relieved psychologically.The problem is that their construction workers often have to go out with the construction team for construction. Once they go there, they don’t go home for several months. He spends half of the year outside Lanzhou. I feel that the children are letting themselves go. If things go on like this, once the children's accumulated problems are formed, it may be too late to make up for the discipline.This kind of worry was not there from the beginning, it was only when the eldest brother Bian Hong reached the age of school that he began to think about it.Before the child went to school, he felt that he was still young. An uneducated wife could take care of the child's life well, but once the child went to school, it was different. He felt that the child really entered the growth stage after he went to school. The growth stage is the key and the most important thing. When discipline is severe, at this time, he should be more careful.In order to have more opportunities to take care of his children, Bian Jinli also specifically approached the director of the construction department where he worked, hoping that he would only follow the construction team in Lanzhou in the future, and not send him out for work outside.This kind of selfish request is a dream, and no one will agree to him.It is even more impossible to switch to other types of work.

The job can't be changed, Bian Jinli should go out and still have to go out.During his trip, he had no choice but to pin his hopes on his wife for the discipline of his three children.Every time before setting off, he always reminded his wife of the discipline principles he thought of, and after all, he said, "Don't get used to their bad habits, and tell them to learn like they are learning. If you don't obey, give them a bad face" Wait for a few words, before nagging, Bian Jinli always said with a sullen face: You have to take care of the three children.My wife was like an obedient child, she said "um" to every word Bian Jinli said, and nodded along the way.After explaining everything, when he walked out the door, Bian Jin repeated his initial words in a commanding tone: You can take care of the three children.In fact, this sentence is also on weekdays. It is a mantra that he must say every day before going to work and when he is leaving the house.Qin Qiufeng felt numb when he heard it, but he also got into his heart. He didn't want to take it seriously, but he had to take it seriously.

When he was not at home, Bian Jinli always had to check how the children were doing when he came back.His detection method is very simple. In terms of study, check the math and Chinese homework that the boss Bian Hong has completed. There are quizzes or mid-term and final exams. Look at his academic performance and teacher's comments. There is no problem. , I am satisfied.In addition to studying, it also depends on whether the three children have developed bad habits, such as stubborn mouth, lying, picky eaters, willfulness, etc.When he found a little problem, which is also a problem that children usually have, he put on a straight face and said in a big way: Is it because I am not at home that you will be lawless!This sentence is also a mantra. Every time he said this, Qin Qiufeng who was beside him lowered his head together with the child, as if he felt that he was at fault.In fact, there is not much difference between Bian Jinli's behavior at home and his child's performance when he comes back from outside.He did not say this fact, but admitted it in his heart.After doing this several times, he gradually felt relieved when the child was handed over to his wife.

In fact, Qin Qiufeng didn't put much effort in taking care of the three children at home, and the three children were all easy to take care of.Among the three children, the eldest looks like a mother, and the second and third look like a father, but their temperaments are opposite. The second and third children prefer their mother, and the eldest, Bian Hong, prefers their father.Although Bian Jinli was naughty when he was a child, his parents were good-natured. Although he was not very strict, his temper spread and his mischievousness came out.And Bian Lang grew up watching his father's fierce face, and his nature was somewhat suppressed. He didn't dare to make trouble in front of his father, but when he was in front of his mother, he made troubles as if they were a little strange, without coherence and smooth flow. Sexuality is not very strong, and the mother can suppress it with a little effort.This aspect can be controlled, and it is better to manage Bian Hong's study. Bian Hong is naturally smart and loves to learn, so there is no problem with his study, which also saves his mother's effort.The other two children, Bian Yue and Bian Qiao, are gentle and quiet, and they don't like to make noise, so it's easier to take care of them.It's just that the girl Bian Yue likes to be coquettish and cries a lot. At that time, her mother's control is to coax her, just coax her.Bian Yue knew how to look at her. With her father around, her delicate nature would naturally be contained.The children were basically well-behaved and obedient, which made Bian Jinli a little relieved, but it didn't weaken his worry about the children's future.

As the three children grow up day by day, the food, clothing, and supplies of the children are rising like people, and the economic pressure is increasing. The family of four relies on Bian Jinli to earn money to support himself. He feels that Somewhat powerless.After Bian Yue went to school, Bian Jinli found a temporary job for his wife, and continued to do her old job of cooking. This time, instead of going to the construction site, he steamed steamed buns in the cafeteria of the construction branch.In this way, the five-year-old third child, Bian Qiao, was sent to his grandparents before going to work, and picked up after get off work.Working in the cafeteria, it was busy at noon, so I couldn’t go home. Bian Jinli rushed home to cook lunch for Bian Hong and Bian Yue who were in school. When Bian Jinli went out, Qin Qiufeng would prepare the meals in advance. Tell Bian Lang and Bian Yue to go home and eat hot.Bian Lang and Bian Yue learned to take care of themselves since childhood.

Even if Qin Qiufeng can earn some money, it can't change the status quo of their difficult life.In that year, many supplies for food and clothing had to be purchased with tickets, and the supplies purchased with the tickets distributed by Bian Jinli alone were in short supply for the family.If they use it, they can make do with it. If they use it for a year, they can use it sparingly. After two years of use, they will be able to close the gap with others.But when it comes to eating, you can't skip it.In a family of five, four of them don't have a fixed amount of food and oil. How can they live on Bian Jinli's fixed amount of food and oil every month?This depends on the help of the whole family. The eldest brother Bian Jinsuo’s family is full of girls, saying that the girls’ family eats less, and they can deduct some food from each girl, so they donate ten catties of noodles every month; the third brother Bian Jinsuo Jin Wu’s family is also full of girls, and they donate six to seven catties of noodles every month; the fourth younger brother Bian Jinguo, who has just married, donates five catties of noodles every month; the fifth brother Bian Jinrong, before he jumped into the queue, the food household relationship followed his parents, who said their age They are older, eat less, and send them five or six catties of noodles every month; after their niece Bian Yinhua got married, she also sent them a few catties of noodles every month.Flour has coarse grains and fine grains, and fine grains account for slightly more.Besides flour, there is sometimes some rice, millet, sorghum and vegetable oil.

Qin Qiufeng's hometown in Tianshui also tried his best to help.Qin Qiufeng has one elder brother, one older sister and three younger sisters. The family's labor force is not good, and the land is not much. The rest of the annual harvest is only enough to meet their own needs. They asked for some from the commune, and pieced together some from the harvesters in the village. After the wheat was threshed, they asked Qin Qiufeng's brother to bring them a hundred catties of wheat, and Bian Jinli's family took the wheat to the grain station to exchange it for flour. One hundred catties of wheat can be exchanged for eighty catties of flour.In autumn, Qin Qiufeng took advantage of Bian Jinsuo's convenience at the railway bureau, and took the train for free. She went to her hometown to carry back more than 20 catties of freshly ground cornmeal and more than ten catties of sorghum rice.In this way, Qin Qiufeng's family can subsidize about one hundred catties of grain for them in a year, and on average, it is equivalent to giving them about ten catties of grain every month.In this way, they can receive more than 30 catties of noodles, two or three catties of rice, and one or two catties of vegetable oil every month.Even this is far from meeting the needs.The children are growing up, and they have a big appetite and eat a lot. If the rice noodles donated by others and Bian Jinli's rations are added together, if they want to eat enough for each person every day, they will only be able to eat half a cup. of the month.If it wasn't enough, they had to compress the amount to eat.Back then, everyone, every meal, was always half full.Not enough to eat, no oily water, every child is thin, and Qin Qiufeng, who loves to gain weight, no longer gains weight, but also loses weight. The flesh on her body becomes loose like breasts. In Bian Jinli's view, Her body was worse than being fat, and she was even less attractive to him.

In fact, Qin Qiufeng worked in the cafeteria and had the opportunity to add some food to the family.She can steal some flour, rice and steamed buns, and even the people in the class often remind her to steal, saying that your family is so short of food, it’s okay to take some from the public, and anyone who wants it will take it.Qin Qiufeng smiled, shook his head and said, how embarrassing it is to be caught.People in the class said, what are you afraid of?Who will rummage through your bag?Qin Qiufeng smiled again, and said: After the arrangements are made, there is enough food for the family.Qin Qiufeng didn't steal because she didn't dare, it was because she didn't want to do that, and felt that it would be immoral to do so.Not only does she not take it secretly, she doesn't steal it like others, but she also thinks it is immoral to do so, and she should be responsible for the people she recognizes.Seeing that others dared to take and steal food, she felt a little distressed and worried for the public, thinking that the public's food is also rationed!I can't help it, sometimes she shows her attitude. Others don't say anything in front of her, but they still smile and don't care. Will betray them, they have to strike first.So they Zhu Bajie beat back and reported to the leader that Qin Qiufeng had the bad habit of stealing food, and repeatedly asked the leader not to say what they reported, and not to say it. If they couldn't get the evidence, Qin Qiufeng would not admit it or tell it. If you make a fuss, it won't end well; the best way is to find an excuse and tell her to leave.The leader believed it, and found a reason that the cafeteria was overstaffed, and told her to leave.At that time, Qin Qiufeng only worked in the cafeteria for three months.Later, Bian Jinli found her a cleaning job in a middle school in the building system. For Bian Jinli's family, the early 1970s to the early 1980s were their "difficult" period, and their family had a difficult time for ten years.Most of the time during the difficult period, their whole family did not have enough to eat, no oil, no water, and no food. To improve their lives, they saved up for the various holidays throughout the year, which is a very small half of the time.In those difficult days, Qin Qiufeng was the master of life in the family. She was uneducated, but she tried her best to plan and arrange things. She was able to make the insufficient food and oil flow steadily. When there is no pause.She will try her best to change the way to eat, so that the family's taste will not feel monotonous.Eat rice on one day, and gruel the next day. The gruel is rice, millet, sorghum rice, and cornmeal alternately; Soup noodles or rolled noodles or ramen noodles, alternately.In order to save money and food, Qin Qiufeng left work, either to go to the vegetable market, or to a suburban vegetable field not far from the school. The purpose of going to the vegetable market was to pick up some leftovers; Some edible wild vegetables such as shepherd's purse, amaranth, dandelion, plantain, etc., or some vegetables hoeed down from the grass hoeed by farmers.If it catches up with the time when a certain vegetable is harvested, it is also the time for her to harvest the most. She can carefully clean up a net full of vegetables on the vegetable field that the farmers have not cleaned up.The types of those dishes change according to the seasons.Potatoes in late spring, eggplants, cucumbers, beans, tomatoes, garlic sprouts, carrots, rape, etc. in summer, leek flowers in autumn, and radishes and Chinese cabbage in winter.There are much more radishes in winter than other vegetables. Every year at that time, if Bian Jinli did not go out for construction, he would go to the vegetable field to meet Qin Qiufeng after work. They would find many radishes that farmers missed. , will pick out many whole, half, worm-eyed, and distorted radishes from piles of radish shoots. When they arrive, the radishes will be filled with a woven bag the size of a flour bag, plus a net bag. They carried the cabbage and radish sprouts on their old bicycles, pushed one by one and supported by the other, and they returned with a full load despite the effort.When Bian Jinli went out, Qin Qiufeng did it alone. As long as it was tied up and tied up, it would be rewarding after a little effort.Children, if she can use it, she will not use it, and tell them to keep their energy and study hard.After a year, I rarely buy food at home, and the money I save is used to buy some food or daily necessities that do not require tickets.Qin Qiufeng is capable and hardworking, and can save the capital. When Bian Jinli thinks he wants to come, he thinks the wife he married is worth it. At that time, the most oily food they ate was the meat oil dregs brought back from the food factory by Bian Yincao who later entered the food factory.Meat oil dregs are the dregs of lard made from pig fat in food factories. If they are not needed, they are sold to employees at a low price of ten cents a catty.Workers who can live a decent life generally don't want it.Every time Bian Yincao wanted it, she wanted it for her second uncle Bian Jinli's family.Most people don't like meat oil dregs, but Bian Jinli's family is short of oil and water. When the three children see meat oil dregs, they all like to eat them as if they were meat. Every time Bian Yincao brings them over, they are excited to grab a handful each. , holding it in your hand, you can finish eating it in threes and fives, chewing the oil with your mouth full, and you don't feel greasy.Mother Qin Qiufeng is very good at using meat oil residues. She first asked the children to eat dry meat once to limit their oil addiction, which actually prevented the children from eating and having diarrhea.After that, she used meat oil dregs as meat, and every time she cooked vegetables, she put a handful of chopped meat oil dregs into the dishes, which made the dishes a bit oily, giving the feeling of eating meat. In difficult times, the three children are more inferior than ever at school.The schools the three children belong to, whether they are elementary or middle schools, are all schools with a building system. Most of the parents of the students are familiar with each other. Therefore, if the parents know their family life conditions, so will the students.Their original status as farmers, coupled with the difficult life, in the eyes of their classmates, they are a disadvantaged group. Being disadvantaged is like being mentally retarded, and they are inferior to others.Especially the middle school where his mother Qin Qiufeng went to work as a cleaner was Bian Hong's middle school. Many students were snobbish. Even though their parents were workers, they looked down on Bian Hong's mother, thinking that Bian Hong's mother cleaned the school. , is to serve them and be inferior to them.Later, when he learned that his mother was picking up vegetable leaves and digging wild vegetables all day long, he even laughed in his heart.Although Bian Lang sometimes has low self-esteem in his heart, he is also stubborn as an extrovert and dares to show a serious face. His classmates dare not show discrimination in front of him. can feel.Bian Lang gritted his teeth in his heart to get ahead, so he worked extra hard in his studies.In this way, his academic performance has always been among the top in the class.Learning well has made him completely confident.Then Bian Yue, who was two grades younger than Bian Lang, followed her to the middle school. Bian Yue could also feel the atmosphere that her brother felt.Bian Yue has an introverted personality. Not only is he not as strong and strong as his brother, but he is also a little fragile psychologically. He dare not join the group of classmates for fear of being ridiculed.During recess she was alone, alone.When I feel wronged, I will cry silently.Fortunately, when going to and from school accompanied by my elder brother in and out of the classroom, I will feel supported and protected for a while, and I will also feel confident in an instant.Bian Lang naturally knows his sister's psychology. When he is with her, he often encourages her and imparts his strength to her.Over time, Bian Yue was infected, and gradually became more energetic than her older brother, not because she was good at it, but because she focused on her studies, and she cared less about her classmates.Bian Yue's studies are also getting better and better, her grades have risen from average, and finally, she was shortlisted among the top students in the class.The classmates would always take the initiative to surround her and ask her for advice on their studies. She felt that she was no less than others. The third child, Bian Qiao, is in a better condition than the older brothers and sisters.When he took the middle school entrance exam, his brother Bian Hong graduated from high school and was facing the college entrance examination. One month before the college entrance examination, his mother quit her job at the school and took Bian Hong back to her hometown in Tianshui, where her household registration is located, to take the college entrance examination.After that, Bian Jinli stopped asking his wife to work as a temporary worker, saying that from now on, the next two children will enter a critical period of study, and she will arrange life at home well, so that the children can concentrate on their studies without worrying about food and clothing. Bar.Therefore, when Bian Qiao went to middle school, he had never seen his mother cleaning the school, so he naturally did not experience another kind of inferiority complex that his older brothers and sisters experienced.However, his study was not as good as in elementary school. The difficulty of learning increased by one level, and his academic performance declined by one level, and he was ranked at the bottom of the class.My father was angry and anxious, and he reprimanded him countless times, but nothing changed.At that time, he just lowered his head and said nothing.He has always been honest in school, he doesn't cause trouble, he doesn't make trouble, he can concentrate on listening to lectures in class, he is still an obedient student, but why is he retreating at every step in his studies?The teacher and the parents analyzed the reasons together, discussed and discussed, and the ultimate root cause was that his own intelligence was not developed enough. This made my father a little puzzled. He was born with him, just like Bian Hong and Bian Yue. "Yes?Father didn't want to admit it, and he had no choice but to worry.When Bian Xie was in the third grade of junior high school, her cousin Bian Yinxie became a star.The classmates also regarded him as a star, surrounded him all day long, and curiously asked about this and that about Bian Yinhe. He had no vanity and pride, and he still had the original expression, plain, dull, and unsmiling. Yes, classmates, teachers, and parents all confirmed that his brain is indeed "different".Soon after the senior high school entrance examination, according to the score, he did not enter high school.The father was not reconciled, he gritted his teeth and said: Come back, give me another exam!However, another year later, Bian Qiao still failed to pass the high school entrance examination. His father was so angry that he said: You should go back to the countryside and become a farmer.Having said that, his parents had a plan in mind, and they wanted Bian Jinli to work like his elder brother Bian Jinsuo for another two years, and find a way to retire early from his "sickness" and ask Bian Qiao to take over. His path would be paved for him.After staying at home for more than half a month, his father found a temporary job for Bian Qiao and asked him to hang around first. In addition to the headaches that Bian Hao felt, after Bian Lang's college entrance examination, all aspects of the family have gradually improved. It should be said that the family's turning point began in that year.First of all, Bian Lang successfully entered the local business school.Immediately afterwards, there were high-priced grain and oil, chicken, duck and fish that were open for sale.Bian Jinli urged Qin Qiufeng to try to eat as freely as possible, not to be too picky, and to make up for the lack of food and poor eating.Qin Qiufeng will plan to save money, and the family's life has improved, but he doesn't appear to be overly strapped for money.Their troubled period is over.Two years later, her daughter Bian Yue was also admitted to the local normal university.At the same time, a policy that made them very happy was introduced, saying that the wife's household registration is a family member with a rural household registration. If the children do not take over the father's work, the female household registration can be changed to a non-agricultural specialist.Bian Jinli applied immediately.A few months later, Qin Qiufeng's household registration entered Lanzhou, and the unmarried Bian Qiao followed him. It doesn't matter whether he succeeds or not.Bian Jinli sighed triumphantly: It's better to be in a hurry than to be in a hurry!For this reason, Bian Jinli was excited to have sex with Qin Qiufeng, and said humorously that after becoming a city man, his wife is another person, and he has to try something new.At this time, Qin Qiufeng was on the verge of menopause and had no interest in sex. After all, both of them felt some pain.No one cares about this matter in the past. The bed matter is no longer a matter in their lives; their main concern is their future life.The days are going to be good. Afterwards, there was a change on Bian Jinli's side. His former deputy director of the workshop resigned to form a labor contracting team. Bian Jinli had a good relationship with him, so he also resigned and went out to work with him.Everyone disapproved of his resignation, but Bian Jinli did not waver at all. Like the theory of his fifth brother Bian Jinrong, he believed that free work would lead to better development.In the contractor team, Bian Jinli is the vice captain.The contracting team is responsible for its own profit and loss. As long as it does a good job, everyone will share the money earned. Bian Jinli is the deputy captain, and the share is much more than ordinary people.In the first month, Bian Jinli received a salary half times higher than his original salary, and he was more motivated. He said to Qin Qiufeng, just wait and see what happens next.The same is true of the facts afterwards. The money he paid to Qin Qiufeng is more and more month by month.Everything went well, and Bian Jinli devoted himself to his work. All he wanted was to earn more money and make his family's life better and better.His future hope is to marry his son to a good wife and his daughter to a good man.He and Qin Qiufeng are old, and it's time to enjoy the happiness of the children. The work of the contractor team is often out of town, so Bian Jinli often goes out.Before going out, he still had to say something to Qin Qiufeng as usual: You can take care of the three children.When he said this sentence again, he felt relaxed physically and mentally, which was really a mantra. The "management" he said at this time was purely referring to life.This is actually something he doesn't have to worry about.