Chapter 11 Section 10

Being the child of this rich father gives you a better chance to be treated as just an ordinary person, to have your own interests, weaknesses, and ideas, and to treat life as just life. As for what most people like to say: "I really hope that so-and-so is my dad." That so-and-so is usually frighteningly rich. Most of the top 100 rich dads on this list are The character of the emperor and overlord. In the eyes of these emperors, many battles must be fought and many enemies must be wiped out.In their eyes, a buyer does not have facial features or a name, but a number, a black dot that causes his market share to go up or down a little bit.

In their eyes, children are sometimes "reserve cadres", "successors", and "prince princes".If this is the case, the life of a child will not be easy.At a certain stage in his life, he always needs to try to fulfill his father's expectations. Maybe he can play a little wild when he is studying; maybe he can still hang around for a while after graduation, but that's about it, he will one day I have to take over my father's helmet and go into battle to charge. Of course, such a child may lose out, or have nothing in his turn, but in any case, it will not be an easy life.It will not be a life where you can "struggle less".

As long as you carry your father's expectations, it's hard to relax.As a child, you can avoid this expectation and fail to meet it, but it is impossible to explore your own life comfortably like a person who has nothing to do. Such a "prince prince" cannot be said to be unlucky, let alone not enjoyable.They can see many big scenes, play high-level games, they will be chased and reported, they can own a lot of things, decide the ups and downs of many people, and be envied by many people for a lifetime. It should be great to have such a rich father.It’s just, I am very concerned, the freedom to grope and wander alone in life, the freedom to not have to plan other people’s lives, will be a relatively distant thing.

Different lives have different joys and pains. I am just telling you that the wish of "I really hope that so-and-so is my father" should not be as good as it is in the legend. sleep and work (in bed) dear baby: After doing the math, many people are amazed that we spend about 20 to 30 years in our lifetime sleeping. I'm not too surprised about it, sleep is supposed to be a big part of life.What amazes me is how many years of our lives work takes up. Not only does it occupy a bigger part than sleeping, but it also almost determines many things in our lives: how comfortable we can live, what titles we are called, the group of people we have to get along with every day, the people we have to obey, Our day-to-day triumphs and disappointments, and, quite literally, our self-esteem.

There are not so many ways to sleep. Our sleeping posture will not be printed on the business card. We don’t have to be locked in the same room with a group of inexplicable people every day just to sleep. I have never heard of anyone who sleeps and loses his self-esteem. The proportion of work is much scarier than sleeping. There are so many people in the world who want to work, but how many jobs sound desirable? How concise and undiscriminatory sleep is; and how trivial and discriminatory work is. Dear baby, I know that people are not the only ones who have to work, some ants and beetles are too busy all their lives.But what I really care about is that work has become the biggest scene in life. Before this scene, it is all preparations for this scene; after this scene, it is the remnant epilogue of this scene.

It doesn't have to be like this. I think learning is one of the most interesting things in life, and school should be the place where I enjoy learning the most.As a result, schools often degenerate into places where both teachers and students worry about whether students "have a future" after graduation. In order to make their children have a future, adults must work hard to earn a lot of money and give their children the most useful education they can imagine.Children use this to measure whether their parents are working hard enough, and parents use this to measure whether their children are hardworking enough. The huge shadow of work just hangs over our lives.

Baby, this is not right, it should change. Be seen and remembered <Backstage> dear baby: Some questions sound naive, and asking them will make people feel pretentious.But if those questions are important to me, I will still ask them, but only to people I trust, lest the other party laugh. On a small island very close to where I live, my friend made an exhibition. He invited 18 very smart people to arrange the deserted combat bunkers on the island to be far away from the war and full of Mysterious place of mystery. In one of the dark bunkers, planted with outrageously large fake flowers, I asked my friend a question.

"My job is to be seen by as many people as possible. The victory or defeat on our side is often determined only by this matter. Although it is rude, the rules are simple." I said. "Are you so happy?" he asked. "Sometimes." I shrugged, "the more you do, the easier it is to meet happiness." "What kind of happiness?" he asked. "...someone likes you for the right reasons..." I thought about it. "that's it?" "...If you must add more, leave a little change in that person's life." I said. "It's not a luxury!" he said.

"What about you? You people who make art, what do you want? There are far fewer people who watch art than people who watch TV!" His answer was much faster than I expected. "To be remembered the way we want," he said. "Ah, to be remembered? That's a luxury for a TV guy." We chatted about other things, but the question I wanted to ask the most was asked. If I have to compare, I should be happier than him.Because I'm more like a grocery store clerk, checking out every day.And he may have to wait until the store is gone, and rely on someone who he doesn't know where to pay for him. Even if he earns a hundred times more than me, he probably won't know.

"Then, how many people do you need to be liked? There will always be someone who gets more likes than you," he said. "I know that the amount that a person can be liked is probably endless. It's just that the amount that a person can feel and be liked is limited." I said. In this matter, I believe that the people of this century are no different from cavemen living with their own little tribe. Probably those few people, those two people, that one person you really care about can change what the world means to you. If those few people like you and value you, then tens of thousands or millions of other people, whether they like you or not, is a matter of concern.

But if those few people or that one person around you change their minds and don’t like you anymore.The other tens of thousands, millions of people will turn into thin air, maybe enough to keep you breathing lightly, but you can easily ignore the existence of this air. The big stars and heroes who have appeared on the earth are all the same. There are probably only a few people who can shake their fundamental existence or strengthen their fundamental existence.I hope my belief is valid.Otherwise, vanity is the truth, and greed is the way to survive. dear baby: Two things I do with banknotes: First, I collected a collection of French banknotes that were out of print, because they were printed in color and created by Saint-Exupéry. I wrote a commemorative article for this batch of Le Petit Prince banknotes, and then printed them into small but solemn dark blue velvet cards, and then pasted these French banknotes into the cards one by one. Then I put the stack of cards on the shelf next to . The second one, I collected a batch of obsolete Shanghai banknotes, mounted them on paper, and spread them all over the floor.Then, I asked an artist who I valued very much to arrange it with gunpowder wire.He coiled the gunpowder thread into a huge charm, and then lit it on fire. After a burst of fire and explosion, there appeared scrap paper that was blown out of scorched spells all over the floor.The artist and I picked up the talisman paper with big and small holes, shook off the scraps of paper, and signed with a brush. He used black ink and I used red ink. After signing and admiring the cracks formed by gunpowder, another One is framed in a golden frame. Then, the two of us took this batch of banknote talismans to the TV, played behind the computer sellers, and sold the talisman papers to sixty-six rich people who called in at a thousand times the price. It sold out in twenty minutes. I am kind to money, sometimes cruel. Sometimes solemn, sometimes playful. Torn Books (on the stool in front of the bookshelf) dear baby: I am tearing up books.When many people gave me a book written by him, they would very politely write my name on the front of the book and then sign his name.When the book is finally going to leave me, I will rip off the page with his signature while doing my best not to harm the book.I don't want to write such a cherished and entrusted word, and it will fall into the hands of irrelevant people.This is my courtesy.So when I give my book to others, if the other party does not ask, I will not inscribe any words on the book.Because no matter how much he likes this book, it will leave him sooner or later. I saved him the trouble of tearing up the book. Spin <coffee shop> dear baby: rotate. After you become a child, you will find many large toys in parks and playgrounds, which are for children to spin around and create happiness. Even if you don't rely on toys, children will be very happy if they spin on the spot by themselves, or are picked up and rotated by adults. Oddly enough, growing up, we don't spin much.When lovers who are passionately in love meet again, they may hug and turn around once or twice. Believers of some religions will keep turning around to get into a certain feeling, and that's probably it. We don't spin anymore. The earth we live on is always rotating, but we are not rotating anymore. It's so easy for us to let go of the simple things that make us happy. So I want to tell you about a person who is very good at spinning. One year, in a distant place, a large group of young people were arrested by adults because they liked the freedom of spinning too much and kept spinning.One of the girls escaped and fled to a further place.Everyone is very concerned about where she is.It took a long time before she managed to let everyone know that she was fine and was not taken away. Everyone breathed a sigh of relief and looked forward to her, but for some reason, she stopped spinning and became an ordinary person. Everyone gradually forgot about this girl.Everyone stopped spinning when they grew up, and there was no reason for her to continue spinning alone. However, I have a friend who did not forget this event, but she remembered it in a very special way: Every few years, my friend will perform a dance on stage. This dance is simple, very simple, just a person spinning in place. Of course, this dance is also very difficult, because no one can spin for so long and so beautifully as my friend. Dear baby, I haven't rotated for a long time, and I have long forgotten the face and name of the girl who escaped.But my friend, who is constantly spinning, uses such a simple dance to replay this event in our hearts over and over again. What is the use of dancing?What does it mean to us to dance like a swan, or like a peacock? My friend's dance is so monotonous, it just keeps spinning, and we remember that we haven't rotated again for so many years. As a result, we all cried. name <back seat of the car> dear baby: You will have a name. This means that someone here cares about you and has expectations for you. If they disappoint you later, will they stop caring about you? It's possible, but that's okay, at that point, there's usually someone else who cares about you. Your name will still be called, that's enough. Names are for calling people.If you were the only one in the world, you wouldn't need a name. For example, the one who created the universe in human imagination has no definite name.It must be because before the universe was created, there was only him up and down. Thinking about it, he is also suffering, there is no one who is better than him, and no one is worse than him; no one comes to see his face, and no one comes to show him face. He doesn't even have a name. He didn't create the universe, and I don't think there is a second way to go. Many people on our side now like to think that his creation of the universe is not good enough, full of loopholes and stretched. When I hear these complaints, I really feel wronged for him. How did he know what he would create? ! Those who have never cracked eggs, how can they know whether they can crush the eggs to pieces. (Dear baby, brother, I am a person who can't beat eggs.) Regarding the matter of whether there is a Creator who created the world, your side should have more accurate information than mine.There are many people on our side who say that they know him and have passed the news with him, but these people even talk about his appearance. Some of them are not allowed to draw his face, and some of them are very different. There are also those with beards, and there are also those who develop big muscles. Fortunately, he has several names, some beginning with this letter, and some beginning with another letter.If he created the universe because he felt lonely because he didn't have a name, he would have made the right bet. Wedding <a corner of the city> dear baby: Getting drunk at noon is not "proper" on our side.But our whole table was drunk that noon. People in our table rarely attend weddings. Maybe because of this, we are very serious about every step of the wedding and are easily moved.We even vaguely felt that it was a bit brave to be so decisively involved in the marriage. In addition, we cared about the protagonist of this wedding, so we all exceeded the excitement of being a guest at a normal wedding. When I was very excited, suddenly an elder came over and poured a round of wine, and everyone was drunk in the end.There are quite a few people at our table who can drink, but they probably have a lot of emotional ups and downs, so everyone at the table is drunk regardless of their drinking capacity. Seated to my left, was a singer who showed up and must have caused a lot of screaming.Sitting on my right is an actor whose appearance must have caused a lot of screaming. Both of them are getting more and more drunk. Relying on the remaining sliver of rational support, they desperately lowered their voices and screamed softly next to my ear: "What should I do? ?...Looks like I'm drunk...What the hell...I only had a drink...What should I do? I want to wake up and dance!"