Chapter 31 Fang Qiangqiang's mind

"I always feel that today's society is not as lively as it used to be, and many fine traditions of the Chinese nation have not been inherited. I think we should stipulate that large and medium-sized cities across the country set aside one day every year, and everyone put down their livelihoods. Go to the streets and walk by category, walk, Meet each other, and the Red Army from all walks of life hug each other. Find out whether the person living in the building next door is Lao Wang or Lao Zhang; The one with long hair and shawl is a chicken or an actor; what is the difference between a local 'angry youth' and a migrant worker from other places? Let's call it 'National Meeting Day'."

Because the author used the first-person pronoun when making this complaint, for the convenience of narration, let's take it as the endorsement of the middle-aged Fang Qiangqiang.From a psychiatric point of view, Fang Qiangqiang's complaint is likely to be diagnosed as a subtype of "social anxiety disorder", that is, social loneliness (Social Loneliness).The symptoms of the former are "feel uncomfortable when you meet strangers" (i.e. "sickness" in Beijing slang), such as "Shy-bladder syndrome (Avoidant paruresis), which is manifested as if someone stands in a public toilet. and Fang Qiangqiang’s symptoms are “feel uncomfortable when you don’t meet strangers or once you can’t grasp the background information of the stranger”, and further, it may be that if there are no strangers standing in the public toilet Can't poop on the sidelines.

When things go wrong socially, things can be big or small.When I was obsessed with "The Sims" a few years ago, when I first got started, because of my excessive narcissism, I actually chose a constellation for my hero who is as famous as me for "variety".Next, although this man is successful in the workplace, he is confused in his social life.Not only is he not good at getting along with his neighbors, but he is even more clumsy at playing horses. In the end, he is depressed, gives up on himself, stays out of bed, and finally loses his job.This pissed me off because if he wasn't working, he couldn't continue to earn money for me to buy all kinds of luxuries for him, including plasma wall TVs, to satisfy my shopaholics.When the ideological work is ineffective, he will be tortured retaliatoryly, for example, forcing him to call his girlfriend who ignores him again and again in the middle of the night, when the two women talk on the phone (what the game writer can do) After using the most vicious language that I can think of) three times in turn, it forced him to call the Pizza store to order takeaway, throw the carton on the bed after eating, move his bed outside, reduce the number of times he went to the bathroom, and gradually item removes necessary equipment from the bathroom until his bathroom is removed.

I only recently learned that someone had encountered the same problem in the game back then, but this person's revenge method was more obscene than my "Ten Manchu Tortures".Before his hero suffered from social illness, he had already bought a big house with a swimming pool, and he was considered a successful person.Therefore, according to local conditions, this person first ordered him to go swimming in the middle of the night, and then clicked the mouse to remove the ladder by the pool. The poor social patient was soaked to death like this. It can be seen that the success of social life has a very significant impact on the quality of life of an individual.According to the newspaper, there are more people suffering from various social diseases than in the past. Experts generally attribute it to stress, and secretly believe that "I always feel that today's society is not as lively as it used to be" is one of the sources of stress.Although the word "social" is not native to Chinese, it is still fortunate to find alternative words such as "lively", "big guys are lively together" and "watching the excitement" in traditional Chinese discourse.In this sense, the past was indeed much more lively than the present.In the past, we had a richer variety of social activities than Americans who were the most nervous about our own and other people’s social life. Except for the middle-aged Fang Qiangqiang’s nostalgia for taking to the streets, from meetings to classes, from parades to street parades, from Visiting and connecting with each other, even going to the mountains and the countryside, are all the characteristic social life we ​​once had.

In fact, in the meaning of the English word, socializing means society and socialized behavior, so socialism especially needs socializing.As Professor Jerome Kagan, who is in charge of interdisciplinary research on mind/brain at Harvard University, said: "These early psychological events are like names written on the sand and disappear with the tide." Nostalgia cannot but imply a hunger for rebuilding a new type of social life.That is to say, on the one hand, they look forward to "seeing each other, embracing each other and coming down", but on the other hand, they express a requirement to screen out the true identities of various people in order to obtain "distinction".In fact, "distinction" is the primary condition for socializing. Even in the lively social mode in the past, "linkage" never forgets to use "blood lineage theory" as the screening criterion to keep others out of the revolutionary club.After the society has experienced a stormy reshuffle, it is busy to define and classify itself and others: petty bourgeoisie, white collar, middle class, peasant, successful person, chicken, angry youth, new left, new right, white collar , wealthy, actors, born in the 1960s, born in the 1970s, etc., can all be regarded as clinical manifestations of social anxiety.

Screening activities may help popular commercial marketing, but it is only the first step in social networking, and the obvious sloppy and hasty screening activities do not help rebuild social life. I am afraid that they will eventually have to point to the insane "National Meeting Day" and "Death by Light".In fact, if you want to cure Fang Qiangqiang's heart disease, grasp the true meaning of social interaction, and live a more correct and harmonious social life, the easiest way is to lower your head and think about the mundane matter of rubbing rice - Mr. Qian Zhongshu has long said It must be clear: "Giving food to someone who has something to eat is a treat; eating someone else's food when one has something to eat is to show off face. The subtleties of communication are nothing more than this."