Chapter 11 Proverbs 161~180

161．Understand your indelible flaws Even the most perfect people have flaws.Why are defects inseparable from people?Intelligence has its flaws.People with extraordinary intelligence have the most -- or the most glaring -- flaws.Not that he himself is unaware of these flaws, but because he likes them.It is two evils brought together: an irrational feeling for a defect.They are the dark spots on the face of the perfect.They are repulsive to others, but we see them as beauty spots ourselves.This is a courageous way to overcome ego.People are good at seeing the flaws in others.Instead of admiring your talents, they will only notice your flaws and use them to overshadow your other talents.

162．Overcoming jealousy and malice There is no benefit in showing indifference to jealousy and malice; you can accomplish more by showing generosity.Nothing is more admirable than to praise someone who has ridiculed you; nothing is more admirable than to overcome narrow envy with wisdom and virtue.Every success of yours is a torture to those who are against you; every glory of yours is a heavy blow to your competitors.The greatest punishment is success as poison.The envious man dies every time his rival succeeds.If the envied person succeeds forever, the envied person is eternal punishment.On the one hand, the trumpet of success sings the glory of the successful, and on the other hand, it also announces the beginning of the painful suffering of the jealous.

163．Don't let too much sympathy turn you into a sympathetic What some people consider unfortunate, others may consider lucky.How can a man say he is lucky if it is not for the fact that most men are unhappy?Unluckyness often wins sympathy; we try to heal the wounds that fate has left on others with useless consolation.People who used to be jealous and hated suddenly became the object of everyone's sympathy.His downfall turned people's hatred into pity.One has to be very smart to figure out the mystery.There are those who sympathize with the less fortunate.Once someone is unlucky, they will gather around him; if the person is not very happy, they will stay away.Sometimes this can be called a kind of inner nobility, but it is really not smart.

164．let out tentative wind Seeing whether something will be accepted or rejected, especially when you are skeptical about its success or approval, might as well let out a tentative wind, this can guarantee that something will turn out well, and it can make you decide Either keep going or retreat early.By sounding out what others think, the prudent can find their ground.It is wise to anticipate a request, need, or decision well in advance. 165．fight wisely Wise men may be involved in wars, but not in dirty wars.Keep your own nature and don't be swayed by the wishes of others.It is commendable to be calm and generous in the face of opponents.Fight not only to gain power, but to show that you are a master fighter.No noble conquest is not a victory, but only the submission of the enemy.Good people don't wield vile weapons, such as those acquired by breaking up with friends.Even when a friendship ends in hatred, don't take advantage of the trust others have had in you.A gentleman will never break his promise under any circumstances, this is because the noble spirit disdains the actions of rascals.One should be able to tell the world with a clear conscience at any time and any place, even if the virtues of generosity and integrity are extinct in the world, they will definitely exist in your chest.

166．One who distinguishes between good words and good deeds It's a subtle distinction, like the difference between a friend who values ​​you for who you are and a friend who values ​​you for your status.It is bad enough to have evil words without evil deeds, but it is even worse to have evil words without evil deeds.A man cannot live on words (just smoke), nor can he live on etiquette (gentle pretense), and catching birds with a mirror is a complete illusion.Only the vain are content with empty words.For words to have value, they must be backed up with actions.A tree that only grows leaves but no fruit is usually heartless and pithless. People have to distinguish which kind of tree bears fruit and which kind of tree can only be used for shade.

167．to be self-reliant In times of trouble, a brave heart is the best companion.If the heart is weak, use the nearest organ.Self-reliant people can bear hardships better, and they should not bow to bad luck, otherwise the god of bad luck will become even more arrogant.Difficulties are multiplied by those who can hardly help themselves in times of distress, and who do not know how to bear them.People who know themselves can deliberately overcome their weaknesses.A prudent man conquers everything, even the stars. 168．don't be a moron There are many kinds of monsters.Those who have the following defects are the monsters of intemperance: vanity, arrogance, obstinacy, utopia, complacency, extravagance, self-contradictory, rash, unconventional, free-spirited ... and so on.The spiritual monster is worse than the physical monster because it is the pure opposite of a higher beauty.But who is going to correct all this commonplace folly?Where there is a lack of good knowledge, advice and correction must not be tolerated.Careful observation is entirely thrown aside by these men, who sharpen their heads to chase false applause.

169．It is better to avoid the accidental miss than to make the perfect shot Before many people make a mistake, they are simply unknown, and all their success cannot hide a small mistake.No one looks directly at the sun, but when a solar eclipse occurs, everyone does.The vulgar will ignore your many successes and hold on to one of your mistakes.Good things don't go out, but bad things spread thousands of miles.Remember, that all your faults are cast upon malicious eyes, and all your virtues are often overlooked. 170．Everything, with reservations Conserve your energy.In most cases, talent cannot be revealed, and strength cannot be exhausted.Even knowledge should be properly preserved: in this way, you will be doubly perfect.Always preserve some resilience.Timely rescue is more valuable than going all out.A person who is far-sighted and far-sighted can always steer the course safely.In this sense, we can also believe the bitter fallacy: more than half is more than all.

171．Don't abuse the favors that others owe you Key friends should be saved for critical times, and don't abuse their goodwill on unimportant things, like keeping gunpowder dry until it is in danger.If you trade more for less, what will you have left in the future?The giri that can protect you or the person who can protect you is far more precious than anything else.What nature and fame bestow on the good man, even the god of fate will be jealous.It is more important to grasp people than to grasp things. 172．never fight with nothing Never fight against the owner of nothing, it's not fair.The competing party has lost everything, even shame, and he can go into battle without any scruples.He had thrown everything away, had nothing more to lose, and was able to throw everything at once.Never bet your reputation on such a person.A good reputation is hard won, but it is ruined overnight by small things.A malicious slander is enough to wipe out the glory earned through hard work.A man of integrity knows what is at stake, and he knows what can ruin his reputation.Precisely because of his prudence, he was able to advance gradually, so as to have ample time to retreat discreetly.In the face of danger, even if he makes a slight mistake, even if he wins, it will be difficult to make up for his loss.

173．When interacting with people, don't be like glass people When interacting with others, don't be like a glass person, especially in friendship.Some people are so breakable that it shows how fragile they are.They are full of complaints themselves, and they are also full of chagrin to others.Whether it is a joke or a serious conversation, they are more sensitive than untouchable pupils.Small things are offensive from time to time, and big things are unquestionable.Dealing with them needs to be done with care, and their fragility must be kept in mind, because the slightest slight will arouse their displeasure.They are self-centered, slaves to their sense of self (for which they trample everything), and idolatrous childish egos.

174．Don't hurry in life If you know how to cook, you know how to have fun.There are many people who have lost their good fortune before they wake up to life.They squandered their time, and waited until they had lost their way, only to turn back, hoping to turn back time.For them, time passes like clouds.They are the shepherds of life, who, with their impatient dispositions, drive life to a gallop.They want to devour nourishment that is difficult to absorb in a lifetime.They think that success is in sight, and they try to swallow up the years to come.Because they are in a hurry in everything, the result is often more haste than speed.Even the thirst for knowledge should be moderate, so as not to swallow jujube and half-knowledge.Long life, good luck.Action should be fast, enjoyment should be slow.After everything is over, you will realize: the achievements are precious, and the enjoyment is illusory.

175．be a real person If you're a person with substance, you won't appreciate people who don't have substance.People who are famous but not based on substance will not be happy.There are often more people who appear to have substance on the surface than those who really have substance.There are hypocrites, who breed delusions and devise deceit, and others like them, who indulge fantasies and love illusions rather than truths.Their delusions will inevitably lead to evil results, because they lack a solid foundation.Only truth can give you real fame, only substance can benefit you.One fraud followed another, and soon the whole building collapsed in the air.A lack of foundation will certainly not last long.Their promises will only make people suspicious, and their qualities will inevitably be cast aside. 176．Of course it’s good to know it yourself, and it’s also good to know it from someone who knows To live, you need understanding: either your own understanding, or your borrowed understanding.But many people don't realize that they don't know it, and many others think they know it when they don't know it.There is no cure for the disease of stupidity.An ignorant person never seeks his own shortcomings because he has no self-knowledge.Some people would have become saints if they hadn't thought themselves saints.Prudent philosophers are few and far between, but they are all idle, because there is no one to ask them for advice.Teaching others does not diminish your greatness, or cast doubt on your talents.Quite the contrary, it only adds to your reputation.To fight against bad luck, please be taught by reason. 177．Don't get too close to people Never get too close to people, or let others get too close to you, or you will lose the advantage that integrity gives you, and you will lose your reputation.The stars never rub against us, so they will always be brilliant.Divinity requires dignity, closeness breeds contempt.The most used things are often the least cherished, because the more you touch them, the more flaws will appear; and silence can cover up flaws.Never get too close to anyone.Don't get close to the superior, or danger will come; don't get close to the subordinate, because it will lose dignity.The last thing to do with the mob, they are arrogant and stupid.They can't see that you are showing kindness to each other, but they think it is your duty to do so.To be too familiar is akin to vulgarity. 178．trust your heart Listen to your inner voice, especially if it is strong and powerful.Don't run counter to it, because it can predict things.It is your natural prophet.Many people are ruined by the things they fear, but what good is fear until something is done to prevent it?Some people are born loyal and unswerving, and this heart always gives them a sign, ringing the alarm bell and saving them before failure.The way to deal with the world is not to rush to fight when the disaster is imminent, but to meet it halfway and conquer it before it takes shape. 179．Deep reserve is the sign of genius Confidence is like a letter spread out before all.There must be a hidden city in the chest: huge spaces and tiny gullies can allow important things to settle and hide.Reservation comes from self-control, and being able to remain silent is a real victory.The key to prudent life lies in inner peace and self-control.When someone tries to read your mind, to offend you in order to control you, or to set a trap for even the shrewdest to reveal their secrets, your deepest deposits are threatened.Don't say what you want to do, and don't do what you say. 180．Don't be limited by what the enemy might do A fool never heeds the counsel of the prudent, because he does not know the benefit of it.A wise man does not follow the view of a prudent man, because he wants to hide his true intentions, lest others know and be prepared.To see and weigh things from both sides, try to be as impartial as possible.Don't think about what "will" happen, think about what "could" happen.