Chapter 12 Proverbs 181~200

181．Don't lie, but don't tell the whole truth either Because telling the truth is like bleeding from the heart, and requires extremely high skill.Whether to tell the truth or not is a skill to master.One lie can ruin your reputation for honesty.The deceived seem to be at fault, but the deceiver seems to be at fault.Not all truths can be told.Sometimes you should keep silent for yourself, and sometimes you should keep silent for others. 182．Showing a little courage in front of others is the wisdom of life Change your perception of others: don't elevate them so much that you become intimidated by them.Do not let the imagination yield to the mind.Many appear to be great, but when intersected they disappoint, and seldom raise their opinion.No one can surpass the limitations of human nature.Everyone has talents and characters that need to be perfected.Status gives a person superficial authority, but seldom matches a person's real talent, and fate often punishes his talent by disregarding his position.Imagination always rushes ahead, exaggerating things instead of imagining what really is.Also imagining contingencies, rationality relies on experience, it should discern the truth, correct the wrong and correct it.A fool should not be reckless and bold, and a gentleman should not be cowardly.If it is said that self-confidence adds power to a foolish and simple person, how is it different from adding wings to a tiger to a brave and resourceful person!

183．don't be too persistent Stupid people are stubborn, and stubborn people are stupid. The more wrong their views are, the more stubborn they will be.In fact, even if you are right, you might as well give in: people will eventually admit that you are right, and praise you for your generosity.You lose more by being stubborn than you gain by beating others.It is not truth that you are bent on defending but brutality.Some people are so stubborn and stubborn that they cannot be persuaded at all.Stubbornness, when married to self-righteousness, combines into perpetual stupidity.Be firm in the will, but not in the judgment.Of course, there are always exceptions, and then you should not back down again and again: once you change your judgment, you must never waver in your actions.

184．Don't get bogged down in red tape Even in kings such affectation smacked of eccentricity.How repulsive it is to be rigid in form or detail, and some nations suffer from this excess of rigidity.These fools adore their own decency, and their garments are woven with these foolish stitches, and the decency shown is but pettyness, for everything seems to offend them.It is all well and good to want respect, but it is unwise to be seen as affectation.Of course, it takes a lot of talent to be successful for someone who is completely free from red tape.Etiquette should not be exaggerated, nor should it be despised.A person's greatness is not revealed by taking pains in the details of etiquette.

185．Don't bet on your reputation This throw fails, especially the first throw.You will not be at the height of the sun, and it is impossible for your auspicious stars to shine.Therefore, you should reserve a chance for yourself to try again to make up for the loss of the first throw-if you succeed in the first try, you will also be able to help the second throw.There must be room for improvement and recovery in everything.Everything depends on various situations. After all, it is rare for things to succeed immediately. 186．Knowing that something sometimes has shortcomings Knowing that something is inadequate at times, even when it doesn't appear to be so.The ugly adorns itself with silk and satin, honesty should be able to recognize it.Ugliness may sometimes wear a golden crown, but it cannot hide its iron quality after all.Slavery is not less ugly even if it is decorated with high positions.Ugly can elevate one's status, but is always humble.All living beings only see flaws in heroes, but they don't realize that it is not flaws that make them heroes.A person in a high position can infect everyone, and everyone scrambles to imitate them, even imitating their ugliness.The flatterer even imitates his ugly face, without realizing that it is because of the decoration of greatness, and when the decoration disappears, everyone will be disgusted to see it.

187．What makes everyone happy, do it boldly Everyone is unhappy, others do it for them.You will win the goodwill, and others will take the badwill on your behalf.The great and the noble would rather do good than receive favor, and always feel guilt or remorse for troubling others.When repaying others, it is advisable to do it yourself; when repaying others, it is advisable to let others do it for you.You should give others a handle so that when they are dissatisfied, they can continue to vent their hatred and nag.The resentment of the mob is like rabies. They don't know where the pain is, they only know how to bite the tight collar on their mouths.There is no fault in the tight band, and the innocent suffers.

188．unearth things to praise Finding things to compliment establishes your taste and convinces others that you have exceptional taste and thus want your compliment.If someone understands what is perfect, he will cherish it.Compliments provide something to talk about and an example to emulate, and are a gentle way of exhorting those around you to be courteous.Some people, on the contrary, can always find something to find fault with, belittling those who were not there.This trick works well on those superficial people who don't see the trick in it: Throwing away what is right and what is wrong.The other kind of people are accustomed to belittle the past and praise the present. (Used to praise today's mediocrity and even despise yesterday's brilliance).Let prudent people see through these tricks, neither exaggerating the truth nor getting carried away with flattery.And he should wake up to the fact that these carping people will use the same tricks with whomever they associate with.

189．Taking advantage of another's lack of state The state of scarcity creates desire in people, and using this desire to control others is very safe.Philosophers say scarcity is nothing, politicians say scarcity matters: the latter is right.There are those who climb the ladder of their desires in order to attain their ends.Politicians take advantage of the scarcity of others, stimulating their desires by creating difficulties.They found that the stimulation of scarcity was stronger than the satisfaction of abundance.The more difficult the situation, the stronger the desire.The secret to getting what you want is to maintain people's dependence on you.

190．find solace in all things Even useless things have their virtues: they last forever.There is nothing in the world that does not have an advantageous aspect.A fool also has a fool's blessing.As the saying goes: "beauties often envy the blessings of ugly women".The smaller the value, the longer the lifespan.An annoyingly broken mirror just won't shatter completely.Fate seems to be jealous of talents.It makes mediocre people live longer and talented people die young.A brilliant man is always short of food and clothing, and a worthless man is never short of food and clothing-whether he is really worthless, or just looks like it.As for the unluckiest, luck and death seem to conspire to forget them.

191．don't be fooled by polite compliments Don't be fooled by polite compliments, it's a deception.There are people who can perform magic without drugs, and with a decent hat-off, they can make fools - vain ones - lose their minds.They sell their vanity, say a few sweet words, and they pay off their debts.Promises are a trap for fools, and those who make promises never keep their promises.Sincere humility is allegiance, false politeness is deceit, excessive hospitality is not respect but dependence.A flatterer does not bow down to the noble character of the other party, but envies his wealth, longs for his favor, and wants to hear his flattery.

192．Peaceful people live a long life, live freely and let others live freely The peaceful ones not only live long but are the real masters.Listen more, watch more, speak carefully.There is no struggle with the world during the day, and you can sleep peacefully at night.To live long and happily is to live twice: this is the benefit of peace of mind.Don't worry about trivial things, and you will have everything you need.The most stupid thing is to be serious about everything.It is foolish to be sad about something that does not concern you, and to not care about something that concerns you.

193．Beware of those who say they have your best interests at heart Prudence is the best defense against fraud.If the other party has a fine mind, you should be even more careful.Someone is good at making his business your business.If you can't see their intentions, you will be taken advantage of. 194．Be realistic about yourself and your affairs The answer is especially true if you are just embarking on the journey of life.Everyone thinks highly of themselves.The most mediocre person thinks of himself as the highest.Everyone dreams of getting rich and thinks he is a genius, full of hopes to make great achievements, but reality does not make people do what they want.A lucid awareness of reality is torture to vain imagination.Be wise.Hope for the best and plan for the worst, so that you can bear any consequences with peace of mind.It's not bad to aim high, but not unattainable.When starting a job, adjust your expectations.In the absence of experience, decisions often go wrong.Wisdom is the panacea for all kinds of folly.Recognize your range of motion and your state, and align your assumptions with reality. 195．know how to appreciate others A person can always surpass others in a certain area, and there will always be someone stronger than him in this area.Learning to appreciate everyone will benefit you immensely.A wise man respects everyone, because he knows that everyone has their own strengths, and he also understands that things are not easy.A fool despises others, partly out of ignorance, partly because he always prefers the worst. 196．know your lucky star The most helpless thing is not having a lucky star.If you're unlucky, it's because you haven't discovered it yet.Just because of the care of luck, some people can climb the dragon and become a phoenix, and some people can get help from noble people. They don't know why, they just try to adapt to this luck.Some people are more successful in one country than another; or, more famous in one city.Even if the ability is comparable, some people are more fortunate in the same occupation.Luck shuffles the cards as it pleases, so that everyone knows their own luck and talent, and it's all about winning or losing.Know how to follow your lucky star without changing it or dismissing it. 197．don't fall into the hands of fools A fool is one who does not recognize a fool, or, if he does, does not get rid of him.Association with fools, even casually, is dangerous.If you confide in them, the harm will undoubtedly be greater.At the beginning, they will not dare to act rashly because of their own caution or the warning of others, but this restraint will only make them more stupid in the future.Notorious people only stain your reputation.Fools are always unlucky--bad luck is their burden--and this double misfortune not only clings to them, but also to those with whom they associate.One thing about them is not so bad, and that is that, though wise men are of little use to them, they themselves are ample counter-examples to wise men. 198．To know how to live in a different place There are certain peoples, especially those in high positions, who gain respect in the world only after they have lived in different places.The motherland treats outstanding people like a stepmother.Envy, rooted in fertile ground and overriding all things, causes the world to remember a man's first inadequacies rather than his later greatness.A pin travels from the old world to the new to be admired, a glass bead makes diamonds spurn.Every foreign object, whether it came from afar, or because it was seen by chance when it was formed and perfected, is revered.Some people, who suffer from the eyes of their own little corner, are world-famous outside.They are respected by their own countrymen because their compatriots look at them from afar; they are respected by foreigners because they come from afar.The statue on the altar will never be revered by those who look back and see only a tree trunk cut from the forest. ① Alluding to what happened when Europeans explored the New World. 199．To be respected, one must be careful To gain respect, be cautious, not aggressive.The right way to build a reputation is virtue.If you have both talent and virtue and can work hard, you can quickly become famous.Integrity alone is not enough fame, nor is diligence alone, because in the process of your efforts, you may be splashed with dirty water and ruin your reputation.You have to choose the golden mean: you must have virtue, but you should also know how to express yourself. 200．always expecting Always look forward to it, so as not to be unaware of the blessing in the blessing.When the body breathes enough, the spirit always desires.If you have everything, then everything will turn into disappointment and dissatisfaction.Even the wise need to know other things to feed their curiosity.Hope gives us life, but feasting on pleasure kills us.When rewarding others, never satisfy them.When they have nothing to ask for, you have to be careful: they don't feel any pleasure.Where there is desire, there is worry.