Chapter 5 Part 5

The Escape of the Ox and the Horse In this world, it is difficult to say that there are permanent friends and permanent enemies. When the original "mutual benefit" becomes "mutual harm", and there is a conflict of interests, the original friends can become enemies. When the original "hostility" becomes "co-prosperity" and the interests can be combined, the original enemies can become friends. Before you criticize anyone, you should think about whether he is a "person" who opposes you, or because of his position and position today, he has to oppose you.Further thinking, if one day, he quits this job, will the problem be solved.

This is the so-called "doing things not people"! You know, everyone has a conscience, and everyone has eyes to see and ears to hear.A person seems to have no conscience, nor does he seem to see or listen, probably not because of "him", but because of his "position". A mature person must know that - when looking at other people's positions, that "person" cannot be ignored.Never negate "people" or "humanity" with standpoints. Because one day, you may also switch to the other side's position.Just like the calf and the grass in the previous story, your former friends suddenly became enemies; your former enemies suddenly became friends again.

wait until such a day You must never think that the respect you get when you stand in your current position can still be retained when you change positions.When you work well in a big company, and it seems that outside manufacturers and customers are flattering to you, like a brother, you must not lose your head with joy.I even thought that if I had a falling out with my boss and went out and set up another company, everyone would follow me. According to statistics, the ratio of customers and business hopping is very low.because: "First, the original factory has been cooperating for a long time, since there is no problem, why bother to change the location.

Second, the boss of the original factory is also an old friend, and even the friendship is far above the job-hopping business, so why bother to offend an old friend for a subordinate. Third, many people recognize factories but not people.Just like cats often recognize the house but not the owner.It's a human nature. Fourth, the boss always wants to be the boss.Subconsciously, he would not be willing to follow the traitor of the opposing boss.What's more, if you do this, you will set a bad example for your subordinates.The so-called "don't do to others what you don't want to be done to you".Why bother?

Fifth, when someone changes jobs and starts a new job, the original factory will often strengthen services and lower prices in order to retain old customers and combat new ones.Now that you have already made a profit from this "contradiction", there is no need to change the factory. It can be seen from this that unless you establish your own business and the conditions are far better than the original proprietor, it is difficult for you to win in the short term. Even if you win, you will often lose both sides.Therefore, no matter whether you want to change jobs or start your own business, you must plan well, and you should not misjudge the real situation just because you get some applause for your "pretend to be fake".Otherwise, you will fail miserably, even so miserable that you cannot stay in the original circle.

---------------------------------------------- It is an eternal truth to use extraordinary means to deal with extraordinary opponents. The expert can't stop it "This kid recently had a big deal in my hands. I don't plan to let go, so nothing good will happen today. Be careful what you say, you can't promise anything, even if you help, you can't do it, and definitely don't take advantage of him. I can't take anything!" Before getting off the taxi, he told his wife: "Three requests, four requests, I have to save face, but I really don't want to, so he wants to drive to pick him up, I will return, I said if you Come on like this, I won’t go! Our gift is not light, but he only has a meal, and he doesn’t owe anything! It’s good to get together and break up, and an old classmate.” Turning around and poking his son:

"Listen too, don't take other people's things, it's about my integrity, it's not a joke!" A rich man is a rich man, and the yard is as big as a small park with a lotus pond!The magnolia tree by the pool is blooming a bowl-sized white flower. "In Taipei, this is already a rare plant." He said with emotion: "When I was a child, there was a tree in my yard, but it was dug up by the public house, and it disappeared for more than ten years." "How about digging it up and giving it to you?" "Joke! Where do I have garden seeds?" Startled, he immediately put his face down and looked back at his wife, who was admiring the hostess's clothes:

"This famous style of clothes can only be worn by a tall person like you!" "Where is this called a style? No waist or no body, anyone can wear it the same, if you don't believe me, I will show you how to wear it!" As he spoke, he pulled his wife towards the house, but he yelled at him in time. Big mahogany round table, rice porcelain with thin body, plus silver cover and silver cover, not to mention the dishes. "Sangdao's seafood, Xunxiangyuan's fins, Fushouqi's snacks..." The host introduced the same thing: "If you insist on not going to the restaurant, I have to go out and order. If I have another famous Fenjiu from your hometown. It's even better! Isn't it? Hahaha..."

He nodded falteringly, but he was calculating the price of a table of dishes in his heart. shoot!The host clapped his hands: "Your elder brother nods, I really remembered that a senior person gave such a bottle of wine many years ago, and I didn't want to drink it." He opened the wine cabinet. He hurried over to stop it: "I've already opened a bottle of XO, don't take anything else." "Haha! You are one step slower." With a bang, the owner has already opened the bottle cap. "No! No! Put it back." He insisted with a flushed face. "It's already opened! Old classmate, don't do this! If you don't want to drink, let me drink it!"

It happened that the son over there spilled the juice, and the wife was in a hurry to wipe the table with a napkin. "The table is fine, we should take care of the children first!" The hostess took out a white handkerchief, knelt on the ground to wipe the children, and followed her in to change clothes, presumably her body was also dirty. "They are both sixteen years old, and they will take the university entrance exam next year, and they are still as reckless as a child." He frowned and said to the child, "Hurry up and finish eating; go to tutoring by yourself."

"We'll send him off." "No! He knows the way, and every time he goes nearby to play video games, he takes the bus by himself." "Play video games?" "Isn't it? If you want to play with that imported machine called Firebird, it costs tens of dollars every now and then!" The wife patted her son and laughed! After the meal, the four adults sat by the lotus pond and chatted. The fragrance of magnolia made him a little intoxicated, but he had to be vigilant at any time. Fortunately, the host didn't mention the deal again. It was almost dusk when we took our farewell. The hostess came out with a small bag and took his wife by the hand: "Your husband is not allowed to give any gift, we women are an exception, and it is old. The one I was wearing has been sent out by the servant just now, and the bottom skirt has been cut short. It must be just right!" His wife was startled and almost screamed: "No! No! The voice was trembling." Alas!It's all cut, I can't wear it anymore, it's not new clothes, why are you doing this? " The wife looked back at him with fear in her eyes.He nodded. "That's right!" The male host patted the old classmate's shoulder: "You don't allow me to give things, just a small branch!" He raised his hand and folded the magnolia flower, and handed it to him: " Childhood! Childhood! Remember." His face was flushed again, and he moved backwards towards the door, and raised his index finger: "Jun Yu Yinuo! Don't push the car." "Of course! Of course!" The male host raised his hands in a gesture of surrender: "And the car is sending your son to class, waiting at the entrance of the cram school, maybe it is taking your son home!" After seven days, his children no longer had to go all the way to Tianmu to play "Firebird", because someone had shipped one to the door.He had never seen a child so excited in his life, and he had nowhere to retreat, so he had to stay. Ten days later, he saw the case again.After hesitating for a whole day, before leaving get off work, I approved "yes". "Think about it" Why would "he" sign an official document that was not intended to be approved? Because I accepted the other party's hospitality and received a gift! But let's recall, what did "he" get? It's just a hearty lunch, two bottles of wine, a piece of clothing, a flower, a private car transfer for the child to and from cram school, and a video game.Adding it all up is not worth much money! Didn't "he" originally insist on not accepting the gift from the other party?Why do you still accept it? That's the point of the story -- Because those are things that cannot be refused, and when he wants to refuse, it is already too late! That's not a million bucks, a car, a Dupont lighter or a gold Rolex watch, something of tangible value that can be returned and rejected! The dishes are ordered by major restaurants, can you return them? The wine has been opened with a bang, can you reseal it as before? Wipe the child's body with a white handkerchief, can you keep the handkerchief from getting dirty? The clothes have been cut short, can you put the fabric back together again? The only magnolia flower has broken off, can you make it grow back? The child has been delivered, can you turn back the time and return the car? The video game has been placed at your door, can you ship it back to an unknown shipper? (Although you can guess who sent it, but can't prove it) The genius of the gift giver is here!He knows you won't take it, so he gives you what you have to take. There is a kind of person who makes a toast, and you must drink it, because he says: "If you think highly of my little brother, you must drink this cup, and I will do it first as a respect!" I raised my head and drank the glass, can you not drink it?If you don't drink, you look down on him. The more ruthless person is when he pours the wine into his mouth, keeps the glass in his mouth, and stares at you with wide eyes to see if you drink it. The wine in the glass was spit back into the glass again! Dirty!Also really cruel! The problem is, how many heroes, heros, and people who stick to principles in the world have to compromise like this! People in the Japanese gang made a big mistake. They often cut off a section of their little finger and presented it to the elders of the gang or the person who was owed. If the other party accepts the bloody finger wrapped in white cloth, it means forgiving the person who made the mistake. How many people would not accept this kind of scene? The finger has been cut off and can never be reattached. Do you have the heart not to accept it? When Hui Ke, the master of Zen Buddhism, worshiped Bodhidharma as his teacher, Bodhidharma didn't want to accept it at first, but why did he accept it later! Because Huike cut off his own arm and presented it! Even a "fixed" person like Master Bodhidharma has to change his original intention! Think ahead! In 227 BC, what method did Prince Yan use?Make Jing Ke willing to go to the death date that "the strong man will never return"-Assassinate the King of Qin! It's simple, and it's simple! When Jing Ke went out with Prince Dan, picking up tiles on the ground and throwing them away, the prince immediately offered gold nuggets to replace the tiles. When they rode out together on a thousand-mile horse, Jing Ke accidentally said "the liver of a thousand-mile horse is beautiful", and the prince immediately killed the thousand-mile horse and offered the horse liver. When Jing Ke saw the beautiful woman playing the qin and praised her "good hands", the prince immediately chopped off the beautiful woman's hands and presented them to Jing Ke on a jade plate... What a ruthless Yan Taizi Dan!How much Yan Taizi Dan knows how to "give gifts"!Because he knows that the most poisonous gift.It is something that when the other party wants to refuse, it is too late.Although the "liver of Maxima" and "hands of a beautiful woman" were sacrificed so unreasonably, they are just like "Huike's arm", which makes you unable to "not accept this favor"! No wonder Jing Ke wanted to lament him and said: "The crown prince is so kind to me!" All in all, people in this world who give you "tangible gifts" are not terrible.What is really scary is that you have to accept a gift when you are offered it in an inexplicable and unreasonable way.Even if you don't pick up, you have to be 100% grateful! What if you really run into this kind of person? 1. You must maintain a high degree of vigilance, and block him first before he drinks wine, folds flowers, or takes out a handkerchief! Second, you use bitter tactics against bitter flesh.Leave that video game by the door and let it shine, or donate to a charity. Donate the expensive clothes to the charity sale, and send a big red envelope to the driver who takes the children to and from get out of class! Use extraordinary means to deal with extraordinary opponents!This is the eternal truth! --------------------------------------- Love is love, reason is reason, good and bad things are best said first.