Chapter 3 three

When you think about death, when you think about those comatose people, you will find that there is nothing in this world that is more gratifying than waking up! win the first battle of the day Since you slept too little yesterday, after dinner today, you said that you should go to lie down first, and then prepare for the exam the day after tomorrow.But when I woke you up at nine o'clock, you covered your head again, cooing and saying: "Just sleep until tomorrow morning and then get up to study, anyway, tomorrow is a study holiday!" Your grandmother also thought it was reasonable and agreed, but I asked, "What time do you plan to get up tomorrow morning?"

"Six o'clock!" "Then do the math, how many hours did you sleep in total? That's eleven hours! The day after tomorrow you will have three subjects to test, can you sleep like this? Besides, what time do you plan to go to bed tomorrow? If you delay until late at night as usual Two o'clock, that's 20 hours, you may read for 20 hours straight and still maintain high efficiency? Can the eyes with contact lenses bear it?" You thought about it while blindfolded, and jumped up. What changed your original intention?It is the analysis and judgment after waking up!

It is impossible to have a clear judgment when you are sleepy and drowsy.You may even find that when you can't get up in the morning, the original fighting spirit will disappear, and you may say to yourself: "Oh! This plan is too troublesome, why bother? Forget it! Let's talk about it another day!" Many good plans are canceled in this way!Many life-changing opportunities are missed in this way! Recently, I read a medical report, saying that those patients with depression will become more serious after a good night's sleep.Conversely, when they slept less, or stayed up all night, the condition eased.

The report did not analyze the reasons, but I believe that the biggest reason for those suffering from depression is that they dare not face reality.And sleep, so that they are farther away from reality. There is a proverb in northern China: "It's better than dumplings, and it's better than upside down!" It means that there is nothing more delicious than dumplings; the most comfortable thing is nothing like a good night's sleep.Dreams provide us with another world, a world that cannot be satisfied in reality but can be achieved there.So dreaming has the effect of relieving mental tension.

The problem is, when we fugue into the void in our dreams, our bodies are still in this world, and the void is not reality after all.Therefore, when we wake up from a beautiful dream, it is the most painful. Sometimes it is like drinking wine to soothe our sorrow, and the headache after waking up from the wine is the same. I remember the book "Life after Life" I translated, the original author Raymond Modi said in the preface: "Actually, what's the difference between death and sleep? They both lose their sense of the world! The only difference is when they sleep and wake up. How cute it is to wake up!"

Every time I return from the infinitely beautiful dream to the difficult real world and feel extremely painful, I will use this passage to comfort myself. The daughter-in-law of a colleague of your mother fell into a coma after a car accident and was sent to a Coma Center in Boston. Her husband even quit his job and lived next to the hospital with his two-year-old daughter. , leading the child to the bed every day to call his wife and mother.What are they praying for? It's a miracle! What miracle? wake up! When you think about death, when you think about those comatose people, you will find that there is nothing in this world that is more gratifying than waking up!

Being awake is not so simple, which is why there is the word "awake".Waking up but not clear, or waking up but not getting up, or even sinking into a dream, is often the biggest reason for making our judgment mistakes or missing time. From the experience of waking up in the middle of the night and heating milk in the microwave for your sister, I found that there is a huge difference in judging time between half-awake and awake. When I was warming her milk during the day, I always followed the numbers on the stove and calculated in my heart. Over time, I could calculate almost without looking at the numbers.That is to say, when you meditate for 30 seconds, the stove will jump to 30 seconds.

But when I was awakened by my sister crying in the middle of the night, and I was drowsily warming milk for her, I found that the time on the stove jumped surprisingly fast. I only counted eighteen seconds, and the stove had already started to ring. Is the stove fast?No!I am slow! Slow people feel that the world is changing very fast. A slow person has less time than others. At the same time, there can be different speeds in terms of feeling for one person, let alone for different people.I realized this truth with horror!From this, I also understand why people who want to snooze for a while often find that the "sleep" makes him "greatly" late.

There are actually many alarm clocks with snooze devices in this world. When it sounds overtime, you only need to press the snooze button, and it will delay the alarm for ten minutes. If you answer it again, it will delay for another ten minutes. I'm against this alarm clock because it makes us haggle over our bedtime decisions.If you decide to wake up at 6:00 before going to bed, why do you have to wait until 6:20?One cannot compromise with oneself, think about it!Is it possible for someone who has compromised with his decision a few hours ago to stick to his long-term ideals? From the many experiences mentioned above, I have a fighting attitude about getting out of bed every day.I tried my best to stick to my wake-up time, and when I woke up in the middle, I tried to stay awake, because a car that doesn't start fast can't perform well on the track.And whenever I was too tired to get up, I would say to myself: "I lost the first battle of the day, what's the matter?"

I have a friend who first worked as a senior executive in a news organization. After being excluded for no reason, he changed his career to an insurance broker and soon became a million-dollar broker.Soon after, I went to start a magazine again, and within a few months, I created a world that is impressive. I remember that when he left the news unit silently, a friend said: "Don't worry! He is a person who was hit, silent, and hid in a corner to sleep. But as soon as he woke up, he was full of energy, as if he was a different person, and started Facing the next challenge alive and well!"

No one will say: "Fighting during the day is for sleeping at night"; but they can say "Sleeping at night is fighting for the day!" To sleep is to walk a farther road after waking up! One has to learn to accept failure. Take advantage of the down time to catch your breath and think of ways to attack again! revenge We had a shooting game in the yard yesterday evening, and it was good at first, but when I was up 11-6, you started to get impatient.Every time I missed a shot, I blamed myself loudly and jumped, and when I scored a goal, you sighed repeatedly and asked me if I had taken Dali pills?Correspondingly, your ball will become more and more inaccurate, and even rolled into the neighbor's yard several times. In the end, I won twenty to nine.When I entered the room, I heard you yelling loudly: "Just kidding! What happened today? I can't believe I can't vote!" I was sitting in the living room drinking coffee, and I saw you continue to practice, first you changed your shorts, then you took off your shirt, and you ran under the mercury lamp with your shirt on, spraying your body with the garden hose from time to time.When I opened the door and asked if you would like some insect repellant to avoid mosquito bites, you said in a roaring voice: "No! I must score ten goals in a row today, otherwise I will never go in and sleep!" Your grandfather, whether he couldn't bear it or really wanted to go to the yard, actually lit a cigarette and sat by the ball stand to watch; your mother also stood by the window with her sister in her arms.It's just that your ball is even more inaccurate. Instead of scoring, it often enters the woods behind the yard due to excessive force. "No!" said my sister as you went into the woods to pick up the ball. "Yes!" My sister jumped happily when you came back. Just like "no", "yes", "no", "yes", until your sister went to bed, you were still pale, running with slumped shoulders... To be honest, I am very distressed, afraid that you will be exhausted. But I am also secretly happy, thinking that this kind of resentment that "you can't win if you don't believe it" will be the driving force for your future success.Many great achievements in this world all stem from this kind of "unconvinced"! Of course, there are also many people who, because they are not convinced, do not review calmly, and become more irritable. Many enemies, aiming at your "can't afford to lose" personality, use aggressive, booing and gloating methods to force you to lose your mind and fall into a deeper quagmire! When Xiang Yu was defeated and retreated to Wujiang, why did Liu Bang's soldiers sing the song of Chu?That's the song of Xiang Yu and his men's hometown! Does not singing the song of your enemy's native land make him sentimental, nostalgic, and ironic?It is precisely because they recognized Xiang Yu's stubborn and unyielding personality that they used this trick to attack their hearts.Sure enough, when people persuaded Xiang Yu to cross the river and wait for the opportunity to make a comeback, Xiang Yu drew his sword and killed himself on the grounds that he was ashamed to see Jiangdong's elders! Many people who read this period of history will say that if Xiang Yu's status is replaced by Liu Bang, they will cross the river, and they will turn defeat into victory! In this way, isn't Xiang Yu's failure due to his stubborn personality, which is difficult to accept the reality of failure? There is also a kind of person in the world, who does not become stronger as he gets frustrated, but may become more relaxed as he gets frustrated. Usually, this kind of people have psychological burdens in the past.For example, Zhang Depei has fallen into a low ebb since winning the French Open. Although some people say that it is a physical problem, it is actually because of psychological pressure. And when he fell out of the top ten in the world and participated in the US competition in July this year, he became more and more courageous when he suffered from leg cramps, and he actually reversed the situation, defeated a strong opponent, and won the championship again, do you remember what he said ? He said: "Because of my leg cramps, when I almost gave up, I was able to relax and fight hard, and the fight became smoother..." On the contrary, his opponent relaxed because of Zhang Depei's cramps. Be alert, when you feel the overwhelming pressure, it will be difficult to turn the tide! So the same "relaxation", one relaxes the mood, and the other relaxes the guard, the former gets a chance to turn defeat into victory. The question is, when you are behind today; did you relax? You did your best!But it was an impatient, desperate desperate effort, so not only failed to turn the tide of the battle, but suffered a worse defeat.And after failure, how can such angry self-blame help?I'm afraid that you will catch a cold while spraying your whole body, or you will not be able to play for the next few days due to excessive fatigue! In this way, can you achieve the goal of "revenge with one arrow"? One learns to accept failure, to take advantage of the down time to catch one's breath, and to think of ways to attack again.Hope you can use last night's ball game as a lesson! correct!Finally I want to ask you. Did you really score ten goals in a row?