Chapter 17 Chapter 15 How to Speak When Persuading Drinks

The universe is big in the pot, and the sun and moon are long in the cup.Alcohol often plays an irreplaceable role in life.Weddings, birthdays, and festive gatherings all rely on it to refresh and enliven the atmosphere.And at a banquet, whether it is the host or the guest, it is indispensable to persuade others to drink two more glasses, which can not only enhance the relationship, but also fuel the flames, making the atmosphere of the banquet more warm, harmonious, festive and prosperous.We can often find such a master of persuading alcohol at banquets, a few "sweet words" can make you drunk even though you have a limited amount of alcohol.It should be said that it is the basic responsibility and the basic principle of a drinker to let the other party drink as much as possible, but also to invigorate the atmosphere without hurting the friendship and face.

Toasting is also a science.Under normal circumstances, the toast should be in the order of age, position, and the identity of the guest and host. Before toasting, the order of toasting must be fully considered and the priority should be clearly defined.When drinking with unfamiliar people, you should first ask about their identities or pay attention to how others call them. This is a good idea to avoid embarrassment or hurt feelings. When toasting, we must grasp the order of toasting.When you ask for a guest at the table, you should be more respectful to him, but you should pay attention to that if there are people with higher status or older people present, you should not only pay respect to those who can help you, but also pay respect first. Give a toast to the elders, otherwise everyone will be embarrassed.

At the banquet, you should see the occasion clearly, correctly evaluate your own strength, don't be too impulsive, try to keep some drinking and speaking properly, neither let others underestimate you nor expose yourself too much, choose the right opportunity, and gradually radiate your own Only by being sharp can you sit firmly on Mount Tai, so that others will not have the idea of ​​​​"only this ability", so that everyone will not underestimate your strength. Usually during the festive season, guests and friends get together to celebrate happiness with wine, and express good wishes with healthy and beneficial toasts.When clinking glasses, first clink glasses with the guest of honor, and then, although you don't have to clink them one by one, you should raise your glasses as a gesture.When giving food, the guest of honor should be given first, and then the guests should be respected in turn.Don't chew vegetables in your mouth when talking, wait until your mouth is empty before speaking.Neither the host nor the guests can only talk to one or two people, and try to take care of them comprehensively.Be more refined when eating, eat slowly and without making noise.

There are still some taboos on the wine table to pay attention to: 1.Don't make a slip of the tongue after drinking, misfortune comes out of your mouth. 2.Avoid losing your composure after drinking, which is unrefined. 3.Avoid getting close after drinking and provoking gossip.When speaking, you must pay attention to the following issues: Do not talk about work at length, which will make the people present feel nervous and depressed; do not preach, give others a little space, listen to other people’s opinions, and do not damage the proper atmosphere at the banquet; Talking about someone's flaws and weaknesses keeps others down.

People are in good spirits on happy occasions.Some people never drink or don't drink much, but they are often willing to drink two sips or a few more glasses on some special festive occasions.Then, the persuader might as well emphasize the importance and particularity of this occasion when persuading him to drink, and point out its value and significance to the other party. This will not only stimulate the other party's sense of joy, happiness, and honor, but also make him hinder A second drink is a pleasure to have on certain occasions. Whether it's the father in case A or the classmate in case B, if the other party's words reach this level, can he not drink?

People's resistance to praise is often weak, especially at the wine table, the lively atmosphere and the presence of everyone make it easy to inflate people's vanity.Therefore, praising the other party's drinking capacity or academic performance or work performance at the wine table will create an invisible pressure on him with the help of everyone on the wine table: since you can drink, and since your career is so proud, you don't even have a glass of wine. Willing to drink, do you look down on us?This kind of pressure is easily felt by the other party, so he has to pick up the glass even if he is under pressure.

"Old Wang, don't put on airs. I don't know your drinking capacity, old man? If you are in a good mood, you can drink a bottle of 'Erguotou' without any problem, and your face doesn't change color and your heart beats. That spirit! Why do you want to borrow it today? Want to escape because of a cold? Do you think it’s possible?” "Wang Dongming, you can't escape today! Don't you all know that the manager talked to him yesterday to promote him! You don't have to admit it. Director Li told you this morning! It's so good The matter is kept from all of us, let me tell you, you are sure to drink the wine today, not only that, but on the day of promotion, you have to invite only a few of us here!"

The banquet is an important place to communicate and enhance feelings. Toasting and persuading colleagues, friends, and leaders can promote emotional exchanges between the two parties and make the relationship between them closer and more stable.Generally speaking, if the persuasion itself can really achieve this goal, the other party will not easily refuse.In response to this kind of psychology, we can emphatically emphasize the special relationship between us and the other party when persuading wine, making persuasion a unique way of emotional communication between two people, and we can even take this opportunity to express our feelings for the other party. Some kind of gratitude, guilt, respect, and admiration can't help but touch the heart of the other party, so the next gulp is a natural thing.

"Secretary Zhou, it's unusual to mention our relationship. I still remember that you were the first person to receive us when I first came to work 5 years ago. I suffered from vomiting and diarrhea at work, and you were the one who sent me to the infirmary at that time. Over the years, I have always remembered this incident, and it is unforgettable! It’s just because you usually give too much care and help, and I can’t tell you one by one. Thank you, I haven’t said it all the time, today’s glass of wine is my thank you wine, you must drink it.” "Xiao Wang, I misunderstood you about the salary payment. I have never been embarrassed to tell you. I take this opportunity to apologize to you today! If you drink this glass of wine, it means that you have forgiven me. We are still good buddies; if you don't drink it, it can only mean that you don't forgive me, and then I will have to apologize for the rest of my life!"

This is also a commonly used persuasion technique.The prerequisite for using this technique is to be good at grasping some taboos or untimely actions made by the opponent inadvertently, and there must be sufficient reasons to prove that he "deserves punishment" without being too embarrassing for the opponent to step down. .In addition, using this method of persuading alcohol requires fully mobilizing the strength of other people present, trying to get everyone to agree with their own statement, and then encouraging them to put pressure on the other party to make the other party accept the "fine wine".

A friend is holding a wedding, and Xiao Wang is 5 minutes late. At this time, you can persuade him to drink in a fault-finding way: "Okay, now everyone has seen it, and you are 5 minutes late! Now the company deducts bonuses for being late for 1 minute, and you are 5 minutes late. Minutes, do you think you should be punished or not?" Xiao Wang could only nod his head desperately, and drank a glass with his head raised.At this time, the persuader made another attack: "Okay, the lateness is over, let's talk about another thing (Xiao Wang is dumbfounded, and everyone is dumbfounded). Let me ask you: just now you rushed to your seat. What did you say? You said 'Sorry, today is very unlucky, the traffic is stuck all the way', don't you? Do you know what day it is today? Today is our Daqin wedding day, you are 'unlucky' in a mess Say, what do you mean? Everyone said, should Xiao Wang be fined another drink?" For some people who really have a limited amount of alcohol, or ladies and students, it is obviously not good to be too reluctant, so it is inevitable to make some concessions on the amount of alcohol consumed, drink a glass for yourself, and half a glass for others, or let the other party drink only a sip That's it.The other party insists on not drinking under your persuasive persuasion, which is somewhat embarrassing in itself. If you make a concession at this time, the other party may not be able to shirk. It's not a big deal to suffer a little "loss".Because our persuasion is not to make someone drunk, but out of the need for the scene and atmosphere. You can use this method when persuading a fresh graduate who rarely drinks alcohol: "Brother Liu, I'm almost exhausted, you still don't drink, it seems that you really don't want to save face for me Well then, I don’t want to lose face. You drink half a cup, no, you take a sip, and I’ll accompany you to drink this big cup, right? If you refuse me again this time, I’ll have to find someone else Get down!" And for women, you can also ask them to drink beer instead, so as to show respect for women, and at the same time, it will not sweep your face because women insist on not drinking. As the saying goes, what kind of songs to sing on what mountain, what people to see what to say.The same is true for persuasion. You must use the most suitable rhetoric to impress the person being persuaded based on their identity, experience, culture, interests, hobbies, etc., and persuade him to drink the wine you are toasting. There is a friend who set up a family dinner to celebrate his daughter's admission to university to thank several teachers.After sitting down, the friend held up the wine glass: "My little girl has studied hard for ten years, and today's title on the gold list is all due to the hard work and teaching of the teachers. When people are happy and happy, don't leave the gold bottle empty to the moon. As a teacher and parent, You and I must be very happy today, for this reason, I would like to invite all the teachers to raise our glasses together, cheers!" The opening speech was both elegant and decent, which was very suitable for the teacher's appetite, and naturally everyone drank it down.During the dinner, there was a math teacher who didn't want to drink because he was afraid of drinking too much.So the master said to him: "Li Baidou's Hundred Poems on Wine, how many cups is this ancient one bucket worth? I don't know mathematics, so I can't count. In fact, I am afraid that it is difficult to calculate with modern mathematics. And it is you who are even more difficult to calculate. Thanks to the teachers! Today, I don’t respect one bucket, but two cups—thank you very much, thank you for your training and care for my little girl! I’ll drink first to cleanse myself!” This friend's persuasion words are very targeted, and they are very suitable for the teacher's inner feelings and self-esteem needs. I feel that I am respected, and I can't justify not drinking.Not only did he drink, but several other teachers also took the initiative to toast with him one by one.This friend's words of persuasion are very suitable for the identity of the other party, cater to their psychology, appear elegant and dignified, and express their gratitude sincerely.The success of persuasion to drink is naturally out of the question.