Chapter 40 Lesson 12 Exploring the Pleasures of Sex - 2

This is an open-minded society. You can talk about "sex" issues with others, but if you discuss your sex life with your friends with the same open attitude, you may not have "good results". In the 21st century, sexual concepts are open, and people will talk about what they have done without shame.This is your freedom of speech, but have you ever stopped to think about why you are so excited to share your sexual experiences with your friends? First, let's analyze what benefits you get from doing this.This kind of heart-to-heart discussion may strengthen the friendship between you and your friends.

The great thing about these kinds of discussions with close friends is that their opinions can make you feel normal. However, when your sex life is great, you may also want to talk about sex with your best friends, hoping that they will share your joy. Facts always have positive and negative aspects. If you talk about your sexual secrets with your friends behind your partner’s back, have you ever thought about your partner’s feelings? The biggest problem with this is that you have betrayed your partner's trust in you.This kind of open-mouthed discussion is basically out of contempt for your partner, and it also shows that you have a contemptuous attitude towards the marriage relationship.

Moreover, there is another problem, which is often overlooked by you.If you discuss your sex life with your best friend, there's a good chance you haven't discussed it with the person in question (i.e. your partner).Choosing not to tell your partner, but to discuss it with your friends is actually a subconscious or intentional avoidance of emotional troubles, and you are unwilling to face the problem head-on.This is understandable. Discussing sexual issues with the man you love the most is often very difficult, because if the relationship between the two is too deep, neither party wants to hurt the other's soul, and the discussion cannot proceed smoothly.

Experts believe that although it is very tempting to complain to a friend, it is best to "hold it up"; if possible, discuss it with your partner, because he is the person involved and the problem is related to him.If you really can’t be honest with him, you should seek professional counseling. Friends are rarely fair, and usually help you (or help him because you have a crush on your partner). This is the biggest problem! In short, friends There is a good chance that the more you help the better. Sometimes, maybe you really can’t help but want to vent your grievances to your best friend; you love him, but there are some things about him that really make you unbearable, so you find an opportunity to speak ill of him to your friend to vent your anger.This is also related to the social atmosphere - all kinds of talk shows, hotlines, etc., make women feel that their sex life is no longer private, and they forget what should be said and what should not be said.

Perhaps the best test is to think about it the next day and see if you regret making the details of your sex life a topic of entertainment when you were having fun the day before? You have to understand and understand that discussing "sex" and There is a fine line between discussing "your sex life."The former can be a topic worth discussing, the latter will only make you a joke among friends. Between this boundary line, there are some dangerous traps that are easy to "fall in".Sometimes shared sexual privacy is abused between women as a way to foster friendship; sometimes you feel like only another woman understands your feelings; sometimes you feel like your feelings are more important than his; sometimes you want to vent but don't want to. Tell him that you are afraid of affecting the relationship between the two of you.Of course, you can talk about your sexual privacy with a close friend you absolutely trust, but before you say it, you should ask yourself: "Why am I discussing this?" If your life sounds more colorful" or "make your friends jealous", then you should close your mouth and swallow what you want to say.

The most important thing is to remember that you must respect each other, your friend's ears, and your partner's feelings.Also, respect yourself. Many healthy women don't have their first orgasm until months or years after marriage, and some don't appear until after giving birth, and they always lag behind men slowly; This feature of being impatient at critical moments and stopping immediately after braking makes it impossible for many mandarin ducks to fly together. To achieve orgasm, you might as well speak out to your husband about your sexual feelings.How should a wife talk about sex with her husband? Experts offer the following good strategies:

(1) After having sex and both parties feel happy, you can express to your husband what you like about your husband in sex.Pay attention to only talking about those things that you are very comfortable and happy about, and not mentioning those bad or unsatisfactory aspects for the time being.In this way, the self-confidence of the husband can be encouraged and his love can be mobilized. (2) Tell your husband your feelings and emotional needs in your sexual life. You only need to tell the truth, and it is better to be more detailed, but you must not specifically target your husband's shortcomings.

(3) Summarize which days in a month I am more likely to have the desire to have sex, and tell my husband this general rule, but there is no need to investigate the reason. (4) Make it clear to your husband what you want him to do in sex life and how to do it well.This is not a request, let alone an order, it just shows that you will be happier if your husband does this. (5) Discuss with your husband what kind of effects and effects some specific practices in sex life have had on you, including practices that bring bad effects.Of course, it also includes unused ones. (6) Make it clear to your husband that it will be difficult for you to have sex as usual if the child is around, especially when the child is awake or crying.Even if you barely go there, you won't feel good, and you may even have no interest.

(7) Tell your husband to change some of his practices during sex life, including caressing methods, sexual intercourse skills, time and place, etc.It would be nice to be able to specifically advise him on what to do.If you don't know it yourself, then you can just suggest him to make changes, and then both parties will work together to find out how to do it best. (8) When you are unwilling or not interested, tell your husband clearly: "I don't want to have sex now." (9) Tell your husband what things he does during sex that actually make you uncomfortable or unpleasant.

(10) Point out to your husband: You hope that before, during or after sex, both parties can have tender conversations or other forms of communication, such as expressions, movements, gestures, sounds, etc. (11) You can ask your husband to extend some sexual intercourse time so that you can get the feeling you deserve. (12) If you like to be gently caressed and stroked by your husband, but you don't have much interest in direct sexual intercourse, then you should also tell your husband the truth. The content of the above exchanges needs to be done step by step step by step.In other words, no matter how much trouble and dissatisfaction you have, you must start from the first step, first tell your husband what you feel very happy and like, even if such a thing only occurs once.If so, not only can the specific troubles be solved better, but it may also greatly improve one's psychological quality and mental health.

What exactly is sexy? The so-called sexy means that the opposite sex or something on the opposite sex can cause people to respond and feel sexually (including physical, psychological or emotional reactions and feelings).Of course, if we say it more broadly, abnormal sounds and smells can also cause people's sexual reactions.For women, sexiness is not only manifested in plump buttocks, protruding breasts and well-proportioned thighs, but also in calves, fingers, toes, arms, shoulder blades, neck, hair, mouth and other parts. , it is mainly manifested in well-developed muscles, broad shoulders, thick beard and hair, and even a protruding Adam's apple.Sometimes it is often found that some women's buttocks, breasts and other parts are not alluring and sexy, but their hands, feet or neck are full of charm.However, there is often such an illusion: some women only have sexy parts such as buttocks and breasts, which makes people feel that hands, feet and other parts are also sexy. There is no doubt that women should tap their own sexy charm and cultivate their own sexy charm. This is the way of sex between husband and wife, and it is also the best opportunity for the sublimation of the relationship between husband and wife.Here's the super-sexy glamour, which makes my husband obsessed: 1 wink Winking is the silent language of femininity.Proper use can make him understand a heart full of spring; if he loses his sense of propriety and his eye waves "fly short and long", it will become a self-defeating failure.Whether it is melancholy, confused, ethereal, lazy, innocent and smiling or with flames hidden in the eyes, as long as there is charm and full of longing, the eye wave is the birthplace of sexiness. 2 wear underwear Unbutton the coat to reveal very sexy underwear, or wear it more directly.Not revealing can also express sexy.The minimalist style, which has been popular for several years, seems simple, with all dark colors, simple and exquisite styles, but it also has a feminine performance.The narrow ones are narrow, the thin ones are thin, the round ones are round, and the wide ones are wide. The difference in measurements is very obvious. 3 drunk That drunken, almost incoherent appearance is really annoying, because it creates a sense of strangeness and gives men a fresh stimulus.Slight drunkenness not only adds blush to the cheeks, adds a hazy and soft beauty to the eyes, but also releases a little sensuality and magnanimity.Of course, drinking in moderation, otherwise it will be counterproductive. 4 body odor Oddly enough, some level of body odor is often at the root of what constitutes sexuality.Some men remember a woman just because of a certain body odor.If you don't have a sweaty or feminine scent, you can also choose some perfumes specially formulated to arouse deep thoughts. 5 mature rhyme Men seem to prefer "mature beauties", which can be a blow to the self-esteem of young but generally attractive women.It should come as no surprise that women like Sharon Stone and Demi Moore are being courted by men.The study, published in the journal New Scientist, reports that scientists divided nearly 200 men with an average age of 30 into three groups and showed them pictures of different women.The photo shows a 36-year-old woman who is considered attractive, and eight other women who are considered averagely attractive, ranging in age from 20 to 45.When these men were asked to choose their wives, all three groups of men without exception chose the charming 36-year-old woman, regardless of her age.It seems that maturity is indeed an intriguing beauty. 6 shows lazy attitude Why is the Tang Dynasty considered by historians to be an era rich in sexy beauties like Concubine Yang? The concentration and slowness of ancient women when they undressed, the charm of their eyes and the speed of their speech are enough to constitute A style that makes people feel sexy.You who have become a whirlwind or nervous in your speech or actions, learn and appreciate the subtle beauty and sex appeal of slowness and laziness today! 7 Plump breasts and cleavage looming This gesture has become a Hollywood classic.From super sexy stars such as Marlene Dietrich in the 1930s, Monroe in the 1960s, Stone in the 1980s, and Anderson in the 90s, to Midi Foster, Helen Hunter, and even Barrymore opted for this revealing, seductive look.What does this posture, which has been loved by women for decades, explain? It's not that women are too stupid, but that this posture is too seductive. 8 out of water hibiscus After bathing, women are like lotus flowers, with smooth and elastic jade skin.The scenes of women getting out of the bath in movies and TV have feasted the audience's eyes and conquered the hearts of many handsome men. 9 long hair like a waterfall Women's long hair and shoulders have their own charms, but neither is more sexy when matched in this way.It was Streep's shawl-blond hair that attracted "Stag Hunt" boyfriend Robert De Niro.Only Romy Schneider's curly long hair and smooth shoulders can show the beautiful image of the queen of the Austro-Hungarian Empire. 10 Wears a silk slip dress and walks around in the light with bare feet That feeling is like a colorful shell dangling on the beach in the sun, and like a beautiful anchovy swimming in the crystal clear spring water.The scene of Gwyneth Paltrow wearing a light green silk suspender dress in "The New Phone Murder" is particularly sexy. The delicate and smooth silk and the woman's smooth and flawless skin complement each other, forming a wonderful scenery. 11 lotus jade stand When the beautiful figure suddenly appears, it is a kind of sexy beauty attached to memory.People who live by the great lake can see the girl's body most clearly when swimming.At that time, the whole body was wet, like a lotus flower in bud, graceful and graceful.Even a woman as handsome as Helen Hunt, when she appeared at Jack Nicholson's door dripping wet, had an irresistible charming charm. 12 shy look Female shyness is a catalyst for male excitement.In the face of a man's warm embrace, the woman's coy posture really has endless charm.Isabelle Adjani is the one who can use shyness to impress the audience the most among all the actresses. In "The Labyrinth of Evil", she always shows a look of being weak with a kiss, and in "Rodin's Lover", she is also added in madness from time to time. Note the endless charm of shyness.The pink crimson clouds brushing over her fair cheeks and the feeling conveyed by her limbs are extremely sexy and charming. 13 kind of mysterious In the mind of men, besides the important features of women, there are also some elements that are relatively nihilistic and abstract, among which the sense of mystery is a sexy element.In the history of movies, who are known as sexy stars such as Marianne Richie, Brigitte Bardot, etc., who do not have unfathomable mysterious eyes? In front of the men you like, when you tell your personal stories and express your personal emotions, Don’t tell your heart out: only say 70%, leave 30% for the other party to figure out and imagine, and leaving lingering memories is also a technique to play with mystery! When your partner has been together for a long time, after the passion has passed, both life and sex become dull; think about it, has the following situation happened to you? You are having sex with your partner, but you are so bored that you are about to fall asleep, and you only want to As soon as possible.During this period, I just wondered: "Why is there no spark?" You're not alone. For many women, sex is a disappointment. Experts provide you with five ways to improve this situation, but also create a feeling of sexual excitement for both parties. 1 Strengthen communication and maintain passion When you and your partner first meet, sex is exciting and new, but after the passion, you still have to eat, work and do laundry.When everything is down, people will of course be tired, so the sex life gradually becomes calmer.If a couple cannot understand and accept that this transformation is a natural law, they may misunderstand that there is a problem in the marriage. Studies have shown that many couples have sexual problems and misunderstandings in the early years of marriage. If couples are not careful, sleeping together every night can easily make sex dull and rigid. To improve the situation, you must first share your feelings with your partner.In fact, if you are really dissatisfied with sex, your husband usually knows it; he may even rush it to avoid rejection by you.But in any case, to maintain passion, there must be enough communication. 2 Create an atmosphere for both parties Of course, there must be a consensus between the couple.The most common problem is that the woman fantasizes that her sex life will be as romantic as in a love movie, but the man does not have that feeling.On the surface, it seems that the man is not gentle enough, but experts analyze that it is actually the woman's expectations that are too unrealistic, even unhealthy. Marriage is not like a fairy tale "happy until the end of time", but women are often addicted to the fantasy of "Prince Charming bravely saves the beautiful woman".But, have you ever wondered what you want him to save you from? The dull routine of everyday life? So where exactly do you want to go? Experts believe that when someone complains that something is missing in the relationship, it is actually the person's self that is missing; they only know how to ask their partner to provide them with happiness, but often they just don't know the blessing in the blessing.In other words, we should not only know how to rely on our partners to create a romantic atmosphere, but we also have the responsibility to create a feeling of sexual excitement for ourselves.For example, buy some new sexy underwear to create a sexy atmosphere for both parties. 3 Too tired to enjoy sex Many couples complain that when they come home from get off work, do the housework and put the children to sleep, they are so tired that they don't have the time and energy to have sex. In addition, high work pressure is also one of the common problems.Fatigue and stress keep the body from fully relaxing, and tension is the number one reason people can't enjoy sex. 4 Jumping Back into Feminine Identity Working hard in the office all day will bring out the masculinity of a woman, but when you bring this masculinity home after get off work, it will make the husband feel like he is with a man, which makes it difficult for both men and women to feel excited . A man and a woman feel sexually excited when they find each other attractive.The strong sexual stimulation at the beginning of a relationship is because the male and female powers of both parties are very strong (that is, the masculinity of the man and the gentleness of the woman). If the strength of either party is too similar to the other, the sexual stimulation will naturally decrease. Experts believe that female power is superior and more powerful than male power. "Masculine power is like a road, and female power is like the ocean. The ship has a strong purpose and can be very efficient when moving toward the goal. But the sea is more floating, and it can carry a boat and capsize it." Experts also suggest that women temporarily put aside their goal-oriented thoughts and behaviors after get off work, and jump back into a feminine identity, which can increase the attractiveness between her and her partner.Some soothing activities, such as yoga, meditation, soaking in the bath, stretching to music or massage, can help you become relaxed and re-feminine. Five steps to enhance the sexual atmosphere: (1) Read Sexy Books: These books will give you lots of great ideas for new sex positions, locations, and fantasies. (2) Let's watch together that there are many videos specially made for women's taste in the market today, which are so sexy that they will not be obscene. (3) Take turns acting out each other's sexual fantasies: As long as you fully trust each other, you can tell each other your most secret sexual fantasies, which can bring great enjoyment and sexual pleasure to both of you.Many couples report that their relationship has become closer after sharing their sexual fantasies. (4) Massage each other: There are many books and videos on the market to teach couples how to give each other a sexy and soothing massage. (5) Enjoy non-sexual pleasures: Studies have shown that partners who talk a lot and enjoy some activities that both parties like are also the most active partners in sexual life. According to years of research, the sexiness between husband and wife is often the time when they love the most. Sexual life requires not only physical coordination, but also emotional harmony. 1. Making love is more than just sex Wives always complain that their husbands should give them more emotion and love instead of just expressing in the moment of sex life. Show.Yet men think that when they show love to each other, they are going to attack and the wife should accept it. Therefore, to maintain fresh and happy emotions with your spouse, you need to exchange ideas frequently, be considerate and understand each other, so as to maintain the persistence of sexual love.You can't wait until sex begins to make the effort.Only in this way can this spontaneous love resonate between you and your spouse, and both parties will feel that your sexual life is harmonious and not sudden. 2 Women love to be seduced Men seldom attract each other in a seductive way.However, it is an instinct for women to show their charm in front of men.Such women feel that they are beautiful and sexy.Emotional cultivation should be carried out before making love, and even take some time.For example: give hints to the other party, and show some intimacy. Seducing the other party also means that men continue to attract each other in the process of making love, expressing intimacy.Generally, women's sexuality is inspired by thinking and image hints.Men touch more through vision, and women pay attention to the other party's emotions and what position they occupy in their husband's mind during sexual intercourse. 3 Making love is a desire of men When men have the idea of ​​making love, they are often excited and impulsive, asking the other party to accept it immediately.Women should understand this characteristic of men.That's why men get annoyed when they're rejected, especially when they say something like, "I don't love you, I hate you."In this case, if the woman does not have such a request, she should tell her husband that this is not the time and that sex should be cherished. 4 Happily making love can only be a matter between two people When one person gives himself selflessly to the other, both partners feel a sense of emotional security.This emotion should be cherished.On the contrary, if there is no sense of security and mutual suspicion, both parties will fall into distress.Suspicion, therefore, creates a rift between the parties.Even interrupted sex life for a period of time. A husband loves his wife very much. They are college classmates.One day, he suddenly found out that his wife had another new love outside. From then on, a triangle relationship was formed. Both parties were in pain. In the end, his wife contracted AIDS.So love must be specific. 5 Seek fresh and constantly changing ways The husband thinks that sex life should constantly seek excitement, and often change the way, the style of clothes, etc.Believe that sex life should be diversified and constantly changing forms.This is not often the case, and more often, many couples stop paying attention to cultivating mutual affection once they are married, and soon the illusory happiness disappears with it. 6 Create time for intimacy Emotions should flow naturally.After dinner, the husband and wife should try their best to squeeze out time to sit and talk together, pour out their thoughts, discover new things about each other, and create good conditions for sex. However, in real life, few couples stay together after meals, but are entangled in a lot of housework, such as cleaning, or continue to do the work left during the day, some go out to attend meetings, or help their children with homework, or Feeling tired Go to bed early, etc. Most of them feel that they have no spare time, and the solution to this problem is how to make time in the busyness.Not only for sex, but also to deepen mutual feelings. Find half an hour or an hour to go for a walk, sit and listen to music, or exchange ideas through conversation, preferably without bringing up chores and worries.Both parties should learn to create good opportunities for sex, rather than making love for sex mechanically. Sex is an important part of married life.Although since my country's reform and opening up, people's views on sex have gradually become more open, but at the same time, it has also brought some new pressures and conflicts, such as anxiety, lack of knowledge, lack of skills, differences in attitudes between husband and wife, and so on.Therefore, in today's married life, more and more couples complain that they cannot get sexual satisfaction from each other, which leads to resentment and even unfortunate divorce events.In the process of family and marriage counseling, issues like sexual coordination are gradually becoming one of the main issues discussed. 1. Improving emotions is the best policy Many couples who receive marriage and sex life counseling have physical problems on the surface, such as men's inability to erect, premature ejaculation, or women's pain and discomfort, and frigidity.However, in-depth analysis reveals that the relationship between husband and wife is the main factor causing such problems.There was a man who had been unable to get an erection or a firm penis for a long time, and later found that he had a tendency to resist and avoid his wife psychologically, because his wife was a woman with a strong desire to dominate, it was difficult for him to understand her inner thoughts, and His wife is often angry and angry for no reason, so that he does not know how to please her.Another woman complained that after she got married, she never had an orgasm, and even the original satisfaction gradually disappeared. The reason was that she was very dissatisfied with her husband's excessive closeness and care for her in-law's family, and even later became very hostile to her husband's family. , She often feels that the relationship between husband and wife is not as good as the relationship between her husband and his family, so she gradually loses interest in sex life, and even doesn't bother to cooperate with her husband. From this, it can be clearly pointed out that some sexual problems are likely to stem from a lack of emotional intimacy in the relationship.How to enhance mutual intimacy is for both husband and wife to learn and communicate together.For example, find a quiet, romantic restaurant to enjoy a dinner; listen to music or take a walk together;Creating a pleasant atmosphere where two people experience emotional closeness often heightens the need for physical contact. 2 personal problems to be solved first Some people with sexual problems often experience high levels of anxiety.Some are under pressure in life or work, some lack confidence in themselves; some are too shy or feel guilty about "sex".There is a woman who regards "sex" as a dirty thing because of her past family education. After marriage, she often evades her husband's request, and after sex, she goes to the bathroom to wash her body over and over again, as if she wants to wash away the uneasy guilt in her heart. .There was a man who was always worried that he would not be able to satisfy his wife’s demands and lose his true qualities as a man. However, the more worried he became, the more anxious he became, which led to the so-called “impotence” and he didn’t even dare to try it in the end. Similar to this man’s troubles, it should be Seek help from a doctor, first check physical problems, if there is no problem, then seek help from a psychologist or counselor.Of course, how to establish a correct and reasonable concept of sex and cultivate the courage to change reality are more important conditions.At the same time, reducing the pressure in life or work, encouraging and affirming one's confidence, etc., are also good medicines for relieving tension. It can be said that seeking help from certain folk prescriptions such as kidney-tonifying medicines and qigong is a practice of sacrificing the root and chasing the end.Because in many cases of seeking help, people’s reaction is that these folk remedies are of limited help and often do not improve after taking them, or they have high expectations of their own sexual ability due to taking medicine, which is easy to cause frustration and worsen the disorder . 3 backed by sexual knowledge Many people learn some incorrect sexual knowledge from bad books, pornographic tapes, or hearsay, and then mistakenly think that their early masturbation (or masturbation behavior) caused the current confusion; time and frustration.Some people even have sexual ignorance, such as the first wet dream or the fear of menstruation, which cast a shadow on the soul, and they are still deeply affected by adulthood, resulting in sexual psychological disorders.There was a man who learned that men sometimes cannot get an erection due to mental and physical insufficiency, or even ejaculate due to nervousness, after receiving guidance on sex education.Another example is a man who thinks that a sexual relationship is a matter of just a few minutes from penis penetration to ejaculation. He doesn't know that a period of caressing is needed before and after sexual intercourse.It is a pity that we cannot obtain complete sexual knowledge from formal school education, which makes some people even do not know how to keep their sexual organs clean and hygienic. Therefore, we must learn from some books about medicine, psychology, physical hygiene, etc. More reading to make up for the lack of sexual knowledge. 4 Be good at expressing yourself Many problems in sexual life cannot be resolved, often because one or both parties are unable or inconvenient to communicate in a candid and direct manner.A survey of sexual relations shows that the vast majority of sexual requests are made by men, and even if the woman musters the courage, most of them are semi-active hints. This situation often leads to some poor communication. The wife will blame the husband for wanting it when he wants it, regardless of his own feelings; sometimes one party wants to refuse the other party's request, but there will be doubts in his heart: "Will he be unhappy?", "I am really tired, but I should How to tell him?" And the person who is rejected by the other party may also think: "Is it because he has lost interest in me?", "Is he a little uncomfortable?" Some doubts in my heart.Therefore, husband and wife should encourage each other to express their opinions and accept each other's ideas and practices; at the same time, they should also express their attitudes frankly.In addition to some verbal communication, some non-verbal expressions can also be used, such as putting on a specific pajamas, turning on a special light, playing a piece of music, or using body to ask or answer each other.Of course, it would be better if both language and non-language can be used together.Some couples usually don't understand each other's meaning very well, and they can't express their opinions with certainty. Naturally, it is difficult to establish a relaxed and happy relationship, let alone enhance communication in sexual life. 5 ways to reduce anxiety Psychology has a "systematic desensitization" method that has been used for many years to reduce anxious emotions such as fear of heights, fear of certain animals, etc.Here is a brief introduction to this method: first, start by tightening the palm of one hand, then slowly relax it, and then follow the method of tightening and loosening along the elbows, arms, forehead, eyebrows, eyes, cheeks, lips, neck, The shoulders, chest, back, waist, buttocks, thighs, calves, soles of feet and other parts go down gradually, and each part is done 3 to 4 times. Another method is the "deep breathing" that can help men relieve their anxiety at the time before intercourse. The method of doing it is: "Inhale deeply once a little faster, and then exhale slowly section by section when exhaling. Do it 3-5 times per cycle, and it will be more effective to do a few more cycles. In addition, regular exercise is also a good method. Surveys have shown that some people, especially those who have passed middle age, lack proper exercise and often have energy Poor and lack of physical strength. Therefore, arranging a time to do 15-30 minutes of exercise every day is the way to enhance physical and mental health, and it can also enhance the interest of sexual life. 6 Give positive feedback to the other party Some husbands always blame their wives for being unresponsive during sex, while others blame the man for falling asleep after sex.This kind of sexual relationship without feedback can make one or both parties feel neglected.Even if the man is exhausted, the wife should give positive encouragement, such as sincerely expressing satisfaction, touching or stroking with the body, hugging, etc., can help the husband have more confidence.On the contrary, if a man only seeks his own needs, his actions are rude and sloppy, and he does not give his wife some verbal love words, or kisses and other caressing actions afterwards, it is easy for his wife to gradually lose interest in sex. interest.Therefore, the positive response of sexual partners can be said to be the lubricant of sexual life, which needs to be encouraged and cultivated by both husband and wife. 7 Sex is a study of love Of course, there is no need to overemphasize the importance of "sex", because some people strongly advocate the function of sex in married life, so it is easy to fall into the trap of pure carnal pleasure of "sex is everything", and it is difficult to have a happy life. marriage.Because it is difficult for each other to get close to each other's emotional world, sometimes even if it is not a sexual problem that causes a marital crisis, it may eventually be blamed on a sexual disharmony. "Sex" itself is not sinful, it just depends on how people use it, don't let us become slaves of sex, then the sense of guilt that we shouldn't have will deepen.People sincerely hope that the happiness of sex life is not due to the improvement of sexual skills, novelty or adventure, but a kind of emotional sharing and a kind of learning of love.It should not be an end, but a method. Body touch, body odor, lover's appearance and even voice are all related to the size of sexual pleasure. 1 The power of touch Human body, in addition to sexual organs, other erogenous areas are: earlobe, mouth, breasts, buttocks and feet, and abdomen.These areas are particularly sensitive because of the number of nerve endings or blood flow.Starting from the less sexy parts, caress to the more sexy parts, the feeling is the strongest. Studies have shown that men and women prefer different caressing styles: women prefer softer caresses, while men prefer stronger caresses, because women respond faster and more sensitively to pain and have a greater response to skin pressure. The reason why caress causes excitement, the information it conveys plays an important role. "The sense of touch in the skin just tells the brain that a certain part is being stimulated," the expert said. "After the brain receives the information, it understands that it is the caress of the partner, and then we perceive the desire of the partner, and then we are excited." 2 lover's appearance Traditionally, men are more likely to be excited by visual stimuli.However, recent research indicates that women and men respond to sexual images in the same way. Men and women do have some differences in vision.Studies have shown that women can see better in the dark than men.Therefore, men like to turn on the lights when making love, while women like to turn off the lights or dim the lights. Even the color of your bedroom or the color of your underwear can affect your sexual pleasure.The research shows that both men and women think that red-orange, dark blue, purple, black, yellow, brown and gray are sexy colors, and women think it is more sexy than men. Oddly, although vision is a strong sexual stimulus, most people avoid opening their eyes during sex because they don't want to see unsatisfactory parts of the body.Experts said: "When making love, the contact between two people's eyes will increase the sexual excitement. It is a pity that the sexual pleasure will be reduced when making love with eyes closed." 3 sexy body odor Everyone has body odor, which is caused by the combination of bacteria on the skin.They are as unique as finger prints. 71%的男性和女性承认，气味有很大的性刺激作用。而类似麝香的气味，性感就更强。麝香味的香水之所以受欢迎，道理即在此。 女性比男性嗅觉较好，她们可闻到1米距离内的汗味。在排卵期，她们更能嗅出男性的特别体味。 此外，男性的类似麝香的体味，只有成年女性才嗅得出，男性本身和儿童均嗅不出。研究指出，这种体味叫做“信息素”，由性器周围和腋下的腺体制成。当你闻到此气味时，会变得心情轻松、性感。某些食物也含麝香味的信息素，例如香槟和鱼子酱。 4味的性别刺激 人类的口中有约一万个味蕾，按感觉的味道类型而形成一簇簇：舌后感觉苦味、舌尖感觉甜味、舌侧感觉酸味，舌的各部位感觉咸味。我们的身体大部分在性爱时出的汗和分泌的液体，则是咸味的。 女性对苦味敏感，但是喜爱甜味；而男性则对咸味敏感。一个人喜爱或讨厌汗液、精液或其他身体分泌液，通常都与这“口味”喜好有关。 5性感的声音 何种声音性感?每人的感觉都是不同的。淫亵的谈话对一些人有强烈的兴奋作用。但是，对另一些人则不一定性感。至于音乐，一些人喜欢听浪漫的民谣；另一些人则感觉，节奏快的舞曲可使热血沸腾。一些人随着音乐的速度做爱可增加性的乐趣。但是，另一些人感觉在做爱时听音乐，会分散注意力。女性的听觉比男性的敏锐，因此，女性喜欢柔和的音乐，而男性则喜听强烈的音乐。 快乐时发出的声音——叹息、呻吟和喊叫，也有很大的兴奋作用。男性特别喜欢听做爱时女性发出的这类声音，是因为这代表他使你得到乐趣，因此，如果你真的在做爱时喉头发出这类声音，不要强忍。总之，在做爱时，一切顺其自然，乐趣便会更大。