Chapter 31 Lesson 4 "The Good Man" Crash Workout

1 A woman's strength is reflected in her resilience The chemical makeup of a woman's body is different from that of a man.Generally speaking, they have more body fat and less muscle, so their endurance in activities is much greater than that of men.For example, two long-distance runners, a man and a woman, are basically equal in age and physical fitness. In most cases, although the women do not run faster than the men, they run longer than the men.This is because, in the process of running, male and female athletes must rely on the glycogen in the body to provide "fuel", but the "fuel" provided by glycogen is limited, which requires fat to replace it and continue to provide "fuel".According to a series of surveys conducted by the University of California, Davis, 25% of women's body weight is fat, while men's fat weight only accounts for 15% of body weight.Therefore, after the "fuel" of glycogen is exhausted, women can effectively use the "fuel" provided by fat for a long time to maintain vigorous physical strength, while men are exhausted.A husband once thought his wife was so weak that she couldn't even unscrew the lid of a jam jar, and every time she went to the supermarket to buy groceries, he had to help her carry bags, big and small, into the car.One Sunday, the two of them went skiing in the countryside, and they skied for several hours.After returning home, he was so tired that he sat down on the sofa and didn't want to move anymore.But his wife was busy preparing dinner and baking cakes.Just after 7 o'clock, the husband went to bed, but the wife was watching TV and knitting at the same time, and she didn't seem to feel tired at all.He was really baffled by this, and even thought that his wife "usually pretended to be weak" so that he could do heavy work.In fact, he doesn't understand, this is %%%2 women are good at observing things with intuition

Generally speaking, the human brain is divided into a right hemisphere and a left hemisphere, which control thinking and observation respectively: the left hemisphere controls "language ability", such as listening, speaking, writing, etc.; the right hemibrain controls "visual ability", such as shape , color, etc.As far as children are concerned, the left hemisphere of girls develops faster than that of boys, and the right hemisphere of boys develops earlier than that of girls.This is why girls can speak and write better than boys, and boys can put together model cars better than girls.Differences in brain function between adult men and women are also important.When a man is reading, he uses the left side of his brain; when he is looking at a map, looking for places to visit, he uses the right side of his brain.The division of labor in women's brains is not so clear.The part that controls the visual ability also has a language function, and the part that controls the language ability has a visual function.As a result, they tend to use both parts of their brains simultaneously, making them in some ways more observant than men.This ability to rely on intuition to help them think also makes them often not only listen to the other person when they talk to them, but also observe the speaker's expression, clothing, movements, etc., to find out the meaning of the other person.Therefore, they have an advantage in finding out whether what people say is consistent with what they think in their hearts.

3 Women attach great importance to their own value in family and social life Men should understand that women are not a subsidiary part of family or social life.One of the biggest causes of marriage failure is lack of communication between husband and wife.The reason for this phenomenon is that they do not understand each other's requirements and wishes.As a wife, one of her wishes is to share with her husband the difficulties and achievements in his career.Many husbands think they communicate a lot with their wives. In fact, their so-called "communication" is often cold instructions, such as "I will be back later on Thursday night", "When is dinner, I am hungry", "Don't wait for me to eat dinner Already" and so on.For the wife, this is not "communication" at all.What they need is to respect and care for them, to give them warmth and to communicate with them.

4 Women most like a man with the following twelve virtues (1) Do not beat children and women, and respect the elderly. (2) Don't be greedy for immediate benefits, especially money. (3) Even if a woman's mind is very poor, she only speaks what she understands. (4) Accept any work that must be done, and be meticulous and stick to it to the end. (5) Will step up if needed, even when exhausted. (6) As long as you know the direction, you are not afraid of anyone's teasing. (7) Even if I have no money to buy clothes, I will at least clean my toilet and front door. (8) Always maintain full confidence in life and in human beings.

(9) Even the money earned on the dirtiest jobs is spent somewhere clean. (10) When seeing pests and dangers, they can be eliminated immediately. (11) Partners and friends are wealth, and he knows how to pay special attention to them. (12) Fully understand others, but never flatter. Psychologists have conducted surveys on thousands of women in love stages and newly married women with great interest. The answers to "what kind of man do you like best" are as follows: "He must be intelligent." Many women consider this the first criterion for a favorite man.Few girls will fall in love with a man who is not as intelligent as themselves.That is, most women find a man who is unattractive and unattractive, even if the man has wealth and social status.

"He must be well educated".This sentence does not mean that men must have received advanced education and must be college graduates, but they must have a certain understanding of the basic knowledge of literature, art, philosophy and other natural sciences. "He has to be aggressive."Most women believe that men must never stop on the journey of life, take a step ahead of others, and not follow behind with their hands behind their backs. The men that women generally look down on are: clumsy speech, expressionless face, rude and arrogant, obscene hobbies, and lack of moral concepts.

What do married women hate most about their husbands? Bad temper ranks first, for example: "Whenever he encounters something unsatisfactory, he slaps the table and the bench... he gets sulking outside, always Take it home and post it at home." The second thing I hate is the lack of equality for women: "He never asked me what kind of thing I like, he only thinks of his own interests, and he can do whatever he wants," and treats his wife lightly: " He treats me like a piece of furniture in the house, and I don’t know if he listens to half of what I say.” The husband only knows how to waste money and enjoy himself, which greatly dissatisfies his wife.When the wife has the opportunity to confide her bitterness to her girlfriend, she will say: "It's not a pity that he spends more money on smoking, drinking tea, and socializing, but he says it's too wasteful to buy an extra piece of clothing."

1 Male beauty in women's hearts What is male beauty? The best answer is to ask women.A handsome and lovely medical graduate said: "My boyfriend is not beautiful in appearance. He once compared himself to a 'clown' and there are a few pockmarks on his face, but he is full of masculinity. I think he is very beautiful." .Another girl who just graduated from the ballet major of the dance academy said: "Napoleon was short and not impressive, but he was very masculine. I think this is male beauty." With the change of lifestyle, "masculine beauty" has also become a topic of concern.A magazine published the results of a survey of 312 young women in various occupations, here is a quote for you.

Masculinity can basically be classified as follows: (1) Honesty, integrity, and no falsehood. There is no flattery and philistine spirit, seek truth from facts, and treat each other with sincerity.Confident but not conceited, humble but not obedient, neither humble nor overbearing, not tricking or harming others, not engaging in petty tricks, being open and aboveboard. (2) Has the style of a general. Resolute but not arbitrary, calm but not dull, resolute but not reckless, never back down in the face of danger and intimidation, dare to stand up for the truth, have great tolerance, don't care about small things, don't be mother-in-law, serious about big things, and confused about small things.

(3) Knowledgeable, enterprising, and have a strong sense of professionalism. Don't follow others' advice, have courage and insight, be full of originality, be indomitable in career, persistent and firm, look for the goal, never give up if you don't do well.Knowledge is rich but not pedantic, and there is greater passion after failure. (4) Distinguishing love and hate, exorcising evil and strengthening the righteous. Those who can sacrifice their own interests or even their lives to protect the weak and uphold justice at ordinary times or in critical situations are the pillar of strength for the weak and the thorn in the side of evil.

(5) Understand life, have a wide range of interests, and be considerate. Women sneer at men who are dull, do not know how to live, and have single interests, and even look down on pedantic and weird men. (6) Tall and tall, with regular facial features, average appearance, and generous, natural, and unrestrained manners. The core of masculine beauty is to have strength, to reflect the inner strength of men, and at the same time to be humane.Both enthusiastic and unrestrained, but also calm and composed.The most intolerable thing for women is the femininity of men. 2 Male Typicals Women Hate (1) A machismo man. (2) A man who never pays for dinner with friends. (3) A man who likes to comment on women. (4) Narrow-minded man. (5) Men who disrespect women. (6) A man with tasteless words. (7) A man who does not wipe his mouth after a meal. (8) A man who often swears foul language but thinks he has character. (9) A man with dandruff. (10) THE MAN WHO BREAKS AT THE DINNER TABLE. (11) A MAN WITH STRIK TALK. (12) MAN ADDICTIVE TO GAMBLING. (13) A man who believes that "the wife is a good friend". (14) A man whose tie color never matches the color of his jacket and trousers. (15) THE FOMBY MAN. (16) A man who beats his wife. (17) A man who thinks he is handsome and handsome, and any woman will fall in love with him at first sight. (18) A man who has no sense of responsibility for his family. (19) A man without his own mind. (20) A MAN WITHOUT MORAL CONCEPTS. (21) A man who is submissive to his boss and bosses his subordinates around. (22) GREAT MAN. (23) A man covered in makeup. (24) A man who only gives orders and does not help. (25) A man who cheats money and is greedy for sex. (26) A man with pierced ears, earrings, several rings on his hands, and a necklace around his neck. (27) Nouveau riche-style vulgar man. (28) A man who is coy and coy. (29) From time to time, puff up his lower lip and exhale to blow the hair hanging on his forehead. He thinks he is very chic. (30) A man strolling down the street in a vest. (31) A man with long nails on his little finger. (32) Men with messy hair and men with hair brushed smooth and close to the scalp. (33) Men who follow fashion trends too much or think they can drive fashion trends. (34) Men who wear inappropriate clothes and appear on inappropriate occasions at inappropriate times. (35) The man whose pants have never been zipped properly. (36) Cowardly, ignorant man. (37) A man who always argues, is not humble and does not admit his mistakes. (38) A man whose leather shoes are not cleaned. (39) A man with a sandal heel. (40) Men who are lazy and do things slowly. (41) A man who is not active in life, has no goals, and thinks he is enjoying life. (42) A man who loves to take advantage of others and is always worried about being taken advantage of by others. (43) A man who does not blink when he lies, and who does not blush when he brags. (44) A man who sticks his sweaty clothes on his back without a vest. (45) A man with dirty jeans and a shiny buttocks in his suit pants. (46) A man with a greasy face, bad breath and unconsciousness, and always leaning on others when speaking. (47) A man who does not recognize his old age, and does not recognize his young age. (48) A man who yells in public and thinks he is bold and unrestrained. (49) A man who doesn't think about others, but only thinks about himself. (50) A man who wears black glasses at any time and on any occasion. The famous American Hollywood movie star Katharine Hepburn once lamented the "degeneration" of today's men.Its manifestation lies in the lack of respect and concern for the ladies.In real life, we can often see some young men competing for seats with the elderly and pregnant women, and speaking rudely and vulgarly to ladies, all of which are despised by modern civilization.As one girl said: "The standard I measure a good man is: he is kind and kind to women. I hate rough and rude people."In this regard, should arouse the attention of every man.We should also promote a little "gentlemanly" style. So, what should a "gentlemanly style" look like? This is embodied in his interactions with women. 1 full of confidence, get along with calm For example, Xiao Zhang has just started working, and he is always embarrassed and nervous when interacting with girls, which is very unnatural. Later, he simply does not want to associate with the opposite sex.He himself did not know what caused it. In fact, people with this mentality tend to regard this normal social activity as a mysterious thing.Especially unmarried men and women have concerns in their hearts, thinking that dating with the opposite sex always involves marriage and privacy, or they pay too much attention to their image in the other party's mind, and what they show in the end is often counterproductive. Therefore, they are overly sensitive to women Xiao Zhang is an example. Therefore, the key is to have a correct understanding and regard interacting with women as a normal way to expand your social network.Remember this principle: There is only one lover, but there are countless friends.With this mental attitude, you will be much calmer and more confident when interacting with women. Confidence and poise are a hallmark of masculinity.Women don't like boys who are shy and timid, they think this is the most immature performance. 2 Be proactive and be careful In dealing with women, the traditional habit is that men take a proactive attitude, which is also a kind of respect for ladies. For example, if you are introduced to a woman at a dance party, you should nod politely: "Hi, Miss Zhang, nice to meet you." But be careful not to extend your hand first, otherwise it is inappropriate. You need to wait for the other party to reach out, then lightly shake the other party's hand, with enthusiasm and without loss of proportion.You can't quickly withdraw after touching, perfunctory, appearing to disrespect the other party, and you can't hold it too tightly for too long like seeing a good friend who has been apart for a long time, and because you can't find an appropriate topic for a while put the other party in an embarrassing situation.From this point of view, shaking hands is also a science. After the introduction, men may wish to take the initiative to find some appropriate topics.When we first met, of course, the topic should not involve personal issues.For example, age, income, marriage and love, etc., these are all private secrets, unless she is willing to take the initiative to tell you, otherwise, it is impolite to ask these.During the conversation, you need to pay attention to the look of the other party at any time. Paying attention to the topic can attract the other party and make the other party willing to continue the conversation with you. Otherwise, there is no need to chatter and chatter, which is annoying. After the two parties get to know each other, if you feel that the impression of each other is not bad, you can propose further exchanges.In order to reduce the concerns of the other party, you might as well find a place with many people for the date.For example, invite her to watch a movie, go to the park to enjoy flowers, or visit a painting exhibition, sculpture exhibition or something.Of course, the content of the program should preferably be of interest to the woman.If she likes light music, you force her to go to a pop concert, which is obviously unreasonable.Before you find out what the other person likes, you might as well propose a few more options for her to choose. 3 polite, courteous and thoughtful When you date your girlfriend, if you are polite and thoughtful, she will feel honored to be with you, and others will secretly admire you when they see it. But some men are used to carelessness, such as the following problems that men often make, which cannot be ignored.When you go out with her and meet your acquaintances on the road, don’t keep chatting with your friend and leave her alone, you should introduce her and your friends immediately, first introduce her to your friends, and then Introduce friends to her, the order can not be reversed. In public, never hold her arm and run amok, or talk to her loudly, as this will embarrass her.If there are too many people, you need to lead her to politely ask people to make way, and even turn around to thank you if necessary. Don't be late for your appointment, get there a little early.Ladies tend to be a little more reserved, and it doesn't hurt to be late a hundred times. If a man wants to play with his temper and be late on purpose, it will be out of style.I feel a little sorry for letting a slim girl wait there? Therefore, if you are really late, you must explain the situation and apologize immediately when you meet. Don't be offended if she insists on being unreasonable, you can lighten the issue with humor.For example, she complains: "I have been waiting for 30 minutes." You might as well say: "What is 30 minutes? I have been waiting since the end of my last date. Count how many minutes it is!" She laughed through her tears, but anyway, it's not good to be late.How can girls like people who have no concept of time? 4 Ladies first, considerate care Physiologically, men are strong and agile, so helping women and lightening their burdens is a prominent manifestation of a man's "gentleman" demeanor. For example, when dining in a restaurant, the lady must be seated first before she can sit down.When ordering food, ask the lady for her opinion first, not to mention pouring tea and handing paper towels.After the meal, the man should stand up first, wait for the woman to leave the seat, then help her take off her clothes and put them on for her.When entering or leaving the door, please walk in front of her and open the door for her. If it is already late at the cinema, you should lead the woman by the hand, and if there is a waiter, please ask him to lead the way; if there is no waiter, don’t panic, stay in the theater for a few minutes, and wait for your eyes to adapt to the indoor environment. When the situation is different, I hold my girlfriend's hand again and carefully find my own seat. When taking a bus, when getting on the bus, the man should stand behind and help the woman to sit down, and when getting off the bus, the woman must get off first.All in all, respecting women is a manly "gentleman" demeanor, which can double the charm of every man. 1 Say more words of praise To cheer up a woman you are not familiar with and win her favor, one of the easiest ways is of course to praise her appearance and temperament. This trick is tried and tested and is applicable to all women.But in the face of intellectual women, it is more effective to say that she is "smart", "wisdom" and "brain" than saying she is beautiful. Intellectual women usually think that they have a high IQ and are conceited and smart.In addition to pitch, there are three elements of your voice to pay special attention to when talking to women: speed, pitch, and cadence.speed finger Of course, the key is the speed, the pitch is the height and volume of the speaking voice, and the cadence involves rhythm and tone change.This will make your voice more pleasing to the ear.If you're going to calm a woman down, you have to change the tone of your voice.When talking, pay attention to the speed and pitch of the other person's voice, so as to judge whether the other person is in a bad mood.If a person speaks faster, it means that he is emotional and may have trouble; if his voice is lowered, it means that he is thinking, which may be good or bad, please judge carefully.Getting the tone, tempo, pitch, and intonation right will help you strike a balance between your character and your voice so you can communicate successfully with women. 2 spend appropriately Spending money for women should not be spent in a big way or in a hurry, but in an elegant and interesting way.Although intellectual women are troublesome, it is worth it compared with the rich feelings and joy of change she brings to you. 〖BT3〗3 Try to have fun with her If you are a professional male, it is not easy to work under a knowledgeable female boss.There are two types of female bosses: one is soft, who manages in a gentle way and has a strong human touch; the other is strong, who has excellent professional ability and is more authoritarian than men.The trouble with the former is that the human touch is too much. The female boss tends to confuse personal friendship, personal relationship and work, and instinctively takes care of people with good relationships. The biggest problem is that you can't listen to other people's ideas and opinions, and even if you do, you generalize and transform them according to your own thinking and distort them.Working under a strong female boss, you will feel that you lack space and have no ideas every day. If this is the case, then you must get closer to her. 〖BT3〗4 Don't belittle her If an intellectual woman laughs at her own professional achievements, don't take it seriously.This is similar to a mother scolding her own child, she can say whatever she wants, but if others follow up stupidly, she can hate you for the rest of her life.There are quite a few times when intellectual women don't mean what they say, and when you get along with intellectual women, you must be careful at every step. I like her, but I'm afraid of offending her in front of others, so I really want to ask her out to have a private talk.Here are a few suggestions for your consideration: 1 When the time for dating is ripe, you should meet in time The success of dating is directly related to the timing of your proposal.It's not good to ask for a date too early or too late.When the relationship reaches a certain level, you should boldly invite the other party.Otherwise, if the time is ripe but you delay in dating the other party, it may cause misunderstanding and miss the opportunity.Of course, if the time is not yet ripe and you act recklessly, you will inevitably hit a snag.How can the time be considered ripe? This requires careful observation of the relationship and wishes of the two.After a period of contact, both parties have a good impression, so they can take the initiative to propose a date to her. 2Important appointments should be notified in advance When asking for an appointment, advance notice is usually required.As for the content of the notice, it depends entirely on the nature of the appointment.If you're asking her to a party, your notice needs to be detailed, not as simple as inviting her to a movie or a ball game.You'll have to give her considerable time to plan and prepare the outfit.For important appointments, it is best to notify the invitation two weeks in advance.Especially for a girl who has a lot of dates, the sooner you call, the better your chances of getting her a date.Girls welcome appointments with early notice, because it will allow her to plan her schedule calmly and not rule out other activities because of your date. 3 Minimize casual appointments If you're with two or three friends and suddenly decide to go ice skating, or see a show, you might want to ask a girl to go with you.However, she may think that you are insulting her by taking her on a casual casual date, and flatly refuse the invitation.No doubt, you will leave feeling happy and come back disappointed.It is best not to have such impulsive temporary appointments.Of course, if you already have a good relationship with her, it's a different matter. 4 Invite in person A date invited in person is more solemn than a phone call or a letter, and it is not as easy to be harassed as a phone call.If you're on the phone and someone is listening on the extension, you might as well ask her out over the phone than in person.Also, don't ask your girlfriend out on a date when there are a lot of people around because it's between the two of you and it's always inappropriate to bring it up in front of other people. 5 telephone invitation People who feel uncomfortable with the opposite sex always like to ask for a date on the phone.Some people seem tongue-tied when talking with girls, but it is more natural on the phone.So write down what you want to say in advance so that you can calmly extend the invitation on the phone.If she receives your call at home, it is convenient to ask her parents for permission. 6 Asking Her for an Answer on a Date In most cases, whether she can accept your invitation or not, she can always give you an answer at that time.If she is not sure to answer you immediately (maybe she wants to ask her parents for advice), or if she has other questions to consider, you might as well make an appointment with her for a reply. %%%7 Dating needs to be planned Generally speaking, when inviting a date, there is always a predetermined plan.If the plan is unclear, you can also discuss with her impromptu what to do.It's best to present her with several different proposals and let her choose, as far as your pocketbook will allow.Otherwise, she couldn't be rash enough to ask her to decide where to play.This is a very important and practical issue.Boys who can't control their wallets on dates often lead to bad breakups with their girlfriends. 8 When She Says No, She Needs The Right Medicine Sometimes, even if she is willing to go out with you, she may pretend to decline your invitation.You can judge by her attitude and decide whether to express your sincere invitation again.If she refuses sincerely, you have to be sensible and stop asking. Being rejected for a date is naturally an annoying thing.If you know the real reason why a girl rejects you, it will be less difficult to deal with.If she says she already has a date, feel free to invite her to another date; but if she says she won't be available for a long time, it's probably telling you to find another date.If a girl rejects your date without explaining why, you don't have to force her to answer.If you're reasonably confident that she doesn't want to hang out with you, it should be easy to ask to reschedule or suggest a different date.This will allow her to get to know you better and show you that you are a considerate person. No one knows what is the reason for this. Men have been used to seeing some women as unattainable since they can remember. Sleeping Beauty needs a handsome prince to be resurrected with a kiss. Find a confidant among the dwarves.As a result, some men automatically became candidates for the son-in-law, and most men could only be spectators. Therefore, when one or a few bold suitors jumped out of the majority of men, such voices often sounded around: Why would a beautiful woman find such an ugly man? What flowers are planted on cow dung... What kind of woman deserves what kind of man has almost become a fixed pattern of secular love. The stories of beautiful women and handsome men passed down through the ages have replaced true love in real life.Even if this man is very good, if his appearance and identity are somewhat different from the standard Prince Charming, then everything will become a tragedy.Even the imaginative Hollywood love masters rarely dare to violate the rules and regulations on this. The reporter and the princess in "Roman Holiday", the handsome Pike and the beautiful Hepburn, are an excellent match, but the disparity in status can only make them have a romantic two-day trip with no results.If you accidentally fell in love with Princess Diana, it may only be buried with you. Therefore, many men have this question: Who should a beautiful woman belong to? In order to find the answer, they often lose themselves and self-confidence first. What kind of talent does a beautiful woman have? In fact, people ignore this premise. Love between a man and a woman is just a matter of two people, and it has nothing to do with worldly concerns.There is no difference in essence between a beautiful woman and an ordinary woman. Beauty can neither be the capital for a woman to despise a man, nor can it be an obstacle for a man to pursue a relationship.It's like "I am born to be useful", beautiful flowers are planted on cow dung, and there is actually no need to make a fuss. 1 The "secret" of getting along with others What brings out the best in a person is appreciation and encouragement.Genuine praise can make you many friends, but slights and ridicule can make things worse. 2 methods popular everywhere As long as a person is genuinely interested in other people, within two months he will have far more friends than he can be interested in. History will not cry with your experience, she will only recognize your contribution! Therefore, when you encounter setbacks, it is best to find a trustworthy person to talk to, and never vent to the people around you. 3 If you want to catch fish, you have to ask what the fish want to eat If there is a secret to success, it is the possibility of understanding the other person's characteristics and seeing things from his point of view. In the same way, if you want others to care about you and understand you, then you'd better stand in their position and respect them.This way you will gain more. 4 Pay attention to showing the charm of men It is undeniable that being handsome or beautiful is indeed easier to attract the attention of the opposite sex.But to be a man who can make a woman's heart beat, it's not enough just to be handsome, nor does it require you to go to the gym to develop a body as strong as Spartacus.There are many reasons why men attract women. Both sexes in different age groups will have their own charm that makes the opposite sex obsessed. It's just that we are too familiar with ourselves, but forget our own charm. 5 man's smile It's good to be handsome, but what do you do when you're not handsome enough? Let me tell you, let’s practice a charming smile first! Some men’s eyes and smiles exude an innocent and childish face. For some women, this is even more deadly than a muscular macho! Because in an instant, women will naturally glow with the brilliance of motherhood, and want to take good care of him.If it weren't for this, how could the pink and childish little white face be confused! Therefore, a charming smile will leave a good image on people, and it is also an important "capital" for your social interaction. 6 Men's Appearance A man, enough to make women obsessed with certain parts of his body, in fact many more.The most commonly heard are buttocks, eyes, arms, chest, others are chin, charming smile, strong calves and so on.There is an interesting foreign research report, aiming at women's point of view, summarizing which facial features men are most attractive to women, and the result is that men with sharp-edged faces are among the best.In fact, this is only in terms of appearance, a handsome guy still has to have connotations. 7 serious men make women's hearts The expression of a man's attention to certain things is also an important reason to impress a woman's heart.Perhaps this reason is also one of the important reasons why men and women are attracted to each other in the workplace.However, men who focus on certain things should be enough. It is so serious that they forget to eat and sleep, and forget that there is still someone alive beside them. Even a patient and good woman will leave you. How would you rate yourself for making women fall in love with you? Or have you not gotten women to notice you at all? Appropriate and clean dress, elegant conversation and connotation can all be acquired through hard work.If you want to be a man who makes women obsessed, you should be a good man first.For example, learn to keep "silent". 8 silent men make women's hearts A man of few words often makes women feel that he is mysterious, because he seems to have more depth and self-cultivation. Women can tolerate ignorance, but they cannot tolerate men who are superficial. A man's excellent eloquence is always a merit, but it is seldom emphasized when women enumerate the qualities of men, especially when they describe the characteristics of their loved ones. In fact, in public places, many women would rather a man remain silent than talk superficially there. Even in a two-person world, women want men to be listeners.At this time, women don't necessarily ask men to make other reactions, men just need to sit there and say "um", "that's it" is enough to satisfy women.Even when a man reads a newspaper or TV and adds in a few words such as "very good" and "not bad" in time, a woman may not feel left out. That's why, a man of few words often makes a woman's heart flutter, not only mysterious, but also because he looks deeper and more self-cultivated.Women can tolerate their own ignorance, but they cannot tolerate men's shallowness.The safe way is to only express opinions on things you are familiar with. At least this makes women feel reliable. 1 Persuading women, it is best at dusk Why do you have to talk about love at dusk? In addition to the unique atmosphere that women generally like in the evening, there is a deeper theory in psychology. The biological clock of the human body is in charge of the natural laws of the mind and body. If the function is not normal, the body will be very tired, and thinking can This is the reason for the loss of energy, loss of control, and accidents in the evening. Women are more emotional than men, so their biological clock is less stable, and they tend to fall into an unstable state mentally, often sentimental. The biological clock is unstable, not only for women, but also for men.Hitler, the Nazi leader of Germany, took advantage of this in reverse. He liked to gather at dusk to catch the trend of people's hearts. There are also many successful examples in the industrial world of cleverly grasping the unstable characteristics of the opponent's biological clock.For difficult negotiations, try to set them at dusk; it is also beneficial for you to extend the meeting time until dusk. The other party, who usually thinks carefully, simply agrees without any objection when he is fasting, tired, low in energy, and low in thinking ability. At this time, all the initiative is in the palm of his hand. 2 Something That Keeps Part of Mystery In shops or dance halls, we often see some men who are not rich and handsome, but they can arouse women's concern and win women's love.What makes these men attractive? First of all, they keep some secrets. If others don't know his occupation, they will pay more attention to him.Second, properly show that you are better than others.No wonder such men attract women's attention. Man is an incredible animal, and he has a strong curiosity about undisclosed secrets.Once the secret is made public, this curiosity will disappear immediately. Therefore, for women, attractive men should keep some mysterious things for the other party to guess. Women often lack strict logic, and they tend to speculate on a man's whole from a certain part of a man.If a man wears a sailor's uniform, they will think that he must have been to many countries; Ye Jing continued to talk about the London stock market, pretending to have been to every prosperous metropolis in the world, which made women trust him even more. If you want to be more attractive to win the favor of women, then use the above two elements appropriately. 保持部分神秘的东西令人猜测，露出一些才华供人欣赏，这是获得女人青睐的两条秘诀。 男性与女性各有其心理特点。男女之间依据各自的心理特点发生矛盾冲突时，若仅仅站在异性的观点上看问题，很可能会将对方的心理特点看成缺点，因而对方也变得一无是处。然而若站在超然的观点上看，特点就是特点，并无优劣之分，问题就会好解决得多。 1用“倾听”和“沉默”对付无理取闹 时常有男性因女性的无理取闹，自己百般劝解仍无法制止而大伤脑筋。其实，应付这种场面的最好办法就是只听不说。 当你停止解释而倾听她说时，女性可能因为发觉你在专心听而说得更起劲。可当这种一面倒的情势一直继续下去的时候，女性就会因此突然感到不安，因而用“你认为怎样?”“是不是?”之类的发问来试探你的反应，而这时的你，注意，千万别中了女性的“诡计”，否则就会前功尽弃——你得装出一副思考的姿态，继续保持沉默。女性可能会因你顽固的沉默而更忿怒，也可能以为你没听懂她的话，于是继续喋喋不休下去。但你最正确的反应，依旧是“倾听”、“沉默”。 在进行一场“耐性比赛”?是的，一点不错，而这场“耐性比赛”的最后失败者往往是女性。女性做任何事情的动机、感情的成分远比理性成分大，所以半途而废的可能性也高。经过反复倾听、沉默这么一大段时间，她的头脑会逐渐冷静下来，会进行自我反省，会觉察到自己是无理取闹，于是偃旗息鼓。 2对难以回答的问题用迂回战术 “工作和我，哪一个对你重要?”男子最怕女性提出这类问题。反过来说也一样，女子若想叫男子瞠目结舌，结结巴巴讲不成话，只要多提这类问题即可。 一个人的生活有许多个层次。工作和妻子，对男性来说，属于不同的生活层面。属于不同层面的东西是无法加以比较的。 其中的道理，女性其实也知道，但她还是要问。与其说她是在询问男性的选择，不如说是在向男性提出“你对我不够好”的抗议。 女性提出这类略有点“胡闹”色彩的问题，通常在情绪纷乱或波动较大时居多，所以想纯粹用道理去说服她，似乎也不大可能，不如引导她尽量说出想说的话，将内心感情宣泄一下。 等她发泄过后，头脑冷静了，再对她说：“你当然对我很重要。”明确告诉她你充分承认她的存在价值之后，再郑重地说，“正因为你很重要，所以我更要努力工作，开创我们美满的未来。”以这种模棱两可的说法暗示她，自己实际上无法决定哪一样比较重要。这该是一种机敏的做法。 3巧妙转移话题以纠正似是而非 在男性眼里，女性有些理论根本不成其为理论。比方说：“因为不要，所以不要。”“不行，我提不起精神。”“不是告诉过你不行了嘛，还要我怎么说?”诸如此类无法应付的理论，男子往往觉得棘手，因为如果再逼一步，女性们便会以发怒、哭泣、不理睬等行动表示抗议。 女性这类举止，是心理学上所说的“退化现象”，即回到了心智发育尚未成熟的阶段。小孩就凡事不以理智而以感情方式达到自己的欲求，所以常用哭的方式来表达自己的要求和拒绝或者厌恶的事情。 陷入这种情景中的女性，会重现幼儿自我中心的心理特性，这时，空洞的讲理或进攻性的强硬姿态都不会奏效，甚至使事情更僵，所以得用其他方法。 消极些的办法是退一步耐心地静静等待，留给女性将感情发泄的时间。积极的办法则是设法改变话题，或者改换谈话场所，让谈话气氛改变一下，有助于女性心理障碍的克服。日本作家太宰治的一篇小说中就描写过这类场面。小说中的男主人公待女主人公哭过之后，出其不意拿出她最爱吃的甜羊羹给她吃，原先的紧张气氛一下子消弥殆尽，两人重归于好。 日常生活中有许多东西具有上述甜羊羹的功效，只要运用得当，就能使女性爆发的情绪告一段落，解除原不知将如何结束的尴尬场面。 4过分的“弥补”反而招致反感 有男人抱怨：“现在的女孩子真不好应付，骂她吧，她会一直跟你闹别扭；对她脸色稍好些，她又会趾高气扬。”其实，女性的这种习性并不是现在的事，从古至今，男性一直都为女性这种难以捉摸的脾气而伤透了神。 比如，你昨天将一位女性很厉害地斥责了一顿，事后想想有点过分，于是今天见到她时，低声下气安慰她，并处处对她让步。而这种做法，不但不能使那女性接受你补偿性的特别待遇，反而使她狐疑满腹：“他为什么对我这么好?一定是昨天骂错了，心虚，所以今天才来讨好。”于是心中反感顿生，不愿接受男子的道歉。 女性挨了骂，固然会产生怨恨，但若对方骂得有理，女性也会出自一种愿意接受男性主宰的本能而心悦诚服。这时的男性如果因为内心有些歉疚而改变态度，就等于取缔了女性表示服从的机会，结果反而因为行为缺乏一贯性而失去女性的信赖。 因此，遇到这类情境，男性完全可以潇洒一点，做出一副压根儿忘了那回事的样子，言行举止仍和平日一样，就可以使女性很快忘掉昨天曾有过的不快。 当然，这一节所说的只适用于你斥责得有理的情况。你若是无理谩骂女性，那就是另外一回事了。 腹有诗书气自华。脱俗的气质加上得体的衣着，会使你成为一个高贵的男人。 1学会自我打扮 在服饰方面，男人的外衣主要有中山装、西装和夹克等三种适于社交场合，其他运动服或法兰绒之类的软料外衣不适于社交场合。合体的上衣应长过臀部，四周下垂平展，手臂伸 出，上衣的袖子恰过腕部。领子应紧贴后劲部。衬衫领子稍露出外衣领，衬衫的袖口也稍长出些。 衣袋：正式服装的外部衣袋里是不应放东西的，裤子背后的口袋里也不应放东西。皮夹、手帕、钢笔等应放在外衣里侧的口袋里。平时，不要把手插在衣袋里。 礼服：用于略带庄重场合的穿着，现在通用的是全套西服(双排扣更为庄重些)。颜色为黑、灰或蓝，上下一色说明更加庄重。穿西服时最好也穿上西服背心，因为让人看到衬衫和裤子的连接处是不雅的。领带的花色要尽可能与衬衫、外衣的颜色搭配好。 风衣：风衣是大衣的一种，通常有两排纽扣和一条腰带。在正式场合一般不宜穿风衣。有很多活动的场合，风衣可使你增加不少潇洒。穿风衣时让衣领树起七分高。腰带随意缚上，最下面的纽扣可以松开。风衣不穿着时，可以随意地用一只手臂挽搭着，显得较有风度。 首饰：男人的首饰只限于结婚戒指和图章戒指，另外还有手表或挂表。图章戒指应戴在左手小指上。结婚戒指戴在右手无名指上。 鞋子：黑色或深色的鞋可以同一切正式的服装配用。旅游运动鞋或布鞋不能同西服配穿。中山装可以与布鞋一起穿。无带皮鞋不适于正规场合穿。 男士着装注意事项：西装要穿着合体、优雅符合规范。如打领带时，衣领的扣子要系好，领带要推到领扣上面，下端不要超过皮带。如果是穿毛衣，领带应放在毛衣里面，如果别领带夹，应在衬衣第二、三纽扣之间，不要别在领口。如不系领带，应把领口解开，衬衣领也可翻到西装外。一般西装是两个扣子，正规的是扣子只系上面的，也可都不系。如果是三粒扣子，只扣中间一粒或都不扣。 2风度的自我培养 风度，包括人的言谈、举止、态度，是人的心灵、性格、气质、涵养与外在体态的综合表现。人的风度各异，有的文质彬彬、温文尔雅；有的敏捷聪慧、飘逸潇洒；有的坦率豪放、坚毅果敢；有的气度恢宏、深沉练达。作为政治家、外交家的周恩来总理可说是得到世人公认的最有风度的男人之一。他在许多重大场合上潇洒自如、挥洒若定的翩翩风度令世人为之倾倒，为许多人特别是青少年所推崇效仿。可见，在我们这个社会上，人们羡慕优美健康的风度，向往和追求风度美，已经成为生活中的潮流。然而，要使自己拥有优雅的风度，并非一朝一夕便可养成，它需要持久而艰苦的自我磨石厉。 良好的习惯是风度美的条件。保持站、坐、走优美的姿势和良好的生活习惯是必要的。一些人认为，只要有美的相貌，就具备美的形象，殊不知，这种美是不完全的。从审美角度看：“在美方面，相貌美高于色泽美。而秀雅合适的动作的美又高于相貌的美。”一个人长得再漂亮，如果举止很不顺眼，他那漂亮的脸蛋也会黯然失色。在日常生活中，我们经常可以看到一些人的不良习惯，如屁股坐在椅子上，脚却蹬在桌子上，走起路来没精打彩，不讲卫生，随地吐痰等等，极不雅观，更谈不上什么风度了。要想具有优美的风度，就要下功夫培养自己各方面的良好习惯。言谈举止、动静坐行都要符合规范。如，走路要昂首挺胸，步履轻捷，体态端庄，欣欣而来飘然而去，给人留下健康向上的风度美的印象。在培养风度的过程中，锻炼身体，注重体形的健美，也是很重要的。 内心世界与外部神态的有机统一，才能构成一个人正直独特的风度。风度是一种内在气质的天然流露。言为心声，行为神使。难以想像一个心灵龌龊的人会有优美的风度。精神面貌直接影响到人的外观表现。所以，单一的外形体态是决定不了风度美的。只有具有美德，风度美才有价值。 美好的风度，靠盲目模仿是不行的，留长发，叼烟卷，戴歪帽，斜着眼，装出一副潇洒样子给别人看，矫揉造作，反而弄巧成拙，显得轻浮粗俗，更没什么风度可言。只有从提高自身素质，养成各种良好习惯开始，优雅的风度才会慢慢养成。 3不断学习 要使自己的气质高贵，必须要首先掌握渊博的知识；而要拥有渊博的知识，就需要通过长期努力的学习。 如果说最初的人类学习是生存的一种需要，那么现代的人类学习则是人类发展的动力。在现代社会里，学习已成为人生的伴侣，成为提高人们思想境界和生活质量的必由之路。凡是善于学习、自觉学习的人，往往因有知识有才华，气质显得高贵；而那些不愿学习，不善于学习的人，则因他们的无知而毫无气质可言。如今，学习能力已成为衡量现代人的标志之一，学习不仅是学生的事，而且已成为当代每一个人求生存求发展的重要途径。 所谓学习，是人在社会生活中获得经验的过程，是一个接受知识、增长学识、提高能力的智力过程。 培根说过“知识就是力量”，但知识本身并不能成为力量，只有知识的实际运用，知识内化为主体素质，内化为主体的学识和能力，才能显示出无穷的力量，高贵的气质和人格的力量才能体现出来。 现代科学知识综合化发展的特点和趋势促使我们不能把自己的知识局限在某一个方面。而要不断扩大自己知识、视野、扩大学习和研究的领域。如果不这样，我们的思路、谈吐就会受到限制，显得狭小，枯燥无味，根本说不上气质了，因此，我们要注意拓宽自己的知识面，有目的有计划地博览群书，博采众长。只有这样的博学、活学，才是独立自主的、积极有效的学习，才能有助于智力的开发，学识的增长也才能使自己的气质高贵。 有人把最受女性喜欢的男人魅力概括为九个方面： (1)可靠。男人可靠，说明他待人处世可信度强。男人在事业上发展，缺乏令人信任的品质，就很难获得成功的机遇，没有一个上司愿意任用不可靠的下属，没有朋友愿意找不可信的人合作。在情场上常打败仗的，恰是那种不能赢得女人信任的男人。不被信赖，这是男人最不成功的人生。 男人为何不被信赖? 他或是能力低下。事业上，上司不敢委以重任，怕他力不从心，难当大用；情场上，女人寻找不到力量，难以委托终生。 因此，可靠是男人的第一美德，也是男人的最大魅力。 (2)温和。情性暴躁、脾气乖戾的男人，人人都会对他敬而远之，女人更是避他惟恐不及。没有好人缘，更没有情缘，他处处被人孤立，时时受冷遇，他就像从野蛮之地冲入人群的困兽，没有人情味。 而性格温和的男人，深怀一种和善之心，那么易于亲近，处处显示一种体贴、关怀的善意。戒心强烈、容易受伤的弱女子，投靠温情的怀抱，感受和风细雨温存，她将沐浴幸福，深受陶醉，爱便油然而生。 (3)深沉。深沉是内在的精神修养，是阅历丰富的男子经过磨练获得的独有魅力。为什么女性选择伴侣喜欢成熟的男人?正是被他深刻的内涵所吸引。 深沉并不是沉默寡言，有的女孩最初也被沉默不语的男性迷惑，但是经过接触她可能发现，他的沉默，或是无思想，或是拙于言辞，或是无主见。 真正的深沉是一种经验，是一种深思熟虑。男人切忌夸夸其谈，口无遮拦，作风轻浮，被斥为“嘴上无毛，办事不牢”。深沉还是一种稳健的风度，他不以年龄为标志，更不是老奸巨滑。这是一种少年老成的魅力，是担大任的素质。女人热爱深沉，看重的是这种男人的发展潜力，终身相许的，自然是能成大器的男人。 (4)坚强。坚强是一只铁炉，能够将男人炼成钢。 百炼成钢的男子，站在女人面前是一只擎天柱，他百折不弯，任凭风吹雨打。人们常说，爱情是经不起一发炮弹的木帆船，哪个女人敢于登上这样脆弱的木船去经历几十年的婚姻风雨?坚强的男人能造大船，他能挺立船头为女人遮风挡雨。感情的波折，家庭的困难，一遇刚强，都化险为夷。这种安全感是只有从坚强的男人那里才能得到，他永远不会做逃兵。 (5)果断。按照东方人的传统观念，男人在社会中应该处于领导地位，男人都应该是女人的领导。有人说，日本为什么发展那么快，就是因为合理高效的男女分工，男主外、女主内，男人主宰社会，女人为男人服务，所以男人都自信心极强，富有决断力。姑且不辩论男人的果断力是怎么丧失的，是不是被参与社会生活的女人埋没了、吓跑了。总之，中国的女人是喜欢处事果断的男人，女人从根本上决不想缠磨得一个个男人都优柔寡断，办事拖泥带水。 果断的男人令女人尊重。 大多数女人骨子里是愿意处于从属地位的，特别是在情侣眼里，唯唯诺诺的男子汉大丈夫，显得软弱可欺，没有骨气，一个连女人都能欺负住的男人准没出息。男人一挺起腰杆，说话掷地有声，女人就顿起敬意。有主见的男人，遇事勇于做主张的男人，都获得女人的尊重。 果断的男人令女人崇拜。 果断的男人有魅力，叱咤风云，指点江山，有领导者风度。女人遇到这样的男人就会乖乖地驯服，女人那些婆婆妈妈无理搅三分的招法就都失灵了，女人反而崇拜他。 男人在单位树立威信，才能赢得地位。 男人在家里树立威信，才能赢得爱。 (6)责任感。责任感强的男人不自私自利。 社会赋予男人以神圣的使命，他要创造价值，推动历史进程。因此，男人勇于挑重担，他迎难而上，决不推卸责任。他不讲享受，不图安逸，不损人利己，助人为乐，关怀弱小，疼爱妻儿，他处处获得尊重。与这样的男人相恋相爱，女人会有无上的荣誉感，而这是一笔巨大的精神财富。 责任感强的男人尊重他人。 责任感是男人拥有的最高尚的品德，富有责任心的男人一定是个好丈夫，他会尊重爱情，忠于职守。得到尊重的女人，能够保持人格独立，获得身心自由，追求价值人生。想得到的已都拥有，付出了已得到尊重，这样的女人无怨无悔。 (7)事业心。有事业心的男人以事业为重，追求发展前途，他把爱情与家庭摆在从属地位，但不能说他不重视，他反而更加需要温暖舒适的家，令他栖息，令他放松，他相信书本上所总结的：一个成功的男人背后，必定有一个好女人。 为什么对于男人来说，事业是人生第一目的?事业心是最值得骄傲的品格，而女人却把男人的事业心排在她们欣赏的诸多优点之后。 这是时代的变迁，导致女人审美观移位。过去，夫贵妻荣，男人的功名利禄，带给女人以炫耀和尊贵。现代社会，女性解放，与男人比肩同行，许多女人的事业心、成功欲不亚于男子。女人自己能够得到的，她就不再感到弥足珍贵了，而且共同追求事业，容易怠慢缠绵的爱情，也容易产生家庭隔阂。个性强的女人是时时都想与男人换位的。 但是男人的事业心，仍是女人相当看重的。男人不思进取，懒惰消沉，甘拜下风，女人则脸上无光，虚荣心大受伤害。女人真是难满足。 所以，男人不能按照女人的心意塑造自己。事实证明，社会千变万化，男人仍然是社会的中坚，无论女人叫得多响，她最终也不愿意选择一个在社会上、在家庭里都无足轻重的男人为夫。不是吗?女人仍把事业心作为男人的一大美德。 (8)独立性。独立性是男人成熟的标志，是男人的立身之本。男人最重要的是精神独立，树立独立人格。 女人不喜欢没有主见的男人。有的男人总被别人左右着，或是谈朋友、找工作都听父母的，整天我妈说如何如何，我姐说如何如何，令女友极其反感。还有的男人整天混在人群里，到处充当随从角色，没有号召力，也没有凝聚力，因此也无足轻重。 男人有了独立人格，才能安身立命，才能发展自我，也才能保护自己心爱的女友，让女友放心地追随你，归属你。 (9)细心周到。细心周到的男人有长者风范，他像守护神一样陪伴女人，他是生活型的男人，与他在一起，女人会受到悉心爱护，他令女人备增幸福感，这样的男人有女人缘。 他善于倾听，乐于解答，和风细雨，温情脉脉。他喜欢家庭生活，热爱孩子，倾注心血教养子女。 他顾全大局，懂得谦让，忍耐力强，不争不抢，不强迫别人意志。 他会做家务，勤快主动，一切做过的事情都能达到井井有条。 细心周到的男人极讨女人欢心，也许他做不成什么大的事业，但他会全心全意地爱家、爱老婆、爱孩子。