Chapter 27 Lesson 3 Women's "Love Quotient" Enlightenment - Effective Ways to Approach Men

1 Indirect method: hope to get to know them, the method of natural invitation You're now planning an outing with two or three other girls who don't have boyfriends. So, you can find a boy who is easier to listen to you, and tell him: "This Sunday, we are going to pick oranges, do you want to go together? Anyway, you are fine, and by the way, find some friends to have fun! Picnic We will take care of it, and all other expenses will be paid by ourselves.” Such reassuring and good conditions, as long as men who are at home on Sundays are free, they will actively participate. One of the reasons why men don't want to invite women out is fear of excessive expenses.

The secret to creating the opportunity of "a little red in a thousand green bushes": As long as there are men smoking and chatting (if these men are colleagues in your unit, classmates, or people who met in the same office building), you can walk towards them with a smile, because they At this time, they will definitely not be talking about serious things, they must be chatting their teeth in a very boring way. If you join their chat circle at this time, they will definitely not ask you to go away, they will definitely move a chair and ask you to sit down, this is the situation of "a little red".At this time, men will welcome women to join.So when they see you, they will definitely say: "Come on! Come and have a seat?"

After this kind of opportunity arises, you may be their frequent playmates in the future, or you may date one of them. Under normal circumstances, when a girl wants to approach the opposite sex the most, it is often the most difficult time to make up her mind and approach. Therefore, when you are about to pass by the opposite sex, you'd better stop and don't be serious. pass by. Ways to approach brothers and friends: One way is to ask your brother to introduce you to a boyfriend. Even if your brother refuses you "No, we are all men, how can you girls go", don't be timid, try to act like a baby to him and let him take you there.

Or grab your brother's friend and say in a strong tone, "Why can't I go camping with you guys?" and so on. Once these methods are ineffective, you have to try to make them change their feelings about you and make them feel that you exist.So, when you need help, do it more diligently, and sometimes look afraid at thunder or insects, and your brother may ask you to bring some of your friends. In this way, some boys who were originally unwilling to participate will become more active because of you and your friends joining. Even if you lack interest in your brother's friends, never ignore the existence of his friends.

Because brother's friends are connected to the opposite sex you may need. Even a friend of a brother's friend may be related to you. So, you can invite your girlfriend to your birthday party, or invite her to an outing you have planned, and invite her brother and her brother's friends along the way. So on her side, she will slowly invite you back and invite you to participate in some of their activities frequently. This is like pouring water into a well with poor water flow, and the well water can be drawn out. Make friends of the opposite sex , Be sure to bet your capital and spend some thought.

Work hard on those of the same sex who are very familiar with the opposite sex: some girls often have friends of the opposite sex, and when you associate with them, they seem to attract men like honey, and they have a predestined relationship with men. This kind of girls usually don't have a fixed boyfriend, but they like to make friends with men, and they often take care of them as big sisters. You must not ignore their existence like this kind of girls. You'd better try to get as close to this kind of girl as possible, and ask her to eat something often, she will be very happy.Because women who often interact with men are usually very straightforward when spending money, so even if they are of the same sex, she will not like stingy girls. If you can often buy her something to eat, she will definitely regard you as the same kind. And have a good impression of you, so as long as you have the opportunity, you should try to get close to her and stay with her often, and she will definitely take you to participate in activities of the opposite sex.

When you really can't get a boyfriend, it is also a good way to use this method. Ways to use the opportunity of helping out during overtime to deepen your impression: If he wants to work overtime, even though your job is not directly related to him, you should say: "Anyway, I'm fine, please help!" In this way, you can pour a cup of tea for him, tidy up nearby paper scraps, and clean up the environment. , if possible, you might as well help him with some matters.Of course, these actions of yours are not a desire to get his overtime pay. If he works overtime very late and finally ends his work, you can find a relaxing topic to chat with him to make him feel that you are approachable.After this situation a few times, you will get along very well.

Therefore, instead of gaining the favor of male colleagues through special clothing or makeup, it is more direct and effective to lose help at work. In terms of work, in addition to not neglecting your own affairs, you can also intervene to help colleagues with big and small matters that need to be resolved. In this way, you will be more popular than those who are born beautiful. 2 Strategies for direct method investment Men are more thoughtful than women when it comes to handling money, but whether this is really their habit is not known. When making a girlfriend, 80% of men will consider how much money to spend, so after some calculations, if they feel that it is not worthwhile, many men will retreat because there may be a lot of books behind him. Problems such as unpaid rent bothered him.

Therefore, in order to avoid the embarrassment of men, if women can take the initiative to pay the expenses, they can eliminate the shadow barriers during communication. How to buy tickets: For example, if you bought two movie tickets, you can say to him: "I have two movie tickets here. I wonder if you are free tonight?" If he refuses you, you can resell the two movie tickets. Reduce your losses, or please the other party first, and then it is not too late to buy a ticket. What's more, you have two invitation tickets for long-distance travel, so you ask him if he can accompany you there.If you don't have two coupons at hand, you can also consult with him before making an appointment.If he refuses you, you cancel the appointment.

In this way, you can openly go on dates with him, go to exhibitions, or go to competitions. Ways to send greeting cards: A concise New Year's card or visit card, I believe that neither the sender nor the recipient will be as embarrassed as sending an ordinary letter, and the recipient will definitely leave a good impression on the sender, Think "she is not bad! She will send me a New Year's card". If you send a tourist postcard from a place you are traveling, although his family will not care too much about similar cards, he will definitely bury your heart in his heart.

Before you fully understand his inner thoughts, don't write too many letters, but wait for him slowly for a while. When you know his birthday, you might as well send him a birthday card to express your admiration for him. By using this kind of birthday card, it is equivalent to clarifying your heart. Try to find some excuses and write some simple postcards and New Year's cards to him, so that when we meet in the future, he will also greet and talk to you. Using the method of visiting: Suppose he catches influenza and has to rest for a week or has a cecum operation and is in the hospital; when there is a car accident and the cervical spine is contused, you must seize the opportunity to visit him.When visiting a sick person, you might as well buy a bouquet of flowers, a simple visiting card, and telling him what you are thinking about is also very good. Note the stores he frequents: It would be even more convenient if you knew which stores he frequented to buy records and books.You can check his interests and hobbies first, and then pretend to be similar to his interests, and often go to the stores he goes in and out of, then your chances will be even greater by comparison. Just going in and out of his favorite place once or twice won't work. You must go to the store he frequents persistently. Occasionally you can also buy something to show that you are a regular customer of this store. In this way, chances will come. Come. Take advantage of the hobbies you share with him: For example, some ballroom dances, movie appreciation meetings, fishing, mountaineering and other activities, you can join these groups with him. With a relationship with common hobbies, both of you will feel more cordial. When participating, you might as well sit by his side and talk to him often.When you go or when you come back, you have to pretend to meet him by chance. After you are so familiar, he will come to you. Take advantage of the convenience of travel: If he is going to enjoy the snow with a friend, you can also find a friend to go to the same place.You can also pretend to run into him when he goes swimming in the pool. "Do we see each other often?" If he asks you that, here's your chance. Therefore, you must know his actions throughout the year. Although you will encounter some difficulties in implementing it, as long as you ask his friends for help, the problem will be easy. How to invite directly from you: "Do you have a show tomorrow?" When it comes to weekends, you might as well check his tone. "No, what are you doing?" If the other party asks in this way, you have already succeeded.So, you can say: "I want to watch football, I don't know what you mean?" or "There is a photography exhibition somewhere, do you want to go to see it together?" Because some men's Sundays are quite boring and lonely. Even if the other person doesn't particularly like you, but doesn't dislike you, there is still hope. 3 by chance Examples of "mud splash tactics": This is a common scene in foreign movies: a young girl, standing by the road, happens to meet a car driven by a young man whizzing by.In an instant, the mud on the ground splashed all over her body, and she yelled at the car angrily. After the young man knew about it, he immediately asked her to go to the laundry to wash the clothes. There is no need to describe the future development here, because This is the story of acquaintance by chance. Sometimes, the hero accidentally injures the heroine, so a beautiful love story begins with a happy ending. Therefore, don't be embarrassed when encountering such occasional incidents. You must have the courage to face them, and your life will be full of fun. Example of a phone booth: In the phone booth next door, if there is a young man who wants to make a call, you can take out the change and help him solve the problem. If he wants to pay you back, you must not politely refuse, because this is a good idea. Chance. You have to wait for him quietly where you are, and ask him to pay you back the remaining change from buying cigarettes and newspapers. You have to wait patiently. During this waiting time, you just think about what you should say to him when he comes back later. If you happen to be at the station right now, you can ask him where he is going? And to ×× place, is there a ride here, etc., if he answers you: "I'm going there too, let's go together!" It may be a good start again. Therefore, no matter what you do, you must be willing to use your brains. Even if he leaves after paying you back, there is no loss for you. Example of drinking tea: In a teahouse with many diners, if there is a man sitting alone in a double seat, you must first consider that he may be waiting for a friend or girlfriend. When you enter a teahouse with a lot of people, there are only two seats left in the store, one is for four people, and a woman is already sitting on the seat, and a man is already sitting on the other double seat, at this time Of course you have to go to this man first. "Excuse me, are you waiting for someone?" If he nods, you're done. If he answers you: "No!" you can use this opportunity to ask him if he can sit on the chair opposite. After you sit down, don’t freeze there. You’d better talk to him about some light topics about teahouses, such as: Is this place always so crowded? There must be no fun together, you'd better move to another seat.If he can answer your questions happily, you can take this opportunity to chat with him more. In other words, if you are sitting alone in a double seat and there is a man looking for a seat, you might as well ask him to sit opposite you. Naturally create "accidental" examples.In the footage of the movie, we can often notice that in order to attract a certain man, when a woman talks to him, she often leaves the handkerchief on purpose when she walks by the man, and let the other party say: "Hey, Miss, your handkerchief Dropped!" and other occasions to speak, so you have to know how to use or create some accidental opportunities. For example, when you are making a call in a telephone booth, there is a man standing outside, so when you come out, don’t forget to leave your umbrella behind, so that he can ask you to take away the umbrella that you deliberately lost, creating a chance to talk. If you like a man in a store, but it is too expensive to buy from him every time, so you have to deliberately ask him to send your purchases to the wrong address, so that the items are returned After that, he will definitely contact you to create an opportunity for you to talk. Lesson 3 Women's "Love Quotient" Enlightenment-Promote love into a safe harbor Mountain alliances and vows are always empty, but a joint marriage is the truth. Although love is beautiful, if it cannot be implemented into marriage, it is like a castle in the air, and it is just a romantic game after all.Don't be so stupid as to believe the nonsense of "I don't care about eternity, I only care about what I once had". Once having had is a helpless ending. Of course, if two people really love each other, they must pursue eternity. Marriage is the most specific way to last forever.If a woman wants to spend her first life with her sweetheart, sit in the castle of her family, and be able to have children in a legitimate way, she must go through the procedure of "marriage" to guarantee it. Now I will teach you a few clever tricks to capture your husband. 1 Creating obstacles can increase a man's urgency The poet Goethe said: "If you want to make two people love each other, you only need to separate them by force." If you look through many thrilling love stories in ancient and modern times, you can get the following conclusion: you want to make two men and women love each other more, and the relationship between the two is stronger. The best way to bond is to sabotage or prevent them from being together. Get in the way, let the two "share the same hatred", work together to fight against obstacles, and build a true relationship in adversity.Because the right to love each other is hard-won, each other will cherish each other even more. Once the resistance is removed, will he marry you in a hurry to keep the results of this struggle? The power of destruction comes from family members, which is more convincing.Lying that your parents or relatives and friends are dissatisfied with him, for example, let him know that your third aunt always wants you to marry her uncle’s daughter’s classmate; It doesn’t matter if you have a boyfriend, or if your uncle thinks… the objection is far-fetched or exaggerated, as long as he understands that you love him so hard and have so many obstacles, but you still love him so persistently and deeply. This kind of "bitter love" will make him love you more and work harder to fight for this relationship.When the time is right, you claim that you have obtained the understanding of your family and lift the "dissatisfaction" alarm. At this time, when all the hardships come, he will definitely be overjoyed and fall into the "trap" of marriage. Only love that has been tested can last forever; only through turbulent struggles can the fruit of marriage appear sweeter and more precious. 2 Raising his social status and creating the illusion of "bidding" to stimulate him to grab the bid If he thinks that you are his person, or thinks that you are an unpopular item that no one is chasing, and he is confident and refuses to mention marriage, then give him some "crisis awareness"! Send him a message through a friend: "Someone is chasing your girlfriend hard. And threatened to marry her." He won't marry you, and there are many people waiting in line. Or, intentionally or unintentionally, they will act like they are very annoying to be chased, fabricate some "love encounters", or even more ruthlessly, hire a "love rival" to act out the plot of chasing you fiercely and entangled you hard. Let him understand your quotes.Most of the men love to join in the fun and swarm to grab a woman, just wanting to "win", just like the warriors in ancient Europe would go out of their way to fight with weapons in order to win the hearts of beauties.Therefore, create or highlight a few enemies, arouse his fighting spirit, and let him successfully defeat the "false rivals" after he has done his best to consolidate his lover's position. And you are naturally his "trophy". This kind of "Don Quixote and the windmill" war has achieved amazing results in marriage induction. 3 more rendering of intimacy To let everyone agree that you two are a couple, first of all, you must make some changes in your verbal titles and public performance. When meeting with his friends, he called him by his nickname or your special nickname, and even boasted about his husband's previous husband's, and sometimes helped him pull his tie and adjust his buttons like a good wife. In public, put on the air of an old married couple and complain to him or your friends: "Hey, he is really like a child. He only knows about work and career every day. Without me, he doesn't know how to take care of himself." While talking, she looked at him with infinite love and compassion.Occasionally call his company and tell his colleagues to remind him to take medicine and add more clothes.He has to work overtime, so he asked his colleague to convey it on his behalf: "I'll make a supper and wait for him." Let everyone know how close your relationship is, let the love affair be exposed, the relationship be made public, create established facts, and make it hard for him to get off the "tiger", and he can't retreat! Think about it, if he dares not to marry you or form a new love, it may be It will lead to the accusation of being chaotic and abandoning, ruthless and ungrateful, and becoming the target of public criticism. Can he bear it? In addition, another advantage is that you can eliminate dissidents by making your intimate relationship public, prevent other women from coveting, and cut off his way to find another partner.In this way, he has no choice but to obediently follow you into the auditorium without any candidate. 4 Leverage to fuel the flames If he still can't propose to you in a good manner, you have to resort to this trick to deal with a stubborn person like him who refuses to obey. The so-called "unity is powerful", use the power of relatives and friends to jointly promote him.The function of the friend in the above formula is only from the standpoint of "supervisory". Only when he betrays you can he have the restraining power. As for whether he proposes marriage or not, it depends on his spontaneity.The external forces of relatives and friends in this move are in the position of "guiding and teaching" and actively contribute to the flames. You have to put on an infatuated appearance of guarding the sun and guarding him, so that his friends can't see it, and put pressure on him: "She is a good girl, marry her early!" Let out rumors that you are getting married soon, and ask his colleagues to ask him: "I heard that your good news is coming soon, when will you have a wedding wine?" Please please his parents, win over his relatives, and ask them to urge him: "You are not too young, and you are still young." If you don’t want to start a family soon, let’s have grandchildren sooner.” No matter how determined he is to be single, how much he would rather die than succumb to the marriage system, under the caring eyes and inquiries of everyone, his "fight of trapped beasts" will not last long. "Propose to you. The most difficult part of this method is that you usually have to have close contacts with the people around him, win people's hearts, and reach a tacit understanding and consensus, so that you can help you stir up troubles when inducing marriage. Most men will never talk about getting married until the last moment.Since he doesn't get married or propose, of course you shouldn't be foolishly waiting to become a "Watching husband stone".The mountain does not turn, but the road can turn. If he does not propose, you can seduce him. A stupid woman waits for a man to propose, but a smart woman creates the possibility of marriage by herself.You are smart, you should know how to do it!