Chapter 26 Lesson 3 Women's "Love Quotient" Enlightenment-Give up illusions about men

Young women often have misconceptions and fantasies about men, and it is especially difficult to recognize the following: 1 Men are not as strong as women usually think Some women think that men are strong, so they don't mind saying some annoying things to men; some women get more carried away because the man smiles, and pester him endlessly to refute the other party.What is called the temperament of a man is the gentleness of feeling and the sympathy of a warrior.They are easy to be emotional, keep what they say, and show loyalty.Just as a strong man can cry, a man who seems stubborn is also vulnerable.It is precisely because they are fragile that they reluctantly assume a stubborn posture.

That kind of tough man is just a wayward person who doesn't know the world.This kind of person will get angry immediately if he doesn't agree with him, and insists on refusing to make concessions to the other party.However, because his dissatisfaction is due to his ignorance of the world, once the ladder is removed (subordinates or his wife leave), he has to face his incompetence and fall into embarrassment. We should not rashly judge which man is outstanding and strong just because of his characteristics such as ability to think, breaking the casserole, insisting on principles, working hard, not complaining, not getting discouraged when encountering setbacks, and being calm and calm.No matter how strong a man looks, he is also timid deep down.That's why there is this kind of exhortation: "The difference between courage and timidity is small, but the difference in sense of responsibility is great." That is to say, when encountering terrible things, men are also psychologically afraid. The appearance of fear is not because he is not afraid, but because he has a sense of responsibility.So, despite being afraid, they remind themselves and motivate themselves: what should be done must be done! So they insist on continuing to work.That is to say, the sense of responsibility overcomes the fear, driven by the sense of responsibility, the work is done.Men open up to women who understand their reality.

2 A man is different from his father after all For a woman, if her husband can take care of herself like a father and communicate with her heart (that is, the relationship between a man and a woman like a father and a daughter), it will be the greatest joy in life.However, this is too rare.In front of his daughter, the father lacks childishness and always puts on a fatherly face.But in the relationship between "man and woman", a man becomes childish in front of the woman he likes, and always hopes to get maternal love. All women want their fiancé or husband to treat them as gently as their father.However, few men are as generous to their girlfriends or wives as they are to their daughters.Men are very tolerant of their daughters, but very critical of their wives.The reason why men are like this is because they expect different things.From a girlfriend or wife, a man hopes to get the warmth and tolerance of a mother, so a man will be willful and presumptuous in front of his girlfriend or wife.

And when it comes to getting married or preparing to get married, the man's reaction is completely different from when he is in love.It can be regarded as becoming self-willed, self-centered, unkind and cold.In the eyes of women, men at this time are selfish; while for men, they hope that women at this time can be as tolerant of their willfulness as their mothers. 3 Men often hope that women will approach them in their hearts Men are timid in relationships.Men's prudence towards women is by no means decency or misogyny and so on.When a woman thinks "that man is great," the man also thinks "that woman is attractive."Men are very concerned about women, but because of the reasons mentioned above, they have to appear indifferent and passive on the surface.Therefore, men often hope that women will approach them in their hearts.Although I don't actively test women's moods, I don't take the initiative to approach women, but if women approach me, they must be quite happy to accept it.Women are rarely treated coldly when they approach men.

Some women think that a woman who approaches a man is "nasty" and thinks that a man has a low opinion of such a woman.Actually, there is no such thing.When you want to date a certain woman but can't say it, once you hear a woman ask: "Will you go home together?" Men are very happy to go with the flow, and they will never think that women are reckless, nor will they think that they have hurt a man's self-esteem .What men hate are talkative women, women who please everyone. 4 Men have their own unique troubles Many women don't think of men as timid and easily traumatized.Because men are taught not to get caught up in little things, they always put on an air of poise on the outside, but not necessarily on the inside.As soon as others say bad things, I always worry about it, or lose my energy immediately, and I am especially sensitive to masculinity issues.When people say, "Are you a man if you do that?" or "Are you a man?" they get upset right away.In most cases, they will pretend not to mind, or use jokes to prevaricate, but they are not calm in their hearts, and generally lose self-confidence; and once someone praises: "You are really a man! "Even a very old man is very happy in his heart.

Some women are afraid of hurting a fragile man, so they keep silent, just like raising a wayward child, only worrying in their hearts.With this attitude towards men, men will not grow up.So women should crush male narcissism to the extent that it neither completely discourages nor overpowers men, and on the other hand, recognize masculinity to the extent that it does not flatter. The competition in the world of men is extremely fierce.Therefore, men want to relax completely in their own little kingdom, and want to have a quiet moment.They don't want to open up their world to their family like schoolboys who confess everything to their mothers. Men tend to seek solitude and silence.Smart women must understand and forgive this.