Chapter 23 Lesson 3 Women's "Love Quotient" Enlightenment-Women's Misconceptions about Marriage and Love

Let's briefly talk about ten misunderstandings about women's marriage and love, and hope to learn from them. (1) "I'm waiting for the right guy." The problem is that your desired Prince Charming is as rare as winning the lottery.While you're passively waiting for him to show up, you're ignoring the good qualities of the men around you, so you'd better think of it this way: there are plenty of men for me—just look for them with purpose. (2) "I only get married when I feel mature." So when will I be mature? Fear of marriage is the first stage of loneliness, and it is absolutely correct to think carefully about what marriage is before such a crucial step of.However, you should not avoid reality, you need to overcome your fear of marriage.Never forget that a life of two makes both partners more mature.

(3) "Before I make up my mind, I would rather test the other party for a long time." When you buy a car, try the car first, and the middleman will never be disgusted.But a man is not a car, and mistrust will destroy the foundation of a relationship.The test time is too long, and he will leave you if he can't stand the painful torture. (4) "I only marry perfect people." No one is perfect, if you must find a perfect person, then you will only be infinitely disappointed.When two people live together, bumps and bumps are inevitable. This is where the joy of living together lies.

(5) "As long as I try my best, my marriage will be successful." No one should and can bear the responsibility and obligation of a happy marriage alone. If you think that it is your unilateral responsibility, then you will soon be exhausted of.A happy marriage depends on the joint efforts of two people. (6) "Living together first will increase the success rate of marriage." Of course, this will promote mutual understanding, but this does not guarantee that you will live forever.Be aware that a non-marital relationship is not always the same as a married relationship—any divorce attorney can attest to this for you.

(7) "If I really love him, then I can marry." This is a dangerous view! Love is beautiful, but in order to spend a life together, you need something more: common interests, mutual Tolerate, adapt and accept each other. (8) “Marriage would never be dull if my partner was the exact opposite of me.” Contrasts may be attractive at first, but over time, contradictions after years, decades Conflict is just annoying! If you love to fight, find a partner who is your exact opposite.Otherwise, you're better off finding someone who thinks and acts with you on important matters. (9) "I leave it to fate to find a mate." You can take your luck with this attitude, too.Finding a mate is not a gamble decided by chance.Whoever wants to get rid of loneliness has to do something about it: be active at work, at a sports association, at a regular restaurant or at the cinema, not at home, but outside!

(10) "I'll change him over time." Absolutely wrong! Both sides will wear off their edges as the years go by.However, no one can make the other party change his will. On the contrary, the more you make him obey you, the more disgusted he will be.Because what you love is what makes him unique.