Chapter 14 Lesson 2 Marry after Finding the Right One--Psychological hidden dangers of men in love

Psychologists have found through research that if a man has any of the following courtship psychology, there is some kind of hidden danger hidden in his love. 1 Absolute self-psychology This kind of psychology is the only condition that regards whether the lover he is looking for is useful to his "future" as an unbreakable condition. For this kind of man, he requires his girlfriend to show his "advantage" from time to time and bring him some kind of benefits.During this period, he will carefully cater to the favor of his girlfriend and her relatives, and will take the initiative to release and compromise when encountering friction, but he will always be unable to hold back his heart in front of his girlfriend, showing that kind of expectation. If you reach the possibility, you will be furious, and even feel that you have failed him and deceived him.

2 logical error association It is a habit to forcibly pull some of the character and quality of the lover together with her behavioral symptoms, and make associative guesses that are logical errors.For example, because a girlfriend likes to joke with her male colleagues, it is concluded that she is not serious.This kind of person is usually manifested as full of associations and suspicions.Generally speaking, this kind of man puts more emphasis on love, but his understanding is narrow, and he is very sensitive to his lover's actions. The potential hidden danger is that once his girlfriend does something he can't understand or is unhappy, he will "think about it." ", rotely find out the evidence and theoretical basis that you are not in agreement with him.This is often unbearable for lovers, and most of them will end in breaking up.

3 Non-emotional empathy That is, when evaluating and treating girlfriends, there is no sympathy, and it is not to put yourself in the shoes of others to give evaluation and understanding.Especially when the girlfriend is in a difficult situation and needs to be treated empathetically, but withdraws or ignores it. This kind of man is generally extremely selfish and lacks warmth. He can only share joy but not adversity, but he usually has a good relationship with you. 4 Mistakes contrast psychology When evaluating girlfriends, they tend to compare other people's strengths with their girlfriend's weaknesses, or compare their girlfriend's shortcomings with other people's strengths, and thus develop extreme views on girlfriends, manifested as often blaming girlfriends for their shortcomings, and not being able to face up to everyone's flaws Disadvantages of this reality.

When this kind of man starts to associate with you, he can quickly discover your strengths and appreciate them very much. He feels like "a hero knows a hero", and the "temperature" of your relationship will rise sharply.But if he finds that the advantages in you are so inconspicuous, he will be indifferent to you.And this kind of indifference often makes you unpredictable and even becomes a "magnet", making you feel more mysterious. 5 Comply with swimming psychology That is, aesthetics, values, and even the entire individual consciousness are influenced by external trends.This kind of man generally likes fashion and has a keen sense, but lacks autonomy and self-confidence. When interacting with his girlfriend, he especially likes "trendy" women. To help girlfriend.This kind of psychology is quite deceptive to the woman, because the woman is easy to be complacent because her boyfriend spends so much money and buys so many beautiful clothes for herself, and has a kind of trust and gratitude towards her boyfriend. Mood, however, once you can't meet his "aesthetic" requirements and appear "too cheap", he will complain.This complaint may not be known to you, but the relationship is indeed full of crises.