Chapter 12 Lesson 1: Remarriage if you are sure - don't miss the good opportunity

"If I am married now, how do I know whether there will be a better partner in the future?" I often hear such questions from young friends in life.This is a very practical and ridiculous question. The reality is that everyone wants to find the best mate for themselves.It's ridiculous that as long as you understand the true meaning of marriage, you won't ask this kind of question at all.Because after getting married, someone better will definitely appear. There are talents from generation to generation, and the outstanding talent when you get married will fade over time, not to mention the appearance.Snow White will become a yellow-faced woman, and Prince Charming will also become a white-haired prince; in the past, it was great to have a Ph. Technology improved and surpassed her.

Because of the progress of the times, the growth of vision, and the familiarity with each other, they feel that their spouses are not advancing but retreating, and then find better rising stars, which makes people sigh "I hate to meet when I am not married and not married".In fact, this is the inevitable result. People who are worried that a better partner will appear should not marry.The waves behind the Yangtze River push the waves ahead, and there will be better and more attractive people who will make you regret it. In fact, this kind of people can’t get married at all because they are afraid of regretting, so they have to wait, discover, worry, and give up repeatedly...wasting time in vain and ignoring a terrible fact-the newly discovered object is getting better and better, and their own The conditions are getting worse and worse, and the age is getting older.

In addition, those who suspect that the person with whom they were predestined in the previous life have not yet appeared should not marry. Because, no fortune teller can guarantee you that at what time and in what direction you will find a person of what kind of appearance is your previous life enemy. Things that are not clear in time, space, and appearance can make a person wait, and the things that will be wasted in his life are definitely not just marriage. This belief in waiting for nothing also makes him unhappy no matter who he marries.Because he (she) always regards the other party as a makeshift substitute, a barely transitional second choice.

Neither should a suitor who harbors a very definite image of Prince Charming or Snow White in his heart. In this world, there is no way to make exactly the same person according to people's imagination. At most, you are perfect and marry someone with this complex. No matter how hard you work, it is difficult to fully satisfy him (her). What kind of people should get married? People who know the "truth of choice" in marriage! The true meaning of the choice of marriage is - when I decide to get married, I know that there is a good chance that someone better will appear, but at this time, this place, this life, I just choose you.

Weak water is three thousand, just take a scoop to drink. The little happiness that can be grasped right now is greater than the unpredictable and unknowable chance in the future. When a person likes another person, it is not because he (she) is the best, the most beautiful, the richest, the most capable... Even if there is a better person, it will still not change.In this life, I will be satisfied with you; now that I accept you, what will happen to you in the future, and what will happen to me, I will also accept it.This is the essence of choice. If you think that life is valuable and time is precious, and you don’t regret it when you find a better partner after many years of marriage, it means that you have already started your married life in a down-to-earth manner, and you have gained considerable harvest and joy from it.

In the same way, when you have no heart, don't need the opposite sex at all, and don't want to embrace marriage, you shouldn't get married just to get married. When your heart is moved and you want to act, your emotions are at their best, and you have a correct understanding and psychological preparation for marriage, you can get married.And whether the object at this time is the best in this life is a question that looks very practical, but is actually ridiculous. Do you want to choose marriage? When to get married? How to get married? How to manage marriage? When you have the physical and mental maturity conditions to get married, no matter who you marry, it is possible to form a happy family.When you are absolutely sure that you want to get married and manage a marriage, the perfect partner is the best candidate.

In the vast forest of the future, there may be countless peacocks who can marry you, but you would rather choose the only one in front of you—maybe it’s just a hen or a little sparrow, but the important thing is that from now on, we will do our best to each other without hesitation. Go to the land to manage marriage. For many yellow-faced women and white-haired princes, it is a kind of happiness to mature and enter the dusk together with each other.It doesn't matter whether the other party is the best; they can't "see" whether there are better ones out there. This is the solemnity and beauty of marriage. Marriage is not a comparison of conditions, but an art of choice.Marriage is the only choice made by each other in a season suitable for marriage.

Lesson 2 Seven psychological types of choosing a spouse if you find the right man Men's mate selection psychology is different, and it is not a single psychological type, but often complex, intertwined by many psychology, only based on a certain psychological tendency.However, the key to this extremely complex psychology of choosing a spouse lies in a person's outlook on life, love, values, and so on. Here, they can only be artificially separated for analysis. 1 Career-focused mate selection psychology In fact, everyone wants to pay attention to this point, and they all hope that their partner can become a pillar and succeed in their careers.Now, there are very few men with this kind of mate selection mentality, but there are still plenty of them among intellectuals.

They often regard career progress as the greatest joy in life, regard the other party's professionalism and enterprising spirit as an important weight on the balance of choosing a mate, and place their hopes for the happiness of love in the struggle of career.This kind of love obtains eternity because of the eternity of career. 2 The Psychology of Choosing a Mate in Pursuit of Spiritual Satisfaction Along with the continuous progress of social civilization, people's cultural quality is constantly improving. There are more and more men with this kind of mate selection psychology. They often value each other's thoughts, feelings, personality hobbies, etc., and pursue the spiritual communication and cooperation between the two parties. Emotional harmony.Once you can achieve spiritual happiness and satisfaction, even if the other party's financial conditions, physical conditions, etc. are lacking, you can accommodate them.This kind of spiritual love is the noblest kind of love, and many well-known love stories often belong to the pursuit of this kind of love psychology.

3 The psychology of choosing a spouse with money first This kind of mate selection psychology is very common, especially in economically backward areas.They often put each other's financial situation first, and their marriage is often to obtain a comfortable nest that can satisfy them with food, clothing, housing, and entertainment.This kind of marriage based on money is fragile. In fact, the economic conditions can be changed. It often loses the cohesion of the soul because the other party loses the favorable material conditions, and has to break up as a result. 4 The Psychology of Choosing a Spouse in Search of a Political Backer

This is very common in feudal society. They often use marriage to open up official careers, or to consolidate nepotism through marriage, which is the so-called political marriage.At present, although this kind of mate selection psychology is not very common, it still exists. They don't pay attention to whether the emotions and psychology of the two parties are compatible, let alone the confidant, but put the motivation behind the marriage on the basis of the conditions for mate selection. The first one.This kind of love is even more fragile. 5 The Psychology of Choosing a Mate in Pursuit of Appearance Men who hold this kind of mate selection mentality hope that their partner will be more beautiful, which is human nature.However, if you blindly pursue the beauty of appearance, you will often go astray.The love generated by the other party's beautiful appearance is very short-lived.Love often declines with the aging of appearance.Just like Goethe said: "Outward beauty can only please temporarily, but inner beauty can last forever." 6 Perfect mate selection psychology When some men choose a partner, they have formulated many criteria in advance, and there are many frames. As long as they do not meet one of the conditions, even if they are satisfied in other aspects, they are still not considered.People with this kind of mate selection psychology, although most of them are young first lovers, often turn them into older youths. 7 games mate selection psychology There are only a few men with this mentality.In the name of love, they play with each other's feelings and ask for flowers and willows. Their view of love is decadent, and they often don't enjoy love for a lifetime. All in all, there are many kinds of men's mate selection psychology, and every man has a mate selection psychology that is different from others.The above are just a few basic mate selection psychology.