Chapter 15 Case3. Difficult to refuse a bad lover Christmas date

Case3. Difficult to refuse a bad lover Christmas date Echo. 29.teacher. Blindly offer the first time That was our agreement 10 years ago, I didn't expect him to still remember it today, and mentioned it when I was married to another man.What is he up to? He was the man who broke me, my first love.A playful, passionate, irresponsible, but very charming bad man.I like bad men, probably because I'm not bad enough.I was 17 years old that year, and as soon as I saw him, I gave him my heart, thinking that he would be my lover for life.He is so high-spirited, many girls like him, he also likes many girls, needs many girls.I have been waiting by his side, waiting for him to come back, marry me, and promise a lifetime love with me.It was silly at the time, but it was very sincere.After him, I can no longer love and give so purely.

"Don't ask me if I can only love you, because no one can answer such a question, and I shouldn't answer it. No one can be sure of tomorrow. In short, I love you now, and I just want you." He always has this kind of cry The power that people cannot refuse and cannot defend themselves makes me unable to say no to him. In this way, I handed over my first time to him, because I believe that he loves me, he needs my body, and what I can give him, my biggest capital is my body.To him, and perhaps to other men, the greatest value of women is their bodies.I can't lose him, I can only give him my most precious.I enjoy the feeling that he likes my body.

It was 3 months after we got together. He actually asked for sex very quickly, but I hesitated, fearing that he would betray me. In fact, I already knew that there was no future with him, and I just wanted to put my first Give it to him once, because it is worth it.How is that value calculated? I don’t know. Once a woman falls in love with a bad man, she will immediately become blind. Even though I am a college graduate, I can still be regarded as an educated woman. tired to escape to marriage This was the beginning of my bad first love and, ironically, it was also the end.Like many TV movie plots, after I slept with him, his need for me faded.From calling every day to once or twice a week, almost every time I make an appointment to go to bed.The days I know he doesn't need me, there are other women to satisfy him.He has several girlfriends in the company, one or two of his old classmates who are hard to break up, among his new loves are young high school students, and there is also a first love who has been entangled for many years.This is the genealogy of relationships that I know, but I don't know, it may be a big ocean.

Procrastinating, falling up and down on his bed, crying on my bed, after 7 years like this, 7 years, yes, because I was too tired, I couldn't bear it, just like that, ended up with a good man Get married and have children.This was over 4 years ago.Friends and family are grateful that I am no longer immersed in the world of being tortured by bad men. In their words, I have finally opened up and returned to rationality. Maybe yes, but my relationship seems to have lost a very important support. My husband is not the man I like. He is ordinary, motivated, and a good man by the standard, but he is not attractive at all. It is like having sex with a social standard. I have to to meet.Although the relationship with my first love is scarred, it excites me every moment.I would rather be excited, but too much excitement made me unable to live normally, so I had to escape to marriage.

it is my fault. For 4 years, I deliberately did not contact the bad man of my first love, moved to another city with my husband, and became another woman.As a wife and mother, I remind myself that I am a mature adult and can no longer be self-willed and unproductive relationships.I thought I could do it, but I waited for the afternoon when my child was out of school, the lonely evening when I was cooking, the old songs I used to like were playing, and the clips of old love were constantly emerging. The living me now is a dead puppet. miss him.Sometimes he even called his son's name by mistake, stroked his son's head and mistook it as his.Having sex with my husband at night, my mind is full of the scene of having sex with my first love.I live on the emotionally divided layers of past and present, ready for earthquake damage.

Bad Lover Revisits Revisiting 10 Years of Sex Dating Six months ago, I received an email, it was a letter from a bad lover.God, why did he take the initiative to find me?The man I couldn't forget, the man I avoided deliberately came to mess with me again.He asked for my phone number and said he wanted to talk to me.I gave it to him irresistibly, and he called, said in a relaxed tone that he was coming to my city for work, and asked if I could meet him.Still the same tone, still the same charm, still so seductive. The day I saw him, my heart almost jumped out, and he picked it up, and it was decided that I still missed him and couldn't escape.He hugged me with confidence, said gently that he missed me, and said that I was more beautiful than before when I became a mother.I couldn't react, never knew how to speak, express myself in front of him.

He sees through everything, he demands sex.Is this why he wants to see me? He said: "Can you date me like before? I won't disturb your marriage. I just miss you and want to make love to you. I don't have anything else to ask for. You are the same, don't forget me!" He just saw through My heart, I don't know how to respond, I want to see him and kiss him, but I am already a married housewife with children and a family, how can he ask for this?He is so cruel. He said: "Remember our agreement? We made an agreement 10 years ago, no matter who we are in 10 years, no matter who we are with, as long as we are still in the same place, we will spend Christmas night together. remember?"

How can I not remember?I remember everything he said.He said that I didn't need to call him back right away, he was busy with work and had to leave, and said he would call me again.Before leaving, he whispered in my ear: "I want you very much." Then he left me and left.He is still bad, and I am afraid that I will be lost again. There are only a few weeks before Christmas, and he texts me from time to time. I am afraid that my husband will always reply to him during his working hours. On the one hand, I tell myself that I can no longer be self-willed. I already have a stable and happy family and should not destroy it. , But on the other hand, a voice kept telling me to find a way to escape for Christmas, abandon my husband and son, and return to the bad but nostalgic embrace of my first love, just for one night, not a bad idea.

My heart was about to collapse, and the forces of good and evil couldn't stop pulling me and I wouldn't let go. I didn't know how to deal with it. Su Hei Analysis: Why do women like bad men? This is a very interesting phenomenon. Obedient men just don’t have enough charm. Like girls, what do they lack? Teach women to like them but not to love them drunkenly?Yes, it means that the possibility of deviance and rebellion is reduced, and the self-proclaimed woman cannot project rebellious fantasies, and cannot release the desire to be a bad woman.This is the Achilles heel of traditional women.

Echo wanted to rebel, but she couldn't do so. She hoped that by being close to a bad lover, she could imagine that she could be bad too. So she was not bound by the bad lover's feelings, but was caught by the desire to deviate, and she was reluctant to let go. This is the charm of a bad lover, which can undo the repression of cowardly women who want to become strong but have no courage to try, and satisfy their moral rebound from the role of good women. However, the consequences of blindly pretending to be rebellious can be great or small.People without the ability to rebel can only be dragged down by the rebellious character, like Echo, throwing himself at a bad lover, but in the end he is pinned down by him, unable to escape the desire of self-made traps, even if he leaves him, he still misses him day and night to balance his morality Biased.In addition, the subconscious behind women's superficial timidity and easy manipulation is often the opposite: they want to manipulate the manipulator and become the final winner.

The worse the lover is, the harder it is to give up, and even more attractive, because if you can make the bad man concentrate on you and finally choose yourself, what a seductive emotional victory it will be! It's an irresistible addiction. Echo must learn to be independent, leave the attachment to evil, and establish a complete and balanced self, otherwise it will be difficult to escape the demons who want to get close to evil.Her bad lover just wants to exploit her, treat her as a sex doll, completely ignore her feelings, only take advantage of without real love, can not bring her dignity and positive self-identity. Only by learning to let go of the negative desires you are attached to can you truly mature, otherwise it will be difficult for women to fulfill the many social roles of a woman, and it will also be impossible to get rid of the controlled demons. Don't miss the ignorance of girlhood, mature and sensible is the real capital of women. Only when you learn to leave the negative desires you are attached to can you truly mature. Otherwise, it will be difficult to fulfill the many social roles of women, You can't get rid of the demons that are controlled.