Chapter 14 Case2. Hugging her husband and thinking about male stars

Boredom is always your own business and has nothing to do with others. Just because the husband is bored doesn't mean the wife has to accompany him.You become cheerful and changeable, On the contrary, it can drive the atmosphere of the whole family, let the husband feel the fun of the ever-changing wife, Instead, it promotes married life. Case2. Hugging her husband and thinking about male stars Doris. 39.Full-time wife. It's lonely at home alone When the husband around me has become uninteresting, and when the imaginary him every moment stirs up my desire to return to dating and dating when I was a girl, is this the so-called middle-aged marriage crisis?

Actually, I'm not that old.Married for more than ten years, stayed at home for more than ten years, no job.Taking care of the kids, doing housework, and running the day-to-day life of the family is busy enough.The most comfortable time every day is after my husband and children go to work and go to school. I enjoy my time alone. Sometimes I go shopping, buy magazines or novels, watch TV series in the afternoon, then buy groceries, pick up the children, and play with them. Cooking, waiting for my husband to come home, watching TV, chatting, and that's how the day goes by. I was originally an ordinary woman, but I longed for an extraordinary life.I am very envious of the lives of several female friends: one married an American husband and settled in New York with him, and occasionally called me to tell me about the colorful experience of traveling there and returning to school to learn interior design; the other advertised with her husband The company works together every day. Although they sometimes quarrel, they are still very affectionate and appreciate each other's talents.There is another one, like me, who stopped working after getting married and focused on raising children, but she still has time to learn computers, often go to chat rooms to make online friends, and secretly make friends with a mysterious girl who is 7 years younger than her Online dating boys, often talk to me about how that boy pursues her, and want me to envy her.I'm not envious of her unruly cheating behavior, I just envy her for not suppressing the motivation to pursue the feeling of being in love.

At first I thought marriage was the end of a woman, and the end was happiness. Although I still feel that I am on the right track and have found a good husband, life always feels too dull. Sometimes I am alone at home during the day and look at the four walls , There is no one around to talk to. When I read romance novels and read that the hero and heroine's lust is high, I also have a physiological reaction, and that time is the most uncomfortable.It's a bit embarrassing to talk about this kind of thing, I'm almost middle-aged, and I feel like a dissatisfied slut who is sexually hungry when her husband is away, wants to be hugged, and wants to hear a man say to himself: "I love you. "What a desperate housewife!I have never done masturbation, I think it is not serious, but loneliness comes with the lonely situation after marriage, and I don't know how to deal with it.

obsessed with young male stars Then one afternoon, I was watching a series at home, and I saw the handsome male star I had always admired, and I was deeply attracted by him.I stared blankly that afternoon, and my lover's heart suddenly aroused a wave of spring, a desire to have a vigorous relationship with a boy like him, or at the very least, hope that the husband by my side can be as capable as him. Vitality gives me the feeling of being pursued, needed, and loved. In fact, I am satisfied with my husband's performance. Except for his dullness, everything else is above average.I am a very romantic woman, and I often hope to have a lover who will send me flowers to make me happy on Valentine's Day.Before marriage, I thought those feelings were just floating clouds, and it was more rational to find a reliable man.

I have been in love with a few boys before, and there was a guy who was as attractive as this handsome star who would look at you with affectionate eyes. We broke up after talking for a year, because he was unreliable. girl snatched it. I once wanted to give him my first time, but luckily I didn't, and I have no regrets.My husband is the first man who has skin-to-skin contact with me. He is a boring man when it comes to sexual intercourse between men and women. He doesn't understand tenderness, has no foreplay, and comes and goes in a hurry.But he cared about me under the bed.I can only say that he is a traditional big man who gave me the most secure life, but in terms of spiritual life, I am still empty after marriage.

I used to be infatuated with some male celebrities when I was a student, but after I got married, I was not as crazy as before because I was busy with housework.But that star has rekindled my memory of chasing romantic dreams. That night, I actually dreamed of hugging him, full of the feeling of being in love, and kissing him, doing very extreme actions.When I woke up, I found that it was just a dream. I was very disappointed, and even lost my temper with my husband and children.I was in a trance all day, worrying about gains and losses, like the mood at the beginning of a relationship, holding the child's hand on the way home, but didn't listen to him.

The shadow of a male celebrity has been circling in my mind. I buy all his magazines, I pay close attention to his news, and I will buy the products he promotes, just like me who is a fan of Girls’ Generation.I will definitely support his play. My husband didn't say much.He is not careful and doesn't pay attention to my behavior at all.I often read his website and reports on the Internet, and I would support him when he appeared in public. I even secretly wrote to him, hoping that he would reply. After waiting for 3 months like a bitter love, I had to give up.During those 3 months, it was as painful as a lovelorn, and I even refused my husband who wanted to be with me.When I was alone at home, I even cried in self-pity as if I had been abandoned.

Husband fantasy is a male star I didn't think irrationally. I'm just a middle-aged woman who is more ordinary than ordinary. The other party is a young handsome guy who is popular all over the country. There is no possibility of falling in love with him. It's all my wishful thinking and self-indulgence. thought.However, he is exactly the lover I dreamed of since I was a child. He has the appearance and character of the best lover, can please girls, pursues romance, and has an outstanding life. color. After giving up the possibility of him replying to the letter, I told myself to accept the reality, so I tried hard to suppress myself to think about him, and I was very kind to my husband and children.However, when I was dating my husband, I fantasized about having sex with a male star, and almost called him the title of a certain drama.I feel quite guilty for this, I feel very sorry for my husband, and feel like betraying my husband who has always been loyal to me like an affair.

I told my close female friends, and they all said that I hadn't grown up like before, and that if you want a lover, you should choose a more realistic one, and they all said that I was too stupid, like a 17-year-old girl.One of them is dating a secret lover without telling her husband, I don't think she is doing it right, but I don't think I am much better than her. I wonder if it's bad to be a married woman obsessed with stars like me?Or psychological imbalance?What do you need to do to balance yourself? Su Hei Analysis: Doris' problem is the lonely little secret of many middle-aged women.

Watching TV, chasing after celebrities, falling in love with one or two handsome men as objects of romantic fantasies or fantasies are actually the life habits of many women, satisfying their unwillingness to be dull, and comforting the reality of their dull lives.The four big boys of F4 who were so popular on both sides of the Taiwan Strait earlier, among the female fans who are crazy about them, married middle-aged women account for a large proportion; there are also Korean male stars Bae Yong Joon and Rain who are so popular in Asia, they are fascinated. Half of the movie fans under their smiles are housewives.The entertainment industry knows best how to take advantage of women's crush on idols, so they have produced a large number of male idols of different styles for them, because of their huge consumer market.

Women spend money and men spend their hearts, and the opposite is also true. It's normal for Doris to like a certain male star.Celebrity idols are an important spiritual sustenance for traditional middle-aged women, and they are also the basis for them to establish a social circle of their peers, creating common topics for sharing and comparison.However, maybe life has not changed much, the emotional relationship has stagnated due to a stable marriage, and the sex life is not satisfied. The desire to have an affair that has been suppressed in the bottom of the woman's heart is easily transferred to the objects that are easy to project, especially celebrities. You must know that television and reality are two different things.The responsibility of television is to shape the eternal perfection and redeem the scars of real life.Once the idol becomes real, the mirage is suddenly disillusioned.Idols are no longer cute, and idols will ignore nitpicking. Knowing this, you know the truth of the game.Enough is enough.The important thing is how to improve the current dull state of mind. Changing from admiration to dream, from dream to mental distress, is already an excessive movie fan psychology. However, it is recommended not to deny your desire too much, but to learn to transform the energy of desire, and actively develop your hidden talent. Don't waste it on daily chores. Doris is eager to transform because she is no longer aggressive and the world has stopped.Thinking of love only after failing to change the stereotyped life is already a step backward.Diversify your life, keep abreast of the pulse of the times, buy time to use online resources to increase your value, broaden your horizons, and be an up-to-date urban housewife. Boredom is always your own business and has nothing to do with others.Just because the husband is bored doesn't mean the wife has to accompany him.You have become cheerful and changeable, which can actually stimulate the atmosphere of the whole family, let the husband feel the joy of a ever-changing wife, and promote the marriage life.