Chapter 10 Case10. Husband empathizes and steals money, is he still a man?

See. 28.Network Engineer. I have only been married for half a year. My husband works in other places. We often live in two places. I go to see him once a month.He is very fierce to me, either cursing or asking for sex, I don't care about this, but he suddenly filed for divorce without warning, and even found a very shameful reason: disrespecting his parents-in-law! I think his mother told me a fortune at the beginning, saying that my mother-in-law Kefuke asked me to "avoid light and water" to resolve it within the specified time.His older sister even came to supervise me in person at that "specified time". I did exactly what I did to love him at that time, and suffered a lot of grievances. After marriage, he treated me poorly, and I have been enduring it, hoping that he will change.Is there any reason for him to treat me like this now?

Now we have not been in touch for a year, but people around me hinted to me that he is already with another woman!I thought I would face it calmly, but recently I accidentally saw on the Internet that he and another woman's name applied for an email address and a blog. The email address has been registered for more than a year. It seems that he has changed his mind, but I have always trusted him too much!My heart feels unspeakably uncomfortable! It was he who proposed marriage at the beginning. Before marriage, his attitude towards me was no longer as enthusiastic as when I was in love, and sometimes he would quarrel, but I believed in him.Recalling why I established a relationship with him back then, why I believed every word he said, and why he filed for divorce, everything is now clear.However, when our side started to file for divorce and the mailbox with the same name of him and another girl appeared in front of my eyes, I still couldn't restrain my emotions.

It’s hard for me to say that I’m no longer in love. I didn’t expect that what’s even more frightening is that he actually took all my deposits as his own, and I demanded it back, otherwise I would not agree to sign, and he knew that the evidence was in his hands. If I take it out, I can't do anything with him.After he filed for divorce, I still felt that there was a chance to keep him, but when he even took my savings for himself, I often couldn't sleep. Thinking about how the man I had known for many years suddenly became so unfamiliar, That's hard for me to accept?How should I face it now?

Su Hei Analysis: Women have a tendency to self-abuse. This is a habitual emotional dependence, and it also has the collective influence of gender culture. I feel that women have to endure it, thinking that this is the answer, and the problem will pass. As long as everyone is old, the problem will be solved. Self-deception. The problem with See is that she chose a wrong man, knowing that this man treats her badly, even if she can't feel passionate love before marriage, even if the other party's family despises her for superstitious reasons and asks her to endure unreasonable superstitious rituals, she Also willingly.In fact, while she is questioning why her husband treats her like this, she should also ask herself why she still forbears?Just because of a weak word "love"?She chose to marry a man who didn't care about her feelings. Why did she marry?Probably this man didn't know and cared about it, anyway, he got married if he needed to, and he always had a lot of women, and they didn't spend most of the time together, it was an unhealthy marriage, and the relationship was even more alienated than dating.His current position and attitude are very clear: he doesn't need her, he wants a divorce, he's with other women, just find an excuse.

See is just the woman who thinks that she can run a marriage and create love by self-abuse.When the matter developed to this point, she also had to bear certain responsibilities.It was she who chose the wrong marriage partner and blindly used the other party's existence to satisfy her own desire to get married. In this regard, she and her husband made the same mistake: being irresponsible for marriage and completing a project without emotional foundation. A secular ceremony to explain to yourself and your family.Everyone is responsible for their own choices.But on the surface, it was her husband who first abandoned her and gave up responsibility, making her a seemingly innocent victim.

See is not a victim, she is just a masochist. It is no longer necessary to ask who is right and who is wrong in emotional relations. This is a marriage game that uses each other to satisfy their own selfish desires. If See thinks she is getting married out of love, it is her ignorance and excuse.Love cannot happen when wronged.She should know well that it is impossible for her to find love from him. What to do now?It should be practical to solve the current marital remnants: being embezzled by her husband from her savings.It is ideal to be able to get the deposit back, but it also depends on what assistance is needed. It is difficult for her to entangle with him alone. It is not that she is useless, but that this war will seriously affect her emotions.If you can use money to help yourself, you can use money to hire professionals to help you fight for the property and rights you deserve. Otherwise, you may need to consider giving up, and it may be more cost-effective to keep yourself quiet.Just think of it as paying tuition for growth.

Greedy people are the losers in the end because they lose their personality. See must love himself a little more, stop sacrificing himself and giving everything for the unworthy. It turns out that a marriage without a deep emotional foundation is vain, and you can't ask for anything. Ask yourself the purpose of marriage honestly, and don't push love out to deceive yourself!You are still young, you should end your negative marriage as soon as possible, otherwise you will be wasting your youth, See should have a better future, come through and strive for your own happiness.He doesn't deserve to negatively affect his life anymore.

There is no need to hold grudges, just let him go, don't worry about who he is with, let him bear it himself, we have no right to interfere in other people's lives.Take care of yourself, it is already very comforting.