Chapter 9 Case9. Ten men and nine prostitutes?

Clare. twenty four.Accounting. Have sex only after marriage Is there really a big difference between men and women's emotional requirements?Why do men have to have sex to feel love?Can't men enjoy love purely? I just can't figure it out.Over the years, I've tried to date several men, each time ending up with nothing because they were too eager to have sex with me.I have to conclude that it was the man's lust that took away my love. I'm disgusted by men whose minds are full of women's bodies and sexual organs, and I have no confidence in such superficial men.With such a man, it is difficult for you to know whether he is sincere in his feelings and whether he only treats you as a tool to vent his desire.There is no guarantee that one day when he meets another woman who is more beautiful and more attractive to him, he will leave you far away. At that time, it is useless to talk about eachother with him.

I'm not overly extreme. There are ten men and nine whores. There is no connotation at all. There is nothing else to do except that the sperm is about to move. I have reservations about premarital sex, not because of resistance, but because of the fear of being intimate with a man who will eventually change his mind, it will be very hurt, and it will be difficult to leave in the end.So, I will tell every boyfriend, I am a woman who will only have sex after marriage, I am very serious, I hope he can respect me too.And I also think that this point can be used to test whether my boyfriend is sincere to me, whether he keeps his promise, and whether he can abstain from sex for the sake of loving me.I don't believe what men say, if they can do it for me, I will marry him with peace of mind.

However, I have never met such a man.I wonder if there are any men in the world who can love purely, not just for physical satisfaction. My boyfriend has sex with a co-worker behind my back I once talked to a man for almost two years.He is my favorite man.He said that he would respect women, because since he was a child, he saw his father being cruel to his mother, and seeing his mother suffer and cry secretly, so he vowed not to let the woman he loves suffer.I thought I was lucky to be acquainted with such a broad-minded man. Of course, I agreed with him that we can't have sex until after we are married.He also agreed, saying that he would respect me, and he loved my person, not my body.I was full of excitement, thinking that I had finally found someone who was truly in love.We have been dating for a year, and we have a good relationship. He occasionally asked me to make out with me, and I asked him to stop.I thought he was a man of integrity.For this reason, I have a greater affection for him, and I plan to stay with him forever.

Who knows, one day I accidentally found a message note on his desk, which simply said "Daisy, still at 3pm".I was full of doubts.First of all, he said that there will be a meeting all afternoon. How can there be a reason to have a meeting with a woman?Second, what does "still" mean?Out of a woman's natural suspicion, I decided to follow him.I followed his car to a hotel, and man, he went straight to the room and was on time.He walked to the door of a room, rang the bell, and a woman in underwear opened the door and pulled him in.God, what the hell is this? I waited for him around the stairwell for two full hours before he came out, kissed the woman behind the door affectionately goodbye and said, "See you next week." I couldn't accept this bad news.He actually established such a shameful sexual relationship with another woman!

I didn't want to face it, so I ran away immediately.I dare not face it.In the evening he invited me to have dinner, I thought about it for a long time and decided to have a showdown with him.I saw through his adultery.He was stunned, and after a long silence, he finally admitted that he was sorry for me. He said that he didn't love that woman, but his sexual desire was very strong. Every time he was with me, his insides were like fire. I didn't give it to him, and I promised I don't force mine, so I can only find that woman to solve it.She was his subordinate and admired him very much, so he took advantage of her.

Sven men are the most impatient That was the second time I was betrayed, and it was the most painful one, because he had promised me and made me believe that he really respected me for loving me.Who knows, he betrayed me, and he seems to have wronged him out of respect for me, and asked him to find another woman!I can't accept his explanation, I think he is extremely filthy, and decided to break up with him, although heartbroken. It's not that I don't enjoy physical contact, I also enjoy hugging, touching and kissing.But before I am 100% sure whether a man loves me wholeheartedly, whether he is committed to being with me for the rest of his life, I really don't want to go any further.It happens to be the best test.But the world is so ironic, the more determined you are to test a man, the easier it is for them to show their true colors.

Like F who just broke up with me, he is a very polite and personable gentleman with a very good professional, high social status, and a very good financial situation. He is a man with very good conditions.He is a customer of my company, and when we met in the company by chance, he never forgot about me, and pretended to pass by downstairs of the company several times to wait for me to get off work.I quickly accepted him because he was so irresistible.I knew it well, and I was afraid that something unfortunate would happen again, so I had already "made a bottom line" with him, telling him how impatient my former boyfriend was, and I couldn't stand it.I am a woman who insists on falling in love and not having sex. I asked him if he could bear it.He smiled and said that he was not that kind of person, as long as he could hold me, he felt very happy and enough.

It's not the first time I've heard a man say these sweet words, but I've always worried that this man will show his lewd tail at some point.As a result, things came faster than expected.One night, he was drunk and ran to my house and said he wanted to see me. As soon as he saw me, he rushed forward to take off my clothes. I finally subdued him and drove him out of the door. Torn in half.I'll tell him to find a prostitute through the door, and don't bother me in the future!Tears kept sliding down my face, how hurt I was, the relationship was so perfect, why couldn't I escape the hurdle of sex robbery smoothly?The end of another relationship, the heart is more bitter than Qiu Lian.

Is pure love possible? No matter if it is a man who is superficially gentle, at that moment, he will be like a wild dog snatching food.No matter how handsome the face is, once it reveals the nature of a pervert, it becomes extremely ugly.No matter how passionate a man is, as long as you are intimate with them several times, alone without giving them, and without that kind of relationship, their enthusiasm for you will cool down, and their attitude towards you will become more and more indifferent.If you don't allow him to mess around, you will use all kinds of beautiful reasons to break up.Why are men such inferior creatures?

Women also have lust, but women know how to control, know how to measure, and know how to cherish themselves.Men's animal nature really doesn't know what it means. They know that it will destroy the relationship, but they still can't control it and insist on breaking through. Is it because they don't cherish what they love at all and think that sex is more important than love?I can imagine a woman who has no sex but love and still lives well, but I can't imagine a man loving a woman who can't give him sex.Even if he is still in love, he will definitely go outside and flirt with women, and will not defend himself for his lover.

If they want a man to be a woman in their next life, they must understand how much their animal nature hurts a woman, and how obscene the man they see in their eyes.At that time, I don't know if they will regret the evil things they did in the previous life. I'm really disappointed in men, why can't I meet a real man?I want to know if there is something wrong with my thinking. Is there any way to make me indifferent to the man's lust?I don't want to be affected by such annoying things for the rest of my life.Also, is pure love between men and women possible? Su Hei Analysis: There was a client who, because of religion and etiquette, held the mentality of not having sex before marriage, but her boyfriend was very sexually demanding, and they loved each other very much, but she really didn't want to violate her moral attachment to sex, so, They made an agreement in three chapters, once the boyfriend has a sexual need, she will make out with him through the clothes, and then comfort him with her hands.This is the maximum intimacy she can accept. She said: "I can't help it, I love him too much. But I have no reason to lose money before marriage because of love! If he regrets marrying me in the end, then I am not too pitiful." How can a man want it?" Her boyfriend also reluctantly accepted such an intimate behavior. In the end, they still couldn't enjoy themselves to the fullest. In less than half a year, the man had an affair, and in the end she couldn't escape the divorce, so she asked me to treat her to balance her emotions and pain. The client's practice carries a high degree of danger, which is more dangerous than having sex and making mistakes: the two parties get married for the sake of having sex, but they don't think carefully about how they should live together after marriage, how to get along, and how to adapt.Being in love with each other does not necessarily mean being in tune with each other, just as getting married does not necessarily mean that the two parties will be loyal to each other forever and will never leave each other forever.There are many variables in the world and personnel.Believe it or not?Change is eternal. If Clare really has to wait until she finds a boyfriend she trusts 100% before she is willing to have sex, she may never be able to wait, because people who lack confidence in love find it difficult to trust others, and they are extremely suspicious. And so it came to an end. It's not to throw cold water on purpose, nor is it to persuade her to give up the idea of ​​guarding her body and engage in premarital sex.I just want to point out Clare's obsession and blind spots in relationships.There is no relationship in the world that is 100% constant. On the contrary, a relationship that is really constant may not be a good thing.She was disgusted by the performance of a man's strong sexual desire and felt insecure. She was afraid that he would betray her when she met a woman more beautiful than herself in the future.With this in mind, I believe she will feel insecure even after marriage!The problem wasn't that the man's sexuality had gone wrong, but that she was too negative of the man, and too negative of sex itself. There can be many kinds of intimacy, and it doesn't have to be sex.Trying to find other physical touches of affection and opening yourself up a bit is also a way to deal with your boyfriend's desire.Don't deny the other party's desire first, and cover up moral charges indiscriminately.It is the nature of young men and women to have desire for the body, and it is a natural reaction of their culture and physiology for men to vent it, not a sin.Instead, you should look at yourself, why you are afraid of sex, or just superstitiously believe that marriage is the best guarantee for sex.A man wants to spend money and disappoint a woman, and a marriage certificate has no deterrent effect.What you have to trust should be the measure of a woman's daring to love and hate, not the marriage certificate. Why always divide sex and love?When they are consistent, they cannot be separated.When they are apart, no one can close them.This is the reality of many relationships between men and women, no matter what they are.What is the temptation to ask a man to defend himself?Abstinence or Sacrifice?What do you want the other party to do for you?Don't use the body to carry out ideological and moral sacrifices and inspections, it is the biggest murderer of emotions. It turns out that a marriage without a deep emotional foundation is vain, I can't ask for anything anymore, just ask yourself the purpose of getting married, Don't push love out to deceive yourself!