Chapter 7 Case7. The rival in love is a pornographic website

Eileen. 29.reporter. Newlyweds have a bad feeling He is sick, I can only say this, so that I can barely soothe my wounded heart. It was such a shameful thing to talk about, I didn't even dare to talk about it with my friends and relatives.how to say?I have a very good relationship with him. He is a down-to-earth man, so I felt very safe when I walked with him.He almost never glanced at other women, he was pretty handsome, and it was reasonable for girls to have unreasonable thoughts about him.I have always admired him for this, not too much, knowing how to measure. And my family education is also very traditional, maybe you can’t believe it, we have maintained a pure relationship before marriage, there is no deviance, not because he doesn’t want it, but because I insist on doing it after marriage, he respects me, so I love him more , I think he is a rare good man in the world.

We control our desires very well.I have tried dressing sexy to try to seduce him, this is what my girlfriends taught me, they all say that men should seduce, otherwise he will leave you.I thought it was a bad thing to do, but I did it anyway, seduced him for a few years, and got the pleasure of it, he probably loves and hates me. To be honest, my figure is quite plump, and there have always been many men who have favored me, but I just want to leave my first time to him.Finally, when his career stabilized, we finally got married as we wished. The wedding night is unforgettable and full of confusion.Before, I was very curious about how he would make love to me. I knew that he was also a virgin. He should be clumsy. I blushed when I thought of it, but I was sweet in my heart. I look forward to facing the first sexual experience in my life with him .

That night he drank a little too much, was a little promiscuous, and took off my clothes surprisingly skillfully, as if he did it every day.Then he fucked me.He asked for some very strange movements, which must have been excessive for a woman who was trying to experience sex for the first time.I thought there was something wrong with him and yelled at him to stop.He stopped, but immediately fell asleep, as if he had forgotten that it was our wedding night. Looking at this man whom I have loved for a long time, and who I thought was very familiar, and who is now my husband, I had some bad premonitions and felt depressed.

The next day he changed back to his usual affectionate and lovely self, kissed me, looked very happy, and then went to work, seeming to have forgotten what happened last night, but I was confused, but I didn't have the courage to ask. In this way, a year passed. he started to be cold to me Our sex life during this year is not bad, he will ask for some strange movements from time to time, he is very active in sexual matters, he on the bed and him off the bed are completely two people.In bed he is like a stranger, dominant, assertive, silent and wild.After finishing the work, I fell asleep and smiled at me the next day without remembering anything.I didn't know how to deal with it, so I had to obey his request and have sex with him, but I felt that I didn't have the enjoyment I expected before marriage.

At that time, I was still a fool, thinking that all couples have sex in the same way, and I just cooperate with him whatever he wants.This kind of thinking is wrong, but I gradually realized it after two years of marriage. From the second year after marriage, he was obviously no longer keen on having sex with me. He often complained that he was tired, and would rather stay up late at night in front of the computer than come to coax me.I'm not very keen on sex, but I expect him to need me, to be close to me for intimacy, which is an indicator that I think he still loves me. For him, I lost weight, changed my image, and even studied sex tips in women's magazines, hoping to win back his interest in me.But it didn't seem to help him. He was still very good to me, caring and considerate, but he had lost the old sexual impulse.

In the end, I mustered up the courage to ask him, and he said that I was overthinking it, but he was too busy with work these days, so he told me not to worry too much.I wondered if he had a woman outside, so I searched his things, but couldn't find any clues.I ended up searching his computer records.My God, I discovered a big secret for me. An important discovery that will never be forgotten My husband, who I always thought was pure and reliable, turned out to be a sex maniac.He has countless records on pornographic websites, and there are many files of nude photos of pornographic women in the computer. What shocked me even more is that there are many photos of naked men.The chat history has several fixed male names, and of course there are flirting with girls, and even telling a married woman that he wants to do this kind of thing with her.

God, it's disgusting!Is this the true face of the man I love?What kind of sex maniac is he?Like a whore, how could I sleep with this man for two years?Was he like this before?I really thought he was a virgin and I fell in love with each other innocently! Tears kept pouring out, I ran away from home in a fit of rage, only to find that I had nowhere to go when I went to the street, whose home could I go to?How can I explain my pain! As a result, he went home after a day of swinging late at night and had a showdown with him.He admitted that before he got to know me, he was already a frequent visitor to pornographic chat rooms. He once slept with an online girl who was a woman in a dishonest business, but he never did that again after being with me.It's just that he still has the habit of surfing the Internet.I asked him how he got those nude photos, and how to explain those from male netizens. He couldn’t explain it, saying that he was just curious. Most of the photos were sent by foreign netizens. Chatting with them was just to relieve work pressure. It’s easier for people of the same sex to understand each other. Nothing ever happened between them, asking me to believe him.

I said that not accepting my husband is a perverted maniac, and I said I wanted a divorce.He was very distressed, knelt down in front of me to admit his mistake, begged me to give him a chance, and said he would correct himself.My heart softened and I forgave him. In the future, he really doesn’t go online anymore, and I often check his computer records. He really ruined all the pornographic things, but his enthusiasm for making love with me is still the same, and he doesn’t ask for fancy, very " "Normal" is done, I just miss his passionate sex at that time.Now it's more ordinary than ordinary, is this the life of a couple?

It has been the third year since we got married, and after that, our relationship is not as good as before. We seldom talk, just go to work, sleep and eat, rarely have sex, not even hugs.What exactly went wrong?Does he no longer love me?We are still young, so we will live the rest of our lives like this? Is there something wrong with me or is there something wrong with him?From falling in love to getting married with him, it took 7 years before and after.Is this not understanding enough, not mature enough?I never thought that my rival in love was a pornographic website.It drives me crazy. Su Hei Analysis:

There is absolutely no equivalent relationship between the age of acquaintance of lovers and the degree of mutual understanding. Many people get along like strangers all their lives, unable to understand each other's mind.It's not your fault, it's just that people's hearts are too complicated, their desires are too strong, and their thoughts are too strong, which cuts off intimacy. It can be very complicated to meet a man and husband who is not even sure about his sexual orientation. What a woman can do is to learn to calm down, let go of her heart, try to understand, and be friends with him first. This will make yourself and him feel better, and things will be resolved more easily.Now that the relationship between husband and wife has cracked, it is difficult to pretend that nothing is going on and continue. We must find a new starting point and start over again to see if there is still room to get along and continue to love each other.

A person’s sexual orientation and interest will change. He is a man full of fantasies and desires for sex. He was a frequent visitor to pornographic websites long before he met you. It can also be said that pornographic websites are not your rival in love. You may instead Is their "third party".It's a fact that he loves you, but he can't combine the feelings of love with the desire of sexual desire, and be single-minded for you, because doing so violates his wishes, of course, it refers to his desires. He is also struggling. In the end, he chose to focus on you rationally and emotionally, but sacrificed his own sexual needs. The condition for "reconciling" with you is to suppress his own desires and needs, making him more silent and more sympathetic. If he doesn't know how to combine love and sex, he has a difficult delivery in his choice, and he can't be the qualified and perfect man in your heart, which is probably beyond his expectations. His guilt and anxiety eventually affect the quality of love, so he becomes more and more powerless to love, loses the energy and motivation of love, and in order to be responsible for marriage and love, he can no longer love himself.This is a dilemma that many men cannot get out of in the face of desire. Now is the perfect time for you to reflect on your true nature.Ask yourself, do you have no desire for sex?You have also seduced him by showing off your sexiness, and you also hope that he will return to the wildness of the past and have sex with you earth-shakingly. You also hope that the married life will return to normal and the relationship will be enhanced.He doesn't communicate well with you, and it's his selfishness to follow his desire, and he doesn't confess it either.However, whether he is sick is not the most important point, and you should also pay attention to your lack of development of your sexual potential.His sex with you is one-way, because you feel that he is in charge, you only accommodate, you have not made any positive contributions or progress in sex, even if he is not online, your relationship between husband and wife will fade sooner or later, or even have an accident , because you are still young. Love alone is not enough to maintain a relationship.Look forward, get to know the man around you again, tell him your sexual needs, and see if there is a positive turnaround.Your greatest capital is love, so don't be afraid, accept and open-minded, you can still go on.