Chapter 9 Chapter Nine Men Are Salmon Women Are Trout

Some people may be surprised to say that, generally speaking, men are infatuated with each other. The essence of a man's romanticism can be said to arise from lingering infatuation. In other words, men are carrying the past and want to return to the past. In Japanese enka, the common lyrics are "the heart of a woman who is obsessed", but it should actually be "the heart of a man who is obsessed". The indisputable fact is that, whether it is folk songs or performances, there are many songs about "the heart of obsession", because most of the songwriters are men.

It is male writers who tell about their obsession and sorrow for the past. Ishihara Yujiro once sang a song "Break Up Smartly", but he sang it better than he did it, and forced himself to be happy. She is also a lyricist, female writers like Yoko Amu have never written lyrics about lingering obsession."Love's Obsession" sung by singer Weng Qianyu, who won the record award song, is a good song: "I rest my head on this man's arm, but my mind is thinking about that man's dream, ah..." "It's outrageous." It is said that a man even wrote a letter to the newspaper to complain: If the woman in his arms in reality is dreaming of being lingering with other men, it is really outrageous-expressing anger, understandable.

It's just that in reality, this phenomenon also exists.Isn't it, when a man holds this woman in his arms, sometimes he thinks about that woman in his mind.It's just that I dare not speak out—women are worse than men. The only difference is that men think of women from the past, while women think of real men. All in all, men are more obsessed with the past and remember the past than women. In reality, after a certain man marries the woman he likes, he still secretly collects love letters and memorable tokens from past lovers.It can be difficult to "break clean" with a past lover and move on to a new one.

Look at women, all the letters, keepsakes, and presents from the ex-boyfriend, except of course the expensive gems, are completely thrown away, and then run to the new boyfriend. It can be seen that women not only do not want to carry the past, but abandon everything for a new goal.This is the nature of women, if you don't cut it off like this, you can't live-one after another, put a "period" heavily.However, the man just typed a "comma" lightly, and then turned to a new beginning. In short, compared with men, women tend to be "clean in front of the door" and have a tendency to cleanliness.

This kind of lingering in men can be seen everywhere in daily life.For example, a couple quarrels. "I will never go back to this house again" - the man rushed out the door angrily, but as soon as he got out the door, "Why didn't you chase it out", complained and muttered a few words, turned around every step... There are many examples of people who run away from home but still have room to spare. But when it's a woman's turn to say "I'm leaving", she will simply and completely leave without leaving her body and mind. Even if a man runs away from home, he will be lingering and infatuated, and will come back soon.

The appalling incidents that happened in the past, the men who grabbed shotguns and confronted the police, were all caused by the unsuccessful remarriage of their ex-wives.Taking his ex-wife as a hostage to try to be brave is nothing more than the inferiority of a boy with Oedipus complex acting like a baby. As mentioned above, men who leave home in a fit of impulsive anger will still return.It can be said that it is a return to instinct. In short, the probability of going home is very high.Even if he went out with his head up high, once he did not do well outside and hit a wall, he immediately returned to his wife with his head drooping and pitiful.

Men love the old nest.Like a salmon that swims back to its birthplace, the return rate is high, so a man is a "salmon." But women never come back after they run away from home.Before leaving home, you may think about it and worry about it. Once you leave, you will never look back.In this sense, a woman is more like a trout that swims to the sea and never returns.This is the decisive difference between men and women. There was Kikuchi Hiroshi's novel "Father Comes Home" before, but there was no theme of "Mother Comes Home".It would be novel and unique if the wife came back after leaving home, but no one can truly describe it.

So, what exactly is romance for women?A man's romance, as stated earlier, is an obsession with the past.The romance of a woman is the process of igniting love and pursuing love. The same is romantic, men are nostalgic for the past, women are love for the future. It can be seen that the nature of men is mild, innocent, and generally not decisive.I always naively think that as long as there is room for extramarital affairs or running away from home, I can always go home. Of course, there are very few people who resolutely leave home. It is just that they have another destination besides their wives.

The man who dared to resolutely leave home without a destination has not yet been born. To sum up, women's nature is to make a clean break, but men don't.This is the fundamental difference between salmon and trout, and between men and women. Middle-aged and elderly people, especially the mature generation, can easily make big mistakes if they don’t fully understand the fundamental differences between men and women. "Let's break up." Waiting for the wife to say it won't help.It is better to pay close attention to the daily communication with his wife and fully understand his wife's thoughts.

The tragedies of mature couples are all caused by those men's self-righteous romance and hypocrisy.