Chapter 10 Chapter Ten Your Name Is Weak

Who is stronger, man or woman?Such a question, most people may answer is a man. In fact, this is a big mistake.To be precise, women should be stronger, and men are unexpectedly fragile. In fact, there is now a gap of seven years in the average life expectancy of men and women, and men live shorter lives and die earlier than women. The biggest reason for thinking that men are strong is because men appear to have exaggerated and powerful instant explosive power.For example, punching and beating, and sword fighting.Or sprinting for 100 meters, lifting heavy objects and other strenuous work, men are obviously tough.

But to persevere in doing the same thing, the so-called endurance, men are quite weak.Especially the lack of ability to do monotonous and boring work.Work such as weaving and weaving has always been a man's weakness.What's more, there are also men who smashed the loom after only working for a few hours. Men are not good at monotonous jobs that require stamina, nor are they good at raising children.If the child keeps crying, the man may say "I'm so annoying" and leave the child to escape the room, or even beat the child in a fit of anger. Recently, the incident of a young father killing a child has become a topic, all because men are prone to shortness of breath, which also shows the decline and lack of physical strength.

This is also the reason why the elderly are impatient and easy to get angry.Getting angry for no reason is also evidence of a decline in stamina. So, don't rush to complain: "Father has been short-tempered recently, and he likes to lose his temper, it's really annoying" or something like that.Instead, treat your father well with a considerate heart. Is it "dad is old and weak" or "is he dying?" In addition to shortness of breath, men also lack the desire to wait.For example, if you send a text message or make a phone call, if the other party does not reply immediately, you will feel restless and feel bad immediately.

But women don't get restless about such little things, they wait forever.Not only that, women also imagine the joy of meeting and immerse themselves in the satisfaction of waiting. It is not difficult to see that men lack single-minded staying power and lack of endurance.These all show the fragility of its vitality. There is a Japanese saying "One Hime Two Taro", which means to have children, it is best to give birth to a girl and then a boy, so that it is easy to take care of children. In fact, this sentence also contains such a meaning: girls are born with good physique and are easy to raise.But the boy is not. If there is any movement outside, he will wake up, toss and turn, unable to calm down.In addition, in the era when sanitary conditions were not very good, boys often suffered from indigestion, vomiting and diarrhea, and died of dehydration in many cases.I also often catch a cold and have a high fever, and the recovery is slow.

Observe the boy sleeping, his body is always twitching.While the girl was asleep, Wen Si didn't move.Boys are sensitive and have low levels of sleep.Boys' sensitivities are sometimes hypersensitive, and generally weak.It's just that the bones are thick on the outside, and they are mistaken for being strong. Originally, there was a seven-year gap in the average life expectancy of men and women, and the men were three or four years older when they got married, so there was a ten-year gap.Suppose the husband retires at the age of sixty, then the wife is ten years younger than him.From this point of view, if you want to share the joy of traveling as a couple, you have to hurry up.

"Take your time, wait until you are seventy years old, and then we can go together..." Thinking of this day, I am afraid that the husband is too weak to make the trip. There is one ready-made example.He is over 70 years old, and he took his 65-year-old wife to travel to Europe. It is rare for him to be able to move freely in Paris one day. "Then let's go to the castle on the Loire River!" The wife excitedly pulled her husband up. , "It's rare, let's take a leisurely stroll around the hotel." The husband said.After finally making it to dinner, the wife still understands romance: "Ask the hotel waiter to introduce you to a famous restaurant!" Before the words finished, the husband replied feebly: "Forget it, is there any noodle shop nearby?"

Back in Japan, my wife looked unhappy: "I will never go on a trip with my husband again. It's a rare free activity, but I didn't go anywhere in the end." From then on, the wife left her husband at home and traveled happily with her little sisters. In fact, it wasn't that my husband didn't want to go, it was because he was too weak to walk.After all, there is a physical gap of more than ten years between husband and wife, so of course, the man dies first.When the body is weak, curiosity is also weak, and I just want to rest quietly-the wife doesn't understand, and the husband doesn't understand.

The ten-year physical gap caused the husband to "go first" as a matter of course.The same is true in real life. Most husbands look at their wives and think, "Oh, I am going to die under my wife's eyes." But as wives, no one thinks "I want to die under my husband's eyes." Die."——On the contrary, "What to do, I have to face ten years of life alone." Therefore, the focus of life planning is completely different.It makes sense for the wife to secretly hide her private money while her husband is still alive. Isn't it true, if the husband and wife have been together for over 70 years, the wife will definitely be sad after the husband dies.

But you see, after half a year or a year, "it's much more refreshed." The widow, who has regained her vitality, has lived for another ten or fifteen years.It is the husband who is unlucky. According to statistics, if the wife "goes first" at the age of seventy, the widower will live for another five years at most.This gap suggests that wives actually live two to three times longer than their husbands. Of course, there are exceptions - the husband is still in good health after the death of the wife.The irony is that most of these husbands were either treated coldly when their wives were alive, or were "idle" in confinement, and had to go through the tempering of self-reliance.

It happens that those husbands who are cared for by their wives and considerate in every possible way, one day when they are left alone, they will immediately age without exception, as if they are chasing after their wives, and soon "gone." It can be seen that men, men, no matter their age, always want someone to serve and take care of them.This "coquettish nature" is the direct cause of the rapid decline after losing his wife. From this point of view, men are actually fragile.Men look strong only because of their instant explosive power, but what they really lack is long-term endurance.As a husband and wife, you should deeply understand this point.

However, why did men become weaker?What is the biggest reason? It can be imagined that in the Jomon and Yayoi periods of Japan, in order to prevent the invasion of wild animals such as wild deer and wild boars, and to protect their homes, men with strong bodies were needed.Entering the Warring States Period, fighting against foreign enemies, preventing invasion, and defending the homeland also required men.After Meiji, Japan went to war and needed men even more. The bravery of a man naturally attracts the admiration and admiration of a woman. But now, the foreign enemies are gone, and what men have to do is not to meet with people, or to do routine work such as typing on the keyboard. "Heroes are useless." Once it is realized that women can also do clerical work well, the value of men is devalued.At the same time, the man himself lost his confidence.With the division of labor between husband and wife and men and women, they are getting closer and closer—the negative things of "men are not so powerful" are magnified and more conspicuous. However, don't forget that men and women are different.When instant explosive power is needed, men are absolutely powerful, and when jobs that require long-lasting endurance, women are far superior. Understand that men and women have their own strengths and weaknesses. Men and women, husband and wife wives should make use of their strengths and avoid weaknesses, and live together harmoniously and intelligently. This is the most meaningful.