Chapter 38 i set myself free

For a while, privacy was very popular, thinking that privacy is a part of personal power, and people who don't have privacy have to talk about privacy, as if it is very fashionable.In our "self", these privacy are often a heavy burden.Can't I just throw them away?When I entered 2007, I did a few things. After doing these things, I was completely liberated and relaxed, and got rid of the torture of these things for so many years. The first thing: Over the years, there have always been some good friends, classmates, colleagues, etc. who used to borrow money from me for various reasons to solve their immediate difficulties and problems.However, some people disappeared without a trace after borrowing the money and could not be contacted. Some of them have not been contacted for more than 10 years.Whenever I think of their promises when they borrowed money from me: "I will pay you back next month", "I will pay you back in a few months" and so on, I feel very deceived in my heart. Feel.What hurts me the most is not that the borrowed money is gone forever, but that this kind of thing not only completely destroyed our friendship and relationship back then, but also made me unable to open up when interacting with others. My own heart is always wary of others many times.

Now I quiet myself down and make a list of people who have borrowed money from me and can't pay it back, and burn this list on a lit candle.Let all the old accounts be written off with this piece of paper turned into ashes. From then on, these old accounts will no longer become a burden on my mind and spirit, and I will enter the new year with a relaxed mood and an open mind.I can still get in touch with these friends, and I will take the initiative to contact them as soon as possible to give them New Year greetings. I hope that all of us can move forward to the new year with ease and happiness, and I hope that our friendship and emotions from the past will return. our side.They were liberated, I was liberated, and we were liberated together.

The second thing: Compared with the old accounts mentioned above, what makes me feel more depressed is that in the first half of my life, some people have deceived me with various purposes, tortured me with various means, and hurt me. Over my self-esteem, there are some things that I still can't let go of.I also used the same method to make a list of these people who I have always hated in my heart.After sorting out the list, I looked at it carefully, and found that the person on the list that I felt hurt me the most was the teacher who sneaked me out to criticize me the day I joined the Red Soldier in elementary school—a distant roommate of mine. uncle.My distant uncle, I have held grudges for 34 years.When I was young, I was very good at studying, and I scored 100 points in the exam.But because of my family status, I only joined the Red Army when I was in the fourth grade of primary school. The teacher just tied the red scarf on me. I was very happy and talked to the classmates next to me.The school stipulates that you are not allowed to speak during the meeting. My uncle picked me up and stood on the podium in front of more than 100 students in the school. Some naughty students spat on me, and the students below were all laughing. , I was crying, and several teachers told me to come down, but he just wouldn't let me down.I stood on the only platform in the whole school for an hour or two, which was a particularly big insult to me, something that will never be forgotten.At that time, I felt like the end of the world, and I felt ashamed to see my loved ones.Until the past few years, I couldn't forgive him, almost to the point of being unreasonable.A few years ago, I bought a wheelchair for my mother. After I bought it, I found that there was a wheelchair made in Taiwan that was better and lighter.Once I went back and found that the big wheelchair was gone, so I asked where the wheelchair was.My father didn't dare to say it, but my mother said I gave it to your uncle. Your uncle has some problems with his legs.I was furious all of a sudden, why did you give it to him?Scared the whole family.You can think of how big this grudge is, and it still manipulates my emotions more than 30 years later.It has been many years since he passed away, but I still bear a grudge against him. Impressions about him still jump out from time to time to control my brain, torment me, and secrete some unpleasant substances in my brain from time to time.It's not worth it to think about it, the dead are still tormenting and controlling me, isn't this what we often call ghosts?And this ghost was attracted by myself, it was the hatred in my heart that attracted this ghost.So, I put this list on the fire and burned it. With the burning of this paper, it also means that I no longer have any enemies in this world. Without hatred, there will be no ghosts, and there is nothing to be afraid of. .Seeing the flames devouring the names one by one, my nose was a little sour, and tears flowed down unconsciously: I am liberated, my mind and spirit are completely liberated, and in this world, I will be friends besides friends, There will never be any enemies, no hatred.

The third thing: In the past many years, I have hurt many people and done things that are sorry for others.Some are for their own self-interest, some are for their own face, and some are out of their own childishness and immaturity.Among these people, those who are still alive, I want to say to them as soon as possible: "I'm sorry, please forgive me!" In any case, this matter cannot be dragged into the new year; and those who have left us, I also want to do the same Say to them sincerely: "I'm sorry, please forgive me!" Because as long as I can think of people and things, they must be controlling and affecting my emotions.Let me be a person who is not emotionally indebted.Among them, the ones I will never forget and feel sorry for are my grandparents, who cared and loved me when they were alive.After leaving me, their teachings and principles of doing things have always been the guarantee of my behavior safety and the guidance of my life.I couldn't do anything for them, and they left this world forever.

The fourth thing: As the leader of a company, I am also thinking about how to make the company contribute to society and let every employee work in a happy and inspiring environment.We discussed repeatedly and determined three basic principles for all employees of SOHO China: 1. Constant reflection, every decision we make promotes spiritual progress and material development; 2. Our daily work Give strength and encouragement to those around you; 3. Our words and deeds follow the basic principles of honesty and unity. In the rapid development of China's economy, I have seen many large and good companies fail. The most fundamental reason is deceit and division, and they have gone on the opposite path to honesty and unity.

After I finished these things, I walked to Chang'an Avenue. The afternoon sun was very bright, and everyone's smiles on the street were very bright. I also felt like I was recovering from a serious illness, so relaxed and happy.I will always walk into this city, into this society, and into the future with people around me with such a mood. I free myself.