Chapter 14 Part E (Part 24)

Case Tips: Li Qing, female, 28 years old, graduated from a normal university majoring in politics and education with a bachelor's degree in law, a postgraduate student in the principles of Marxist-Leninist philosophy from the political education department of a provincial university, and a teacher specializing in Marxist theory in a certain university.I plan to study communication abroad, or apply for a Ph.D. in the Chinese Department of Peking University.The highest ideal is to be a reporter. This is a dialogue between the 1970s and the 21st century.Perhaps it can also be said that this is a dialogue between New York and Beijing.

Prologue: Combine I am giving a lecture on study abroad consultation at New Oriental, and there are more than 200 students in the classroom.I was on stage, and the theme was life design for overseas students.I called out all kinds of stories I encountered in the course of my life, and I shouted hoarsely and spattered my basic point of view.The students were obviously fascinated, and laughed one after another, proving that even if everyone disagreed with my point of view, at least they could regard me as Zhao Benshan and get free entertainment.Zhao Benshan can only see it once a year, but Xu Xiaoping can listen to it every day.I felt guilty for them and proud of myself when I saw the faces of several of the students I knew so well who followed me to all my lectures and who had grown tired of my jokes.So I amplified my voice and started to tell another story about studying abroad that I think has universal reference significance.

At this time, a student couldn't sit still.She interrupted me and said, "Mr. Xu, please don't tell the stories of these other people. We have come all the way to New Oriental, hoping to get some specific guidance from you." My joyful mood was immediately hit hard.But I pretended to say, "I'm really sorry, I didn't get what you wanted. But with so many students, I can only talk about the general laws of studying abroad and life development. I really can't give everyone specific guidance and design. "This female classmate stood up. She looked about 27 or 28 years old, with boyish short hair, dark skin like Wang Junxia, ​​and short stature like Pan Changjiang; The level of despair and grief.I immediately had a strong class feeling for her in my heart, and later became good friends with her.But at this moment, no matter how miserable her life was, I felt the sadness of mine.She is a "student", I am a "teacher", we are a relationship between God and a servant, but she challenged me in my lectures.Therefore, her words seemed very fierce in my psychological feelings.

She said: "What's the use of these big principles! I came from Heilongjiang just to let you listen to my specific situation and give me some analysis and design." I tried to continue to be a gentleman and a gentleman, and I said: "But my dear, look at so many classmates, I can only speak according to my thinking, otherwise, I will waste everyone's time..." She continued not to be a lady and a lady, but said even more angrily: "Listen You are wasting my time by talking in general terms." Some of the classmates were dissatisfied with her overreaction and booed.I tell everyone to be quiet.After all, I have been in New Oriental Consulting for six years, and I already have experience in dealing with the field.I said to all the students: "In this way, all the cases I just mentioned are the success or failure stories of our New Oriental students. Since this student reacted strongly, it seems that she has a very special situation. Let's give her five minutes Listening to her tell her story and seeing how I analyze her situation may inspire everyone, okay?" The students applauded in agreement.I was very happy to control the scene, so I turned to this classmate who looked very disappointed, and said to the audience who pretended to be friendly but hated in his heart: "Okay then. Tell me about your situation and let me give you an on-the-spot analysis--you are now What's the situation?" She said, "I'm a graduate student in the principles of Marxist-Leninist philosophy of the Political Education Department of Heilongjiang University. Cut off her words and said: "It's over, don't say anything more, I already know your problem: I think you, a Marxist-Leninist graduate student, have read for nothing!" She asked in surprise: "Why did you study for nothing?" "Because , the purpose of my lectures here is to let everyone combine the universal truth of studying abroad with your own specific practice! As a graduate student of the principles of Marxist-Leninist philosophy, I have not even learned the basic methodology of Marxism-Leninism. Let's learn!" The students burst into laughter.In the laughter, I know that people have gained wisdom and eliminated stupidity.Even though she was in the audience, she also smiled wryly in embarrassment.

In order to make up for my guilt of using her as a negative teaching material, after class, I really talked with her alone for three hours, and specially called Mr. Wang Wenshan, the executive editor of the book "New Oriental Spirit" and the current famous TOEFL teacher of New Oriental. Come witness my conversation with her.The shock of this conversation was like a thrilling roller coaster of thought.Mr. Wang Wenshan has sorted out the conversation between me and her.I put this dialogue in "Tuqiong Dialogues" for everyone to read and think about. The title is: Marxist-Leninist graduate students who deviated from Marxism-Leninism. This was written by Li Qing before he met me, and it was given to me after he met me. Letter: Dear Vice President Xu Xiaoping: I have a bachelor’s degree in politics and education from a normal college, a bachelor’s degree in law, and a graduate student in western philosophy from a key university. My current job is a teacher of Marxist theory courses in colleges and universities. My ideal is to be a reporter.

Which major do you think I should apply for in this situation?Can you give a specific answer, or recommend a consulting agency? Li Qing August 2001 Idiots dream of being a reporter Xu: How many years have you been a teacher? Li: Two years. Xu: Do you want to continue to be a teacher in the future? Li: No. Xu: Why did I want to be a teacher two years ago, but now I don't want to. Li: Because I was in a hurry to find a job after graduation. Xu: Do you feel happy being a teacher? Li: Not very happy. Xu: You just said that it is difficult to find a job after graduating from university, but have you tried hard to find a job?

Li: No.I didn’t want to look for it at the time, I just wanted to take the postgraduate entrance examination. I felt that there would be improvement in all aspects after the postgraduate entrance examination, because I didn’t think I learned anything when I was an undergraduate. Xu: Did you learn anything after you went to graduate school? Li: In the field of philosophy, I think I have learned something. Xu: But has what you learned brought about changes in your life?Did you do yourself a favor? Li: (shaking his head helplessly) No. Xu: Since there is no benefit, why do you still want to learn?

Li: It may be a kind of inertia, or a kind of inertia inherited from the planned economy. Xu: But do you realize that the country has a plan, and everyone should also have a plan. Have you made your plan according to your new life? Li: No.I've been living numbly. Xu: What does it mean to live numbly?You are very young, 22 years old after graduation, and 28 years old this year, why do you want to live in a numb manner?You are studying philosophy, but you don’t know what to do after graduation. Do you think it’s an education problem or your own problem? Li: I think there are two reasons.

Xu: Suppose you go back in time, you are now a 22-year-old girl, youthful and brilliant, then give you another chance to choose, what do you want to do? Li: If I had another choice, of course I would choose to study abroad.But at that time, I didn't know what studying abroad was. Xu: You graduated in 1995. What prompted you to take the postgraduate entrance examination? Li: For a higher pursuit. Xu: So what exactly do you want to pursue? Li: My dream is to be a reporter. I think if I graduated from a graduate school, then my qualifications may be more sufficient. Xu: That is to say, you have your own pursuit, you want to be a reporter.But why don't you become a reporter after graduating from undergraduate, can't you be a reporter like many people?

Li: At that time, I felt that I was too young to be a reporter. Xu: I can understand that, in fact, a person who can really make his way through the rivers and lakes must have certain qualities.First of all, you must have a vision, you must see what the future of the industry you choose is, and then fight for it, and then do it crazily.You went to graduate school to be a reporter, but why didn't you become a reporter after you finished graduate school, and became a teacher instead? Li: Because I still want to take a PhD? Xu: (Xu Xiaoping asked in bewilderment) Why do you still want to take the doctoral degree?Do you need a PhD to be a journalist?

Li: I want to get a Ph.D. from the Chinese Department of Peking University. After the Ph.D., I may be more qualified to be a reporter. Xu: Your logic is rather absurd. Now tell me which excellent reporter has a Ph.D. in literature?You're making two mistakes here. First, you haven't taken the time to understand your dream career at all.You have no idea what conditions are required to be a reporter; second, who have you heard that a doctorate degree from the Chinese Department of Peking University is required to be a reporter?So now I would like to ask you, are you serious about your pursuit of being a journalist? Li: (Nodding very sincerely) Yes. Xu: But you didn’t work as a reporter after you graduated from undergraduate, and you didn’t work as a reporter after you graduated from graduate school. Li: Yes, because I feel that I am not qualified. Xu: In my opinion, you are fully qualified to want to be a reporter now.You are a student of philosophy and have a master’s degree. As soon as you write an article, you analyze society, interpret life, and inspire words.But you didn't do it, do you think you're cheating yourself?Do you still think you need a PhD to be a journalist? Li: I don't think so now.But I have always sincerely believed that I am not qualified to be a reporter. Xu: You wanted to do one thing, but you didn't do it, why? Li: Because I don't know much about the journalist industry. Xu: You want to be a reporter, but you don't understand this industry. Why don't you pursue what you want to do and understand? Whose fault do you think this is? Li: It's me.I may know less about society. Xu: This is one of the confusions of contemporary people.You want to be a reporter, this is a dream, but because the education in our country does not focus on employment, there are no employment counselors in the education system, if someone tells you what conditions are required to be a reporter when you graduate from undergraduate, you may already be a reporter. An excellent reporter.Your problem is that, on the one hand, society has not provided you with counseling, and on the other hand, you have not tried hard yourself.This is a major personal failure on your part.It's a good thing you didn't get a Ph.D. from the Chinese Department of Peking University, otherwise you would have ruined yourself.Now let me ask you, what do you think a journalist should have besides an undergraduate degree? Li: (Contemplating) Need... Xu: You simply don't know what kind of knowledge and abilities this industry needs.Let me ask you, have you ever written an article?Did you publish an article in the school magazine when you were in school?Were you active in school?Do you often participate in various activities? Li: When I was in college, I worked as a correspondent for the school's radio station. Xu: That's good.But I think being a reporter is a gossamer, an illusion, that keeps you from breaking down.Being a reporter requires the ability to deal with others, the ability to understand others, patience, and carefulness. In my opinion, you don’t have the quality to develop, or in other words, you don’t have these qualities.Do you have the ability to deal with others? Li: Subconsciously, I have always been preparing to be a reporter. Xu: (feeling very helpless) You are 28 years old this year. You have dreamed of being a reporter for seven or eight years, but you have never worked hard for this dream. You don’t even know the industry you dream of. Do you think this is a disease? ?On the one hand, you are betting your life as a reporter as a source of your spirit; on the other hand, you have not done any substantive work.Is this a tragedy of character?It's like I miss a woman so much, I never write or call her, but I always think I will marry her.Do you think you are treating your future as a fantasy? Li: No, I think the main reason is that the newspapers always reject me. Xu: Have you ever been to a newspaper to apply for a job? Li: After graduating from graduate school, I went to Jilin Daily to apply for a reporter job, but there was no news after the interview.Later, I called the newspaper several times, but they ignored me. Xu: Have you made a second effort? Li: No. Xu: Why didn't you try again after you failed once? Li: I think other newspapers are not much better, they all have the same face. Xu: But have you ever thought that being a reporter is a dream you have been preparing for for seven or eight years, but you have not worked hard for it? Do you think this is the reason for your failure? Li: No, I still want to be a reporter.But I just don’t think I’m qualified enough, so I want to take a doctorate at Peking University. I might be eligible after I get my doctorate. Xu: What you said terrifies me. There is a huge morbidity here.Let me tell you a story, there is a person named Sally, she is a famous host of American talk show.In order to be a host, she was rejected many times and failed more than 150 times.She looks rather ugly, but she is now the most famous host in America.You want to be a reporter, but you only go to the newspaper once, and then you stop trying. This is your failure. This is the classic loser mentality.If you want to be a reporter, why don't you become one? You can't go to a big newspaper, but you can go to a tabloid. Li: I don't want to be a reporter for a tabloid. Xu: If you can’t go to the big newspapers and you don’t want to go to the small newspapers, do you still want to be a reporter? Li: Of course I would.But I don’t go to the tabloids. I’m a dignified graduate student, why should I go to the tabloids? ! Xu: The founder of The Washington Post passed away a few days ago. She turned a local tabloid into a major newspaper that affects global politics. "Beijing Youth Daily" was originally just a small newspaper under the Beijing Youth League Committee, but after more than ten years of operation, it became one of the most influential newspapers in Beijing in the early 1990s.Why don't you go to the tabloids, where you can at least practice your pen and write dozens of influential articles. Here, let me give you a brief summary, you have two tragedies.First, you want to be a reporter, but you don't work hard for it and treat your future as a pipe dream.You tried it once, got rejected and then gave up, you didn't put any real effort into it.You didn't go to the tabloids, or even the smallest industry newspapers, so if you really have talent, you will definitely show it.If you started college as a reporter, even at the tabloids, by now you are probably a well-known reporter, probably writing dozens of influential articles.But now you have nothing, and you haven’t even written a tofu-style article, but you are very determined to be a reporter!This is very absurd and very ridiculous. Odds are not big bet on studying abroad Xu: Why did you think of studying abroad? Li: I want to go abroad to study communication. Xu: Why did you go to major in communication?What experience do you have working in communication? Li: It depends on the test results. Xu: Exam scores alone are not enough. Do you have any experience in this field? Li: There should be some. For example, I wrote some articles when I was an undergraduate. Xu: But you have not engaged in any professional activity.Do you know what conditions are required to study abroad?Studying abroad requires Chinese undergraduate education, relevant background and work experience, which you do not have.Do you think you can go to the United States to study communication major in the future? Li: (confused eyes) I think so. Xu: I don't think you can study communication, you are still in "sexual" fantasy, it has become self-deception, self-indulgence, self-abuse, which is destructive.Let me ask you again, do you still want to study this major abroad? Li: (Very firmly) Yes. Xu: (Very firmly) I don't think you can go.How many points can you score in TOEFL and GRE? Li: I think TOEFL can take at least 600 points, and GRE can take at least 2000 points. I will try to pass them all in August next year, and then apply to go abroad in 2003. Xu: If everything went well, you would have been 30 years old when you went abroad in 2003, but you didn’t have any experience in journalism, so you would definitely not get a scholarship, and you didn’t have much savings, and it would take a lot of money to study communication at your own expense for two years . Li: I will not go out without a scholarship, or I can change my major, such as applying for a philosophy major. Xu: You don't major in communication anymore?I changed my major to philosophy again, but it is not easy to get a philosophy scholarship. Can you guarantee to get a philosophy scholarship? Li: Philosophy is my major, and I think the chances may be greater. Xu: But what if you don't get the scholarship? Li: That's impossible.If I don't get a scholarship, I won't go out. Xu: Well, you won’t go out unless you get a scholarship.In other words, you have been gambling in the past two years, and you are gambling on a game with little chance of winning. Do you think it makes sense?And at that time you are already thirty years old, what are you going to do? Lee: I might change my job, maybe I'll get married. Xu: Have you ever been in love? Li: No. Xu: Never? Li: Yes. Xu: Terrible.To sum it up: you want to be a reporter, but you haven't done anything, not even been in a relationship, which is a classic fantasy.And you still want to go to graduate school, the question is not whether you can do it, but what if you can't get a scholarship?What if I can't get out? Li: I think that whatever I want to do will be successful. Xu: This is still an illusion. You wanted to be a reporter, but you didn't succeed. Li: I didn't want to be a reporter. If I thought about it, I would definitely succeed. Xu: (Xu Xiaoping is very helpless) If we continue to talk like this, there is no way to talk.You are a student of philosophy, and you should have the ability to speculate in philosophy. Just now you have been saying that you want to be a reporter, but now you are saying that you have never thought about being a reporter. This is a very scary philosophy. Li: Because I feel that my qualifications are not enough. Xu: You already have a master's degree, and you are already 28 years old, but you say you are not qualified to be a reporter. Li: But I don’t think it’s too late for people to become journalists until they are fifty-six years old, and I don’t think it’s too late to be a reporter when I’m forty. Xu: You don’t think it’s late, but the newspaper office thinks it’s late (Xu Xiaoping laughs bitterly loudly). During your interview, people will ask you what journalism experience you have, and you say no, and you think it’s not too late, but the newspaper office The editor-in-chief must think you are late. What are the risks of studying abroad? Xu: You don't like your job now, and you haven't made any efforts in the career you like, but you want to study abroad now, what are your advantages? Lee: Almost nothing. Xu: You have no advantages, how can you guarantee that you will be able to study abroad in the future. Li: With my own efforts. Xu: This is a misunderstanding.You work hard to earn 5 yuan a night, which can be achieved through hard work.But if you want to earn 5 million a night through hard work, it is impossible to achieve it, even if you work harder.Therefore, hard work is not enough, the goal of life must be clear, and you must design an achievable goal for yourself.The goal of your efforts must be within reach, and don't exhaust your remaining youth and self-confidence. There are two issues to consider when studying abroad.First, whether you can study abroad, you must be objective and scientific, and don't deceive yourself.Second, what will happen after studying abroad?Now even if you get a full scholarship in communication from Columbia University, what will happen after graduation? Li: Then I may develop abroad, for example, I will be a reporter abroad. Xu: It is impossible. This is impossible.It's very simple. The United States does not need a Chinese reporter, let alone a Chinese with a Northeast accent in English. There are too many people in the United States who want to be reporters.Then how do you want to develop? Li: Then I will go back to China. Xu: Where do you want to work after returning to China? Li: (speaking very confidently) For example, I can become a reporter for People's Daily. Xu: Will People's Daily want you? Li: I think it is impossible not to let me go. I am a graduate student in communication studies at Columbia University. Ai Xu: But have you ever thought that all your news experience is from the West, and China’s news operations are completely different from those of the United States? It's different, and you have such a high degree of education, so you will surely perish when you arrive in China.It is very painful for someone who has obtained a postgraduate degree in communication abroad and returns to China without experience, and you will be in your thirties at that time.Your experience in Chinese communication is just an apprenticeship, and you have a graduate degree from an American university, did it ever occur to you that this could destroy you. Li: Oh... Anyway... Xu: So, studying abroad is risky for you, and you may not succeed in studying abroad. Even if you can succeed in studying abroad, you may not be successful in your career after studying abroad.But with the same social background and the same social conditions, some people will succeed.For example, I know a girl who is also from Northeast China. She graduated from the English Department of a university in Jilin. She was very active in school and actively participated in various school activities.But you are very different from her. Therefore, whether you can go abroad and whether you have a future after going abroad must be considered.In my opinion, you can't go abroad; even if you go abroad, you have no future. Li: (she was surprised) Why can't I go abroad? Xu: In my opinion, it is very risky to study abroad in your way. Of course, you may get the full scholarship of Doctor of Philosophy, but the risk is too great.If it were me, I wouldn't take the risk.Going abroad becomes your burden, your fantasy.There are many people in their thirties who want to study abroad, and they destroy themselves.Some people will no longer dream of the country, and work in the country, and the result is very good.For example, Yu Minhong is a very typical example.Do you find yourself having an Achilles' heel compared to these people? Li: What weakness? Xu: You gave up your realistic efforts for a fantasy; you pursued a goal without starting your footsteps. Li: No, I am also working in China at the same time? Xu: But there is a split between your values ​​and your actual behavior. You don’t like being a teacher, but you are always in front; you dream of being a reporter, but you have never done it.These two actually make up what you have today.This is the division of life. Li: Yes (she nods silently). happiness is not drizzle Xu: Did you fall in love during college? Li: No. Xu: Why not. Li: Because I feel that I have a high pursuit, my goal is very high. Xu: Is there anyone chasing you? Li: There was one, but I ignored him. Xu: Did anyone pursue you during graduate school? Li: There is one.But I ignored him, and then he found someone else. Xu: Do you realize that you are a woman? Li: Of course. Xu: So have you made any effort for this? Li: What aspects do you mean? Xu: Further feminization efforts? plum.No. Xu: Have you ever put on makeup? Li: It has been transformed after work. Xu: Have you paid attention to hairstyles and dresses to make yourself more feminine? Li: No.I think I'm ugly, so I don't pursue these things, I think career is the most important thing. Xu: Why did you pursue a career?You are a Master of Philosophy, and you tell me as a philosopher, why do people pursue careers? Lee: To make our country stronger? Xu: Why should China be strong? Li: When China is strong, everyone will live happily. Xu: So are you happy? Li: Generally speaking, I have been making do with it for so many years. Xu: (Xu Xiaoping laughed helplessly, and then said seriously) This is too scary. I don’t want to fall in love, because career is more important. Career is for the prosperity of the country. A strong country is for the happiness of the people. The happiness of the people depends on everyone Everyone is happy, so let me ask you, are you happy? Li: (speaking very calmly) It doesn't matter whether you are happy or not, I seem to have never been happy. Xu: God created you to be a woman, but you have not been a woman according to God's will, you have violated God's will. Li: But I have never felt that there is any difference between being a woman and being a man? Xu: Have you never had one? Lee: Never.I think women are also career first. Xu: Does the realization of human beings make no difference between women and men?You are a student of Marxism-Leninism. Marx said in "Philosophy of Humanism" that the realization of human beings is to make women and men more different. Li: Because our country is poor, women and men should be the same. Ai Xu: Do you often teach your students this way in class? Li: Yes. Xu: (Xu Xiaoping was surprised) Really! ? Li: Yes. Xu: Don't you think you are harming the next generation? Lee: I never thought so. Xu: But I think you are.I think you are committing a crime by spreading your own distorted view of life to your students, you are already so unhappy and you want your students to be unhappy too. Li: I haven't seen the difference between happiness and unhappiness. Aren't people just alive? What is there to say about happiness and unhappiness? Xu: Your greatest tragedy is that in your best years, you gave up your pursuit of real life, your pursuit of love, career, and life.Why do people live?The famous director Ang Lee gave up his career when his career was brilliant, and returned home to be a professional father for six years, taking care of his children at home.So your point of view is a huge distortion, which is against the principles of Marxism.Marx said that the realization of man lies in his true self.Flowers in nature should be in full bloom, human thoughts should also be colorful, and human bodies should also be colorful.But you are withered and yellow, from the outside to the inside. Since childhood, you have not pursued femininity, which is the greatest tragedy in your life.You think you are ugly, who says you are ugly, I think you are pretty, you have to hate those who say you are not good-looking, they make you lose yourself intentionally or unintentionally, let you pursue career, let you give up love, this is wrong. Now start over as a woman Li: But our generation is all educated in this area. Ai Xu: Who said, go to the street and have a look, there are several 28-year-old girls dressed like you.Frankly speaking, you live in a particularly beautiful era, but you have deliberately abandoned this colorful era.You have to love yourself from now on, although you feel that no one loves you, but you have to love yourself.And the sign of loving yourself is to treat yourself well.From now on, you use all your savings to buy clothes, cosmetics, and perfume. Li: But I don't pursue these Xu: I will let you pursue it now.Because when you pursue these things, you will find that life is so beautiful. It turns out that I am also quite attractive and attractive.You will find that you are not living in a single-sex society, your life will start to prosper, your heart will start to bear fruit, your nerves will start to be sensitive, and you will get the first true love in your life .Please reach out to the man.You're twenty-eight years old, but you've never been in a relationship, that's not right, and you're not gay, and if you were gay and had a bunch of girlfriends around, I congratulate you, but neither do you.You are the most worrying student I have ever met.You listen to me, take all your money out, buy clothes, buy makeup, and feminize yourself. Li: Then how do I buy books? Xu: Burn all the books. Li: Without books, what is the meaning and value of my life? Xu: Go to the library to borrow books.Your worth is not in the book. Li: I think my value lies in my career. Xu: But you didn't get any value, the reason is very simple, because you gave up the pursuit of youth, beauty, friendship, love and life. Li: But I think none of these can contribute to the development of the country. Xu: On the contrary, these are the most important things to the country.When you consume, when you fall in love, and when you feel happy, China will start to turn green, liven up, and become youthful, and there will be a beautiful and powerful China.without making every one of her citizens desexualized. Li: But isn't Japan developed by people working hard and doing their careers? Xu: The Japanese work hard, but the Japanese live even harder.The world's most tourist is Japan, and the Japanese have almost become the largest tourists in Hawaii and Canada. Li: But I think there is no such condition. Xu: Because you don't love life, because you cut yourself off from life.This is the real tragedy of your life as an MPhil student.I think your primary problem now is not to study abroad, but to make yourself feminine and beautiful first. Li: But my education is to be hard and simple. Xu: Hardship and simplicity does not mean giving up sexuality, nor does it mean giving up love.When I was in Yan'an, there was a ball every night, and the chairman was Jiang Qing who I met at the ball.The Party Central Committee also arranged for Comrade Keqing to take care of Comrade Zhu De on the Long March Road.Your major is philosophy, but your views violate Marxism, and you just dig the darkest part of traditional education.You have not seen that the wave of educational reform is promoting quality education and advocating all-round development, and the criticism of high scores and low abilities is also calling for the expansion of individuality.Time is running out for you, you have to learn to love yourself first. Li: I love myself very much, but loving myself doesn't have to be reflected by dressing up. Xu: Peacocks love themselves through the display of feathers, flowers love themselves through the blooming of flowers, but cherry millets love themselves through toxins, sea cucumbers love themselves through the spraying of internal organs, they love themselves in the wrong way, you love yourself too, but The way you love yourself is wrong, you are like a cherry tree, you are like a sea cucumber.If you love yourself, you should keep your fragrance alive, like the scent of woman "Scent of a Woman".You should think carefully about how people should live. As a human being, you must first have a body before you have a spirit, and only with a spirit can you struggle, have a career, and have love. You are only a body, but you have not exchanged, sprayed, smeared, or packaged. This is very Terrible.Your career and your life have gone astray. Lee: I feel like a failure! Xu: Absolutely failed.So I think your problem is not to be a reporter, nor to study abroad, but to find a friend first. Li: But people say you have to have a career, otherwise they will not accept me. Xu: But you are a graduate student, you are a university teacher, you are a sexy woman wearing famous brand lipstick, fashionable fashion, and famous brand perfume, who would not accept you. Li: But I can't afford these. My monthly salary is only more than 1,000 yuan. Xu: You can definitely afford it, but you are reluctant to buy it. Li: Then I will spend all my wages on these, and what will I eat with?Because your time is short, you must hurry up and make yourself a woman.Zhongzhuang Zhidie divorced his wife, at first his wife lost her hair, then she cheered up, and finally one day she got a perm and put on new clothes, she finally transformed, she had to change from the body to cleanse her soul, and Your soul is embodied in your body. Li: Everyone is pursuing these things, but who will go to work? Xu: You know Madonna, she is the busiest woman in the world, and Diana is also one of the women who have done the most to society in the world.Therefore, your major is philosophy, but you are the greatest tragedy. Pursuing happiness in reality, life, and gender does not mean that it is in conflict with career or ideal.The pursuit of physical pleasures by no means contradicts spiritual pleasures.And you just tear it apart, you want to have a career for the sake of a career, but in the end you have nothing. So when you go back, you should be a woman, a lover, a friend, a caring person, a passionate person, a person with a job, a person with a career. Once you do this, the rest will follow.When you went to the newspaper to apply for a job, the main reason may be that you were not cute. Li: But those who learn from Marxism-Leninism are very rigid? Xu: This is an insult to Marxism-Leninism and a distortion of Marxism-Leninism.Marx wrote a lot of love poems, and Yanni took a lot of beautiful photos with her bare chest and back.Engels once lived with a textile worker, which was a great love. Li: But I don't think I need these. Xu: The reason you don't need it is because you haven't done it.This is actually your helplessness and sorrow.Let's not discuss these, because the life problems that contemporary youth have to solve are no longer these.Your question should be something that was purged in the 80s when the mind was liberated, and you are still stubbornly embracing it. My advice to you now is: First, let yourself be a woman.Second, practice oral English well.