Chapter 11 Part C (Parts 12-17)

A thousand years of meritorious deeds, just a single thought!This "thought" is "idea".The fate of man is chosen, and the axis of choice is concept.People's success lies in ideas. Chen Zhangliang and Ji Xinyin Shi Yu Future Lost Garden first rose of summer The Essence of Standing at Thirty The Secret of Xue Bao's Failure Qiu Wu's anger Case Tips: Ji Xinyin, male, biologist, received a Ph.D. in Biology in Canada. After graduation, he worked in the Canadian National Biological Research Laboratory with an annual salary of 70,000 Canadian dollars.Mr. Ji is a friend of Teacher Xu. At the end of 1995, Mr. Ji and Mr. Xu talked about Chen Zhangliang, and Mr. Ji was very disapproving.But Mr. Xu thought that his friend's evaluation of Chen Zhangliang was unfair.How to evaluate "Returnees"?became a hot topic at the end of the century.

segregating gene At the end of 1995, Dr. Chen Zhangliang's reputation in China reached its peak.Media at home and abroad reported his story from different angles according to their different needs.As an overseas student of Linyuan Xianyu at that time, I was also one of the readers of these reports.In these reports, there are two details that I will never forget: one is that after he returned to Peking University, he vigorously promoted the marketization of scientific research, which made the teachers’ bonuses of the Department of Biology of Peking University more than double that of other departments; the other is a photo, It's a picture of him with his bluebird car.

This has nothing to do with my story. My story is about an old friend of mine named Ji Xinyin.Ji Xinyin and I were friends during our graduate studies in Canada.He is a biologist with a PhD in biology from Canada.After graduating, he was hired by the National Biological Research Institute of Canada, and engaged in scientific research there, with an annual salary of 70,000 Canadian dollars.Among the foreign students, he is regarded as a successful person.We often talk on the phone. Every time we talk, whether it is 8:00 am or 10:00 pm, he seems to be in the laboratory. It gives me the feeling that there is a bedroom in the laboratory, although this is impossible in Canada.He said his research is very important and very advanced.I said what the hell are you doing?He said that he was doing a kind of work of "separating genes". If he "separated" the gene he wanted, this gene might be named after Ji Xinyin, which would bring new hope for the treatment of certain diseases to human beings.I was in awe when I heard this, and I didn't expect that there were such pioneers who made contributions to mankind among the buddies around me.So every time I talk to him, my greeting is: "How are you, how many genes were isolated today?" I am proud to have such a scientist friend, and even more proud that such a scientist actually recognizes me as a friend.Meeting genes in a foreign land is also a great joy in life!

It was the end of 1995. Minhong had just returned to Beijing from Vancouver. I packed my bags and was about to go to New Oriental.Ji Xinyin asked me to take a letter to Beijing and send it to Peking University to Chen Zhangliang.I said, "Do you know Chen Zhangliang?" He said, "I met him at an academic conference, and I had acquaintance with him once. This letter is to discuss a few academic matters with him." I asked by the way Said: "This guy is very popular in China, what is he like?" It doesn't matter if you don't ask, this question aroused the overseas student's anger, and he complained: "That guy is nothing! He is an academic He made no contribution to the world. He became famous only because of political needs. People in the biological world know what he is about!" Chen Zhangliang actually aroused his disgust so much, which was beyond my expectation.

I was silent for a moment after listening.Although I don't know Chen Zhangliang well, and I'm not proud of him being an alumnus of Peking University (Peking University has a lot of proud alumni!), and I don't defend him from the needs of our party's propaganda, Ji Xinyin's language and emotions are clearly Contradicting some intuition of mine, some unexpressed thought.I feel there is something wrong with his way of thinking. I thought about it, and said to him: "I don't know whether Chen Zhangliang has contributed to biology, and I don't care. But I know that after he returned to China, he led the staff of the Department of Biology to transform scientific research results into biological commodities, which greatly promoted The Department of Biology of Peking University has transformed scientific research into productivity. The close integration of scientific research and the market is one of the reasons for the strength of the United States, and it is also one of the places where China needs to learn from the United States. It is also the most precious thought and contribution that international students can bring back to China one.

"In my opinion, even if Chen Zhangliang knows nothing about biology, as long as he promotes the progress of Peking University's Department of Biology in terms of the marketization of science and technology, this contribution is no less important than the isolation of dozens of genes! For Chinese society The contribution of Chen Zhangliang is also a great contribution. After all, what Chinese society has been lacking over the years is intellectuals like Chen Zhangliang who have modern awareness and market awareness. From this perspective, Chen Zhangliang’s contribution is actually no less than that of recent Those academic leaders and sages who have achieved success in studying abroad in China for a hundred years and returned to China have created new disciplines one after another. Because what he created and represented is the new thinking and new value that a generation of scientific workers and the Chinese public are most in short supply. , new status, and new life! This is one of the greatest contributions that the new generation of Chinese students can make to Chinese society and personal value." Ji Xinyin is a good friend of mine.Hearing what I said, he remained silent for a long time.There is no doubt that he never thought about these questions.He is thinking.

off base I saw Ji Xinyin again five years later on the plane from Beijing to Canada.I was very happy to meet him unexpectedly.I said, "How is the gene separation?" He smiled and said, "It's okay!" I asked him what he did when he returned to China this time?He suddenly became emotional.Said: "Damn it, Chen Zhangliang..." I felt a little bit in my heart, thinking: If my friends are still scolding Chen Zhangliang for so many years, he must still be living in dire straits.So I interrupted him and said, "What is he messing with you again?" Ji Xinyin said in an angry tone, "Damn it, I went to Beijing. I also met Chen Zhangliang. Seeing this guy is doing really well. They Weiming Biological Company is going to go public soon. He is building a Peking University Biological City in the north of Zhongguancun. I went to visit it, and it will be world-class after it is completed. It’s so damn good!" I put a stone in my heart.Because I really don't want to see my good friend support his spiritual world by scolding others, regardless of whether this person should scold or not.His "swearing" turned out to be admiration!

I said, "Don't worry about how the hell other people are doing, tell me how the hell you are doing?" Ji Xinyin laughed a little self-deprecatingly: "Fuck. I'm still in the national laboratory, doing my old job, and continuing to separate Genes. I have developed a biological patent in the past few years, and I have obtained a national patent in the United States. It is not a joke to say that it is an early pregnancy detection and prevention technology. The market potential is extremely huge, but it cannot be promoted today. In China I have found several partners, but the fucking gang can’t do it! They are either liars or bastards, and they haven’t done it yet.” I said, “Early pregnancy testing?” Seeing me mocking him, Ji Xinyin said seriously: "Yes! It is a technology to detect early pregnancy. There are such products on the market now, but when they are tested, they have reached the point where they can only be used for abortion. My technology can detect pregnancy three days after intercourse, and Adopting biotechnology to terminate is absolutely 100% accurate and safe. This is equivalent to fundamentally solving the pain of women. Therefore, this is a great invention that liberates women! This is my patent." From his eyes, I saw science I have seen the dignity and greatness of scientists, and I have seen the nobility and holiness of scientists.But why can't such a great product be promoted?

He said: "In the past few years, I have found many partners, and I have returned to China countless times, but they always fail. The domestic business system is not perfect. Many things, if you don't watch them personally, or they can't do it at all. Either it's nothing to do with you after it's done. Damn, such a good technique!" He showed helplessness and annoyance on his face. I said: "Then why don't you go back to China? I met countless foreign students, and they all thought that China was a beach with low tide. They rushed to the beach for a walk, caught a few crabs, made a fortune and left. In fact, this idea is absolute. It’s not feasible. Either you don’t come back at all, and don’t think about going back to China to make a fortune. If you want to come back, you must have the determination to break the boat, come back completely, and move back the roots that have been removed, just like Chen Zhangliang. It can be said that this is an overseas student. The basic prerequisite for success." Ji Xinyin curled her lips, shook her head, spread her hands, shrugged, and muttered, "Damn...".I know what he's going to say.I was the first to say, "Is your wife okay?" Ji Xinyin has three children, two daughters and one son.The wife does not work for a long time and takes care of the children at home.The family of five is supported by Ji Xinyin's salary of about 70,000 to 80,000 Canadian dollars.An income of 70,000 to 80,000 Canadian dollars is a typical middle-class level.A traditional Canadian may spend his life happily with such a life as his highest goal.

But unfortunately, for intellectuals like Ji Xinyin who grew up in Chinese society, at the moment when they are middle-aged, successful in their careers, and almost happy with their lives, an amazing opportunity in China suddenly appears.The lure of opportunities presented by China is so powerful that it messes up the mentality of all North American international students—rich, poor, unemployed, entrepreneurs.Chen Zhangliang is just a symbol of China's opportunities, a symbol that in the soaring China, a Chinese intellectual who has received a western education can make a world-class great cause in this land, and obtain a multi-level, all-round, high-level life value. Purity achieved.

Chen Zhangliang did not create the era, it was this era that created Chen Zhangliang, and Chen Zhangliang happened to be the symbol of this era!This era calls for more Chen Zhangliang.Ji Xinyin's envy and hatred on Chen Zhangliang are really some social responsibilities that famous people must bear. That little bit of success is really shabby, and it is really impossible to gain psychological balance.Because, even if you become a billionaire abroad, the spiritual victory that Chinese intellectuals pursue is actually impossible to achieve.There are countless scientists in the Canadian National Laboratory, and everyone lives a peaceful and happy life.But only Ji Xinyin, a Chinese intellectual, is tossing and turning over what happened in the east of the Pacific Ocean.Because, the spring story that happened on that land should have a touch of his own brilliance, which is also his land... What about Ji Xinyin?Ji Xinyin's income can guarantee their family a comfortable life in the middle class in Canada, but it definitely cannot support Ji Xinyin's return to China.Even if Ji Xinyin can get venture capital, there must be no investors who can guarantee that Ji Xinyin's family can enjoy a comfortable life in China as in Canada, let alone some unsolvable problems such as children's schooling and environmental pollution.Sad!Ji Xinyin, who is ambitious to show her own value on Chinese soil, has actually lost the adaptability and possibility to survive in China. In an instant, I found that Ji Xinyin usually sounded so powerful and powerful, but at this moment he became extremely weak, almost a whine.This buddy who spent several years in Canadian universities with me suddenly showed the depression of a middle-aged man.I know his helplessness.Fish and bear's paw is actually an easy choice.But fish and crab, bear's paw and shark's fin, in fact, cannot be chosen. Sometimes, life will be spent in helplessness.Finally, with eternal regret, walk through our life course.I see.Ji Xinyin has already prepared the winter clothes of his life, ready to meet his twilight season after he turns fifty. Maybe, he can also be a strong man with broken arms, bring his wife and children back to China, and be a Chen Zhangliang?There are already many Chen Zhangliang in China, and there are so many of them that the government no longer has the passion, time and necessity to support and publicize them one by one.Chen Zhangliang has become a story of the times, a common phenomenon!In the face of this common phenomenon, Ji Xinyin's pain will become more and more profound and unsurpassable.I hope he has the best of both worlds in his career and family.But I know that choosing to follow Chen Zhangliang's path will not be easy for a person of his age and qualifications. Poor Ji Xinyin, his biological genes have not been separated into anything, but the foundation of his life has undergone a terrible split.The plane was buzzing, and we had nothing to say all the way back to Vancouver. Notes: When writing "Tuqiong Dialogue", it has been two years since I met Ji Xinyin on the plane.My wife read this article and said: You didn't write about Henry, did you? Henry is Ji Xinyin's English name.I said yes, how is he doing?My wife told me excitedly: He has returned to China.A bioengineering production base has been set up in Shanghai, and the investment is said to have reached 100 million yuan.His wife and children are still in Canada, but Ji Xinyin often comes back to see them.You men are all like this, you don't care about anything for your career.What about his three children! I sigh.I thought: Ji Xinyin has finally found his gene for success.This gene is the cause of overseas students based on Chinese soil. Case Tips: Shi Yu graduated from the Department of Journalism of a certain provincial university. Because she could not find a job, she took the postgraduate entrance examination of the Department of Philosophy. She thought that it would be difficult to find a job after graduation, so she decided to study abroad. She asked Teacher Xu for advice on what major to study abroad. Teacher Xu Tell her: "Study a major that can't find a job after graduation!" So, Shi Yu's eyes are full of question marks. In the early spring of 2001, when the weather was still cold, a girl came from the New Oriental dormitory class.She walked into my office and brought me a shivering cold, which immediately made me want to drink ginger soup to drive away the cold.She is Shi Yu. I asked her desperately, "What can I do for you?" My spirit was almost broken.If I had been tortured by such dispirited students every day, I would have died a long time ago, I thought. She said: "I am a graduate of the Journalism Department of the University of S Province. After graduation, it was difficult to find a job, so I studied for a master's degree in the Department of Philosophy. Now that the master's degree is about to graduate, it is even more difficult to find a job, so I want to go abroad. You see What am I going to study abroad?" Immediately I knew the reason for my sadness.Depression spread rapidly in my heart.I said as if I had swallowed a bitter medicine: "What do you want to study abroad? It's very easy, why not study a major that can't find a job after graduation!" Shi Yu looked at me in bewilderment, with question marks in his eyes.I nodded and repeated: "Go abroad to study a major where you can't find a job, continue to struggle on the way you can't find a job, and finally, leave a classic case for the world: how to study hard and never find a job!" I folded my arms and knew I was going to catch a cold.Successful people bring joy, excitement, excitement, and the sunshine of spring to people; unsuccessful people bring confusion, depression, despair, and the coldness of winter to people.If the world were like Shi Yu, we'd all be sick.Shi Yu is a loser, a loser born under the Chinese education system.The point is, until she got to my office, she had no idea why or where she had failed. The external cause of rain failure may be social.Education does not give their children a very clear employment goal orientation, but talk about knowledge, ideals, and diplomas.Knowledge and ideal diplomas are all valuable civilization values, but the most important purpose of education should first be to clarify a goal: to enable students to gain employability and means of earning a living in the real society. The internal cause of Shi Yu's failure must be her own.Under the same social conditions and education system, countless successful people are actually born every day.The definition of success, in my eyes, is not Yang Yuanqing and Zhang Chaoyang.They are merely lucky representatives of my system for measuring success.The definition of a successful person is actually very simple: a person who makes a stable living in a specific field that he is familiar with and likes, or does not like but is familiar with.Here, the ability to "make a living steadily" is the most important idea.The ability to make a stable living does not refer to a stable job position, but refers to the ability to be stable and competent in any similar job position, as well as the ability to make a living by constantly adjusting oneself and adapting to challenges according to changes in the working environment. Shi Yu, an undergraduate student who graduated from the Department of Journalism of the University of S Province, has actually acquired the ability to make a stable living, and will definitely be able to find a stable job.Although the press and various media are not yet the country's priority areas for opening up, the tide of news reform can't be stopped by anyone.Looking around, there are so many magazines co-sponsored by foreign countries, so many revitalized newspapers, so many books from non-governmental channels, so many TV channels lacking programs, so many radio bands that no one listens to, so many lack content and lack text editing The Internet of people... and the "Boutique Shopping Guide", "Happy Dictionary", "Lucky 52" where the entire medium is advertising... The special background of Phoenix Satellite TV has enabled a large number of journalists to receive huge salaries by American standards and China The huge ratings of the characteristics; Murdoch's News Corporation has entered the Guangdong cable TV market, and another WarnerMedia giant that has been allowed to enter is fighting fiercely in various aspects including talent... Their goal is to cover the whole of China ...This is an era in which journalists are needed but lacked, and this is an era in which journalists can succeed in their careers and realize their ideals.Shi Yu, who graduated from the Journalism Department of the University of S Province, actually said that he could not find a job opportunity.Really, she's a pathetic loser.Her failure was so severe that, upon entering my office, it had already begun to contagious me, giving me typhoid fever. Regardless of external and internal factors, a series of reasons constitute the failure genes of Shiyu.In order to let my students and readers avoid the detours she has gone through, I would like to illustrate her failure in a table, and provide you with a high-tech consultation on gene therapy for overseas students: this gene chart can be represented by three "ION" : 1. A person must have Vision, that is, an understanding of the opportunities and prospects in his own field.Shi Yu didn't.Shi Yu's biggest problem is that she can't see the opportunities in her profession and industry. She has no vision and foresight.In the previous analysis, news professionals have begun to have the best development opportunities in history even under the less open Chinese media policy. Although better opportunities will continue to occur tomorrow, "now" and "today" are important for Shi Shi. Rain is already a historical opportunity that couldn't be better.But Shi Yu didn't see it.What to do? 2. One must have Passion, that is, passion for opportunities and prospects in one's own field.Shi Yu didn't.This is Shi Yu's second biggest problem. He has no interest, no passion, and no passion for his professional and industry opportunities.Where do interests and passions come from?Did it fall from the sky?no.Is it inherent in your own mind?Nor is it.Interest and passion can only come from practice.Here I borrow the first two sentences from Mao Zedong's "On Practice", which are actually not for humor, but have my profound meaning.This profound meaning is: the reason why Shi Yu did not develop interest and passion for the industry he was studying was because of the failure of Shi Yu's school education. Province S is not a remote and closed province.But the University of S Province is not the People's University of Peking University.Students majoring in journalism and communication at Renmin University of China and Peking University are less likely to suffer from such serious professional future numbness syndrome as Shi Yu.In college life, many people have obtained the direction of their life's passionate struggle from social practice, now called internships and part-time jobs.But Shi Yu did not, and her school had to bear a major responsibility.But unfortunately, although the responsibility lies with the school, the principal continues to be promoted.But the poor Shi Yu can only go through both ups and downs on the vast road of life, and live a life of ups and downs forever.Wake up and burn up, students with professional numbing syndrome! 3. A person must have a mission, and set a mission for himself to strive for all his life, that is, give himself a mission responsibility and career pursuit.Shi Yu didn't.China's news media has not yet been industrialized. As Chinese journalism students, do they have the responsibility to promote and call for this industrialization?The news is not open enough. As a Chinese journalism student, do I have the responsibility to participate in the process of promoting this openness?The news cannot play a supervisory role, but after all, the government and the people, especially the people, have placed higher and higher expectations on news supervision; in a country where the news has initially implemented the supervision function of public opinion, initially implemented industrialization, and initially implemented openness , it is an excellent historical time for young journalism students to start pursuing a lifelong career, career and fulfilling their own mission.I think this is the best time for China.If a bachelor of journalism has no feeling for such a career, such a person has vision and no passion. In fact, he does not even have a basic sense of social responsibility.Who said that the rise and fall of the world has nothing to do with personal success or failure?Shi Yu's personal failure is actually a rejection of the rise and fall of the world.Shi Yu is mediocre. In addition to the three "ION" mentioned above, a person must also be attractive. In order to make it easier for readers to remember, I deliberately chose an English word that rhymes with the front: You must have Fashion, and you must be "fashionable" in your personal expression.Shi Yu studied journalism, and her life was destined to deal with people, let the society hear her, and reflect herself on various media.If there is no personal expression ability, no ability to deal with people, and no charm to conquer others, such a person may become an academic master like Chen Jingrun and John Nash, but he absolutely cannot engage in social and interpersonal work like journalism.The problem for Shi Yu is that since he has entered this field, he must develop his personal charm and develop his people skills.These so-called "powers" should at least include: writing ability, speaking ability--the ability to make others willing to speak to you, the ability to make others willing to listen to you, the ability to make others feel that you like them and respect them, and the ability to make others like you And respect your abilities.Both men and women must repair their appearance.Personal charm is not only possessed by successful people, but only those who have it can become successful.Personal charm comes first, and career success comes second.A successful person starts from an unsuccessful person and achieves success by relying on the comprehensive quality with personal charm as the core.Personal charm is not about brand-name clothes or not wearing clothes. When Yu Minhong started to use his "charm" to create New Oriental, he probably didn't wear anything but a coir raincoat.Personal charm, which is the so-called Fashion in this article, refers to the mental state, psychological quality and style of conversation that attract and excite this era.Just as it is not easy for a person to practice calligraphy, personal style, that is, personal Fashion, also requires us to give high attention and practice, and finally form our own personal style. The above four basic qualities are the four basic principles that successful people must follow.These four basic principles can be expressed in one sentence: see one's own career opportunities, and strive passionately for a lifetime. Shi Yu doesn't possess any of the four principles, how could she not fail! Shi Yu chose to go to graduate school because she mistakenly believed that there was no future in the media field where she was rushing.Unfortunately, she did a Master of Philosophy.The only level question for this Master of Philosophy is that on the eve of getting the master’s degree, I came to New Oriental and asked me a question as difficult as the sky: Mr. Xu, what should I study abroad?This question contains all the bitterness and anguish of a lost person, the most desperate, and the confusion of hopelessness in the youth of twenty-five years.However, what I still can't understand is that since a bachelor's degree in journalism "can't find a job", is it easy to find a master's degree in philosophy?What was she thinking when she was taking the postgraduate entrance examination! ? I regret not asking her that question then.I've been thinking hard and still can't understand this.Hegel said that everything that exists is rational.The only reasonable explanation for Shi Yu's existence of studying is that it is unreasonable. Shi Yu, can you tell me?I don't think she'll ever come to me again.Therefore, this question may become a mystery through the ages.Be the secret weapon of losers looking for failure. Is there anyone who can't see their career prospects?Like Shi Yu? Cuihua, serve ginger soup! Case Tips: Lu Mingming graduated from the Journalism Department of Renmin University. Although she had a burn experience when she was a child, which left the most tragic scar on her face, her life looks very bright.Now she works for Northern Telecommunications Corporation in Canada, and then she plans to go to Northwestern University Kellogg School of Business to study MBA, because the Marketing (market) in this MBA program has always been ranked first in the United States.Her calm demeanor surprised Teacher Xu, and even appreciated her. One day in March 2001, two girls came to the counseling office. One was Shi Yu, who had a bachelor's degree in journalism and a master's degree in philosophy from the University of S Province, but had lost his life direction; the other was sitting next to Shi Yu, listening to Shi Yu chatted with Lu Mingming who didn't say a word. Lu Mingming and Shi Yu came to New Oriental for consultation with me.But she came into my office, and I remember kind of avoiding her.Thinking about it now, I still feel a little guilty: Lu Mingming's appearance looks a bit strange, and there seems to be one more muscle on his face, and another one is missing.I found out later that she unfortunately had a burn experience when she was a child, which left the most tragic scar on her face for a girl.In a sense, Lu Mingming belongs to the unfortunate human beings. But in contrast to the scars on her face, she was sitting in front of me silently, but very strongly on display.Although she was silent and motionless, I saw a rare thing in her: temperament.Her temperament quickly attracted me, and I was eager to talk to her!I still don't know what temperament is.But at that time, I clearly saw the fragrance of Lu Mingming's body that was volatile like rose oil. I turned to her and said kindly, "Obviously, do you have any questions for me? I hope you won't be like Shi Yu who can't find the way of your life." Lu Mingming's eyes shone brightly on her burnt face.She smiled and said, "Actually, I found my North right after I graduated - I worked in Canada's Northern Telecom. "I came to you with Shi Yu because I also studied journalism. I graduated from the Journalism Department of the National People's University, and I didn't engage in journalism after graduation. However, I didn't go to graduate school, but went directly to Nortel to work. "I have been in Nortel for two years. At that time, I applied for an assistant to the marketing department. I have been working as a secretary and assistant in the marketing department for two years. I found that the marketing department of a company is actually the lifeline of the company. Without a good marketing department, it is like a human body. If you can’t breathe well, the company will suffocate and die. I am very interested in this industry, and I am more and more interested. In a company like Nortel, I am quite professional in my marketing work, and I am willing to spend money on employee training. Encourage employees to study in their own fields. So after two years of work, I feel that I am already an expert in the market! My dream for the future is actually very simple, that is, working in Nortel, Lucent, Coco Cola or AT&T I want to be the marketing manager or general manager of my company. If I don’t do well, I will be the general manager of the China region. If I do well, I will become the general manager of the Greater China region—including Hong Kong, Taiwan and Singapore. It is impossible to continue working like this at present, at least it is very difficult. This requires an MBA from the United States, and it must be an MBA from a prestigious school. Therefore, my plan is to continue working at Nortel for two years and wait until the fifth At the beginning of my first working year, I went to the Kellogg School of Business of Northwestern University in the United States to study for an MBA, because the Marketing (market) in this MBA program has always been ranked first in the United States. "The question I want to ask you is: Is my goal feasible? With my background, is there any hope of getting into a good business school like Kellogg?" Because of the frustrating conversation with Shi Yu, Lu Mingming The monologue at this time gave me a feeling of spring breeze and sunshine.Clear career direction, correct value orientation, clear development direction, long-term career orientation, forward, forward, forward, our future is toward the sun!I can't help but think of a poem: "Lu Mingming has arrived, can Kellogg be far behind?" Kellogg has won, can't Greater China have it?Just because he walked on the right track, Lu Mingming's life path is so brilliant! Although in the profound transformation of social values, countless people like Shi Yu have lost their direction in life, after all, young people like Lu Mingming have appeared, and they are being born and growing spontaneously in large numbers every day.Facing the new talent market, they quickly saw the opportunities in life, adjusted their direction, and briskly took the new line of career.Lu Mingming's design for his own life indicates that a generation of young people are finding their own position and climbing to a brilliant future.Obviously, like the first rose in summer, it symbolizes the arrival of the colorful and mature summer in China's talent market, and it heralds the arrival of a historical period in which Chinese youth will fully realize their own value before new opportunities in China. I stood up and shook hands with Shi Yu to say goodbye with false enthusiasm, telling her to come to New Oriental to look for me when she was free, but she would never be able to find me.But I couldn't help hugging Lu Mingming, and specially pressed her burnt face gently on my shoulder.I patted her on the head and said to her: "Bless you Mingming! Get the admission notice from Kellogg, and don't forget to let me share your good news!" Mingming obviously knew what I meant and nodded emotionally.Luckily she was trained by a western company and I saw her trying not to shed tears. The first rose of summer is blooming brilliantly.Who is the most beautiful girl I met at New Oriental Consulting Office?Lu Mingming was clearly number one. Case Tips: Ouyang Daoli, male, 30 years old, former deputy section chief of the Organization Department of a certain province, was eager to go abroad due to setbacks in promotion.Under the guidance of Teacher Xu, he resigned from his post in Province S and came to Beijing to learn spoken English to find a job. Finally, with his relatively fluent spoken English and his work experience in cadre management, he worked as an assistant in the human resources department of a foreign company.Then it climbed all the way, and is currently working as the HR director of a fairly large foreign company with an annual salary of 280,000 RMB. Driving the new Passat rationed to him by the company, with the silence he picked up from Mr. Xu, he answered Mr. Xu's question about when he would study abroad: "It doesn't mean that the MBA and MPA at Harvard University range from 26 to 62 years old. Are you all young people of the right age? Why are you in a hurry?" One day, a young man in his thirties slipped into my office disheartened.His face was long and flat, stiff and hard, as cold as a stone, like a monument engraved with the failure history of contemporary youth. "Mr. Xu, I want to go abroad!" Ouyang Daoli said heavily.I heard immediately that his voice contained the great sorrow of failure in life and the infinite expectation for me.I am very touched. I said, "Of course—why do you look so miserable?" "I had to go out. I didn't want to go out, but circumstances forced me to go. I was forced to go. I'm a patriot." , I never thought about going abroad after graduation, and I have been working in the government, working conscientiously. Just a few days before my 30th birthday, the leader of the unit wanted to transfer me from the sub-department to the main department... "Look at me With a very understanding expression, he smiled apologetically, and then explained: "I work in the Organization Department of Province S, and my position is the deputy section chief of the Cadre Section of the Organization Department, which is in charge of promotion and promotion of cadres. Just when the leader agreed to transfer me from the sub-section At the juncture of Zhengke, I didn't expect that one of my best friends was a little jealous when he saw my promotion, so he made a small report to the leader, saying that I had an erotic massage three years ago." I felt a little bit in my heart, knowing that he was finished .If a leading cadre wants to be a good official, he must manage his eggs well, otherwise, it will really be over.At this point, he stood up and said sadly: "Who the hell doesn't massage in the world! How can I cut off my political career just because of that slender hand!" "After he finished suffering, he sat down by himself, faced me and said: "Just like this, I have ruined my official career after pursuing half my life. So I want to go abroad. I have to go abroad. The pressure is too great. As the saying goes, thirty And Li, I am thirty now, not only did I not stand up, but was stabbed in the back by a friend, and I fell upside down!" I looked at this poor little brother, my heart was full of guilt, and I didn't know how to comfort him.Not only did he have no English test scores, he hadn't even taken New Oriental's TOEFL class yet.How can such a person go abroad and be in such a hurry?In fact, according to the normal way, he might not be able to leave within three years.But at this time, I was afraid that he would have a nervous breakdown, and I dared not warn him about the difficulty and persistence of going abroad.My mind quickly circled ways to comfort him. I said, "Why do you have to go out in such a hurry? Could it be that if you can't be an official, a man has no other good things to do?" He said, "That's not true. The main reason is the pressure of age. If you can't do it, you can float in the sea." 。既然要出海，最好早点。"我说："再早，也得三年时间。"他眼睛里露出绝望的神色："三年？我今年已经三十啦，却一事无成！再等三年，太长了！"于是我提起气来，缓缓地对他说："年龄压力，是自己给自己的压力，如果把它变成一种焦虑，就成为愚蠢的慢性自杀行为，因为焦虑是一种疾玻三十岁了一事无成又怎么样？谁规定三十岁就一定要成功？ "你有没有想过三十而立这句话是谁说的？是什么时候说的？--这是孔夫子在两千五百年的言论。那时候，人类平均寿命也就三十五岁。三十不立，可不是得倒立嘛！孔子最优秀的学生颜回，就是在三十二岁倒立，死了。所以，那时候的人，有那么点年龄压力，还真的是可以理解的。 "但是，到了今天这个时候，再信孔夫子的这个谎言，念着颜回的这个咒语，就是愚蠢的。按照今日人类的平均寿命，你这个年龄在孔夫子他老人家眼中，也就是15岁的样子。15岁的人，处在青春初期，有点不良冲动，犯点生活错误，是连圣人都能原谅的小节埃子见南子，据说还荷尔蒙奔涌，表现失态，何况你乎。你自己就不必过于刁难自己啦！忘记过去，一切都从头开始追求，我甚至觉得还有点早呢！"他的脸上，露出了微笑，纪念碑的石头，开始风化。于是我说："有的人活着，他已经死了；有的人死了，他还活着。有的人年轻，却未老先衰，有的人老了，却青春永驻，激情盛开。你如何看待自己的年龄，如果看待自己的人生，无论对自己对他人，都决定了你生命的价值。江主席、朱总理，都是到了五十岁以后才在政治上崭露头角，成就了男儿一生的大业！学学人家吧。 "最后，把话说回来，如果三十岁上就感到年龄压力，那么到了四十岁呢？五十岁呢？难道你就不奋斗？而且，万一到了那个年龄你该立还没有立的话，人生就更加悲惨，生命就更加可怜，难道你就不活了吗？中国古老的文化，怎么就创造了你这种早衰的心态！简单说，你惟一的出路，是把自己当作二十几岁的人，重新开始！一个叫布洛克的美国人，在他五十三岁那年，在加州看见一家餐厅，决定以此为蓝本发起一家连锁店，从而创造了麦当劳。无论是朱总理、还是布总裁，都是值得你我学习的榜样。想想人家，比比自己，你应该感到脸红！"我故意用夸大的语气刺激着欧阳道力，为的是把他从一个失败者的晦涩心态里解放出来。随着我的语言的深入，欧阳道力的面容越来越放松，情绪越来越开朗，最后，墓碑一样的脸上，居然飘上来羞涩的霞光。他惭愧、他内疚、他对我不敢正视，他就像一个没有及时交家庭作业、或是一个考试做弊被老师当场抓住的十五岁的中学生。 我看见墓碑上面长出了狗尾草，在风中飘呀飘。欧阳道力进入了他人生第二次青春期。 欧阳道力后来和我成为莫逆之交。在我的指导下，从S省的岗位上辞职来到了北京。学口语找工作，最后以比较流利的口语，和他管理干部的工作资历，在一家外企找到了工作，当人力资源部的助理。然后一路攀升，目前在一家规模相当大的外企，做人事总监，年薪二十八万人民币。 问他什么时候出国，他反问我说："你不是说读哈佛大学的MBA和MPA，从二十六岁到六十二岁都是适龄青年吗？着什么急？"他开着公司配给他的新款帕萨特，一踩油门，差点使坐在车中的我失去平衡。 我并没有说过六十二岁依然适龄，这只是欧阳道力崛起之后对我思想的发展。我暂时默认他的篡改，而心里很高兴。 Case Tips: 薛宝到外企应聘，五次面试五次遭到拒绝，可她自己根本不知道原因何在。 我正在咨询处和大约二十几个学生座谈MBA的申请艺术，说如果你们想到美国读一流的MBA，毕业后最好先在国内积累几年工作经验。因为外企对外国大学比较了解，所以去外企工作当然有优势。一个女孩子打断我的话:"说起来容易，那也得人家外企要你啊!我申请这家著名的外企，面试了五次，最后还是被他们拒绝了，可见外企不好进啊！"旁边有同学表示同感，好像我让他们努力找一份好工作是件什么谋财害命的事情。 外企，并非中国大学生就业惟一的选择。联想、华为这样的中国公司，已经能够有效地和外企展开人才争夺战。但是作为接受西方企业文化、汲取西方管理经验的最佳去处，外企显然在为中国的未来培养和储备大量杰出人才。 听了这个薛宝的抱怨，我立即让她站起来。等她一站起来，我就立即知道了那家著名的公司为什么在面试她好几回之后，最终还是没有要她的原因。薛宝是那种你一看就不想和她共事的人。她的精神状态，有一种谁都说不清楚，但谁都感觉得到的问题。我不想把我的分析在这里庸俗化，但是，我依然可以和读者分享我当时和她的对话。 我说："我知道你为什么没有被录用。我敢肯定，你在学校从来不参加学生会的任何工作，肯定不是一个校园活跃分子。你不喜欢和同学打交道，只知道学习分数高了就好；你也不积极参与各种体育文娱活动；而且，你非常讨厌班上其他女生对于时尚和魅力的追求，甚至很鄙视班上那个最时髦、被男生追求人次最多的女同学。你自己从来不化妆，认为朴实就是美。其实朴实不是美，朴实是土，土者朴也。时尚不是奢侈，时尚是精神开放和精神不偏食的消化新事物的能力。拒绝时尚的人，往往就拒绝新思想。拒绝新思想的人，往往就拒绝新机会。 "而且，我敢肯定你一定没有谈过恋爱。"我斩钉截铁地判断。 薛宝打断我的话："你前面说的那些问题都是对的，但恋爱问题你错了，我谈过！"学生见我当场出丑，哄堂大笑。 我满脸通红，但是只能咬紧牙关，坚定地分析下去："就算谈过吧，但是你们谈了两三年的朋友，依然保持在恋爱的初级阶段，是你坚决而反复地阻止了他对爱情关系下一阶段的深入研讨--虽然你的男友也许还是个研究生！你坚决不同意他和你发生一些应该发生的事，最后他绝望伤心，终于离开了你！所以你在爱情关系上依然处在纯真时代，你不知道两性关系的复杂以及它所代表的人际关系的深刻象征。"薛宝又打断我的话："老师您又错了！我们不仅有过你说的那种关系，我们还在学校外面租了房子呢--我们同居已经一年多啦！"同学又哄堂大笑，看见我当场再次出丑。 我也笑了起来，但是依然坚定地分析下去："你的一切问题，现在看来都是你的男友的错。是这个家伙，阻挡了你的发展。他是一个自卑而内向的人，他坚决反对你一个人去参加学校舞会，甚至你让他陪你一起去他也不去；他只会跺脚，而不会跳舞。他反对你和任何男生有工作上的接触，生怕你和别人握一下手就会失去贞洁；是他反对你追求时尚追求个性的表达，他曾经为了你烫发和染发，和你吵过好几次架，但最后你以爱的名义向他做了屈服和让步，以至于头发短得像个男生好几个星期。 "我在你头发里面居然没有看见红的蓝的或者黄的，在这个时代，一个来自北京的著名大学的女生，不把自己的头发搞得乱七八糟，令人头晕目眩，简直和忘记了自己是黄种人一样，是一种精神的疾病啊！爱情本来应该给我们带来开放的心灵和自由的精神，以及轻灵的精神状态，但你的爱情，给你带来的显然是沉重的精神枷锁和心灵封闭。你的男朋友，是一个幽闭症和控制欲极强的人，如果发展下去，就会成为精神疾病的。你多次和他打架要离开他，但他每次都用自杀来威胁你，使得你一次次都不忍心又回到了他的身旁。爱情，本来应该使你的生活丰富多彩，但你的爱情，使得你越来越苍白贫乏，但你却认为这是为了爱的名义。"薛宝的精神被说得崩溃了。我的话引起了她的沉思、愧疚、痛苦、甚至愤怒。我知道，这个愤怒，不是冲着我来的--我已经成功地引导她对于自己的失败，寻找一个替罪羊了。这个替罪羊，就是她的男友。而且这个男友，肯定也不是外企所喜欢的人。 薛宝终于开始理解我的意思了。泪水在她的眼睛里旋转，但是薛宝努力把它含在眼里，不让它们掉下来。我知道，我触动了薛宝心里的委屈，她一定在想回去如何把那个控制了她好几年的所谓男友实际是爱情暴君给休了呢！ "徐老师，那你说我回去该怎么办？" 我说："非常简单。回去立即搬出他的小屋，赶快回到你自己的宿舍里去。假如他再次威胁要自杀怎么办？让他死。这种人本来就该死--假如他真的会为了控制别人失效而去死的话。不过死之前，我可以和他见一次面，见到我，我敢保证他就不想死啦！ "回去好好照照镜子，看看自己的样子。再看看宿舍里那些同学的样子，从你最反感的同学学起，学习他们是如何突出自己的精神气质表达自己的身体语言的。你的外表和内心，已经落后时代二十年！你需要彻底从外表开始改变你的精神状态。而这个落后于时代的精神状态，是你被X公司五次面试之后依然惨遭淘汰的根本原因。""让你的男朋友--假如他还活着的话--我肯定他会活着，而且失去你之后的他，会活得更好，因为也解除了他心灵深处对于你的那种病态控制和依赖，终于获得了心灵的解放啊！让他也回到这个时代来。虽然他的回归更加艰难，但是更加重要。因为，你损失的，也许是一种中国人寻找了二十年的现代气质。而他缺少的，却是一种人生价值，这个人生价值，比今日的时代至少落后整整五百年。"薛宝没有反驳我，二十几个同学也都没有一个人笑。显然，他们都在想：生活在同一时代的人，外表怎么能落后于时代二十年？观念怎么会倒退五世纪？这就是中国。 Case Tips: 仇伍，男，新东方学员，来自西部某城市。他找徐老师并不是为了咨询留学，而是因为和他一起在新东方学习的女友要与他分手。分手的理由简单也很奇特：因为女朋友嫌他不像新东方老师。所以他一脸正色地来到办公室想和新东方的老师理论。徐老师先是十分纳闷：你被女朋友甩了，和我有什么关系？继而心里发虚，细想自己究竟做了什么……仇伍来到我的办公室，神色庄严地说："徐老师，我被我的女朋友抛弃了。我要找你谈谈！"我说："你被你的女友抛弃和我有什么关系？为什么要找我谈谈！"仇伍严峻地说："可以说有直接关系！"我被他的气势吓倒，心里迅速回想过去几个月我都做了些什么。然后坦然面对他说："说吧，有什么关系？""我和女友认识很长时间，都从西部那个城市来，来新东方之前，我们关系非常好。我们一起来新东方，参加托福和GRE培训，准备一起去美国留学。但是，她才来了一个多月，就开始对我冷淡疏远。上个星期，她正式向我提出和我分手！""但是这到底和我有什么关系呢？"我更加纳闷了。 "有关系--她说我不像新东方老师，所以要离开我！这就是我要来找你的原因。我想问问你：我到底哪里不像新东方老师？新东方老师到底像在哪里？为什么我的女友才来了一个多月就以这个理由把我甩了。我知道，她不要我并不是因为有了第三者，而是因为来到新东方。"我这才放下心来。仇伍是来找我咨询的。其实他的庄严和严峻，只是表示深刻思考的一种方式。但我却以为他的书包里说不定放着一把杀猪刀！ 看看仇伍，我马上知道他的问题出在什么地方。我苦笑苦笑，说："我觉得你的女友抛弃你，简直是一件好事情。这对你也许是一个打击，但这个打击对你的未来而言，相当于日本被美国占领，被迫进行宪法改革，最终使得日本成为世界经济第二巨人。你也会成为巨人的。 "想要我说实话吗？实话实说可不好听，虽然崔永元居然有那个本领。我要说的实话，是要告诉你，女友抛弃你的真正原因。 "让我们由里及表，先说说深刻的东西：比如你刚才走进咨询处来找我，其实你是带着敬意要寻找我帮助，但瞧你那个傻样，我还以为你要找我拼命呢！一个人的表达能力如此之差，这首先证明你不配和你的姑娘在一起，已经证明你不如新东方老师了--新东方老师肯定不会在表达上有这样巨大的误差！说不定你在某个企图表达温柔的时刻却令你的女友以为你要杀她，给她埋下了恐惧的阴影，借来到新东方之机抛弃你，你还不知道呢。"仇伍一脸困惑，听不懂我的话。于是我说："表达能力和交流能力，是人才最重要的能力之一。你这个能力非常不足。当你在自己家乡和女友在一起的时候问题不大，因为她和你在一个城市长大，在精神和肉体的感受上和你有相同的背景，所以她能够完美地接受你。但当她到了新东方，看见这么多以表现自己、感动学生、传递信息、影响他人为职业的新东方牛人之后--对不起，刚才我讲的这些形容词，就是新东方老师的像--在这个群像面前，你的这个缺陷一下子就水落石出了！ "你的女友发现，原来决定男性魅力的，不仅是外表，还有性格；决定情人磁场的，不仅是心灵，还有口舌(谈吐)；看上去没有什么差别的男人，原来内涵可能完全不一样；同样是恋爱，原来情调可以天南海北。而你拥有的教育背景和认同的价值观念，拥有太多必将被淘汰的内容，它们就是你。你就是土，土就是你。所以女友肯定抛弃你。她抛弃的并非仇伍；她本来只想抛弃的并非是你，而只是昨天之土。但不幸的是，昨天之土堆积在你身上如此厚重，她只能为了抛弃昨天之土，同时把你也甩了。"仇伍本来就是来寻找我的答案的，虽然我说的东西他似懂非懂，但是毕竟仇伍已经在新东方泡了几个月了，他心里明白。于是他咬牙切齿地问："你说咋办吧，徐老师。我听您的。你叫做啥我做啥！""怎么办？你只有一条路可走，就是急起直追，成为像新东方老师那样的人。"仇伍庄严地点点头，捋捋头发，表示要痛改前非。 我看见他的头发，就说："我敢打赌你这辈子就没有认真为自己的头发花过时间精力和金钱。你这个巨大的分头，好像在哪里见过？对了，这是毛泽东的发型。他老人家在建国初期，就是梳了这个发式，引领了一代风骚。50年代的知识青年，也都以这个头型为性感象征，不然章子怡怎么会看了一眼从此就爱了他一辈子！但这样的装束，已经不能吸引今天的城里姑娘。你和女友都是要去美国的人，她当然不会喜欢你这个样子。注重仪表，注重外表，注重时尚，不仅是你的外表，其实也是现代青年的精神素质的外露！如果你不注意，你就会被抛弃。而且，抛弃你的不仅是女友，还有这个时代！可怕埃"仇伍的精神状态和风度气质都很落后。这个落后如果用时间表达，他属于80年代的知识青年；用空间表达，他只能在大西部做一个不扎眼的人。但如果来到北京，追求留学，他和周围的人群一比，立即显示了时空的落差。这个落差不仅体现在他的身上，也是我国的实际国情。国家号召开发大西部，其实如果西部的人口素质都像仇伍的女友所喜欢的那样，西部的开发根本就不是一个问题。美国开发大西部，是因为西部资源丰富，土地肥沃但缺少开发它们的人口；中国的大西部并不缺人口，而缺少的是具有现代意识、具有市场经济时代精神的人才。西部敏感的女性，来到北京立即汲取了北京所包容的现代文明，汲取了新东方老师之像而迅速成为了城市里美丽的风景之一，并以淘汰仇伍的形式做出了淘汰西部的决定。但西部优秀的儿子仇伍，却在北京与现代化环境格格不入。当他的女友以淘汰他的方式决定了自己未来人生道路的时候，他却还在渭城朝雨的轻尘中飘逸，在精神迷茫的痛苦中挣扎。真的是一个严重问题啊！仇伍看见我愁眉苦脸的样子，知道自己的问题很严重，他如饥似渴寻求答案的眼睛看着我，我心里开始感动。寻求问题的答案，而不是发泄心中的愤怒，是仇伍惟一的正确选择。我说："回去，把身上的衣服全部烧掉，找一个新东方同班的女生，哪怕甜言蜜语请她带你去秀水东街买衣服，那里的衣服全是世界名牌--而且是仿真的，所以非常便宜。你马上就会自我感觉不一样。不过，在买到衣服之前先不要把身上的衣服烧光，否则就没有女孩子敢和你上街啦！ "注意个人卫生，讲话时嘴里不要老是喷这么多唾沫，嘴角绝对不能有白沫--只有螃蟹才这样。同时，还要少带外地口音，不要把人说成银，不要把俞老师，说成玉老师，不要把王强说成王桥……这些关键性的词汇如果发音不准，同样会导致你人生考试不及格，因为它反映的是你的文化素质。 "最后，注意加强陶冶你的精神气质。精神气质如何陶冶--我不知道，它就像一个葡萄风干的过程，不知不觉Grape就变成了Raisin，这是一个潜移默化的长期过程。关键是要寻找一个环境，新东方当然是再好不过的环境，你要抓紧这个学习时间，彻底使自己发生一个质的转变。多少新东方老师，来之前都是你这样外地的土人，在新东方上过一次两次班之后，应聘新东方，经过培训和学生的考验，迅速成为新东方老师这样的牛人。有好几个青年教师，都是从教室管理员，变成了新东方著名老师。仇伍，只要你努力，你肯定也会成为一个新东方老师--甚至新东方聘你你还嫌弃呢。那时候，我来做你的中间人，保证让你的女友回心转意！"仇伍激动得满脸红光喷薄，站起来和我热烈握手，我发现他的个子至少有1.80米，加上粗犷的身躯和宽大的面孔，仇伍原来是个美男子！这样的美男子却惨遭淘汰，如同"小芳"惨遭回城知青淘汰一样，基本是一个性质：环境变化导致的文化淘汰。小芳如果在77、78年考上大学，说不定今天就是一个媒体名媛、管理硕女、百万富婆……仇伍如果变得像一个"新东方老师"，说不定是一个高学历的胡兵呢！ 他再次热烈和我握手告别。突然脸色又阴沉起来，庄严而凶恶地对我低语："有句话徐老师不知该说不该说？"我说你说吧，在我这里有话直说百无禁忌。 仇伍说："等我做到新东方老师的时候，也许我已经看不上她了呢--让她自个儿去哭吧！"仇伍甩甩他的大背头，雄赳赳，气昂昂，跨出新东方。