Chapter 6 Part A (Part 2) (Part 5-Part 6)

If going abroad for three months can get you a fat job, why do you have to suffer for eight years to get a doctorate and squeeze into a skinny job? on the water side Therapeutic Pharmacist's Prescription Newlyweds studying abroad A generation of women who do not study abroad "Harvard Girl" Li Feiya Possession of knowledge, beauty and wisdom, if not applied, not used, not used, no matter where you go to learn and no matter what you learn, is a crime against beauty, wisdom and youth. Case Tips: Le Yiyin, female, 25 years old, graduated from the English Department of Peking University, but at the instigation of relatives, she went to Japan to study Japanese and study for a master's degree in history.After returning to China three years later, seeing the successful achievements of my classmates and friends living a fulfilling life in China, I doubted my choice of studying in Japan.

What's wrong with Le Yiyin?Where did Le Yiyin go wrong? Jinghong Appears If the characters I write about are all beautiful women, please forgive my readers, because in New Oriental, all the boys I see are handsome, and all the girls are beautiful.At least, I have the ability to travel through time and space and see them in the future, each of them will be more charming and exciting, as long as they pursue themselves according to my life design.As far as human destiny is concerned, I can see your glorious future from your unfortunate today; I can also see your unfortunate past from your glorious present.When Yu Minhong complained in front of New Oriental students that he had never been in love at Peking University, the students felt his humor and charm, but what I saw was his loneliness and sadness in the past.Since Comrade Min Hong has such a past, what are the students afraid of?As long as people work hard, what realm can't be reached!

Therefore, when a person is slightly attractive, it will leave a deeper impression on me, and I will be excited for a long time when I think about it.Le Yiyin, who is studying in Japan, is such a beautiful girl. But when she met me in the summer of 2001, I could tell at a glance that this was a girl whose life had begun to shrink before it even opened up.Because, on her beautiful and charming face, it is full of mistakes and confusion.Of the four multiple-choice questions on the TOEFL test, one must be correct.But in Le Yiyin's eyes, I saw a terrible paleness that didn't even have a wrong answer.

"Mr. Xu, what do you think I should do?" This was Le Yiyin's opening remarks when he saw me. Le Yiyin graduated from the English Department of Peking University three years ago.After graduation, I went directly to Japan.I asked her why she went to Japan, and she said she had a relative there.I knew right away that the ending of her studying abroad must be very unfortunate: if studying abroad is such a major event that determines one's career future, if the reason is a relative, then the ending will definitely not be better than this relative.There is a reason to study abroad, and this reason must be one's own interests and pursuits.rather than relatives.If the relative who encourages you to go abroad is a single cousin or divorced uncle, the problem will be even more serious.

When Le Yiyin's classmates at Peking University devoted themselves to various industries that are booming in China, started their own life pursuits, or took advantage of their English expertise to go to the United States first, and began to climb their academic peaks, Le Yiyin went to Japan.What did you do in Japan?Of course, you must learn Japanese first.I asked Le Yiyin why he wanted to learn Japanese?She didn't have a clear answer to such an important question.After thinking about it, she told me: Since I am in Japan, I must learn the Japanese language.Le Yiyin's answer to such a major struggle of his own is that there is no reason.

After studying Japanese for more than a year, Le Yiyin must study for a degree.So at the age of 24, she applied to an unknown university in Japan and began to study for a master's degree in history.When I heard that she was studying history, my heart tightened.I asked: Why do you want to study history?Are you really so interested in the history of Japanese invasion of China and want to make a difference here in the future?Le Yiyin curled his lips and told me helplessly: Actually, he didn't think so deeply at that time.I just thought "since I came to Japan, I have to study in Japan, so as not to give up halfway", how can I be worthy of myself if I don't study a degree?How to explain to elders in hometown and alumni of Peking University alma mater?

At this time, I was fully aware of Le Yiyin’s life problems: if it was a mistake for her to go to Japan immediately after graduation to study Japanese for no reason, as a talented student in the English Department of Peking University, then two years later she would not study history aimlessly. Studying for a master's degree can be said to be more mistakes and worse.As far as her own career prospects are concerned, it is a further loss of the north after the south and the north. Dried fish The end of the 1990s was a once-in-a-lifetime golden age for the students of universities, especially the English departments of prestigious universities.The society's demand for English talents has reached the point of starvation.If someone thinks that English is just "a tool", then the market price of this "tool" has reached the highest level at this moment.Countless language students have found professional fields in which they can dedicate their whole lives and display their full talents in the fierce talent market.Success stories abound.Let me give you two seemingly inconspicuous stories: a friend of mine who studied languages ​​went to the All-China Women's Federation after graduation, and two years later, under the name of "researching women's issues in China", he was awarded a full scholarship from an American university. The United States; another friend of mine who studied languages ​​went to the All-China Women's Federation after graduation, and was awarded a full scholarship by the Stanford University Law School five years later to study the issues of Chinese women's labor legislation.

A drop of water meets the sea.The reason why I mentioned these two unexciting stories, which do not represent the best state, is to prove Le Yiyin’s failure from the negative side: if the work experience of a small employee in a domestic agency can become the runway and aviation for life to take off. If you talk about fuel oil, the beautiful and intelligent Le Yiyin (you can see it when she is in pain) gave up her major and her motherland to go to Japan after graduation, which is even more unreasonable, and it is a mistake, not beautiful. Nor is it a wise mistake. Three years later, Le Yiyin, who was lost in Japan, returned to Beijing for the first time.At this time, Beijing is very different from when she left.What shocked her the most was the change that happened to her classmates.Although they are not too rich, they have embarked on the road of gold mining; although their work is intense, their clear goals make them energetic and healthy; their dream is still to go abroad, but the purpose of going abroad has undergone fundamental changes: Using the professional experience accumulated in China as capital, go abroad to supplement the energy needed for acceleration.Busy, tense, full, excited, impulsive, crazy, specific... On the runway of the market economy, everyone is rushing towards the finish line.

Among the classmates she met, some became hosts, producers, and directors of TV stations; Logistics, Administration; there is a CCTV market research company doing ratings surveys, because of good English, he is often pulled by the leader to participate in joint venture negotiations with foreign media research companies, and now he has become an expert in this field; there is another classmate, everyone The loser who thought he could do nothing, actually worked as an English translator in a famous American law firm, with a monthly salary of more than 10,000 RMB.When old classmates got together, everyone was very excited and invited her to dinner and clubbing one after another, but everyone gave her the feeling that she was about to make an urgent appointment to complete the next major appointment.

What makes Le Yiyin the most unbearable is the confidence and happiness of the students in their own lives. Although many of them have clearly expressed their yearning and pursuit of going abroad, they all plan to go to the United States, Canada, the UK, Australia, New Zealand, and even Singapore for advanced studies, postgraduate studies, or degrees.Many of them have also finished TOEFL, GMAT, and GRE. Two classmates, including the buddy who works as a translator in a law firm, have taken the LSAT.People still have some kind of anxiety and panic about their future, but the busy years leave them no time to sigh, and the numerous opportunities leave them no time to feel bored and empty.

The place where the students feel full and proud becomes the place where Le Yiyin is lost in life.She finds herself standing on the edge of Japan's most modern expressway and subway, but has lost her way!What's next?Le Yiyin asked himself.At the age of 25, she will soon return to Japan to continue her master's degree.but why?Le Yiyin, who did not ask himself this question when he left China three years ago, can no longer avoid it at this moment. Le Yiyin finally understood that although happiness is an illusory word, the composition of happiness is very clear and quantifiable: one of the material components of happiness is to have a clear career goal. Without this career goal, life will be lost immediately. A reason for happiness, even if you marry Murdoch or Li Zekai.And those who have established their own career goals only need to devote their whole life to work hard for them! But Le Yiyin did not have this direction and goal.She originally thought that studying in Japan was a future in itself.From the envious eyes of her classmates and the blessings of her relatives, she seemed to see happiness.But this light of happiness is nothing but the reflection of the vulgar psychology of the petty bourgeoisie.This fleeting vanity is a wrinkle in a pool of spring water after she lost her beautiful youth for three years.When she returned to Beijing and tried to salvage what she had gained in the past three years in her memory, all she could grasp in her desperate mind were the sighs and regrets that were fragmented and could not make up a complete picture. Gentleman is good Twenty-five years old is a watershed in life.At this age, if you have found your own direction of struggle, your struggle will not be so empty and misty, but will be singing and sunny all the way-because he knows where his car of life is going.If at this time, you don't know what you want to do, what you love to do, and what you can do, your future may be dark and lurking like a storm.You have to wake yourself up from the nightmare: Where is my career?What do I do with my life? In the dead of night, Le Yiyin's sigh has been away from me for nearly half a year.Why is her arrival particularly memorable to me?I admit, it was because of Le Yiyin's beauty—the beauty she glimpsed when she appeared at the New Oriental Consulting Office.This condition would have brought her amazing career opportunities in China, making her a very outstanding and successful woman: she could be a TV host (beautiful and intelligent host, it seems that she has never been born, but in fact she was just born. Le Yiyin and the others went to Japan early!); she can be a senior assistant in a foreign company and quickly ascend to the corporate management stage to become another glamorous management woman; Instead of students, be an excellent lecturer in New Oriental.After working for three or four years, earn a lot of money, and then go to the United States to study an MBA, JD, or Master of Education like Qian Yongqiang, Wang Kunsong, and Zhang Xu, and then continue to display their talents and charms when they come back, and finally become a generation of arrogance in this new era . Sister, you go forward boldly—go forward, don’t look back, the road leading to the sky, nine hundred and ninety-nine!It's a pity that although I have such a song in my heart, I didn't show my voice to Sister Leyin.A sister who boldly walks her own path must have a path under her feet, and only when there is a path can she walk boldly.And Le Yiyin came to me precisely because he couldn't see the way.What can I do for her? Le Yiyin obviously ran aground.After going to Japan for three years, she wasted two of life's most precious but easiest-to-waste treasures: youth and beauty resources.The time of youth will cease to exist after the past, like birds singing in an empty mountain; beautiful resources, if not used, will fall into colorful colors, like Daiyu burying flowers. Le Yiyin's mistake was to go to Japan.I want to explain that studying in Japan itself is definitely not a mistake!I also have absolutely no disparaging meaning for studying in Japan.On the contrary, Japan was and will be an important destination country for Chinese students including New Oriental students to study abroad in the past.But the trip to Japan by Le Yiyin, an English graduate of Peking University, was a simple and absolute mistake.Her mistakes were in two aspects: first, she wasted all kinds of hot development opportunities in China; second, since she went to Japan, she didn't choose a career path that could be developed. The mistake of going to Japan is that I don't have a little vision and plan for life and youth.When she listened to her relatives and went to Japan three years ago, she never thought about what society she would live in three or five years later. "Going abroad" - just this magic word can reverse and distort Le Yiyin, as well as the steering wheel and compass in the hearts of many Chinese families and students for their future. In the past few years at the turn of the century, the changes that have taken place in Chinese society may be the most profound and extensive in history.In the upsurge of the Olympic Games and the WTO, China has finally moved from a closed society to an all-round open country.All life pursuits represented by "going abroad" and "studying abroad" in the past have already had alternative goals in China's own land!If in the past, many dreams of young people could only be realized by studying abroad and going abroad, China has provided more and more opportunities in recent years, allowing young people to stay in China and realize dreams that could only be realized by going abroad. .This is the most profound change in the field of studying abroad.This is the most amazing new idea of ​​studying abroad that Chinese society has produced.Le Yiyin happens to be the witness of this historical change, the luckiest beneficiary or the sad victim of this idea-it depends on how Le Yiyin views re-cutting her future and re-planning her future. In order to illustrate my thoughts, I would like to invite readers to review with me the earth-shaking changes in Chinese social values ​​in the past two decades, and to see how people's ideas ebb and flow with the changing times: 77, 78 In 1980, the Department of Mathematics of the Chinese Department of Peking University had the highest admission scores among all the departments, and the best students all went to these traditional liberal arts majors; in the mid-1980s, this highest score was quickly replaced by the international trade major; With the cooling of international trade majors, in the early 1990s, law and management became the most popular majors among college students; since the mid-1990s, with the rise of the new economy, Beijing University of Posts and Telecommunications has become one of the universities with the highest admission scores in the country.Chinese students and parents actually know best what is the future, what is the value, and what is really worth pursuing. Although what is being discussed here is the change in the professional status of university admissions, what determines this change is the change in demand in the professional talent market.The invisible hand determines the value and supply and demand of different majors in universities.Why not study abroad?Why do people study abroad?If it is not to find a good job and live a good life, why do you have to spend your life savings and spend half of your life in such a struggle? The sadness of Le Yiyin is that after studying hard in Japan for three years and wasting his youth on language and history, he suddenly found that there was no need to study in Japan at all.She should be a successful professional in all walks of life in China.Such opportunities in China have already been born, and such groups of people in China have already appeared.If she hadn't gone abroad three years ago, she would have been a host known by everyone in China, an expert admired by everyone in the industry, an excellent teacher admired by New Oriental students, and already earning more than 10,000 yuan in China Even higher, preparing for TOEFL and GMAT, dreaming of and very likely to enter Harvard Yale, an American university comparable to her alma mater, if... Le Yiyin's ifs can be many, many, Le Yiyin's "what ifs" are actually all It is the opportunity and necessity that she gave up, and it is the reality that her classmates are fulfilling.It is these fantastic realities that happened on Chinese soil and verified in her classmates that made Le Yiyin, who irresponsibly exiled herself to Japan three years ago, despair.Le Yiyin was neither happy nor chanting, let alone dared to think.She asked me, "Then what do you say?" I said without hesitation: "If I were you, I would return to China immediately. Suspend my studies immediately, put that master's degree in the Yasukuni Shrine, and return to China to start your career." "The reason why you went to Japan was a mistake, because your choice included all the stupid factors in the field of studying abroad: China is not worth working, the United States is not necessary to pursue, career is not necessary to consider, ability is not necessary to develop. Time can be wasted, Youth can be delayed. Going to Japan just to go to Japan turns studying abroad into exile. You are not even as good as those Shanghai people who go to Japan to work. Shanghai people go to Japan to work. It is not an unrespectable pursuit to take a dead body or let the dead body carry oneself on its back, sweep the floor and wash dishes in the kitchen or construction site, pull out the wheat, and work hard to earn a sum of money to return to Pudong to start a business and live a life! "But you are very suspicious when you go to Japan. It is a waste of time, energy, money, and beauty. A foreign language is a weapon in the struggle of life. But you already have the cruise missile of English, so there is no need to master Japanese. This human bomb. Unless you have a very strong plan and want to be a political strategist in the China-US-Japan triangle, it may be necessary to master these three languages. But I don’t think you have this plan, even if you have this plan I will I also advise you not to do it, because things like academics may not be suitable for you. "You have wasted the most precious three years of your life. I suggest you go back to China immediately, find a job you love most, start from scratch seriously, and treat yourself as a student who just graduated from university. Work hard for about three years , to become an expert in a certain industry. At that time, if this job has a very good development prospect, you should continue to do it and make a show, so that everyone who has gone abroad or not will envy your success; or , if you feel that your competitiveness is not enough to make you stand out from the crowd, then take a TOEFL or something and go to the United States or any developed country for further study. At present, you can only get out of your deepening life crisis by returning to your country immediately. "I know that the success of your classmates in China has deepened your sense of frustration and crisis, but here you have to pay attention to guarding against another trap: don't be tortured by other people's success, depressed by your own loss, Otherwise, the precious youth you have wasted will continue to be wasted. Everything is a mentality. It is still the same sentence I often say: treat yourself as if you are starting from scratch, and your future is still very great. After all, You've only been in Japan for three years, not thirteen or thirty. If that's the case, I can't help you." Le Yiyin was moved by my words.But it is obviously very difficult for her to give up her three years of language learning and life experience in Japan.I don't know what kind of unspeakable secrets she has in Japan, and I don't even think about it.It's like Lizhi Xiaoshan first gave people the illusion of infinite beauty in Fufeng, and then finally revealed that her husband's family abused her (and I firmly believe that there are many details of how her husband abused her that she will never share with everyone).You don't need to guess or think about things in the world at all, that's just what little people like to do, not me.I just look at the big picture.If Le Yiyin admits that China is a hot spot for her career development, then even if she had two illegitimate children in Japan, she should make arrangements to return to China immediately to start her career. "Students, everyone, get up and go to the battlefield of that career!" If he doesn't come back, what will happen to Le Yiyin?I am willing to be a fortune teller for everyone and predict her future.As I said, I can see people's futures: Le Yiyin returned to Japan to continue her master's degree.Another two years have passed, and at this time, she is already twenty-seven or eight years old!Twenty-seven and eight is another psychological barrier for modern women.At this age, she couldn't find her career self, and finally found that she couldn't enter the higher social class she longed to live in.Le Yiyin, unable to enter a higher social class, was forced by various pressures, and finally hastily found a man in the life circle from which she was leaving to marry.On the eve of the wedding, he repeatedly wanted to escape, but when the dawn appeared, he finally put on the wedding dress out of inertia.When she walked into the wedding hall, although the smile on her face was still beautiful, it was a mockery of her fate. In the blink of an eye, she saw that she was already in her thirties, and she originally wanted to pin her happiness on her children, but as an educated woman, she found that this was just a self-deceiving lie.She was depressed and sentimental, began drinking and wandering, looking for an affair, was beaten by her husband and beat her husband herself, divorced with hatred, crying single mother, forty-year-old divorced woman who was inseparable, looked for a lover on the Internet and found that the lover was a wanted man The serial murderer... Later she came to me and said that she regretted not listening to me at the beginning, and should not continue to go back there to study that useless master's degree.I said that my value lies in pointing out the direction of your life in reverse regardless of what other people say and think.Even if I'm the only one in the whole world to guide you like this, you should do as I do.As I was talking, I cried myself, because I seemed to see: 40-year-old Le Yiyin was wiping tears gracefully and sadly with a handkerchief, explaining to Mr. Matsuda of the Tokyo Metropolitan Police Department how to know the murderer. The detailed process of the crime... I support Le Yiyin's return.I long for her to come back immediately.I know that if Le Yiyin comes back, he will be like a fish entering the water, and he will quickly and smoothly find a career direction that he can fight for all his life. I would like to declare again that the topic I am discussing here is not political or even more non-ethnic, but purely a "regional talent economy issue".That is, where can a person like Le Yiyin display her greatest value and find her best future? wait for it More than a month later, I met a friend in Beijing. He also graduated from the English Department of Peking University and did quite well in CCTV.I talked to him about Le Yiyin, and this friend happened to know her.After hearing me tell you about Le Yiyin's recent situation, he pondered for a while.Then he said: When Le Yiyin was at Peking University, he used to be the host and producer of Peking University's cable TV, and became popular at Peking University.When she went to Japan, many people felt sorry for her.In fact, if she chooses Phoenix Satellite TV, China Central Television or even Sunshine Satellite TV, she will definitely rise up in the country quickly like Chen Luyu and Xu Gehui, and become a successful spokesperson of this era.But I didn't expect it to be mixed like this. The two of us were speechless, brooding over the sacrifice of a female genius. Is Le Yiyin back yet?I hope she has come back.The spiritually withered flower, in the instant rain of career, will instantly regain her bright brilliance and the beauty of life. ◎Comment by Yu Minhong Two days ago I read an investigative report from the newspaper, investigating the story of two college female dormitories: one dormitory is full of beautiful women, and the other dormitory is full of ugly women.The dormitory of beauties is full of people every day, while the ugly ones lead a quiet and lonely life.Through the investigation, it was found that ten years after they graduated from college, the lives of all the beauties were relatively unsatisfactory, either they were divorced, or prematurely haggard, or their husbands were worthless, drinking and fighting...and vice versa The classmates in the ugly girl's dormitory are all living a very happy life. Many of their husbands are scientific experts and even rich men. The story is that many people think that they are born with good conditions, and often live in a grandiose mood, predicting the future, so their lives are prone to shortfalls.Others are more responsible, treat the opportunities in life with a peaceful mind, grasp the opportunities, and work hard to achieve this goal in a down-to-earth manner. This is the most basic guarantee for success. Now turn around and talk about music.In my opinion, her mistake is: just to go abroad, she cut off the context of her life and disrupted her own way forward.What do English department students go to Japan for?When she went there, she had to change the language system first, and any change in the language system would take a lot of precious time.Switching to another language system, unless you have a really convincing reason, is a waste of life.If Le Yiyin can use this time to establish her own career system, she will definitely become an admirable white-collar beauty.Without a clear career goal, the second mistake Le Yiyin made was going abroad blindly.She fell into the worst study abroad trap: studying abroad for the sake of studying abroad.I believe that the reason behind her going to Japan is that she regards going abroad as a career in itself, which is the unconsciousness of going abroad. Going abroad itself is never the goal of life, but just a way station leading to a brilliant life.Therefore, although Le Yiyin realized her dream of studying abroad, when she returned to China and saw her classmates happily struggling towards her goal, she must feel empty and lost.Looking forward, she still has no goals in her life, and if she goes to Japan, she may continue to spend her youth struggling for the most basic needs of life, mingling in the bottom society of Japan.And if she has been in China, she is already a high-level person, and she is an outstanding person at the highest level.Comparing the two extremes, her final result is inevitable.Simply put, Le Yiyin must come back immediately. Plus, I love those little titles.Especially the last one: "This situation can be waited for".Very poetic and philosophical.My understanding of this subtitle is: this situation can be waited for, and there is still time to return to China.Le Yiyin must not let this youth become a memory, otherwise, her life will be in vain. From Jinggangshan to Yan'an, the plane only takes about an hour.If the Red Army had planes back then, there would be no need for the tragic Long March.The struggle in life is also the same: If you can get a fat job after going abroad for three months, why do you have to suffer for eight years to get a doctorate and squeeze into a skinny job?Struggle requires spirit, ideals and lofty goals.What is also important is that struggle must also talk about benefits, skills, and shortcuts.Struggle in life also requires "three stresses"! Case Tips: He Naiwu, thirty years old, graduated from a university in Northwest China majoring in pharmacy, and worked as a pharmacist in a state-run hospital pharmacy for eight years.His plan to study abroad is to spend another eight years in the United States to study for a master's degree, and he doesn't know where and what to do after he completes his studies. Let's see how Xu Xiaoping criticizes this not only frustrating, but also infuriating study abroad program. sympathetic situation If He Naiwu came to you before seeing me, you would definitely not like him. You don't like He Naiwu, not because he is only 1.60 meters tall and not tall; nor is it because he is dressed indecently and is too dirty; it is not because he looks poor and shabby. You don't like him because of his mental state.His mental state is sluggish, negative and low, and he has suffered a complete defeat, just like Milu's former Chinese football team.He walked into my office and that's what I felt like a total loser.This made me feel extremely depressed.I wanted to punch him twice, bang bang, bang bang, bang bang, bang bang, bang bang, bang bang bang bang bang bang bang bang bang bang bang bang bang bang bang bang bang bang bang bang bang bang bang bang bang bang bang bang bang bang bang bang bang bang bang bang bang bangBut I didn't touch him.I am not afraid that if I hit him he will fight back angrily, what I am afraid of is that he will definitely not make any resistance and reaction, then I will not be able to step down! The heart dies before the ambition is paid, which often makes Xiaoping cry. He Naiwu is thirty years old this year. He graduated from a medical school in Northwest China, majoring in pharmacy, the kind of major that trains pharmacists.After graduation, I was assigned to a hospital pharmacy, where I worked for seven or eight years.During this period, he became a skilled pharmacist.The salary rose from 300 RMB a month to 1500 RMB. "There are already a lot in our place." He Naiwu told me proudly, he was very satisfied. He Naiwu was able to arouse my passion for him because I found that he was very poor and had no financial ability to go abroad.Poor at the dispensary of the National Hospital, the man was too pure if not too stupid.He Naiwu is exactly the kind of person who is too pure. He never thought of using his power to make money.So, He Naiwu is thirty years old and doesn't have a girlfriend yet. No money, no honey.You can live without honey, but how can you live without a girlfriend?I can't see my students are thirty years old and still have trouble with themselves.But He Naiwu is obviously experiencing life by loving himself.On his face, there is no reflection of the brilliance of female love and sex at all.Instead, full of ashes that extinguish the fires of their own passions. At the age of thirty, He Naiwu looked back on his life and felt that it could not go on like this.So, after eating one or two mutton steamed buns, he decided to come to Beijing to seek development.What attracted him to Beijing City was this place called New Oriental. frustrating plan His terrible living situation is the reason why he insisted on looking for me.He asked me to make an analysis of his study abroad plan and give him some "encouragement".Because, although he didn't express it clearly in front of me, I know that he is actually full of deep frustration about his future, and he doesn't know where he is going.There are so many medicines in pharmacies all over the world, but they can't find a good prescription for his future problems. He told me that his plan is: study English in New Oriental for one or two years, pass TOEFL and GRE, and then study abroad in the United States. "I know that it is difficult to get a pharmacist's license when I go to the United States with my major, so I can only study pharmaceutical chemistry and switch to research. First I will study for a master's degree in two or three years, then I will do a doctorate in four or five years, and then I will work as a researcher in a research institution. , to develop new drugs." After He Naiwu finished talking about his plan to study abroad, he waited for my reaction.In his eyes, there are pride, confidence, challenges, expectations and imperceptible anxiety.At this moment, I saw He Naiwu's true self of an intellectual in the depths of his heart: pursuing knowledge, pursuing infinity, and willing to abuse life and murder youth for the infinity of knowledge anytime and anywhere. I asked, "Do you want to hear me tell the truth?" He Naiwu said, "I'm here to listen to your truth." I said, "Your plan makes me feel sour. It's so bad. Frankly speaking, this plan is bullshit." He Naiwu's face was pale, but he still listened carefully to my ruthless sentence on his study plan. An impoverished future So I said: "Your study abroad plan is one of the most dogmatic, conservative, least creative, least poetic, and most frustrating martyrdom plans for studying abroad fetishism. "You are 30 years old, and you don't have a girlfriend, let alone sex life, life has not yet begun, but you want to use the crooked idea of ​​studying abroad to further block it. "Imagine, according to this plan, if you can go out in the fall of 2003 (when I talked to him, it was October 2001), you will be Amitabha. What's more, in the next two years, you will have to go to the United States for TOEFL and GRE. The admission level of general schools is actually very difficult. Difficulty is risk. How can you guarantee that you will be able to get the admission scholarship and damn visa from American universities in 2003? Can you guarantee it? Without scholarship, you What should I go out to read? The era of studying while working is an inhuman era in which you torture yourself, which is no longer suitable for the Chinese people. When the motherland has no way out, people can only do this; when the motherland no longer needs you like this People can't hold on when they're abusing themselves." He Naiwu stared at me with wide eyes. I couldn't figure out what kind of expression this was. Is it the determination to see death as home, or the blankness of ignorance?I have no idea.But I still remember his big innocent and lifeless eyes. "If everything goes well for you and you go to the United States in the fall of 2003, according to this study plan, you will not be able to get a doctorate within five years. If you can't get a doctorate—this doctorate must be a degree from a prestigious school—you will It's hard to find a job. Can't find a job, Dr. He Naiwu, and can only work as a postdoc in a Chinese restaurant or McDonald's. This is your life for the next seven or eight years. "Let's take a step back. Suppose you get a Ph.D. and successfully get a very exciting job, such as going to Pfizer to develop the next generation of Viagra, with an annual salary of 80,000 US dollars. But have you ever thought about when is this time? "This is the era when China has successfully hosted the greatest Olympic Games in history. This is the era when China has passed the most difficult moment of reform and opening up and entered a new historical period and is advancing further towards the great rejuvenation of the Chinese nation. This is the era when the Chinese middle class has already The moment of rapid rise, great improvement of social civilization, and rich life of the people. Your little salary and achievements can no longer arouse any interest in the Chinese people, especially the Chinese successful people with the same education and experience as you - said不定连找对象都难。换句话说，你会发现你花费半生精力所追求的目标在中国人心中其实已是昨日黄花、价值暴跌了。这个时候，你的人生支柱就会腐朽崩溃，精神就会重新陷入今天这种沮丧：早知未来，何必今日啊！八年抗战，却没打着日本鬼子，没有摘到胜利的桃子，冤枉埃“再退一步讲，即使你得到工作，得到成功，得到满足，甚至得到人们的羡慕和赞美，精神也非常充实，但是你有没有想过这个时候你多大了？你已经三十八岁了，如果生日早的话按照虚岁说，已经四十了。人家四十不惑，你才四十而立，也许会令你陷入黑暗的困惑年代呢！ “四十岁，回首往事，你会看到，你的前半生在孤独压抑中度过。要知道，四十年，将近小半个世纪呢！小半个世纪就在煎熬和苦难中度过，简直是对于奋斗人生极大的讽刺。要欢乐，不要苦难！这应该是我们这个时代奋斗者的最强音！ “我知道你在奋斗成功之前不考虑结婚。结婚和爱情，是两回事。孔子说'不孝有三，无后为大'，我并不同意。但我认为，最大的不孝不是没有后代，而是没有当代——天天虚度今日的生活，总把幸福寄托在明天，但明天永远不会到来。如果你自己活着就如此折磨和摧残自己，你的孩子为什么要降生呢？ “奋斗很可贵，但是杜绝了爱情的奋斗生活，算是怎样的人生啊！你的奋斗，什么都考虑到了，就是没有考虑一点：奋斗是为了幸福生活，拿幸福生活做赌注的奋斗，其实是赌博，而不是奋斗。赌博是恶习。所以你这种奋斗方式，与其说是追求，不如说是失足。你是一个经典的留学失足青年。” 柳暗花明的探索 何乃悟有什么出路？为了帮助他，我从他的同学的现状问起，慢慢找到了他的人生突破口。 何乃悟的同学，有在国家医院药房吃回扣吃得脑满肠肥的。何乃悟说他并不羡慕。“因为有两个人因为吃回扣太多进了监狱。”我说我也不羡慕。 还有的同学毕业工作两年之后又进了学校去读硕士和博士的，现在在大学里教书在研究所里搞开发，他说他不喜欢学术，所以也不羡慕。我说我也不羡慕。 也有同学，在医疗管理部门做到科长处长的，“手上有点小权，比处方权还要管用呢。”但做官并非何乃悟的长项，也不是他的兴趣。我说我也没兴趣。 又有同学，毕业后干了两年，发现什么出路也没有，于是赶紧加入一些私营和外企的医药公司去做药品营销，几年下来，好几个发了不大不小的财。 我说这不是挺好的吗。但是何乃悟叹了口气说：“我并没有那种搞经营的能力啊，把假药说成仙丹，把石头说得点头，我缺少这个能力。徐老师你不是说'选择前途和事业要因人制宜、发挥每个人的特长吗'？我没有这方面的特长。” 我说：“那你的特长是什么呢？除了你刚才想做但你却并不喜欢的研究工作之外？”问完这句话，我感到悲哀。因为我觉得何乃悟这样的朋友，可能是生活无奈的失败者。大浪淘沙，人类社会总是会有一些人成功，一些人失败。何乃悟可能就是一个注定的失败者吧。我的心，等待着迎接伤悲。 何乃悟想了想：“我没有什么特长，还真的没有。” 看着他那副脊梁骨断裂的无赖的样子，我想哭。因为一时间我想起了我的儿子。我的儿子七岁的时候在加拿大读小学，一天在送他上学路上我说：“儿子，你要为你自己自豪啊！” 儿子说：“我没有什么可自豪的。” 我心里非常悲伤。想想也许儿子是对的。我想自杀。但是想想老子虽然没出息但是不能让儿子看出来呀！我憋足了气对他说：“儿子，你当然有太多的东西可自豪啦！妈的，比如说，你会说两种语言。英语是世界上使用国家最多的语言，中文是世界上使用人口最多的语言。两大语言王国为你一个人掌控之中，想想，你多厉害！” 儿子看着我，激动得脸都红了。从此，他心里对自己充满了自豪感。今天的他，十二岁提前进入了青春期，已经长成一个自信的、性感的，既不爱理睬我也不爱听我说教的少年了(而且我自认为他很英俊)。 何乃悟今年三十，但是他的精神状态，连一个七岁的儿童还不如呢。中国的教育，背负着五千年伟大的精神文明，怎么培养出了这样的孩子！ “自信——自尊——自爱……” 我听见，一头野狼在旷野里奔走呼嗥；我看见，这头野狼就是我。 云开雾出的前程 我知道，天生我材必有用。上帝创造了何乃悟，必然有何乃悟的作用，他一定能够在中国社会找到他的生存、用武和做爱之地。他的惟一的问题，在于他自己对自己封闭了各种可能性，把读博士当作惟一的价值追求。他的问题，其实还是学位本位主义和知识本位主义的罪过。 我说：“你的同学，到底还有一些其他什么人值得你提一提的呢？比如，有没有自己开药房，卖假药的？” “还真有一个，他后来去了东北沈阳，那里下岗职工多，心情不好的多，求医吃药的就也多。他在那里开了两个药房，还真的赚了不少钱。” 我问：“到底有多少钱呢？比你的工资多多少？” 他说：“具体不知道。但最近我听说一个消息，他的老婆，也是我们同学，最近被他送到澳大利亚读书去了，都是他卖药赚来的钱。而且据说他自己也准备明年夏天走人。最近正在找人替他打点他的药店呢。”何乃悟在谈到这个同学的时候，眼睛里不断流露出一种不屑的神情。 我真的不理解，为什么他会对此如此不屑。而我听到这里不禁眼睛一亮。虽然我不认识假药真药，在这个地方不如何乃悟，但是，我知道什么是假的人生目标什么是真的人生目标；我知道什么是生命砒霜什么是青春甘露。 我知道，何乃悟得救了，何乃悟有福了！ 我说：“你在医院药房做药剂师，到底做了几年？” 何乃悟说：“我大学毕业后就一直在药房，做了整整八年！” 我说：“在医院药房做，比起私人药店做药剂师，在专业技术上有什么不同吗？” 何乃悟想了想：“没有什么不同。顶多私人药房为了声誉，对客人必须要更诚实一点。” 我说：“你知道在国外药房经理本人必须是药剂师吗？” 何乃悟很自信地说：“知道！在中国也一样”。 我双手击十，大声对他说：“祝贺你！你的前途问题彻底解决了！” So I said: “你在药房做了八年药剂师，知道这是什么概念吗？抗日战争，不过也就是八年。而你刚才的留学计划，也需要整整八年。但是，去美国留学，你要从头来起，残酷的战斗在后面；而作为一个成熟、成功、有娴熟行业经验的药剂师，你已经完成了这个人生搏斗！已经完成了这个人生的积累！你已经成为这个领域里面顶尖的专业人才——怎么不是顶尖人才？说到底，药剂师不是什么需要灵感和天才创造力的职业，这是一种学而知之的专业。你已经'学而'，而且已经'知之'。你现在要做的是，不是把这个宝贵人生积累束之高阁，明珠暗投，捧着金盆要饭；你要做的，是迅速找一个药房平台，把你过去八年积累起来的工作经验，兑换成人生财富，兑换成女朋友，兑换成贫穷的何乃悟富有的幸福生活(这是我和何乃悟谈话时，念念不忘的主题)。 “这个平台已经存在，已经有人在那里淘金。就是你说的这个同学。你的同学已经在中国实践了西方社会药剂师们最梦想的成功人生——自己拥有自己的药店——而你，却看不起同学的成功，看不到这个同学的成功对于你们这个行业未来的象征意义。 “今日中国，什么行业都在改革。医疗制度肯定也要发生彻底变化。这个变化已经在许多牵涉面比较简单的地方开始了。比如，北京已经出现了许多本质上是私人性质的牙医诊所，中国的医生，至少从牙齿开始，已经有了自己做自己的主人、自己为自己挣钱并且成为富有阶级的先驱了。药房肯定是下一个改革目标。私人开设药房的事情，在中国肯定已经出现了。而你这样有经验的药剂师，将是这些第一批新开幕型药房里发财致富的新贵族埃“贫穷不是社会主义，改行不是中国医生惟一的致富之路，吃回扣不是中国药剂师惟一获得令妻儿尊敬的卑鄙手段。医疗制度的改革，将给你们这样受过高等教育的医疗工作者，带来空前的机会。而目前这个时机，正是那些有先见之明的人、那些摆脱了传统思维的人获得历史成功的时刻、那些敢第一个吃着螃蟹开药房的人！ “你该怎么办？我告诉你怎么办？立即回去，和你的医院办理辞职手续，或者手续也不用办了，直接到北京找一家药房，从一个最基本的药剂师干起。你肯定能够在北京找到这样的工作。 “中国加入WTO之后，国外的医药零售业将大规模进入中国。洋药房一旦进入中国，就会像无数行业里发生的事情那样，迅速占领这个市常占领市场，意味着洋药房将需要无数像你这样有经验的药剂师。走这条道路，不用说，你的生活马上就会发生变化，你的爱情生活，马上就会丰富起来。和你追求的八年留学长征对比，那是自戕，这是新生；那是达摩面壁，却怎么也创造不了一个少林寺；这是放下博士梦，立地成家。 “如果你觉得北京无法生存，我先不责备你没有生存能力。你不妨去沈阳找你那个开了两个药房的同学，既然他的太太去澳大利亚，他自己显然很快也要随行。说不定他的整个药房生意会托付给你呢。同学嘛，这是你最了不起的社会资源。 “除非你疯了，你才会不听我的，继续在你的牛角尖里翻滚。” 幸福如雨的人生 为了进一步激励何乃悟的情绪，我就把他的幸福生活做了进一步的描述：我说：“你马上就给我到北京街头，去找那些药店，只要不是国营的，什么都可以做。找一份工作，工资怎么低也都接受。在那里好好干，把工作当作托福GRE来攻克，简直是简单快乐到了极点啊！恭喜恭喜。 “药房的灵魂是药剂师。按照西方那种敬业精神来做，不用几个月，老板就会离不开你，就会重用你，就会给你涨工资。但是无论工资怎么涨，也难以留住新的工作机会比感冒药种类还多的你。这个时候，你就可以和老板谈价钱了。你的价值，顿时就在人才市场得到了确认和证明！这是知识的证明埃恭喜恭喜。 “如果老板想把店开好，他就必须给你股份和提成。慢慢的，老板就退居二线了，你就可以好好来经营这个店，成为股东和专家两种身份的人。或许你的老板会把管理的事情交给你，自己去一家一家地开新的分店，而你呢，则一个一个地帮助他经营。个人事业就起来啦！恭喜恭喜。 “如果这个前景一下子还不属于你，那也不要紧。药店干了一年两年，你肯定比现在有钱，说不定手头已经有个十万八万的。金钱就是力量！你可以用这个钱开通出国留学的道路。这样的好处是，用工作挣钱的方式，走上出国阳关大道，而不是通过清苦拼搏，冲击华山小道。恭喜恭喜。 “假如留学是提升你人生的惟一通道的话，那么最最重要的，依然要记住一个核心主题：留学到底学什么东西？在我看来，你出国根本不要读硕士博士，走科研这条路——这条路上，有太多北大、北医、协和医科大学的人在哈佛、耶鲁、霍普金斯大学拼诺贝尔奖呢，根本不需要你。你应该根据你的特点进行选择——你的特点是实用药剂学、实用药房学、实用回扣学。出国学与这个相关的专业，也就是药店管理专业。这个专业，起码有两个好处：一是学这个专业的人肯定很少很少；二是学成之后，中国社会对你的需求却很大很大，你的前途，就会一路高歌一路黄金的。恭喜恭喜。 “学药店管理的话，我还有绝妙的主意：你根本没有必要去读什么本科或者硕士的学位。其实只要上个那种经理速成班就可以啦。我并不知道美国到底有没有这样的班，但我可以肯定，英国加拿大澳大利亚新西兰这些国家的社区学院里面，肯定有相关的专门为药店管理开设的证书课程——只要你自己去寻找相关信息，肯定可以找到。找到这样的证书课程，学习时间是在半年到一年之间，用自己挣来的钱出去读一下就回来。这个时候，Bingo！(游戏用语：得！)国外大的药店连锁店正好在中国搜寻既有中国药剂师资格，又有西方药房管理证书的人，你说不定就会做他们中国地区的首席代表呢。年薪不多，至少也有个十万八万美元！ “这个时候，你会有多少女朋友啊！好几个加盟药房老板的女儿，都对你含情脉脉，虎视眈眈。恭喜恭喜！” 三十岁并且禁欲的单身汉何乃悟，脸上露出了灿烂的笑容，好像刚刚被Kiss过的样子。他的初吻，即将发生！而不再需要等待八年了。 “瞧！这就是你的前途和人生。达到这一步，你其实只需要两三年的时间。而且在这个奋斗过程中，你过的是何乃悟的幸福生活。你的前途操纵在你自己的手里，你自己控制着自己的命脉，你自己制造着自己的欢乐，而不用在留学长征路上，做一个牺牲品。” 高大魁梧的新人 何乃悟高兴地站起身来向我告别。短短一个小时的谈话，他完全变了。他从一个绝望的奋斗者，一个把生命放在八年后作世纪豪赌而很可能输光、把所有的幸福生活寄托在幻想世界里的失败者，变成一个气宇轩昂的高级白领阶级，高级中产阶级，高级专业阶级。 而我给他的药方，其实根本不是什么秘方，只是一个核心成分是人才价值新思维的一个解药。这个解药，解除的，是留学拜物教对他的麻痹；这个解药，解放的，是他捕捉人才市场机会的欲念。社会上有那么多新的行业在滚滚而来，而我们的青年却为自己无用的教育在默默哭泣。擦干眼泪，他们决心豁出去奋斗的计划，往往还是建筑在过去那无用的教育给予他们的无用的价值观之上。他们奋斗到尽头获得的，还是那种无用的价值和空洞的目标。以无用追无用，得到的永远是无用。而无用的奋斗和奋斗的无用之中，多少火热的生命被窒息，有多少美好的青春被废弃。多少何乃悟，只能无奈何。 他走出了我的办公室。我看见，他去迎接WTO的曙光，他去拥抱爆发的商机冲击波，他卷起了袖子，要去和未来的火热的生活疯狂做爱。 我欣慰地看着他一米六零的身躯慢慢离我远去，每走一步，都显得高大魁伟一分。驱除了他心中奋斗的迷雾，何乃悟瞬间变成了新人！ 我感动得热泪盈眶。 ◎Comment by Yu Minhong 我看了何乃悟的故事，开始挺压抑，但是到后来就感到欢快。因为按照他原来的设计，他的人生是没有希望的。而徐小平给他的设计，轻快明亮，迅速有效，可以把他迅速救出所谓“奋斗”的火坑。 我最担心的是何乃悟这样人，他们往往把绝望当成了希望。新东方提倡“在绝望中寻找希望”，但是绝望不能产生希望，只有希望才能带来希望。而这个希望的核心，就是奋斗的目的性、奋斗的方向性、奋斗的价值性。徐小平给他带来的，实际就是这个正确的价值观。 培根说“知识就是力量”，我觉得这个说法在现在，特别是针对中国人心态应该有一个新的发展：是否应该提出“知识就是就业，就业就是力量”，或者“知识就是财富，财富就是力量”？其实，我甚至想说：知识不是力量，就业才是力量！ 中国学生最大的问题，不是知识不够，而是运用知识去为自己谋幸福的能力不够，甚至完全没有。何乃悟就是这么一个典型。很多人拥有了非常多的知识，但是在现实中完全不知道怎么去运用，怎么去把它变成幸福人生所需要的就业机会、创业机会和生存机会，以至于有的人甚至根本就不知道自己拥有这种能力。与现实生活脱节，与人生目的脱节，是中国教育最大的问题之一，也是中国学生最可悲的问题之一。 世界上有两种人最可悲：第一种人从来没有能力，连最基本的劳动能力都没有，只是行尸走肉；第二种人通常拥有这种能力，但完全不知道自己有这种能力，他们是同样可悲的。 何乃悟是第二种人。他有知识，有经验，但他找不到自己，他的知识和经验他不会用。他缺少的是把知识和经验“变现”的意识和能力。 出国的或不出国的最终目的是什么？是为了你能够富足、自由、幸福、快乐地生活。从这个目的看，有多少留学生在国外不快乐，有多少不留学的学生在国内十分快乐，道理很简单，关键是看你自己想要什么。也就是说，你的价值观和幸福观是什么？幸福的人生包含这么几个东西，好的教育，好的职业，好的家庭。但是何乃悟在得到了好的教育之后，恰恰没有顺着这个道路去追求：追求好的职业，追求爱情与爱情的果实——家庭，却要把自己的未来投入新的知识和新学位。这实际上是整个留学集体无意识的集中体现，造成了对现实生命的践踏，否决了奋斗的真正价值和留学的真正目的。更不可原谅的是，他还沉迷于其中，居然还为之骄傲！ 何乃悟应该按照你的去做！