Chapter 33 Part Five: Killing the Ideological Enemy

Press: This is my paragraph-by-paragraph review of a letter from a reader.This reader's letter fully described several major setbacks in his 25 years of life in study, employment, and love.Out of a passionate concern for the fate of this reader, I have carefully analyzed and responded to her letter.Here is my complete paragraph-by-paragraph answer to her letter. In order to maintain the integrity and authenticity of the letter, so as to make this communication more shocking, I have not changed a word of the original text of the letter (except for the reader's personal information and privacy), and I have not even changed the words that praised me! Although I really don't want to use the reader's mouth to praise myself-because I always praise myself!

I love praise, who am I afraid of? Xu Xiaoping foreword I can't live without my computer.I can live a happy life without reading Chairman Mao’s works for a day, but it’s really hard for me to live a day without turning on the computer to read news, read emails, write diaries, and correspond with readers. One day I turned on the computer and found that the screen was full of garbled characters.All files, all the wonderful articles I wrote can't be opened, and the not-so-excellent articles I can't open!I urgently called a computer expert, he fiddled a little bit, and said: Your computer is not a big problem, it is just infected with a lot of viruses.Antivirus is needed!Just stop looking at pornographic websites in the future.

I don't understand the relationship between viruses and pornography.But I also didn't refute his framing of me, because my computer quickly returned to normal.The expert (actually a 20-year-old boy) smiled and said to me contemptuously before leaving: "Mr. Xu, your computer has been infected with seven kinds of viruses, and more than 500 files have been infected. All of them have been investigated and dealt with by anti-virus software. And kill it completely." "So, your computer can now work normally!" A few days later, when I used my virus-eliminated computer to read a letter from a reader named Tan Juyun, I was surprised to find that it turned out that Human minds can also be infected with viruses, and these viruses are so serious that they have and continue to destroy the soul and conscience of the reader Tan Juyun, causing her to suffer from serious illnesses one after another, making her life unable to function and save herself.

I want to kill her!Even that 20-year-old computer expert can save my computer. Can't I, a consulting expert who is more than twice his age, antivirus for my students? Thinking of this, I can't help but get excited.Because I remembered an advertisement on CCTV many years ago, my heart was immediately filled with pride. This is a pesticide advertisement. At the beginning, a group of plant pests took a spacewalk and proudly sang: "We are pests, we are pests." Singing: "The enemy of justice kills, the enemy of justice kills, the pests must be wiped out, wipe out!" Raise the enemy of thought to kill, kill the virus, kill the virus!Let life run normally like a computer!

I found that I became the enemy of thought virus; I admit that I am full of sense of responsibility and mission to eliminate thought virus for my readers! 1. The first paragraph of Tan Juyun's letter I really got to know you after reading your "Tuqiong Dialogue".Forgive my ignorance.If I could have known you earlier, I think I would be another me.Yes, I, like everyone who comes to you, have lost my way along the way.What's more frightening is that I lost my self-confidence, I didn't trust myself, and even more so, I didn't trust others.I often feel tired and exhausted. I need someone to talk to. I need someone to tell me that the world is actually a beautiful place.Just when I was reading your "Tuqiong Dialogue", I cried, it was tears of joy, I think I can still be saved.Because in this world, there is still the most sincere care, the most honest heart, and love.That is the most selfless and broad love.

I have never received my readers' compliments with great joy and guilt.Joy, because the reader's feelings are real.Guilt, because the readers who react more strongly to my works are actually the ones who need my help the more.And I really can't see every friend, so I feel guilty.Including Ms. Tan Juyun, who I care deeply about. It is precisely because of this kind of compensation for guilt that I am writing this lengthy letter to Tan Juyun.Ordinary readers may not be interested in you, but as long as Tan Juyun feels useful after reading it—even if she feels rejected or disgusted—because rejection and disgust are also a kind of utility, proving that I can’t help her—I am satisfied.After all, radishes and vegetables, everyone has their own love; life consultation, how can there be no magic?

I am thrilled by Tan Juyun's trust in me.Being able to be trusted and wanted, I think this is the best moment of my life!So, for Tan Juyun’s happiness, I can kneel in front of Tan Juyun—since Song Chuyu can kneel in front of citizens for the sake of votes, why can’t Xu Xiaoping kneel for the happiness of readers? --I just hope she can accept my criticism and understand why her life has come to this point! 2. The second paragraph of Tan Juyun's letter One of the thought viruses: Blind pursuit of love without impurities Teacher Xu, in my eyes, you are not only a respectable elder and a wise man, but also a heart-to-heart friend.Can you answer my two questions honestly?As a man, what do you think is the most precious thing in this world?do you love your wifeAre you faithful in your marriage?Forgive me for taking the liberty of asking you these two questions.You might think of me as someone who gets hurt emotionally and then denies everything.Yes, I was hurt, but I still have love in my heart.As a woman, I think the most precious thing in the world is feelings.Love without impurities is more precious than health, wealth, and status.But what is the shortest and most fragile thing in the world?is love.If you say you love your wife, I believe, after all, there are many kinds of love.If you say you are faithful to your marriage, I also believe it. After all, there are many kinds of faithfulness, spiritual or physical?I used to think that there were differences between men, just as there were differences between women.A real man doesn't have to be rich or have a lot of status.But he was hardworking, brave, honest, and caring.This is a perfect person.But Mr. Xu, there are fewer and fewer people like this in the real world.If one day you meet such a person like me, you will be as happy and cherished as I am, right?

Is there love without impurities in the world?There is no love without impurities in the world!Romeo and Juliet's love may be immaculate, but their respective family backgrounds have serious impurities.The impurity of their family's hatred for generations is actually the inherent impurity in Romeo and Juliet's love, which makes them finally have to end this impurity-free love with death. Therefore, the love of Romeo and Juliet is a love with impurities.Although this impurity is not in their eyes, it is inherited in their blood. Who can say that the imprint of the family, the fate of the blood, and the tradition of the elders have nothing to do with your life (including love life, of course)?Individuals can struggle to change their destiny, but the despair of a prince is to surpass the personal dignity of the prince; the anger of a beggar is to get rid of the stomach complaints of generations of hunger.Although the instant satisfaction they get is the same from the perspective of human spirit, fate has destined that the premise and target of their satisfaction are different.People in love can fantasize wishfully, but in the end they still cannot get rid of many "impurities" that affect the purity of love.

At the beginning of youth, when the love is first opened, God sent someone to put a few drops of love eye drops in your eyes. When we see anyone, as long as he or she happens to have been given eye drops just now, that is love!So everyone loves muddleheadedly, loves hard, loves three times a day (or more!), loves rocks and seas dry up. Different age groups, there are tasks for different age groups.Twenty-five years old, are you still pure?If you, a mature person who already understands "a married man cannot love" and "a friend can't be bullied", if you still fantasize and admire "love without impurities", you should criticize it!

Let's take a look at another couple of Chinese love classics: The beautiful love between Liang Shanbo and Zhu Yingtai has almost no impurities.There is no feud between the two of them at all, they are classmates and friends. In this love relationship, they didn’t even have a sexual element at the beginning. What they had was just classmates. The British girl who disguised herself as a man revealed a homosexual orientation.This is simply Plato's pure spiritual love, and Shakespeare's supreme same-sex friendship. It stands to reason that this pair of lovers can be happily married.But the orders of the parents and the words of the matchmaker have become insurmountable impurities between Liang and Zhu, not only impurities, but rolling filth.In the end, they can only dance in the sky, leaving countless grudges to the world.

In Lu Xun's novel, is there any impurity in the love between Zijun and Juansheng?Are there no impurities?They are true modern love, free love.Their love was not interfered by family hatred or obstructed by the orders of their parents.Their love can almost be said to be crystal clear and flawless, but unfortunately there is a little problem: after making love every day, what to cook with?The food problem has become an impurity that causes a pair of pure love to fade away helplessly. The purpose of falling in love is to move in together.married or living together.Talking every day, kissing all the time, making love every night, missing each other.For love, you can go day and night; for love, you can also go to the ends of the earth, but the ends of the earth are just for the day and night for a longer time. Day and night.Every day, night, hour, minute; search, search, heat, intense; food, housing, transportation, clothing.Maybe you will say: How can you say that you have no quilt, and you share the bed with your son!Great, but where is the bed we share?If you want to struggle, you have to sacrifice, and if you want to share a bed, you have to have a house!Rent or buy. Poor Zijun and Juansheng, before their love collapsed, the major issue of housing was not involved!It seems that someone lent them a hall to make a temporary love nest.And the end of their love was only caused by a "little" impurity in the daily food!Finally, it ended in tragedy...Even Tan Juyun, who thinks she has nowhere to go, will not worry about the food problem. Today's young Tan Juyun wants a pure love!Because love has impurities, you will surely break your heart for love!Ha ha, I can't bear to write it down. Looking at love and life with this attitude, how can you not have sand in your love eyes and impurities in your pure heart? Comrades, friends, my dearest readers including you Tan Juyun: There is no love without impurities in the world!True love is love that takes into account realistic factors.For him, you don't have to go abroad; for you, he doesn't have to work; for love, you don't have to be an official; for love, she can have plastic surgery, and he can also have plastic surgery. When Cheng Kejie was 60 years old, he actually had double eyelids. Can you say that he didn't do it for love?If he hadn't been corrupt, he might have been listed in the Guinness Book of Love and become "the oldest lover who used surgery to modify his triangular eyes for love"! Don't say I mock love.Teacher Xu not only believes in, but also advocates love.Love is absolute value!Love is the destination of life!Love is the reason for struggle, love is also the goal of life!In the face of love, going abroad, studying abroad, Harvard, Cambridge, rude (it seems to be Yale), cowboy clothes (it seems to be Oxford) are all optional! I am willing to abandon my property and go with her to shepherd... If you think my above words are insincere, please read the chapter "Farewell to Newlyweds Studying Abroad" in my "Tuqiong Dialogue Record".I'm not here to sell my book, I'm making a big point! Forced into your language system and value system, I have to talk about love with or without impurities in a mocking tone.And this language system is so absurd, I can't hold back the pain and despair in my heart, and the way of humor and ridicule is not enough to calm the depression in my heart! "Love without impurities. More precious than health, wealth, and status." Antivirus!Antivirus!Totally wrong.How can love be without health, wealth, status?Throughout the ages, there may have been such loves, but most of them definitely ended in tragedy.I protest!Anyway, when my son gets married, he must confirm that the other party does not have AIDS and SARS! When Song Qingling, the national treasure, fell in love with Sun Yat-sen, the father of the country, Mr. Zhongshan had neither wealth nor health, but his status--Mr. Sun Yat-sen's great revolutionary cause, how could it not bloom the first flower of love in the heart of the girl Soong Ching Ling! Living in a world with air, insisting on dreaming of a vacuum that does not allow life on the moon; pursuing love without impurities, driving away the bees and butterflies in love, the result must be suffocation of life!This is the danger of Tan Juyun's outlook on love and life virus!In fact, your first love is a married man.I dare not deny that your love this time may have reached the realm of "love without impurities" that you advocate.But this love can only survive in the emotional vacuum of the two of you.Once faced with all the "impurities" in the world, this love will immediately become filthy.In fact, it was this filthy love that caused the great setbacks in your later emotional life. It is said that a computer virus is a program like any computer software.But this program prevents the computer from functioning properly.A thought virus is also a thought, and it is a virus because it keeps life from functioning properly.A normal functioning life is a life in which the mind is agitated and peaceful, and the body is crazy and the spirit is quiet.But the concept of love polluted by the virus makes the mind neither able to be calmed by the virus, nor the body to be affected by the virus. As a result, it is a life disaster with extremely high purity of pain... One of the ideological antivirus software: recognize the utilitarian, realistic, and secular nature of the love program; accept the multiplicity of love windows: emotion, sex, housing, color TV, plasma color TV, cars -- no BMW, bicycles are good, both environmentally friendly , Fitness again! 3. The third paragraph of Tan Juyun's letter Thought Virus 2: Patriotism that ignores individual actions and interests. I was born in a family of cadres, and my father was in charge of a department of a government agency. Although the family was not rich, it gave me a not too bad environment for growing up.My mother is very strong. She left her job very early and went to a private company.She has integrity and is true to her work.Often I was so angry that I changed units frequently.I am very much like my mother, as strong as her, but not as extreme as her.I hate officialdom, people's fishy behavior, and flattery.I think this may have something to do with what I was exposed to when I was young.I love my motherland, I hope she is prosperous and democratic.People are caring and friendly.No poverty, no hunger, no violence.But I have more than enough heart but not enough energy, I don't even have the ability to do something for her, I am ashamed.But look around us, how many people in high positions can really do practical things for the people.China is too big, there are too many corruptions, and there are too many people who are really talented but have nowhere to show them.Just like what we usually say when joking: I know that I am a Maxima, but I lack Bole. As my reader, you love your motherland; as an author, Teacher Xu also loves my motherland (before talking about love and patriotism, let me say one more word about love by the way: love is not only about impurities; love also needs to be taught "Beating is kissing, scolding is love", this is the Chinese interpretation of family love, but if you love so much in North America, you may go to jail. When my son was four years old, I reprimanded him a little more strongly , He actually picked up the phone and dialed 911 to call the police! This is the way the kindergarten teacher told them to protect their rights. In this kind of society, who dares to abuse children?). The author and the reader love their common country, but what is the difference between our love? "I love my motherland...but I have more than enough heart but not enough energy. I don't even have the ability to do something for her. I'm ashamed." Call the police!alarm!Beneath your sincere confession of heart lies a very terrible virus.Just like the "I love you", "Mona Lisa", and "Christmas" viruses that have appeared on computers, it is really not easy not to be infected by these beautiful-looking viruses! I deeply understand that this is your most sincere thought.But because of sincerity, it worries me even more. Patriotism is a vast and abstract concept.How is patriotism embodied?Concrete patriotism is to take actions that individuals can take and do their own things well!Paul Kochakin’s patriotism is to kill the enemy with a saber in his hand; Liu Chuanzhi’s patriotism is to do a good job in his computer company; the patriotism of ordinary people, such as Tan Juyun and Xu Xiaoping, should be to do a good job of his secretary, Do a good job in your own sales, teach your students well, and do your own things well. Mind your own business! This is a rather rude and reprimanding English sentence, which is used when the other party takes care of things that you should not take care of: mind you own business! (less nonsense) do your own business! Start with yourself, start with the work at hand, start with dedication, devotion, loyalty, and persistence to your work.Patriotism can also be embodied as: obeying public morality, protecting the natural environment, caring about current affairs and politics, loving and respecting others... I strongly advise you not to say the word "patriotic" lightly.This can easily arouse the impetuous mentality and crazy psychology of young people.The motherland is yours, but don't forget it is ours too - and you are still our sons and daughters!The rise and fall, everyone is responsible.How to fulfill this common responsibility?China is building a "comprehensive well-off society", try to make your well-off, you will be patriotic!To become well-off, follow the road of "socialism with Chinese characteristics" to become well-off, middle-class, wealthy, and super-rich, and then let's spread the wealth to the poor! Then you are simply a model of patriotism! If you can't do this, then, try to do your well-off.A well-off society means moderate health, great health, and health are produced every day!What Lenin was most worried about actually happened here!The problem is that what Comrade Ilyich was worried about appearing in the past is precisely what we are most worried about not appearing in China today! Being patriotic is a simple civic action.When you do the job at hand well, you are patriotic!When you pick up the waste paper cans on the ground, you are also patriotic!Not long ago, when I was walking with some friends on Wangfujing Pedestrian Street, a girl in the line picked up a piece of waste paper on the ground and threw it into the trash can.At that time, Lin Bai, the host of Sohu's "Celebrity Date", saw it in my eyes and was excited in my heart!This girl is not that kind of enchanting beauty.Her belly protrudes more than her breasts; but her soul is more beautiful than an angel.Picking up waste paper cans on the ground does not require any "strength", but only a little "heart". This heart is civic consciousness and patriotism.Do you have the heart?I'm sure you didn't. When every Chinese can pick up the garbage thrown by others on the ground, it is not Chinese who throw garbage everywhere, but foreigners.Foreigner, foreigner, also means alien.What a lovely China that would be!Think about it, what a great contribution you have made to patriotism! Do you have this self-awareness?It doesn't matter if you don't.Being patriotic can also start from reading this letter: From now on, you start to pay attention to the environment, pay attention to public morality, love and respect others, and work hard... It is not too late! "Ask not what your country can do for you, ask what you can do for your country." Don't ask what your country can do for you, but ask, what can you do for your country? This is a famous quote from President Kennedy's inaugural address.This speech is as famous as Lincoln's Gettysburg Address for the people, by the people, of the people.Becoming a model in the heart of the young Clinton can also be said to be the driving force behind the development of the new American economy. The United States, which emphasizes individualism, and even emphasizes individual rights and "freedom of speech above national interests", actually advocates dedication to the country!Is it strange?Isn't it strange?In fact, it is not surprising at all. In our country, which overemphasizes national interests and ignores or even sacrifices personal interests, the balance of the two sides of a coin and the balance of a balance is actually very important.Your imbalance, in fact, is not so much an imbalance of political mentality, as it is an inversion of personal thinking, and it is not a deep thinking at all.Your problem is not a question of valuable political views, but a question of the rational way of thinking that normal people should have. Act, not complain, you are a great patriot. Thought antivirus software two: Patriotism cannot be divorced from personal interests and actions.If it is divorced from personal interests and actions, it is crazy patriotism, tyrannical patriotism-although you are a young and innocent girl, the irrational patriotism virus lurking in your body is activated when you tell me the truth attack!Fortunately, I discovered it in time and corrected it.Thank you - you! Thought antivirus software version 2.0: What kind of patriotism does Mr. Xu advocate?The patriotism advocated by Mr. Xu must have the "three good things" - to do a good job in one's job, to earn a good salary and to live a good life - that is patriotism that can get twice the result with half the effort and run like a fly. Through hard work, let yourself become well-off, go straight to the middle class, and pursue wealth, which is what you should do most today. The patriotism of "doing things for the motherland" without work, wages, and life will lead to death. For more than two decades (counting from the Third Plenary Session of the Eleventh Central Committee in 1978), China has progressed from the era of revolution to the era of construction with difficulty.Today, everyone who has come here feels that it is not easy; every Chinese has felt the benefits brought about by the reform and opening up, although the benefits are not balanced for the time being.Chinese society has made great progress in economic construction and social development. Unfortunately, we have not yet invented something to replace certain outdated, but still recurring "revolutionary age" thought viruses in the depths of the youth's psyche.One of the most worrying phenomena is that spiritual development lags behind economic and social progress. The backwardness of values, outdated way of thinking, and obsolete spiritual connotation are actually the result of yourself, Tan Juyun, and many other friends who have come to seek my help. The root cause of life’s pain is that it swallows up their sense of happiness, their goal of happiness, and the existence of happiness. thought virus. The melody of that commercial song floated in my heart: "The enemy of justice is killed, the enemy of justice is killed, the pests must be wiped out, wiped out!" The field where the pests have been eliminated is the field of hope and the field of happiness ! Thought Virus No. 3: Anti-Social Complaint Psychology "But look around us, how many people in high positions can really do practical things for the people. China is too big, there is too much corruption, and the real talents suffer from There are too many people who have nowhere to show their talents." China's economic development speed is the fastest in the world. Who made this achievement? The people, and only the people, are the driving force behind the creation of world history.The Chinese nation, in the last two decades of the twentieth century, suddenly felt the crisis of being expelled from the "ball" and suddenly burst out the power to catch up with the advanced countries in the world, and finally came in the 21st century Today, it has embarked on a broad road of rapid development.However, please don’t forget that it was Deng Xiaoping and his partners who were “in high positions” who followed the trend of history, listened to the voice of the people, judged the general trend of the world from a high-level perspective, led the Chinese people out of the closed desert, and opened a new era. The Yangguan of reform and opening up. Chinese society needs to develop, Chinese politics needs to be reformed, Chinese officials need to be supervised (corruption should be eliminated, administrative efficiency must be improved), Chinese people should also have more rights, more dignity, higher security, and a better life... ...All of these depend on the continuous efforts of people with lofty ideals like Tan Juyun and Xu Xiaoping to explore a road suitable for China's development.Instead of using the language of resentment, such as "how many people can do practical things" and "too much corruption", to obliterate our better life today than yesterday! Yes, we have much less than we should have.Our shortcomings are not only economic, but our overall civilization, if we use figures to show it, is still quite backward.The critical spirit, skeptical gaze, sense of crisis, and pursuit of perfection of Chinese intellectuals are not too much for our society, but too little.We need too many people to constantly find out, point out, and criticize the deficiencies in our social life, so that everyone from the government to the common people, from "senior officials" to Tan Juyun and Xu Xiaoping, are always in reflection and sobriety, In a state of vigilance and crisis awareness, not to be dazzled by success, not to be paralyzed by material things... The sense of crisis is the driving force behind the advancement of a nation. However, criticism is love, supervision is love; complaint is hate, hatred is poison; criticism is the self-confidence of the critic who can make the subject of the criticism clear, and complaint is the despair of the complainer who faces the subject of the complaint. The critical spirit is the sunrise of Mount Tai in which the society is constantly developing and being renewed day by day.Complaining, however, is blinding the eyes and not seeing Mount Tai.Even if corruption is the forest, don't forget that under the forest is still the eternal Mount Tai!Since the Chinese nation has been able to advance from the national economy and people's morality that was on the verge of total collapse more than 20 years ago, the Chinese nation will be able to rush towards the future on the train of rapid economic growth.In another twenty years, everyone will meet... As long as we work together, we will surely have a tomorrow that will eclipse today! This "tomorrow" belongs to Xu Xiaoping and us, and it also belongs to Tan Juyun and you, but in the final analysis it belongs to Tan Juyun and you.As long as "you" can run "our" nursing home well in the future!Look, the master of tomorrow should not complain about "today".If you really do what you say: "I love my country, I want her to be prosperous and democratic. People love each other and are friendly." Well, stop complaining for a while!Do one thing for me to prove your patriotism: go find a colleague who has quarreled with you, give them a surprise, apologize to them, ask them to forgive, let them experience from you "mutual care and friendship between people "Bar! A beautiful song sounded in my ears: As long as everyone gives a little love, the world will become a happy world.I hope that from now on, all you spit out of your mouth are musical notes. It is said that the famous female singer who sang this song finally married an American and turned the foreigner's bedroom into a happy world.Every time I think of this reality, as a Chinese man, I feel sour in my heart.Although I know this is freedom of personal choice and has nothing to do with patriotism (but I hope you, in practicing the spirit of this song, remember to give your love to the good men and women of your country, and Not an old man with a white beard living on you abroad). Having said so much about your complaint, am I making a big deal out of a molehill?I asked myself.My answer is a NO. I love you as I love me.I am proud and excited for you, and I am so excited and proud that I am in love with myself... But I know that in your excellent group, there are still some group internal problems that are hindering the birth of talents. Containing the spread of happiness, destroying the realization of success, and harming the originally beautiful youth... Thought antivirus software No. 3: Do the smallest and smallest work to love the motherland, and love the society from the greatest and greatest achievements in China's development, so that you can avoid the anti-social and complaining mentality.Tan Juyun's life computer will run like flying!yeah! 4. The fourth paragraph of Tan Juyun's letter Thought Virus #4: Resentment for the Past Closer to home, I didn't go to college.After graduating from junior high school, I went to technical secondary school.This was not my own choice, even though my grades were more than 30 points higher than the cutoffs of key high schools.Although now every time I mention this incident, I am still full of resentment towards my mother and my middle school head teacher.I hate that I can't make choices for my own destiny.This continued until I took part in the work and took the self-study exam to get a diploma.I'm still full of hate.Although there were still many people like me at the time. Li Bai has a poem: "Whoever abandons me, can't stay the day of yesterday; whoever messes with my mind will worry about today." There is a poem by Tao Yuanming: If you understand the past, you will not be discouraged, but if you know the future, you can pursue it. Ancient poem: when all the rivers go east to the sea, when will they return to the west? There is no complaining or resentment about yesterday.Otherwise, life will be destroyed.Life is not perfect.If we want to resent, we can even go back to the moment you were inseminated by your parents in your mother's loving womb before you were even created.The beauty of that moment gave birth to a beautiful you.A unique you was born!And you are "full of resentment" towards your mother, and the teacher who should have been grateful for life!Mothers have made mistakes, and teachers have perverted ones (for example, Mr. Xu, I write letters to people who are in despair every day. Is it normal?), but as daughters, students, and as human beings, for our own happiness and peace, we treat others The only correct attitude to take is to forget, forgive and move on! Hehe, I understand your regret after your future was artificially cut off, I am listening to your sigh, your loss!However, the greatest disaster in life lies not in the trauma of the past, but in giving up the future.Helen Keller was so unlucky, but lived and created so optimistically, what a beautiful spiritual wealth she left for us.Her only regret for a life that was originally extremely unfortunate and really worthy of resentment is--"If you give me three days of light!" Three days of light!But God didn't give Helen.So, she used her beautiful heart to open a window of bright spring for almost all human beings in the eternal darkness.Hallelujah!Helen Keller, what a great person! Life has regrets.As time goes by, there are always shadows and bright spots in the mottled world.And the passing time will never come back, and the spinning earth is irreversible.Faced with the regrets of life, the only acceptable way of thinking for human beings is to live and work hard for tomorrow, instead of resenting yesterday and sighing for the past. Qu Yuan "takes a long breath to cover up his tears, and mourns the hardships of the people's livelihood", he breathes for a better tomorrow's people's livelihood!And your resentment is to waste the passion of life that has been wasted once again; to make the originally unfair state of life even more unfortunate. I know that you achieved very good results in your technical secondary school days.But because of the fault in your basic way of thinking -- because of the virus in the depths of your mind -- so, when you would have risen from this setback, to be the conqueror of life, not the conquered, the hands of fate Instead of being strangled, you fell into the suffering of spirit and reality.And all the culprits of this suffering are caused by the virus in your own spirit and thought. Thought antivirus software No. 4: The sweetest revenge for unfortunate fate is to forget --forget; the most beautiful answer to those who have caused their own failure is forgiveness --forgive; the most effective way to get rid of today's unfortunate state that one has endured , is to look forward --forward. This is the life medicine I give to my readers and students.Please remember the meaning of these three Fs-they are forget, forgive, forward-and definitely don't understand it as anger, anger, anger, fuck, fuck, continue to fuck! 5. Paragraph 5 of Tan Juyun's letter Thought Virus No. 5: Desperately use learning to prove that you can learn. My technical secondary school is not worth much in the eyes of others.Because my major is not good, machinery is not suitable for me.But this idea lasted for four years.In order to prove that I am not bad, I just won the first-class scholarship for a full four years.My parents were so happy that they didn't know what to do.But behind the joy, I know that they have deeper self-blame.But only I know how many tears and hardships I have paid behind this achievement.And how insignificant my so-called self-proving is in the eyes of others.The only thing I feel lucky is that during these four years, I seized every opportunity to prove myself and exercise myself.After leaving school, it turns out that I am no worse than anyone.In the past four years, I have held three positions in the school's student union: the president of the school's literature club, the head of the school's girls' department, and the secretary of the general branch of the professional league.Social work takes up a lot of my time and I sometimes have to skip classes.A teacher of one of my professional courses spread the word before teaching me that he wanted to arrest me for a make-up exam.Because he didn't believe that a person who was so busy all day that he didn't even have time to go to class could win the first-class scholarship every time.There is only one reason, and that is that my diplomatic ability is particularly strong.What's ridiculous is that what he identified as my strength is the ability to interact with people that I least possess in my life, and I can't learn it no matter how hard I try.This has been proved in my later work. 我在《图穷对话录》里反复强调，现代青年必须具备三种能力：presentation, communication, and people skill的能力。这些能力，甚至比任何学历更重要。 陈景润曾经被捧为一代知识分子的榜样。其实那是一个时代的误会。在文化大革命那种极端人格压迫，稍说一点真话、表达一点个性就会遭遇不测的环境中，要想生存下来，并且搞哥德巴赫猜想，你惟一的选择就是做陈景润--在人际关系中采取零主动，除了搞科研，其他地方以痴傻为标准。 可是，亲爱的你啊，你是活在一个新新人类辈出、蛋白质女孩横行、野蛮女友猖獗的时代啊！"外交能力特别强"是杨澜和她巴林顿博士丈夫赚大钱最主要的秘密武器；"与人交往的能力"是克林顿成为领导美国经济最长期增长伟大总统的主要能力。 我们在新东方天天讲的东西，就包括表达、交流和人际交往能力。这是从哈佛大学校长到新东方保安都必须认真学习和掌握的基本才能。它们对于一个现代人在社会上的成功，如同空气、阳光和水对于生命。 可怜的谭菊筠！直到你给我写信之时，还感到自豪于自己"怎么学也学不会的与人交往的能力"，你怎么可能成功，又怎么可能幸福呢？ 人啊人，人是他自己；人啊人，人也是别人！人之所以为人的本质之一，因为他是社会性群居动物。社会性群居，与人交往的能力，就是生存的基本能力。历史上因为种种原因而真正离群独居的人，我们往往都不称其为人，我们称其为其他东西--喜马拉雅雪人、神农架野人、狼人、鸟人（这是北京人骂不尽人情的人的一句京骂）！ 不尽人情的鸟人，虽然我爱你，当你在空中飞翔，你确实是如此地自由美丽，但当你飞落到人群中、栖息人间时，因为不会和人打交道，你的人间悲剧立即就会发生！ 思想杀毒软件之五：宁可不学英语ABC，也必须知道人际关系XYZ。外企雇人都要面试。面试主要看的就是你的表达能力、交流能力和人际关系能力啊！ 如果你不善于和人打交道，可以学，但绝对不要以此为自豪。 六、谭菊筠来信第六段 中专毕业以后，我在一位熟人的帮助下分配到了一个不错的公司。当时竞争很激烈。我刚出校门自己也没什么主意，看到跟我同时毕业的同学都还没有找到工作，我只觉得自己幸运。因为刚开航，一切都是新的，也有了很多的机会。和我的那些新同事相比，我在中专培养的社会活动能力帮助了我，我成了最耀眼的一个。而那些在别人眼里的雕虫小技。此刻却变成了我的综合实力。因为我能写、会说、会唱、也会跳，也因为我年轻，不丑，落落大方，温和有礼。一年以后，我调到公司总办，做了总经理秘书。一切都像梦一样，我做了一个高难度的飞跃，这其中只用了一年的时间。那一年，我正好20岁。后来我才听说，原来总经理秘书的人选另有其人--一个重点大学英语系毕业的高才生。 我想暂时停留在这里，不往下写，暂且为你庆幸吧。因为，此时此刻，是你二十多年激荡不安的青春生命，仅有的成功与欢乐的瞬间。 我多么希望你的生命之舟就停留在这一刻…… 让我们荡起双桨，小船儿推开波浪，海面倒映着美丽的白塔，四周环绕着绿树红墙，小船儿轻轻，飘荡在水中；迎面吹来了凉爽的风。 美丽的童真，为什么总是在长大后失去？ 欢乐的心灵，为什么常常在青春期封闭？ 七、谭菊筠来信第七段 思想病毒之六：没有敬业精神。 那段日子我诚惶诚恐，我努力地做，努力地学，珍惜这个来之不易的机会。我在乎别人对我的看法。我需要有人给我哪怕是一点点的鼓励和肯定。我们的老总已经50岁了，精力充沛，记忆力也好得惊人。他可以一字不差地记得公司三百多号人，每一个人的姓名和特征。他事无巨细，小到连厂房墙壁上一个别人看不见的污点也要亲自去擦干净。我从没见过一个那么爱权，那么不肯放权的人。他也不太喜欢我，最重要的是他不信任我。因为我不会拍马屁，我太诚实，我不喜欢应酬，也不会喝酒。一年以后，我自愿请调，离开了总办。我被安排到了安检站当了一名有名无实的副科长。那段时间，我的精神极度抑郁，我讨厌人群，也越来越沉默，我开始反省。有人说我太清高，不和群。是的，因为我不喜欢打牌，不喜欢谈论家长里短。我喜欢静，喜欢有自己的空间。我一视同仁，尊重别人的生活方式，同时也希望赢得别人的尊重。我待人诚恳，也愿意助人。我只是不愿意随大流，这难道也错了吗？于是我想到了走。这不是逃避，因为在这样的体制、这样的环境里，人才只能受压抑。 如果我们回过头来阅读你来信的前一段，我想谁都会为你扼腕叹息，千年一叹！ Alas.这里最悲惨的，最令徐老师同情的，其实不是你本人，而是你那位优秀的老板。你的老板，可谓慧眼识人，宁可不要一个重点大学英语系的高才生，而把你这个只有中专文凭的优秀员工调到身边来--谁说没有文凭就没有一切？瞧，你几乎要成为吴士宏二世了！ 要知道，总经理秘书是掌握了公司所有运转情况和机密的高级人才。你的老板，如果不是对你特别信任、如果不是你表现得特别优秀的话，是不会把这样一个重要位置交给你的。 "那一年，我正好20岁"，此时的你，肯定是"漫卷诗书喜欲狂，青春作伴好还乡"。把总经理秘书好好做下去吧。做着做着，做到总经理助理，做到助理总经理，做到副总经理，做到总经理的总经理……和已婚的总经理恋爱也许不对，但后来他对你陷入了一场急风暴雨般的初恋，显然也不是你的错。 多少超级领导人和企业领袖，都是从秘书位置上一步一个脚印，登上了人生和事业辉煌的顶峰！ 谭菊筠，加油！然而，还没有来得及我喊出口，你已经败下阵来。 思想病毒分析：每一种职业，都要求人们有特定的职业道德和操守。老板必须善于用人并关心部下，而警卫则必须忠诚和勇于献身，导演必须会看人选角，而waiter则必须对所有顾客一视同仁--假如他看人选角，对客人区别对待的话，他就会离饭碗越来越远而离砸锅越来越近。 总经理助理这个职业，应该有什么样的职业道德呢？她必须会拍领导马屁，而不能捅老板马刺！说到底，领导并不是马，领导都是人--把人际关系中"让别人高兴"，包括让领导同志高兴这个命题说成是"拍马屁"的人，其实已经把自己不当人了。 Why?因为这是人之常情啊！投之以桃，报之以李；你把我当人，我把你当女；你把我当马，我把你当驴；被总经理当作宝贝一样请到总经理办公室来工作的谭菊筠，因为把领导当马而不当人，所以结局只能是被领导当驴，一脚踢出去。 可惜啊，你的独具慧眼的老板，在一个重点大学英语高才生之间，选择了只有中专文凭的你，却没有想到你原来并不懂得秘书工作基本的职业道德，也不知道助手的天职就是协助并善解领导。在不该追求自由的工作岗位上追求自由。以自由意志和独立人格之名，破坏职业规矩，从而也破坏了自己的前途。 可怜天下领导人，从此只选本科生！ 思想杀毒软件之六：做什么，像什么；干一行，爱一行。不想做元帅的士兵，不是好士兵；但做不好士兵的士兵，永远做不了元帅。士兵的天职，是服从命令。秘书的价值，是总经理的影子。 思想杀毒软件之六2.0版：敬业、忠诚、热爱你的工作，热爱你的领导，一如你爱你的部下和同僚。这是市场经济时代，新的市场道德操守。除非你是遭到绑架而被迫服务，否则不要说你恨这个职位和单位。 中场休息：徐小平插话 这里我还想讲另外一个故事：《花花公子》的创始人海夫纳，开始创办这个杂志的直接原因，是他原来受雇公司的老板没有给他涨五块钱的工资，于是他愤而辞职开始了自己的事业。他的杂志，虽然我不敢公开欣赏，但他的这个经历我觉得完全可以公开宣讲。 在市场经济时代，人才已经可以自由流动。虽然自由的程度因单位不同，而对自由的选择又因人而有别。当新的时代已经到来，我们必须要有新的思维方式和价值观念：永远不要讨厌那个雇用你的人。假如你不喜欢，你可以炒老板鱿鱼，就像花花公子的创始人那样！ 谭菊筠在做总经理秘书失败之后，肯定已经得罪了总经理。可你居然还要在他手下工作。悲哀啊……同时，还以此证明了自己的平庸。 八、谭菊筠来信第八段 可就在这时，他走进了我的生活。整整五年，我变成了另外一个人，这是彻彻底底的迷失。而我现在回想起来，总觉得冥冥之中有天意。 他永远都是人群中的主心骨，他博学、睿智、幽默，像一个发光体，是一个天生的领导者，他很热情，也有点玩世不恭，但总是点到为止。他太聪明，很容易左右别人的情绪。我想他对自己的魅力一定很了解，因为他总是恰如其分地运用他的魅力，他永远都知道你在想些什么，可是却不会让你看到他的心。这种男人是危险的，只要他愿意他的身边一定有不少的女人。我们很谈得来，我们都喜欢读书、文学。 他的出现，改变了我对于真实生活的理解。一切都是那样自然而然，他惊异我与真实年龄不符的早熟，而开始有意无意地逃避我。有时候，我们不得不承认物以类聚的道理，而两个相同的灵魂一旦相遇，就注定了无法逃避的命运。我很快地走进了他的内心世界。事实上，我一直有这种能力。I see people very accurately.更何况我和他有太多惊人的相似，他仕途不顺，怀才不遇。事实上他注定怀才不遇，因为在男人看来他太优秀，不懂收敛。他有太好的女人缘，容易引人妒忌。这一切成为他致命的弱点，再加上他没有关系和背景，又太清高，除非遇到真正的伯乐，注定受压抑。他对这一切都很清楚，可是他不愿意改变。我为他难过，我忘记了自己的伤痛，他和我太相似了，甚至比我还要偏执。我怎么会不了解他呢？看见他我好像看见了我自己。 从一开始，他就没有骗我，他告诉我他已经结婚了，有一个孩子。他的妻子很爱他。不，应该说是崇拜他，总是害怕他被别人抢走。可是他们之间有些距离，不能互相了解。是的，我从一开始就知道我们之间没有结果，他不可能离婚，而我就只能成为别人唾骂的可卑的第三者。可我不能放弃，不愿放弃，我等了整整二十年，我爱他，我要不顾一切地飞向他。整整五年，我爱的心力交瘁。为了这段爱情我流尽了我一生的泪水。我总以为男人之间有不同，我总以为我遇到的是最好的，他理解我，欣赏我，珍惜我。我们有相同的灵魂，还有爱。 五年过去了，当我回首这段感情的时候，我才发现，原来是我在一厢情愿，我爱上的是我的幻觉，我以为他渴望爱情。其实他真正渴望的是社会的认同，人生价值的实现，金钱、名誉、地位和一切所谓的成功。爱情只不过是可有可无的奢侈品而已。而我只是他偶尔的想念，他从来都不知道我孤独、我寂寞、我需要倾诉、我怕冷。 思想病毒之七：爱上一个不可以爱的人。 已婚的人，假如你喜欢他，作为一种人际关系，和他交往交往也许是可以的，但如果他并没有天长地久的意思，而你却为此陷入山盟海誓的恋情，那么就搞笑了！搞笑的结果，一定是哭泣。 爱上一个不可以爱的人，也许是可以理解的，情感走火曝光，也是难免的人之常情。 但爱上一个不可以爱的人还要继续爱这个人，确是无法同情的。因为，这立即就走向了幸福人生的反面。 爱是为了幸福，爱就是幸福。但失去理智的爱，是导致绝望的爱，是导致毁灭的爱，是带来不幸的爱。因此，虽然爱是绝对价值，但爱依然要有理智。 理智的爱是五彩缤纷的，疯狂的爱，只有一种颜色--它带来黑色的后果。就你的这段关系而言，你本来可以有各种选择：可以采取那种"不求天长地久，只要曾经拥有"的爱；也可以采取那种虽然"爱你海枯石烂，但离你万水千山"的爱；哪怕你就是采用那种"天亮之后说再见"的爱；或者干脆就是"成都,今夜请把我忘记"的爱。这是这个时代男女无可奈何的自由。 人类的关系毕竟太复杂了。连冉阿让这样的法兰西之魂，还会偷偷"爱慕"上自己的养女柯赛特呢！更何况这里是一个经典的成人两性遭遇战。 当爱已成往事，你就不要再提。你本来可以把这个爱，当作一种生命体验，一盏心底的明灯，一矩暗夜的火把，照着自己孤独的人生走上一程，然后回转身去，向他恋恋不舍地说拜拜。但是你采取了一种必将使你失败的心态。 尽管你"一开始就知道我们之间没有结果"，但却不能放弃，不愿放弃。不能放弃的原因，是不愿放弃；不愿放弃的原因，是没有理智；没有理智的原因，是思想病毒杀死了你的理智。没有理智的结果呢，就是你更深更严重的人生苦难。 你自己认为自己"看人很准"。但事实上，我却认为你看人非常不准。第一次恋爱，你怎么可能稳准狠？初恋，也许不要经验，而婚恋，却不可没有借鉴。否则，你绝对不该在这个"没有结果"的关系里，浪费那么多激情的甘露，耗尽那么多青春的泪雨。 人人都需要爱情。少女怀春，少年钟情，是人世间最动人的天音。但大女也会思春，老男也会发情。人类只要有活动，爱情与性，就是他们最喜欢的活动之一。 但人的生命阶段不同，对于爱情的需求也就不同。你的不幸在于，一开始就不应该陷入和这个已婚男人的纠葛中。一旦发现这种关系得不到自己需要的结果的话，就该快刀斩乱麻，把这个关系斩断！ 控制自己的情感，抑制本能的冲动，是文明的基本要求之一吧？人类文明一直发展到21世纪，上帝才派弗洛伊德来告诉人类，多余的压抑也许可以减少一点……但你老人家，第一次爱，就把自己毕生积聚的激情的熔岩，灌注进了一座火山口，肆意妄为地发泄……虽然这是一座死火山，所以任你再声嘶力竭，也无法突围，不能喷发！ 思想杀毒软件之七：人必须控制自己的激情，人也必须选择自己的激情对象，在这个选择过程中，直觉与本能固然重要，但道德因素、现实因素、他人因素，也是同样重要的考量。不要让情感激情转化为摧枯拉朽的精神暴力，把爱你的和不爱你的以及你本人统统摧毁。 不控制自己激情的人，不会选择自己激情对象的人，是动物，不是人。 你是一个受过教育的人，不是动物。 九、谭菊筠来信第九段 我想我和别的女人一样，一样的愚蠢。可我还一直以为自己与众不同。为了这段爱情，我浪费了整整五年的时间。那段时间我患上了严重的神经衰弱，我失眠，常常一夜到天亮，我紧张，易怒，经常在睡梦中惊醒。我想我是在付代价，在付成长的代价。现在我很平静，对于什么东西都提不起兴趣。我活得更加自我了，我不在乎别人的评价，我只想做自己想做的事，去真正掌握自己的命运。我不再奢望爱情了，更不相信婚姻。我活得太累，我好想停下来，在人生的道路上我筋疲力竭。 思想病毒之八：付出惨重的人生代价，却买来更加糟糕的生命咒语。 I protest!I disagree!你不奢望爱情，那么别的那些奢望爱情的人怎么办？你不相信婚姻，那么另外那些相信婚姻的人怎么活？ 爱情，婚姻，这些都是保证我们健康而幸福活着的最重要的生命维生素。你不可以因为一次恋爱失败，就拒绝爱情；更不能因为那个男人坚持了他自己的婚姻，你就从此怀疑你自家的归宿！这样的结论，是拒绝幸福的结论，是拒绝生命的倾向。 你活得如此精疲力竭，如此伤痕累累，是因为，你的事业遭到挫折，却没有从挫折中找到崛起的动力；你的爱情遭到病毒，却没有从病毒中获取免疫的抗体。 相反，你把毒药当作了解药，你把陷阱当作了庇护，你的人生病毒，随时都会再次发作。 思想杀毒软件之八：在哪里跌倒，在哪里爬起。失去了什么，就要得到什么。永远以积极向上的心态来看待生活，永远以乐观激昂的精神来追求爱情！ 你情感的初战失利，其实只不过是小试牛刀而已。还有多少多少爱情的猛牛，等待你来细细地分解呢。世上溜溜的男子，任你溜溜地挑，世上溜溜的猛牛，等你溜溜地刀……不要因为你的失望，就让那么多好男人遭蒙不白之冤！ congratulations! 十、尾声 这个环境不适合我，我想有一个新环境，我早就应该离开。这是我五年前就该做出的决定。现在想起来恍若隔世。我开始重新思考，剩下的路我该怎么走？我想到了留学，首先我不年轻了，又没有技术，也没有高学历，虽然我自考拿了一个大专文凭（汉语言文学），现在还在拿本科。可是以我现在的条件，出去和别人竞争，已没有优势。还有我的英语也还需要学习。至关重要的一点，就是你在书中提到的，留学的目的，因为我不知道我到底要出去学什么。 徐老师，就算没有这封信，明年我也依然会到新东方去找你。我需要你为我指点迷津，给我信心。我的这封信写得太长了，不知道您能不能看到。不过至少我能把一切都说出来，我觉得舒服多了。和新东方的同学相比，我很惭愧，但是我已经从阴影里走了出来，呼吸到了新鲜的空气。感谢你，和你的书，感谢你愿意听我倾诉！ 谢谢你对我的巨大信任，把这么复杂的人生问题向我袒露得如此彻底。我感到我一定要对得起你这样的信任，一定要帮助你成功摆渡出奋斗的深渊。 但是，恕我直言，你最后对于前途的想法，依然令我担忧。 你属于人生奋斗的战场上屡战屡败的人。到目前，你的努力和奋斗都是失败的。但是，我相信你能够走出困境，能够重新获得自信，获得奋斗的力量，获得崛起的意志和愿望！ 我渴望和你面谈，期待着你的到来。我要让你亲自体验到，即使一个人生全是病毒的人，其实经过简单的杀毒处理，就能够重新获得行走如飞的活力和力量，重新振奋起光芒四射的人生。 哦哦，我差点犯了一个错误！--我认为你已经没有必要见我了，因为，我要和你面谈的，都已经在这封长长的通信里面了啊！ 我希望，你把我的信仔细阅读，把我给你的杀毒软件，安装在你的思想系统里，或者干脆把自己的意识形态格式化一次！我保证，你的人生，一定会立即在欢快的音乐中，飞速运转起来！