Chapter 32 Part Four: Give me four reasons to despair first

Dear Teacher Xu: Thank you, Mr. Xu, for reading your "Tuqiong Dialogue Record". The sentence in the book: "Thousands of merits and demerits, the difference of one thought-the thought of concept" is always in my heart. My family situation is really bad.My father has schizophrenia, and my mother is in a bad mood all day long. It feels like years to me.I went to a private college, which did not recognize my degree.It is said that talents come out of adversity, but I am so fragile and desperate. I used to have a good job, working in a well-known foreign company in Shanghai.But I was too fragile, and I always wanted to continue my studies, so I quit my job and stayed at home, only to realize that life is really boring.

I really don't know anyone in this world who really loves me and leaves me alone and helpless.If someone is a little nicer to me, I'd be grateful.So I have been lied to by some people.What is lost is not only youth, but also my hope and tears. People say that I am very beautiful, and I once won the first place in a sports dance competition in Shanghai (and I am just an amateur).I once suffered from mental depression and committed suicide twice, both of which were saved.I really don't want to let the days go on, year after year, day after day.Should I go abroad?I really want to have a home of my own and a healthy child of my own.

How can such a fragile person complete this long journey of life?What ideals and struggles can we talk about? !Here is my phone number, I hope to meet you and help me, a miserable person. Ju Sang Dear Jusang: Thank you for your letter, and thank you for your trust in me and your desire to be understood and loved. When I read your letter and saw you say "others say I am beautiful", I seemed to see your beautiful image on the computer color screen.Your image is not only beautiful, but you also have the most valuable bodybuilding characteristics of contemporary women-the girl who won the first place in Shanghai sports dance must be unparalleled in beauty, pride, and pride!If you are not a protein girl, at least you have to be a little swallow, so that the emperor will be fascinated by you!

Well, in exchange for my consultation, can you give me a consultation?My psychology is about to go wrong... However, maybe at this moment you are not in the mood to humor me.However, a sense of humor, self-confidence, optimism, a life style of singing and crying, and a strong will to smile... These are not only the most needed vitamins for success for young people who are struggling, but also for me. The "successful person" in the world is an indispensable spiritual tonic for even a moment! The so-called successful people have actually experienced exactly the same pain as ordinary readers including you.In fact, the more successful a person is, the greater the price he pays in life, and therefore the more painful it is.Remember, God is fair, and the basic premise of "success" is to use up all the power of one's life, climb out of the mud of life, climb to the peak of life, and go through the journey of life. ...

For you, a humorous and optimistic attitude towards life may not only be the basic guarantee for the quality of life, but may even be the basic prerequisite for your existence.So, I'm here to blast your ears with the sound of a siren and make you "laugh" -- even if it's a forced smile! Although your letter is brief, your problem is quite serious. Here I will try my best to give you some analysis. I hope you can listen to me! One of the problems: resignation mistake Your resignation from this foreign company is a trap that caused your low life today. If you don't quit your job, you will be very busy.Too busy to sigh, too busy to feel that I am not good enough, too busy to feel that I am a college student, and repeatedly feel inferior, self-blame, and self-harm... Too busy to listen to my parents nagging, but I often find time to buy them some supplements as gifts go.Everyone worries about giving gifts, but you often give seal oil.Let parents get some body nourishment and spiritual moistening, and when using the love supplements from their daughters, parents will actually get pleasant relief.Remission, although not a cure, but "Health Express" said that no attack is healthy!

Many things in life are helpless.But the only thing that can be pursued and obtained in a helpless life is actually the sense of happiness deep in the soul, and the time to delay the onset of the pain that is bound to hit us in life as much as possible. Why are you quitting your job?Working is beautiful.Our life is not so much family-centered as it is company-centered.It is everything in the workplace that builds the value of our spirit and soul.Praise from leaders, colleagues, and customers will always mobilize our nerves of self-love and love, and feel the impulse of self-confidence and pride; Competitive will, determination to overcome difficulties and desire for perfection.Working is constantly creating a beautiful life.

Never quit your current job before finding a new one.This is the dumbest workplace mistake ever.People quit only when they find a new job, or when they have an alternative plan.Few people resign without reason. I think maybe you made this decision in a fit of melancholy impulse, unbearable depression.Your resignation is wrong.It is a turning point in your life that is going to be difficult and painful. The only way to solve this problem is to boldly go to the job market and find another job to do it. I believe that the lost smile will return to your face, and the withered self-confidence will bloom in your heart immediately !

Walk into the company's office building with your vigorous steps of sports dance, show your resume of working in this foreign company to your future boss smartly, and then use the same vigorous steps to walk out of the boss's office. The boss looks at you. Your back will immediately twist the dance steps of Yangko dance, chase you back, and you will get that job! Problem 2: Fallacy of Love No matter how busy the work is, people will never forget love--the love life of most protein girls comes from the opportunities created by work.Needless to say, an office romance, but a client, a competitor's colleague, including going to a cafe with colleagues after get off work, a handsome man who seems to have known each other... So, a romantic story will happen, and a heartbreaking drama will happen. To be staged.But you resigned at home and hid under the eaves of Shanghai. Not only did you reject the job opportunity, you actually avoided all kinds of love flowers.

I don't know what your view on love is.I don't care what you think about love.But I want to say: love is not gambling, love is not a lottery, love is a proof of youth, love is a practice of life.That is to say, if you need love, you must prove that you need it with actions; if you want to practice life, you must practice it with life. The most unfair and most enviable thing about a beautiful girl like you is that you have to do almost nothing, do nothing hard, and love will descend on your nest like crows—or magpies .There are always sparrows falling out of their nests in the world, how can there be sparrows falling out of their nests in the world.

But unfortunately, contemporary women often overturn their love nests on the ground or close them up when the sparrows fall into the nest. Confident Feather--Under the overturned nest, is there a complete family? --Although you really want to have a home! I'm sorry, I used a sentence with a bad language that was once satirized by Lu Xun.But in order to achieve the effect of consulting you, you have to! The saddest action of love is to always be in the abyss and envy the fish, never to jump into the net. You said: "I really don't know anyone in this world who really loves me and leaves me alone and helpless." When you are crying about your loneliness, you can imagine how many men are also crying and wanting to love you I can't!Maybe none of them know you.But as long as you walk out of your claustrophobic bedroom and open your sealed heart, in the unexpected encounter, in the throbbing of looking back and smiling, heart collides with heart, love and love convect, ah, two lonely and Weak people form a strong and happy fortress from now on!

Hehe, I envy you so much!Look, as long as you don't look at the fish in Yuanyuan, as long as you go to the shore for a walk, you don't even need a net, you just need to twist your waist, jump and kick, and occasionally jump up from the water surface, Just wait for people to come and cast their nets to catch you. How many Romeo and Liang Shanbo have you rejected in your life! Such a tragedy is even more serious than Juliet and Zhu Yingtai.After all, he still loved vigorously!But you, among the colorful flowers, are weeping for the distant spring. Does despair need a reason?Don't you need it?do you need?Your despair and loneliness are basically for no reason!You're playing hide-and-seek with beauty, youth, and the world of men who dream about you. It is said that in the desert of Arizona, USA, countless huge antennas have been set up to continuously capture and transmit signals from space for humans to search for interstellar partners.From those giant antennas, I saw the loneliness of human beings. Since you feel lonely and need love, why don't you boldly face the space, keenly capture and violently launch your message of seeking friends and love? --Don't ask me how to do it, I was just going to ask you! Finally, let me give a specific suggestion: I want you to make a list of the people who have pursued and admired you in the past, the people you have pursued and admired, and screen out ten people, ask them for coffee, and if someone says they are busy, force him to come out and drink! (My suggestion is only to drink coffee. As for where you and him go and what to do after drinking coffee, it is entirely up to you to decide.) But don't pick someone with a perfect eye over coffee - there are no perfect people.Therefore, a perfect person is not a person.You are not a human being anymore, do you still expect to pick a good person? -- Just look at him with a worldly mind.Looking at men with this mentality, the more you look at them, the more attractive they are, and the more you look at them, the more attractive they are! Three people, there must be my teacher; ten people, there must be your family.The person everyone wants to marry back home is either Prince Charming or Princess Anna. In fact, the ones everyone marries are all civilians under the emperor's rule.Everyone fantasizes about a fairy, but even if a fairy comes down to earth, the married man is actually a woodcutter Dong Yong! The only happy one is the Seventh Fairy's younger sister, Ma Lan. The person she marries is not Dong Yong, but Yu Qiuyu! Men have to chop firewood and carry water, while women have to weave and cook. This matter is difficult in ancient times. Use the rhythm of Faye Wong's song, sing this passage, go to your coffee appointment, I believe, you will get happiness quickly. My heart, waiting to meet your happiness... Question 3: College Misunderstanding You said that you always want to continue your studies - of course I knew right away that you felt inferior and dissatisfied with your college education, and you always wanted to find an opportunity to go to higher education to get rid of this inferiority complex and fill this dissatisfaction. However, it is your paranoid will to improve your academic qualifications that you may not necessarily need to improve, which made you give up your persistence in working hard in the job post, which led to your resignation and all your current troubles and difficulties arising from it. No one denies the proposition of continuing to study further.Teacher Xu, I sleep very well. My only nightmare is that I have to take the math test again in middle school, and then, in an extremely nervous and embarrassing state, I wake up and feel lucky that I am still alive!I want to learn math! However, if learning mathematics helps me in consulting, I will learn it, otherwise I will not learn it. The concept of "advanced study" is synonymous with "alive".But just like life, further study is also a channel for our life to stagger forward, not an end!People should study and study only to broaden their way of life, but you cut off your way of life first for the sake of "studying and further study".This is a vicious outbreak of diploma-only theory and degree unconsciousness. Don't forget that work itself also includes learning and further education.There are so many things to learn at work, so many things to improve, and countless successful people actually accumulate and "advanced" in ordinary positions, and eventually become industry leaders and big names in the industry. Further studies must be linked with work and career development, whether on-the-job or leaving the job, there must be a clear career goal.Advanced studies that are out of touch with work and career development often fall into "deep" unfathomable pain, as you are doing now.And there are so many friends like this! Don't be ashamed of your education!I often tell my readers and students that college is an indispensable part of the talent value chain.A ring within a ring.When watch straps always want to be "advanced" into "watches", there will be only pocket watches in the world but no watches.At that time, if you are willing to make and seriously make the "ring" of the strap, it will be invaluable! Originally, your work in a foreign company has proved your value and reached the peak of employment for you, but you pushed yourself to "undergraduate" and The mountains and cliffs of "studying abroad" will bury the root of all your current problems. Question #4: Life Delay I'm surprised you've had two suicide attempts.I am deeply saddened for you.However, I still have to blame you! Suicide is a crime.I almost don't want to talk to you anymore, if you don't want to change yourself! It is with great sadness that I point out that suicide is said to be genetic.Mental illness in your family is very likely to be passed on to you.So, all your pain, not so much the pain of choice, may be determined by God - genetically determined! Are you pessimistic?But wait!You must have watched or at least know the American movie "A Beautiful Mind"!John Nash, who won the 1992 Nobel Prize in Economics, is a born mentally ill patient.But -- whether you have seen this movie or not, for the sake of your physical and mental health, please watch it again to a hundred times! --With the support of love and the control of his strong spiritual will, John Nash finally became a remarkable person who made great contributions to human civilization! Man, man, John Nash, is the beauty of man, the beauty of man. Whether it is John Nash or Helen Keller, their physical lives are flawed.However, their spiritual life and soul vitality are eternal! Although, if God asked me to choose whether to be John Nash with health defects, or to be a Hu butcher who slaughtered pigs and sold meat without physical problems, I would rather be a Hu butcher, eating some pig intestines every day, The son-in-law was slapped in the face, and he didn't want to be John Nash and won the Nobel Prize.The gold medal is immortal, long live the health. But if God decides to take my health away (God doesn't), if God decides to turn me into a Nash, Keller, Hawking, Heidi physically -- God doesn't.Then, at least I will tell myself with a strong face and smile: I want to learn from them—I would rather be Jesus on the cross, choose eternity at the cross of life and death, than wait for others to shed tears for you and donate sympathy to you in sadness and despair , The walking dead who gave you rice porridge. No!Absolutely not! !Absolutely not! ! ! And you, you have the appearance of a fairy-"everyone says I'm beautiful"; you have the figure of a devil--"won the first prize in sports dance"; you have higher vocational education--"went to a private college "; You are a white-collar beauty in a foreign company -- "Working in a famous foreign company", you have everything! But you are crying and have nothing! Damn, dear Ju Sang, you are wrong -- Ju Sang Comrade! No wonder Cui Jian is always in trouble!At least his "Nothing" can only be used as a historical sentiment, but not as a portrayal of the spirit of the times!If someone now regards this angry youth song in the 1980s as the rock on the new Long March in the 20th century, this person will definitely be left behind on the new Long March to the future. Because, in the 1980s, the Chinese were riding bicycles to catch up with the advanced countries in the world; while the new Long March road in the 21st century, we use the Audi A6, which can be covered in just a few days.Our values ​​and living conditions have completely changed! Nietzsche is said to have declared to the world that "God is dead"... But I clearly heard—writing a letter to you who are mentally ill, as if I also suffered from auditory hallucinations—I heard Nietzsche saying: Old Cui is dead!Because today's Chinese youth no longer have nothing! I saw—I know this is also a vision, but I have entered your state anyway, so I can't care so much—I saw Zarathustra say: "What is a monkey to a man ? A laughing stock and a shame". The pessimistic person is the same thing as the optimistic and confident person: a laughing stock and a shame. "From worms you have passed into men. And much in you is still worms." (Nietzsche) Self-abased because of "college", unemployed for "advanced studies", as a beautiful and rich man, he considers himself bankrupt, is obviously the dream lover of countless people, but looks at himself and says that he is lonely and declares love to be poor. Thinking of yourself as a failure, having the best life but wanting to give it up... all of this makes you from a typical lucky person to a poor person, and turns an otherwise excellent "person" into a creepy " insect"…… If self-confidence and optimism are the qualities of a so-called "superman", according to Zarathustra, then let everyone become superman! The above sentence was made up by me.Zarathustra did not speak.But since I have been tortured by your letter to have auditory and visual hallucinations, let me use Nietzsche's mouth to say what is in my heart! I love you, Xu Xiaoping