Chapter 16 love and beauty

Beauty exists where your ego does not exist.It's a tragedy if you don't understand.The truth is where you are not.Both beauty and love are where "you" are not.We cannot see this thing called truth. What are we? Aren’t we suffering? Or don’t you have pain in your life? Is there fear? Is there anxiety, greed, envy? Do we worship images created by thought? Do we cling to certain ideas because of fear of death? Don't we have contradictions? Say one thing and do another Kind of? We're all like that.Our habits, our stupidity, our endless chatter, they are all part of who we are.The content of consciousness begets consciousness, and consciousness has evolved through time, experience, pain, sorrow.Can one be free from that, from all fear? Because where there is fear, there is no love.Sensitivity cannot exist if ego is always the center, and without sensitivity there is no love.And without love, there is no beauty.Beauty exists only in the blooming of good things.

Let's see what beauty is - not beauty of form, although that's good too.The beauty of a tree, the beauty of a green field, the beauty of a mountain - its majesty against a blue sky, the beauty of a sunset, the beauty of a flower blooming beside a sidewalk.We're not trying to be romantic, or promiscuous.Together we are exploring what beauty is.Is there a sense of beauty in your life? Or is it always flat, meaningless, a struggle from morning to night? What is beauty? It is not a sensual matter, nor is it a sexual one.It is a very serious matter, because without beauty in you you cannot blossom in goodness.Have you ever looked at the mountains or the sea, there is no chattering in your heart, no noise, but you can really look at the blue ocean, the beauty of the sea water and the beauty of light and shadow on the water.What happens when you see such beauty on Earth, with its rivers, lakes and mountains? When you look at something that is actually beautiful, like: a statue, a poem, a pond What happens when there are lotus flowers in the garden, or a well-maintained lawn? At that moment, the majesty of the mountain will make you forget "me".Have you ever had this experience? If you have, after you see it, you don't exist, only the beauty exists.But seconds or minutes later, the whole cycle starts again, chaotic, chattering.So, beauty exists where your ego does not exist.It's a tragedy if you don't understand.The truth is where you are not.Both beauty and love are where "you" are not.We cannot see this thing called truth.

Can humanity end suffering? Not individual suffering, but human suffering.Think about it: in a thousand wars, men and women have been harmed.There is sorrow in the world, global sorrow, and your own sorrow; they are not two different sorrows.Please see this.Because my son died, I could be in pain.I also know that my neighbor's wife died.The whole world is the same.It's been that way for thousands of years, and we still can't figure it out.We may escape, we may have rituals, ceremonies, we may invent all kinds of theories that it is our karma, that it comes from our past, but the pain is still there, not only for you, but for all human beings.Will suffering end, or must human suffering last from time immemorial until the end of time? If you accept that - and I hope you don't - you will suffer without end.You get used to it, like most of us.But what happens if you don't accept it? Will you take the time to end your suffering?

You are past, present and future.You are the master of time, and you can shorten it or lengthen it.If you are violent and you say "I am nonviolent", that is prolonging the time.During that time, you are violent, and there is no end to that activity.If you understand that you are the master of time and time is in your hands, this is a very important thing, it means that you are facing the fact of violence.You do not seek non-violence, but face the fact of violence, and there is no time in observation.Because in observation there is neither the observer nor all the accumulation of the past, there is only pure observation.That's no time.

Do you do this? Do you see the truth of it when the speaker is talking about it, and do it? If I have a particular habit, physical or psychological, will the habit change immediately? Or Would I take the time to change it? If you smoke, can you immediately change that habit? The body's craving for nicotine is not the same as your perception that you are the master of time.You can shorten the time, but such recognition is not a decision not to smoke. You understand that there is enthusiasm only when one's grief is over.Passion is not carnal.Carnality is sensual, sexual, full of desires, images, pursuit of pleasure, and so on.Enthusiasm is not.You have to have a passion to create -- not to create babies -- to make a difference in the world, in a different human being, in the society you live in.Without strong passion, man becomes ordinary, weak, unconscious, incomplete.

My son died, and I was in pain, and I cried.I go to temples all over the world to burn incense and worship.I put all my hopes in my son and he's gone.I hope he is still alive and I will meet him in another life and so on.We always comfort ourselves like this.Pain is very painful.Tears, the comfort of others, and the solace I myself sought to escape the pain did not resolve the pain and the deep sense of loneliness.So can I watch it, be with it, without any escape, without any rationale for my son's death? Without looking for reincarnation or anything else, I can be totally, completely with Pain together? And what happens then?

I want you to do it with the speaker.Don't just listen.No one can tell you what to do.This is not a puzzle game, this is our life, everyday life.Someone you love may leave, and you will have feelings of jealousy, anxiety, and resentment.This is our life, and we suffer. If my son is dead, I cannot bear the thought that he is gone.Without sentimentality, without emotion, can I live with this pain, this pain of loneliness? Most of us know loneliness.This loneliness is what happens when you are cut off from all relationships.You suddenly find yourself in the midst of a crowd, but you are utterly alone, alone.Finding out about this condition is also kind of sad.When my son died, I was lonely.Can I look at loneliness, observe loneliness, without any memory of the past, without the observation of the observer? We will discuss it further.

When one is angry, in the moment of anger, it is a reaction, there is neither the observer nor the observed.Have you noticed? There is only one reaction known as "anger".After a few minutes or a few seconds, the observer says, "I'm already angry." So the observer pulls away from the anger and says, "I'm already angry." But the observer is the observed.Anger is like me, and I am anger.I'm just greedy.I'm just scared.I am these things.But thought says, "I must control, I must escape from fear." So thought creates an observer, which is different from the observed, and in that case there is conflict.The fact is, however, that the observer is the observed.Anger is you, anger is no different from you.In the same way, when I lost my son, I was in that state, observing without thinking, that is, preoccupied with the so-called "pain" and "loneliness", which bring hopelessness, neurotic things.Can I live with these intense sorrows, pains, shocks without the shadow of any action or thought? That is, with total concentration.If you want to escape, you can't concentrate fully, it's a waste of energy.Yet if you give your full attention, all your energy will be focused on the point where you are suffering.When you do, you understand the magnitude, depth, and beauty of this event.Then the pain will end.When the pain is over, there will be enthusiasm.And when the pain is over, there is love.

What is love? Have you ever asked? Have you ever asked your husband or wife what love is? You dare not! Do I love anyone? Do you know what that means? Is love desire? Is love pleasure? Is love dependent? Please think about it.Is love jealousy? Or is love now sexual? Together we are now examining the qualities of the heart and mind that love.Do you love your children, or do you just see them as your responsibility? Have you ever wondered if you love your children? You'd say, "Of course." But we're serious about asking.If you love your kids, would you want them to be like you? Or would you want them to be completely different from you? Would you want them to continue your trade job, career? Because you are an entrepreneur, you want your son to be too Entrepreneur? Or do you care that they should grow in goodness and blossom in beauty? Or are you going to send him to war, to kill and be killed? Is that love? I know you're going to say, "There's nothing we can do about it. We can't help our kids. We send them to school and that's enough." You just want them to get married and settle down - like you settle down - ordinary, dishonest, say a Be a kind, go to worship, be a good lawyer.This is contradictory.Do you want your kids to be like this? Would you do it if you loved them?

Does love exist everywhere in the world? Is love jealousy? Is love dependence? If I depend on my wife, what kind of tragedy is that, isn't it? What is the meaning of dependence? Is it love? If I am physically and mentally dependent, I depend on her, she helps me, I help her.I'm afraid she might leave me.I worry that she will leave me.She can't look at other men, she must be faithful to me.I must possess her, dominate her.And she wants to be possessed and dominated.Does love have fear, jealousy, hatred, opposition? Are those all love? To deny, deny everything that is not love, and the rest is love.So we negate envy completely, we negate dependence completely, we negate every form of possession.Out of total negation comes love.Through negation, you become positive.And the most positive thing is love.Love has a strange phenomenon, that is: if you have love, whatever you do is right.When there is love, action is always right, no matter what the circumstances.And when there is this love, there is compassion.Compassion expresses enthusiasm for all people.If you belong to any sect, group or organized religion, there is no mercy, no love.There is mercy only when there is liberation from these.And mercy has its own unique, infinite wisdom.When there is love, there is beauty.Love and wise compassion are endless truths.The path to truth is untraceable - not Karma Yoga, Bhatti Yoga and so on.Compassion comes only when sorrow ceases, and that is truth.

Mumbai, January 31, 1982