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Chapter 15 source of confusion

There are many reasons for confusion: comparison, comparing yourself to others, comparing yourself to "should be"; imitating others, such as some saints;There is always a conflict between "is" and "should be". Note that we are now discussing something that may be more complicated.I don't know where it's taking us.It can be complicated, so be careful. You know, when you have a child around you, you hear him cry, you hear him talking, his murmuring.You care about what you hear, you may fall asleep, but you wake up when he cries.Because the child is yours, you are always careful, you have to take care of him, you have to love him, you have to hold him.You are so cautious that even when you are asleep, you are the same as when you are awake.Now, can you pay attention to yourself in the mirror with the same attention, love and care you give to your child? Not me, you don't just take what I say, you should look at yourself in the mirror with the same attention you give to the baby, and it What I told you, would you do it?

The question we're talking about is why humans have become so mechanized.Mechanized habits will bring disorder, because human energy is greatly limited, so we are always looking for a breakthrough.Such is the nature of conflict.Do you understand what is said in the mirror? Not me, there is no speaker here.Are you able to observe with concern, focus and great love? What do you hear? We are talking about chaos. We live in chaos. Habits, beliefs, conclusions, opinions are out of order.Due to our environment, we are limited everywhere, so there must be confusion.When people are chaotic, it is wrong to seek order, because even if a confused and unclear mind finds order, it will still be confused and uncertain.That's obvious.But if you look at the chaos, if you understand the chaos in your life, and the reasons for the chaotic behavior, when you understand it, order will come - easily, happily, without any compulsion, without any control.The mirror will tell you, and you can immediately see what the cause is—not verbally, intellectually, or emotionally—if you pay the same attention to yourself as you give to a child.That is, the epiphany of chaos.

What is the source of confusion? There are many reasons for confusion: comparison, comparing yourself to others, comparing yourself to "should be"; imitating others, such as some saints; conforming, conforming to something that you actually overestimate.There is always a conflict between "is" and "should be".Comparison is an act of thought: I am this, or I am happy, and someday I will be happier.This constant comparison between "is" or "is" and "should be" creates conflict.This is one of the basic reasons for confusion. Another source of confusion is the influence of the past.Now, is love the result of time, thought and memory? Do you understand what you in the mirror are asking you? Doesn't what we call love create chaos in human relationships? Watch yourself !

What's the source of the confusion? You can see that, and we can add to that, but that's irrelevant.In examining its roots, do not analyze.just looking.If you just watch without analyzing, you will have an epiphany in no time.If you say, "I will test, I will infer," or analyze it from the outside by induction and inference, it is still an act of thought.Yet if you can observe carefully, with deep attention and emotion, then you will have an epiphany.Go find it. What is the source of our confusion--inner confusion that leads to outer confusion.You see how much chaos there is in the world, distressing chaos; people killing each other, dissidents being jailed and tortured.We put up with it because our minds accept it, or try to change it a little bit.In order to see the source of chaos, you must examine the question: What is our consciousness? What is your consciousness when you look at yourself in an undistorted mirror? Probably the nature of chaos.Together we must investigate what our consciousness is.

Our consciousness is a living and moving thing, it is active, not static and closed.It changes often, but within small limits and limits.It's like one makes a small change in a corner without going all over the place.We must understand the nature and structure of consciousness.If that's the source of our confusion, we're going to find it.It also may not be.We have to find out too.What is our consciousness? It is what the mind produces: the form, the body, the name, the feeling that the mind identifies with itself, beliefs, pain, torment, suffering, discomfort, depression and elation, jealousy, anxiety, fear, joy, my Country and your country, belief in God or not, preaching Jesus is the most important thing, saying Krishna is more important, etc., etc., etc.Isn’t all this your consciousness? You can add more: I’m yellow, I wish it was whiter, I’m black, black is beautiful, and so on.The past, the heredity, the myths, all the traditions of man, are actually built on top of that.All of this is the content of consciousness, and to act without being aware of the content of consciousness is bound to limit that action, thus creating chaos.Thought must create confusion unless it understands its proper place.It is clear that knowledge is limited and therefore has its proper place.

Thought originating from yesterday, or millions of yesterdays, is limited, and thus the content of our consciousness is limited. The mind will think in various ways that consciousness is unlimited, or has a higher consciousness, but is still a form of consciousness.So thought not understanding its proper place is the source of confusion.It's not something romantic, ambiguous, nonsensical; you can look at yourself, if you're logical, clear-headed, and you can see that conditioned thinking is bound to create confusion.If someone says "I am a Jew", or "I am an Arab", it is restricted, so it closes itself off, creates resistance, and thus wars and all misery begin.Did you actually see it? Not belief, not someone told you, but you saw it yourself, like you heard a baby cry? Then you take action, get up, walk over.

Part of our mechanical way of life comes from this limited awareness.Is it possible not to expand the consciousness, not to enlarge it, not to add more knowledge... more experience up, or move from one corner to another? There are schools to expand consciousness by practice, training and control.When you try to expand your consciousness, there is a center of measurement.When you try to expand anything - to expand a small house into a big house - there is a center from where you expand.Likewise, form the center from the place of expansion, that is the measure.look at yourself.Aren't you trying to expand your consciousness? You probably don't use that word.You may say, "I'm trying to be better." "I'm trying to be this way or that, or to accomplish something." As soon as there is a center formed from your actions, there must be confusion.

Then the question arises: Is it possible to act or function naturally and joyfully without a center, without conscious content? We are asking fundamental questions.You may not get used to it.Most of us are sloppy with problems, don't care about it, or ignore it.But we are asking a question that you must answer, and you must seek the answer yourself.In our daily life, is it possible to act without a center? The center is the source of confusion.In your relationship with someone, no matter how close, if you are always concerned with yourself, your ambitions, your personality, your beauty, your habits, and the other person does the same, naturally there will be conflict, that is confusion.

Is it possible not to act from the center? The center is consciousness and its contents, all that the thought is made of, including its feelings, desires, fears, and so on.What is action without conflict, remorse, reward or punishment? Is it therefore complete action? We are just about to find out what that is.It's not that I will find out the answer and tell you, but we will find it out together.Remember: there is no speaker, only you looking in the mirror.In order to understand it, we must understand the question of what love is.Because if we can discover what love is, we can completely release the limitations of the center and lead to full action.So we have to approach it very carefully -- if you will.You have your idea of ​​love.You have your conclusions about love.You think that love cannot exist without jealousy; love exists only when there is sex; love exists only when you love all your neighbors, love animals.You have your own ideas, beliefs, and conclusions about what love is.If you already have these, then it is impossible for you to research.If you already think "that's it" you're screwed.It's like a Hindu guru who says, "I know, I've got the epiphany." And you, the gullible, follow him, never questioning.

There is no authority here, no speaker, but we are discussing a very serious matter, which can resolve conflicts, often wars, between oneself and others.In order to find the solution, we must go very deeply into the question of what love is.We were just talking about what people call love: loving their animals, their pets, their garden, their house, their furniture, their daughter, their son, their god, their country - this thing is called love, how heavy that is! We're going to find out What is the meaning of . When the baby is crying, so pay more attention.You know that when a baby cries, you are listening intently.Therein lies the art of listening. The word "art" means putting everything in its proper place.If you understand the meaning of the word, the real art is not in painting, but in putting your life in its proper place, which is to live in harmony.When you put everything in place, you are free.There is a kind of wisdom in putting everything in its proper place.You will say that we are giving the word "wisdom" a new meaning, which is necessary.Wisdom means listening between the lines, between the silences, between the speeches, with all your thoughts.You don't just listen with your ears, you can hear without them.

We are asking: What is the meaning of love and the beauty of love - if there is beauty? Have you ever wondered what beauty is? What does beauty mean? Is it related to desire? Don't deny it. Listen and find out.Is beauty part of desire? Is beauty part of feeling? You see a great building, the Parthenon, or a big classroom, a great building, and your senses are awakened by that beauty.So, is beauty part of this? Is beauty in the colour, the shape, the shape of the face, the clarity of the eyes, the skin, the hair, the expression of a man or a woman? Or is there another kind of beauty that transcends all beauty, and when it When it becomes a part of life, then this form, this face, everything has its proper place? If there is no mastery, no understanding of that beauty, the outward expression becomes very important.We'll find out what beauty is, if you're interested. You know when you look up at the majestic mountains against the blue sky, that vivid, bright, clear, pure white snow, its majesty drives away all your thoughts, worries and problems.Have you noticed this? You say, "It's beautiful!" Maybe for two seconds, maybe even a minute, and you're completely silent.Its grandeur drives out our smallness in that moment.Its greatness has overwhelmed us.It's like a child playing with a complicated toy.He can't talk, he can't make noise, he is completely immersed in it.The toy caught his attention.So, the majesty of the mountain grabs your attention, so at that moment, or at that minute, you are completely silent, which means you have forgotten yourself.Now, you are not distracted - interrupted by a toy, a mountain, a face or a thought - completely forgetting yourself, this is the essence of beauty. We need to understand what love is.If we really understand, our life can be completely different, we can live without conflict, without control, without any kind of struggle.We need to understand what love is. In addition to positive action, there is another kind of action that is inaction.The so-called positive action is to act on something, control, suppress, strive, control, avoid, explain, rationalize and analyze it.What we call inaction has nothing to do with active action, nor is it the opposite of active action, but observation without action.And this observation triggers a fundamental transformation of the observed, which is inaction.We are used to positive actions: "I must", "I must not", "This is right", "This is wrong", "This is right", "This should be", "This must not", "I will suppress it", "I will control" etc.These are the struggles with the "I," the source of disorder, and the source of conflict.If you see this, not verbally, intellectually, or visually, but actually see it for what it is, then this is inaction, and there is no struggle or effort involved.Simply observing itself brings about change. We're asking: What is love? We say we have many opinions on it, experts' opinions, mentors' opinions, pastor's opinions; your wife or girlfriend says "that's love," or you say "that's love," Or you say it has to do with sex and so on.Is it? Does it have to do with those feelings? From those feelings arises desire.Evidently, acts of feeling are desires.I see a beautiful thing and my senses are aroused so I want it.Observe it for yourself! We say that when there are sensations - all sensations, not a particular one - fully functioning, then there is no desire.You left it out. Is love the expression of a feeling of desire? Is love, in other words, desire? There is always this sexual aspect: memories, images, impressions, sensations.All actions are considered love.Love, all one can observe, is part of desire.Let's take our time and dig deeper.Is love dependent? I depend on my daughter and son.I have.Is love dependent? Our whole life is based on dependence, on property, on others, on beliefs, dogmas, Christ, Buddha.Is that love? In dependence there is pain, fear, jealousy, anxiety.Where there is dependence, is there love? When you observe it and you care deeply to find out what love is, dependence becomes unimportant, has no value, because that is not love. It is not desire.It is not memory.It's not dependent.It's not something I tell you and you accept it.It is what it is.Is love joy? It doesn't mean you can't hold someone's hand.You see, desire is the result of feeling.Feelings are attached to thoughts, thoughts are attached to feelings, and then out of feelings arise desires that need to be fulfilled, and we call this love.Is that love? Is dependence love? In dependence comes conflict, uncertainty.The more uncertainty, the more fear of being alone, the more dependent, possessive, bossy, assertive, demanding, and therefore conflict in the relationship.And this conflict, you think is part of love.We can't help but ask: Is this love? Is joy love? Joy is the act of remembering.Don't memorize these words, just listen to them.I remember how nice you were, how happy, how tender, how comfortable, how sexy, and I said "I love you, honey." Is that love? But, do we say no to happiness? You have to ask these question.You have to ask, and find out.Didn't looking at a flowing river give you joy? What's wrong with that joy? Didn't looking at a lonely tree in a field bring you joy? Maybe just last night seeing the moon set over a hill didn't give you joy Pleasant, no? What the hell is going on? But when the thought says, "This is so beautiful! I have to keep it, I have to remember, I have to love, and I want to have more experiences like this." The trouble begins.Then, all the joyful activity occurs.And we call that joy love. A mother treats her baby with tender affection, the feeling of an embrace.Is that love? Or is love part of your genetics? Have you ever seen monkeys cuddle their babies and elephants take care of their calves? Maybe we inherit this instinctive response to babies—and then, "He's My baby. He's in my blood, he's my flesh and blood, and I love him." And if you really love your baby, you'll give him a good education so that he never uses violence, never kills or is killed.You don't just care about him until he's five or six years old, and then throw him to the wolves. So, is this all love? Positive actions say, "No, I will never have sex again." "I will be free from dependence." It's looking at it in general and therefore having an understanding of it.You will find, however, that love is not any of these, but because of love, all relationships change. You know the ascetics, the Indian dervishes, the European monks and the people of the world say, "Don't have lust, don't have sex, don't look at a beautiful woman. If you look, take her as your sister Or mother. Or, if you read, set your mind on holy things." And yet they were burning with lust!They deny it to the outside world, but are inflamed.And this is what they call piety, which is life without love.They have a belief about what love is.But that belief is not love.That belief, that word is not love.But only when you see all the actions of desire, of dependence, of pleasure, then from that depth of perception, will the wonderful flowers bloom.And that is love. Sanin · July 18, 1978
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