Chapter 11 Chapter 10 Psychological Manipulation to Get Rid of Disliked Objects

It's a waste of time and irritating to meet someone you don't like, but most people don't have the courage to put on a straight face and embarrass the other party.At this time, just say a cold sentence: "I don't want to hear this kind of talk!" You can get rid of the other party's entanglement. To deal with difficult salesmen, there are five commonly used excuses for refusal: (1) I don't want to hear it. (2) I don't need to. (3) Too expensive. (4) I can't buy it. (5) I already have it at home. Using the above-mentioned excuses to refuse the entanglement of the salesman has a high success rate, that is, someone in each person is quickly dismissed.And one of the most effective is "I don't want to hear it" because the salesman naturally can't pester further because he shows no interest at the beginning.

The above five excuses can also be used in people's conversations.For example: (1) Don’t tell me this kind of thing. (2) Your words have nothing to do with me. (3) That kind of words are too difficult to understand. (4) Let’s talk about it later. (5) I KNEW AGAIN. But still "don't say that to me" works best.Because your words are unceremonious, it made the other party feel ashamed. When saying "disappointing", you can use more words without specific meanings such as "but", "anyway", and "in short".Because these words can effectively alienate the relationship between people, they are disappointing "non-entertainment words", such as the following words, which are easy to disgust the other party: (1) "But" hides the meaning of resistance. (2) "Anyway" implies self-defeating. (3) The endings of "...?" and "...that's right" have a negative connotation. (4) Endless use of plausible "that", "that", "look". (5) Very brief answers: "Maybe", "Maybe", "That's it", "Let's talk about it later".

When people are talking in high spirits, if they are suddenly interrupted, no one will be happy. It doesn’t matter once or twice once in a while.Therefore, if you want to end the conversation early, you can find something to interrupt the conversation, and use it several times, so that you will not talk about the convenience. When you want to take the initiative to interrupt the conversation, you can find some reasons to leave the conversation scene, or you can suddenly insert some inappropriate words in the conversation.For example, "Although you said so, but..." Such parentheses can often effectively interrupt a conversation.The following examples are also available for reference:

(1) Interrupt the other party: "What, what did you say?" (2) Change the subject: "Although you say so, but..." "Sometimes" "Your words remind me of..." "My opinion may be different from yours" "What I said has nothing to do with you" "You That's what it said." "Nevertheless, however..." These words seem to agree with the other party on the surface, but the real purpose is to interrupt and overthrow the other party's words. When talking to people, it is polite to show respect to them.However, if too many honorifics are used between husband and wife or friends, it means to keep a distance and warn each other.For example, when the relationship between husband and wife deteriorates, they will quarrel loudly and abuse each other unceremoniously at the beginning, but after a long time, they will turn into using a lot of honorifics to express their desire to distance themselves from each other.Therefore, one effective way to talk to annoying people is to use more "kind words".

People will always show an emotional response to the words of others.If you say something that makes you happy first, even if you say something that makes you angry immediately, the other party can continue to listen with a happy expression.Using this method, it is possible to repel disliked objects. A musician was invited by an acquaintance to work in a nightclub band.The musician thought the salary was low and planned to refuse it immediately.But remembering that he was taken care of by the other party in the past, it is inconvenient to refuse outright.At this time, he came up with a plan. First he said some jokes, and then he said solemnly: "If you can make the nightclub business flourish, even if you sacrifice your life, I will not hesitate."

At this time, the owner of the nightclub naturally still had a smiling face, and the musician seized the opportunity to straighten his face and said, "What do you think is funny? I know you laugh at me. You look down on me and don't respect me. There is no need to bring up this agreement again. Goodbye." !” In this way, the musician pretended to be angry, turned around and left, but the boss didn’t know how to treat him. Although he regretted it, it was too late. Therefore, in the face of someone you don't like, you should knock him unexpectedly so as to repel him.If there is no opportunity, you might as well refer to the above example to create an opportunity, first make the other party happy, and then find an excuse to quit in time when the other party is unprepared and still smiling, so as to achieve the purpose of rejection.

Linguistic psychology reveals that the conversation sequence is divided into three stages: expression, narration, and interpretation.When talking, if one of the stages is emphasized alone, it can destroy the gradual conversation.Therefore, if you want to confuse the other party's thinking, you can ignore the expression of the content and deliberately grasp the handles in the other party's words, so that the three stages of expression, telling, and explaining cannot be connected, so that the other party can turn to agree with your position.If the other party disagrees, just stop the conversation at this point.

Because of face, people can't say a lot of things in person. They pretend to talk to themselves and say what they think in their hearts, and they will retreat when they are convenient. In the soliloquy, the person concerned is not aware that he has exposed his inner thoughts.Therefore, when talking, consciously use this method to indirectly express what you are embarrassed to say directly.For example, you could say, "Can I say that now?" "No, I haven't done anything yet." "How could I talk to him immediately." After the other party hears it, they will feel dull and stop talking automatically.

People have two languages, one is oral language, and the other is body language of "expression, movement and posture".The difference between the two will impress the other. A well-known playboy, the secret of cutting off communication with women is: saying "I like you, I just like you" to women while making a very disgusted expression.In this way, most women will leave automatically. The best way to drive away a nasty guy is to make him unhappy.One way to displease the other party is to say what you say is inconsistent with your body language, and your mouth is attached, but you are absent-minded and bored.

Man is the strangest animal.Even if the other party is furious, if you let him pour out his heart and vent his dissatisfaction, his mood will naturally tend to calm down. Even if the problem is not resolved, at least most of the resentment will be calmed down.This is because, after people have vented all their dissatisfaction, there will be an illusion that the problem seems to be basically solved. For example, quarrels often occur when the waiters of the telecommunications bureau do not respond well to customer complaints.If waiters improve their coping styles, conflicts with customers will be greatly reduced.The method is: first listen to the other party to finish the question carefully, and then say: "Okay, I will re-check carefully." After a period of time, discuss with the other party.At this time, since the user has already finished what he wanted to say, and after a period of time, most of his anger has subsided, so the cause of the problem can be discussed objectively and calmly.In this way, things are much easier to handle.Practice has proved that this method is extremely effective.

On the contrary, if you still stubbornly "struggle" to tit for tat when others are angry, the result is undoubtedly a loss for both sides. Not only can you not resolve the conflict, but it will intensify the conflict between the two sides.And those who are good listeners can consciously avoid the other party's complaints and turn a deaf ear to them. This is a psychological tactic to defuse the other party's anger.