Chapter 83 TECHNIQUE 74 Welcome Gestures
Ever notice that some people have hands and feet that clearly say, "Hey, come talk to me!" Some people's body language yells, "Get out of here! I'm not responsible for what happens when you come over here." Compare Shy people will accidentally fold their hands on their chests in a "stay away from me" posture.In addition, clutching a purse, holding a cup, or smoking a cigarette, etc., all represent the restlessness of these people.
Studies have shown that when attending a banquet, people are more willing to chat with people with open body language. Open body language means naturally drooping hands, slightly different legs, and a faint smile on the face.If there is anything between you and the crowd, it will subconsciously block the willingness of others to come and talk.For example, compared with women carrying tote bags and shoulder bags, the latter are more likely to be favored by men.Because the shoulder bag is hung on the back, the space in front of the eyes is very open without barriers.
Now to the subject.All parts of the body, except for the face, are the wrists and palms that attract the most attention. The palms face up to express goodwill.
When the Pope prays, his palms and wrists are facing upwards.The robber bowed his head and said, "I surrender, don't shoot," with his palms and wrists facing upwards.The innocent man who is wrongly accused will also raise his hands and say, "I don't know who stole the money," while the criticized person will raise his hands and tell everyone: "I have nothing to hide!"
Facing your hands up also means acceptance. When you listen to a colleague speaking, turning your palms and wrists up is no different from showing your acceptance to the other party.Even if you're talking with your chin in your hands, make sure your palms are up and your wrists are facing forward.Whenever you chat with anyone, always check your hand gestures.Don't point your knuckles straight at other people.In this way, the other party can see the soft skin of your palm and receive the "come, come" message.Instead of seeing the two words hidden between the wrinkles on the back of the hand: "Go away".
Turn yourself into a human magnet, not an insecticide that turns your nose around.When attending a dinner party, adjust your stance so that your eyes are open and unobstructed—pay special attention to your arms and palms.Open your hands and send out the message "come, come" and people will be attracted to you unconsciously.If you clenched your knuckles and said, "Go away or I'll beat you," you're sure to scare people away.Use your wrist and palm to tell people: "I have nothing to hide," "I accept what you say," or "I think you're special."
The technique we're about to introduce next is one that all politicians are familiar with.Some political scholars even attribute the successes of US Presidents John F. Kennedy and Bill Clinton to this technique.It is "tracking".
Turn yourself into a human magnet, not an insecticide that turns your nose around.When attending a dinner party, adjust your stance so that your eyes are open and unobstructed—pay special attention to your arms and palms.Open your hands and send out the message "come, come" and people will be attracted to you unconsciously.If you clenched your knuckles and said, "Go away or I'll beat you," you're sure to scare people away.Use your wrist and palm to tell people: "I have nothing to hide," "I accept what you say," or "I think you're special."
The technique we're about to introduce next is one that all politicians are familiar with.Some political scholars even attribute the successes of US Presidents John F. Kennedy and Bill Clinton to this technique.It is "tracking".