Chapter 82 TECHNIQUE 73 CHOOSE AND NOT BE PICKED
A politician doesn't wait for others to come to him.If the host of the banquet or the general planner of the campaign does not provide a list of "people who must be friends", they will choose their own targets while looking around.As he scans the crowd with piercing eyes, he wonders, "Who am I going to have the most fun talking to? Who seems to be the most helpful to me? Who can I learn the most from?"
How do politicians choose?First of all, the way they observe everyone is like my friend Bob.Bob is a caricature artist.If you stare as carefully as Bob, you will get more information than you can imagine.The purpose of attending a banquet is to make friends, and it would be foolish to pass up the opportunity because you are too embarrassed to meet your eyes!
In my workshops, I ask participants to make a lot of eye contact with each other. I ask them to form a large circle and walk around the room silently looking into each other's eyes. "Look into their eyes!" I tell everyone. "Watch what other people do."
When everyone was pacing in a circle, I said, "Your most important business partner, closest friend, or future spouse may not be here at this moment. But in the near future, you may encounter changes." The person of your life. I want you to prepare in advance so that you will have the courage to talk to you when the time comes, and you don’t have to wait for that special someone to come to you.” I asked them to silently select 4 people when they walked around, and they must talk to it.
Being assigned this task, the trainees felt very uncomfortable, because everyone thought that there would be long queues in front of handsome men and beautiful women.The result was unexpected.Miracles happen when people observe other people carefully.The traits they saw in each other when they selected people were precisely the uniqueness of this person, and only those who saw it could appreciate it, just like the relationship between Bole and Maxima.
In the process of gazing, every student in the workshop discovers the beauty that they only know how to appreciate in the appearance and character of others.No one can explain why they chose these 4 people.But after the break time, almost all the students made new friends.No one is ignored.
A friend, close lover, or business partner who can change your life may not be at the party at the moment.But one day, it will appear somewhere, so please treat every banquet as a rehearsal, and you will have a perfect performance when you actually play. Don't just stand there waiting for someone to get to know you.In the vast sea of people, don't pass by the important people in your life, and hold on to every person and thing you want.
If you want to look for other people's characteristics, carefully observe his face, and you will definitely gain something.If you want to walk out of the party life richer, spend time with the people you choose, not just the people who choose you.Of course, you have to know how to pick and choose, and most importantly, don't wait for someone to pick and choose.
A friend, close lover, or business partner who can change your life may not be at the party at the moment.But one day, it will appear somewhere, so please treat every banquet as a rehearsal, and you will have a perfect performance when you actually play. Don't just stand there waiting for someone to get to know you.In the vast sea of people, don't pass by the important people in your life, and hold on to every person and thing you want.
If you want to look for other people's characteristics, carefully observe his face, and you will definitely gain something.If you want to walk out of the party life richer, spend time with the people you choose, not just the people who choose you.Of course, you have to know how to pick and choose, and most importantly, don't wait for someone to pick and choose.