Chapter 2 sequence

When the eyes of two people meet, the eye contact has infinite power.Your first impression is like a personal letter, naked in the eyes of new friends.This first impression may remain in their memory and will never be erased for a lifetime. Artists are sometimes particularly able to capture this fleeting emotional response.I have a friend, Rob Gussman, who is a successful caricaturist who regularly draws for Forbes Magazine, Newsweek, Sports Illustrated, Rolling Stone, and other top North American publications.Rob has a special talent for not only capturing the physical appearance of his subjects, but also accurately depicting their personality traits.Hundreds of famous people, whose body expressions and spiritual language are all glowing in his sketchbook.Just look at his celebrity sketches, for example, and you'll see the arrogance of Madonna, the arrogance of Newt, the tyranny of Kingiki (a former Republican speaker), and the stinginess of Leona Hensley.

Sometimes at dinner parties, Rob would draw on a guest's napkin.Guests who pass behind him are often amazed to see the shape and character of their friend taking shape before their eyes.After Rob completed the sketch, he put down his pen and handed the table paper to the person he was sketching. Usually, the other person's reaction was first confused, and then politely muttered, "Wow, that's really good, but it's not like me." Then, the bystanders around will say loudly, "Like, like, it's you at all!" The voice of the person being painted is completely covered, and no doubts are allowed.The person being sketched had no choice but to stare at the napkin in bewilderment. This is how the world sees himself.

Once I was visiting Rob's studio, and I asked him how he managed to capture the spirit of his characters so well."It's very simple, I just look at them," he said. "No, I'm asking how to capture their character. Don't you have to research their lifestyle and background beforehand?" I asked. "No need, Li'er, didn't I say that, I just looked at them." "what!" He explained, "Every aspect of a person's character can be clearly expressed in appearance, posture, and manner. For example..." He asked me to go over and look at a file folder full of sketches of political figures.

Rob pointed to the different angle sketches of the previous US presidents, and said: "Look, this is Clinton's childishness," he pointed to Clinton's half-smiling appearance, "George Bush's clumsiness," he pointed to The angle of Bush's slanted shoulders, "Reagan's charisma," he pointed out the former president's smiling eyes, "and Nixon's uncertainty," he said, pointing out the furtive way he tilted his head.He continued to look through the archives, found a portrait of President Roosevelt, pointed to his upright nose and said, "This is the pride of Roosevelt." It turned out that in people's expressions and limbs, all personality traits cannot be hidden.

First impressions are often hard to get rid of, why?The reason is that in today's fast-paced, information-glutted world, we are bombarded with many different stimuli every second, and the human mind is constantly spinning.We have to make snap judgments and make sense of the various implications of the world around us while doing the work that has to be done at hand.Therefore, whenever people see you, they immediately press the shutter in their hearts, and your image becomes the information in their hearts, which will not be easily changed for a long time in the future. So, is the information in their minds accurate?You may be surprised, but the answer is yes.Long before you utter the first word, the essence of your personality rushes straight into the minds of others.Your appearance and demeanor make up 80% of your first impression.There is no need to say a word.

For many years, I lived and worked in a country that was not my native language.Nevertheless, based on my many years of experience, when I meet someone for the first time, the other person does not need to speak, and my first impression is often very accurate.Whenever I meet new colleagues, I immediately know if they think I'm friendly, how confident they are, and where they stand in the company.Just by the way they behave, I know it's a lightweight or a heavyweight. I have no special sensory abilities.You can do the same, how can I say it?In many cases, before you have time to analyze rational thoughts, the sixth sense has already produced special impressions.

Studies have shown that the emotional response occurs first, before the brain has time to analyze the origin of the emotional response.Therefore, the moment someone sees you, they will first be hit by an emotional response; your subsequent relationship will be based on this emotional response.Rob said that he could only paint by capturing the emotional reaction of the first meeting. I decided to go ahead and work on the book, so I asked, "Rob, if you want to portray a really big guy -- you know, smart, strong, charismatic, principled, terribly charming , considerate and caring about others..."

"It's easy," he interrupted me.He knew exactly what I was asking, "Just give them great poses: head held high, smiling confidently, looking people straight in the eye." That's the ideal image of someone extraordinary. I have a friend named Karen who is a big name in the upholstery business.Her husband is equally important in the communications world.The couple have two children. Every time Karen attends an event in the decoration industry, everyone in the meeting respects her extremely.She was sort of a big shot in that world.Her peers even go out of their way to squeeze in next to her, hoping that people will see "I'm chatting with Karen".It would be even better if a leading magazine in the decorating world, like Home Decor or Furniture World, had a "Karen and I" photo shoot.

However, Karen complained that every time she accompanied her husband to a conference in the communications industry, she became a nobody.She is no more than an ordinary mother when she takes her children to school activities.So she once asked me: "Li'er, how can I be different in the crowd, so that people I don't know are willing to approach me, or at least find me interesting?" The skills proposed in this unit are precisely Can solve Karen's problem.As long as you make good use of the following 9 skills, you can become a special person in everyone's eyes. No matter where you are, even if you deal with people who are not yourself, you can appear extraordinary.Now let's start with a smile.