Do you admire successful people who have it all?They schmooze confidently in business meetings and appear perfectly at ease at social dinners.These people tend to hold golden jobs, marry amazing spouses, have the coolest friends, have insane amounts in their bank accounts, and live in prime luxury locations. wait!Most of these people are not as smart or educated as you.It doesn't even look good!What the hell is going on? (Some people say that this kind of people either inherited the ancestral property, or chose a good husband's family or a good husband's family, or it was pure luck! In fact, these statements are not true.) The real reason is that they deeply understand the relationship between people. road.

No one can reach the top alone.For too long, those who seemed to "have it all" conquered the hearts of many people and got a lot of help to climb the ladder, reach the top of a business, or become the best in their industry. Other jealous people can only look up at the foot of the ladder, and sometimes complain that these successful men and women are arrogant and snobbish.If these successful people fail to extend a hand of friendship, love or share business opportunities, they will be accused of being "partisan" or belonging to a certain "veteran circle" (translation note: alumni of the same school exchange each other support).In addition, some people complain that their promotion is limited because of an invisible "glass ceiling".

These complainers never know that their rejection is self-inflicted.They also never understand that it's all because of their own poor communication skills that they can't get things done, even lose friendships or businesses.Why can't they see these facts clearly?Because certain behaviors of successful people are often so smooth and subtle that people can't detect them. Only those who are born winners know how to appreciate them. The successful people of the past—in those days, business leaders were usually part of a “veteran circle”—they complimented each other by saying, “Man, you’re not lucky to be where you are today.” There is no intention of envy; because the speaker has discovered a certain keen behavior of the other party, and appreciates and admires it very much.

In fact, the success of the so-called "veteran" (and not necessarily all "old") men and women who dominate our corporate and artistic fields today "was no fluke."Each of them has a treasure bag, and they also have the ability of Midas, the king of Greek mythology, who can turn everything they do into success. What is in the treasure bag?There's a lot going on: traits that cement friendships, magic that captivates hearts, and charms that make you fall in love with them without knowing it.Of course, they also have certain characteristics that make them hired and promoted by their bosses, their charming personality that keeps regular customers coming back again and again, and their ability to beat competitors so that customers are willing to shell out their money and buy from them.Everyone has more or less such qualities in their treasure bag, but some people have more and some people have less.People with a bag full of tricks are naturally born winners.This book is to tell you 92 clever tricks that natural winners use, so that you can also have a perfect performance and have no disadvantages in life.

Years ago, one of my college drama teachers yelled at me for my poor performance in a play. "Wrong! Wrong! Your body violates your lines," he yelled. "Every little movement, every gesture of yours Your own thoughts are revealed. Your face can have 7,000 different expressions, each of which reveals your personality and what you are thinking at the time." Then he said something that I will always remember, "And you body, the way you move your body is a moving autobiography." He couldn't have been more right.On the stage of real life, every body movement you make subconsciously tells everyone the story of your life clearly.Dogs can hear sounds that human ears cannot detect, and bats can see objects in the dark that human eyes cannot.Every human movement, sometimes unconsciously, has immense power, attracting or repelling others.A person's smile, every syllable, and all the words that come out of the mouth have a way to attract others, or make people flee.

Men, have your instincts ever warned you to get out of a business and get out as soon as possible?Ladies, has your feminine instinct ever directed you to accept or reject an offer?On a conscious level, we may not know what the inspiration was at the time.However, like a dog's ear or a bat's eye, the elements that affect subconscious human perception are absolutely real. Try to imagine that there are two people in a room with wires all over each other to record all the signals communicated between them.An authoritative scholar on communication at the University of Pennsylvania pointed out: "To analyze all the interactions between two people in one hour, it may take half of the adults in the United States, and it takes them a lifetime to complete the analysis."

With so many small interactions and reactions between two human beings, is there a way we can develop specific techniques so that every human communication is clear, confident, trustworthy, and radiates charm? Woolen cloth? Determined to find out, I read almost every book on communication skills, charisma, and the subtleties of human chemistry.I've also read hundreds of academic reports on the qualities of leaders and the qualities of trustworthiness.Some intrepid social scientists have worked tirelessly, down to the last detail, in order to find the formula for success.For example, some optimistic Chinese scholars believe that the secret of personal charm may lie in diet, and they even compare personality traits with the content of catecholamines in urine.Of course, their paper was quickly shelved.

Most of the research I found confirmed Dale Carnegie's classic 1936 report "How to Win Friendships and Influence People."What he put forward at the time was: success lies in smiling, in expressing interest in others, and in making others feel self-affirmed. "Not surprising at all." I think that 60-year-old truth holds true even today. Since Dale Carnegie and hundreds of other scholars have offered the same advice and given us a path to follow, why haven't we been able to win friendships and influence others? The world is very different today than it was in 1936, and we clearly need new formulas for success.To find this formula, I looked at many of today's superstars.I've studied a myriad of techniques, including how a salesman closes a sale; how an orator convinces; how a priest converts; how a performer captivates an audience; how a hottie wins; how an athlete wins, and more.

While the traits that lead to their success may seem elusive, I still found the basic ingredients needed to build them. I then turn these basic ingredients into easy-to-digest, easy-to-use techniques.I have named each technique, which is easy to associate, so that you can immediately come to your fingertips when you encounter communication difficulties.As I developed these skills, I also began to share them with people across the United States.Members of my communication workshops also contributed their thoughts.My clients, many of whom are managing directors of Fortune 500 companies, eagerly offered their observations.

When I confront the most successful and beloved leaders, I analyze their body language and facial expressions.I listen carefully to their chitchat, when they speak, and how they choose their words.I also observe how they relate to family, friends, colleagues and adversaries.Every time I found a tiny trace of communicative magic in their communication, I asked them to pick it out and examine it in the bright light of their consciousness.We analyzed it together, and I ended up translating it into a technique that others can use and benefit from. This book presents my findings, along with the tricks of these productivity experts.Some are subtle, some are astonishing.But all do work.As long as you are familiar with these skills, everyone around you, from new friends, family members, old acquaintances to business partners, will happily open their hearts, open their homes, companies, and even automatically open their wallets to give you what they have to offer. everything of.

And that's not all.As you embark on a new life journey with these new communication skills, you will look back and find some happy givers smiling behind you.