Chapter 38 Only talk about one love at a time

If you want to always be in a good mood, emotionally stable, and have enough psychological resources to cope with life and work, you also need to develop a good habit, that is, try to do only one thing for a period of time, including falling in love. In the same period of time, there are too many things to deal with. While busy with this matter, you are thinking about other things at the same time. Too many psychological resources are occupied at the same time, which will easily make you feel irritable. , your emotions are not easy to calm down. Imagine if you had two boyfriends at the same time, and you were watching a movie with one of them, and the other one called you, can you calm yourself down and not be nervous?

Or you are playing online games, and your lover often interrupts you and asks where you put your things. Are you more likely to get angry at her?This is the way to say no to something when your mental resources can't handle it. I have seen many people, no matter when they are at work or after get off work, when they sit next to the computer, they open various instant messaging tools, and while working or writing blogs, they keep replying to the chats of netizens, so that you can’t If you concentrate on doing the things in front of you, you will be interrupted by others, your work efficiency will be greatly reduced, and you will need to spend more time to complete the things at hand, which will make you busier.

This will also consume more of your psychological resources and make you easily irritable. Therefore, in order to improve your efficiency and keep you calm, try to turn off these instant chat tools when you have something to do . For your mailbox, whether it is a work mailbox or a private mailbox, you don’t need to open it when you think of it. You’d better check your email at a fixed time. Private mailboxes can be read every morning and evening at most, and work mailboxes are the best. It’s better to set a fixed time to watch it instead of making it another instant messaging tool for you, because it will interrupt your work thoughts at any time, reduce your efficiency, and at the same time affect your mood and make you restless.

You don't have to worry about missing important things by doing this. If there is something important to contact you, when the other party can't reach you through instant messaging tools and emails, they will naturally call your mobile phone or phone, and you keep logging in to instant messaging tools and Email is just because you worry too much, so you have to challenge your own worry, and slowly you will find that this will make you more efficient and calm. If you don't develop this habit, with the continuous development of communication and the Internet, imagine how busy you will be.When you are working, you have to keep replying to those instant messaging tools, log in to your mailbox frequently, check your blog and Weibo from time to time, and occasionally go online to steal food or catch fish in other people's pools , which does not include text messages and phone calls.

These tools are all products of the information age, and they are slowly developed. You also slowly follow the trend to own these tools. When you have mobile phones, QQ, MSN, Fetion, mailboxes, Kaixin.com, blogs, Weibo, you You have gained a lot of convenience and benefits. At the same time, if you are too busy between these tools and do not manage them, your time may be cut into pieces by these tools. Through these tools, others can disturb you at any time , whether you agree or not. In this way, it will be difficult for you to focus on doing something, and your mood will be easily affected and disturbed, and your mood will be easily unstable. Therefore, you need to manage these tools, such as:

Turn off your mobile phone when you sleep. Unless you need it for work, it is best to turn off the instant messaging tool when you are working, check the mailbox at a fixed time, and maintain your blog and Weibo regularly. At the same time, if you have a lot of things to do, if you keep these things in your mind, not only will it be easy to forget, but also because you need to keep remembering these things, it will take up a lot of your psychological resources and consume your past experience. More energy, which in turn affects your mood. In order to save psychological resources, you'd better develop a habit of making time planning, write down the things you need to do in the future in a fixed notebook, or record them in the computer or mobile phone, and look at you every day before going out. It is enough to record everything, so that you don't need to keep everything in your mind, which not only avoids delaying things due to forgetting, but also saves psychological resources and makes your emotions calmer.

All of these methods hope to help you focus on doing one thing at a time, which can not only improve efficiency and save time, but also help you save psychological resources, make you have a calm mood, and make you feel better. If your emotions are more stable and help you manage your emotions, you will be able to treat your lover more patiently and create a happier and better life together with him.