Chapter 35 Only by saving psychological resources can we have the patience to love

When I was young, my father was often very irritable and beat people at every turn. My siblings and I have suffered quite a few beatings from him, but his beatings are also regular. We were beaten more when we were planting crops, and less beaten when the farmers were at home during the slack season. When it was Chinese New Year, we were hardly beaten at all. That was the most carefree time for our siblings. time. This is because people's energy and physical strength are limited, and psychological resources are also limited. Psychological resources are determined by energy and physical strength. When our energy and physical strength are good, psychological resources are sufficient, and we can think and do more. Things, when we deal with too many things, when our energy and physical strength can't keep up, that is, when our psychological resources are insufficient, people tend to get emotional.

Therefore, the amount of beating we received was mainly related to the amount of labor our father did. When we were young, our family had a lot of land, with more than 20 acres of land, and my father worked alone. My mother had leg and foot diseases, and she was basically in the role of helping out with farm work. My father had too much farm work to do. Get up before dawn, and come back in the moonlight after a long time in the dark. Excessive labor consumed almost all of my father's energy and physical strength. When my father came home at night, his body was sore all over, which made the bad-tempered father worse. It is easy to make him emotional.

In the slack season, the farmers are basically resting. My father often goes to bed late and gets up late. There will be fewer beatings. As for the Spring Festival, rural people will deliberately adjust their mood to make themselves happy. Those who get married and meet relatives are basically concentrated during this time period. Everyone is in a good mood. Well, and I'm in a good mood, and the number of times I basically lose my temper is very small. When people lack physical strength, energy, and psychological resources, they are prone to emotions, and when doing things or dealing with people with emotions, especially when we get along with family members, we are prone to emotions. In this way, these things and people will temporarily leave We, we can get a certain period of rest, which is the way the subconscious uses emotions to protect us.

This is like the computing speed of a computer. When you open too many programs to run at the same time, the computer will slow down.When the limit that the computer can bear is exceeded, the computer will freeze. For this reason, sometimes you need to close some programs or restart the computer to restore the computer's operating speed. The computer can shut down some programs or restart, but some things that we screwed up and hurt emotional relationships may not necessarily be restarted. Therefore, we need to ensure that we always have enough psychological resources to deal with various things in life and work, especially to ensure that we have enough psychological resources to face our lover.